OK I have a really great friend who I used to go to school with. We had a pretty standard friendship until one day when suddenly I started to have feelings towards him. This came out of nowhere and kind of freaked me out to be honest. At first I kind of just played it off but I eventually became overwhelmed and slightly obsessed with him, talking for ages, buying food for him etc. anyway I never dared to say anything about my feelings, and continued on for a couple of years. Last year it got too much for me to handle when he went away for a week and I started to have what I think was mild depression. At this point, I said fuck this and completely ignored him. This lasted for about half a year until I started talking to him again, but completely limited myself to small talk. I had given up on my false relationship and reduced it to a friendship
I was relatively comfortable with this circumstance, and a lot happier too. This was until a party a couple of weekends ago that he also attended. We talked for ages, and I remembered what I loved about him, his views, his music taste, his attitude, his friendliness, his outlook on life. Long story short, it ended up being just me and him, drinking outside under the stars, pondering life. We promised each other to sit out until the sun came up. Just this moment made me so happy. The next day, we ended up having to wait for a long while to get a lift home. During this time, him, another friend and me went and slept underneath a big tree right near the beach. He looked so amazing in a tank top and tight jeans, it was fantastic. Just then, all the old feelings came rushing back, and now the whole thing is fucked up.
Another thing is that I have never been comfortable with my sexuality. I think that I find personality plays a major role on whether I find a person attractive. I like both male and females physically, but looks alone do not do a whole lot for me. I have never had a girlfriend, as everytime I talk to women, I just don't think about anything sexual, so the conversation never moves on, although I have had a few random hookups which I did like.
So anyway back to this friend of mine, I am too scared to say anything in fear of jeopardizing our great friendship, but at the same time it tears me apart not knowing how he feels, so I have been stuck in limbo for the past 2 years. Sorry about the livejournal nature of this post, I just thought it would feel better to get my predicament out in the open and GAF is my only outlet.
tl;dr- ever fallen in love with someone you shouldn't have fallen in love with?