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Hey everyone! I haven't posted in here for quite a while, but i just wanted to say that I think i've finally found someone that i'm really compatible with and he's just so cute. The other day he shot me a text asking me if he can come over after i got off of work to bring me dinner. He came by and after i ate the delicious Thai food he brought me, he handed me a fortune cookie. He made it himself and when i opened it, there was a fortune inside that was hand-written that said "Will you be my valentine?" I almost died from how cute the entire gesture was. Of course i said yes!

kinda off-topic: i got a haircut a few days ago, what do you guys think? (don't mind the funny face, my friend caught me off guard haha)


Nice haircut! It really suits you.
 
So what do you think about online relationships?
A relationship that starts out online, like on OKCupid, or a relationship that exists solely over the internet where there's no chance that you'll actually meet the other person?
 
I'm sure there are people who have managed to make it work... somehow, but I can't even begin to understand how you can develop romantic feelings for someone who isn't present in your life without the aid of a PC.
 
For every couple that makes it work, there are probably hundreds that don't. Not only that, but it can prevent you from making irl connections that could more feasibly turn into something significant.
 
I'm sure there are people who have managed to make it work... somehow, but I can't even begin to understand how you can develop romantic feelings for someone who isn't present in your life without the aid of a PC.

Aw come on. Imagine it's like the pre-telephone era when everyone had to keep in touch via correspondence and you had a childhood friend that moved away when you were young, but you kept in touch as pen pals, and as you grew up you became infatuated with what of his mind you could see from his letters and eventually the relationship turned into something else.

I'm kind of kidding, but my point is just that it's pretty easy to romanticize this kind of stuff. I think it would be hard to avoid falling in love with the idea of the person instead of the real person since it's not like the real person is really there and the imagination is a powerful thing, but I'm sure that other times you can learn all you need to about the other person that way.
 
I met him on a gaming forum like 10 years ago, so we've been online friends for a long time. I've also been thinking about moving to another city for quite some time, he lives there... and no, I didn't start to consider it because of him. The last couple months we got really close -for an online friendship-, but the last few weeks have been... I don't know, we call each other every day and have like 4-5 hour long phone conversations. We've talked about this, we really like each other, we want the same things, we think it could work... he's trying to help me get a job there so I can move. I don't know what to think, this is surreal, I'm extremely confused. >__<
 
@umop_3pisdn: Ahaha, I find it difficult to develop romantic feelings for people in real life, it just sounds crazy to me that it could happen in that circumstances. Sounds really chick flick-ish.

@Nlroh: Well, I guess this is different since there's the possibility that you'll end up living in the same city and stuff. Try to be very cold-headed about this, as exciting as it might sound right now, that'd be my advice.
 
@umop_3pisdn: Ahaha, I find it difficult to develop romantic feelings for people in real life, it just sounds crazy to me that it could happen in that circumstances. Sounds really chick flick-ish.

I do too, but I find it fun to romanticize things for some reason &#9829;
 
I met him on a gaming forum like 10 years ago, so we've been online friends for a long time. I've also been thinking about moving to another city for quite some time, he lives there... and no, I didn't start to consider it because of him. The last couple months we got really close -for an online friendship-, but the last few weeks have been... I don't know, we call each other every day and have like 4-5 hour long phone conversations. We've talked about this, we really like each other, we want the same things, we think it could work... he's trying to help me get a job there so I can move. I don't know what to think, this is surreal, I'm extremely confused. >__<
How many times have you met previously? I would probably visit a bit before making a big move, but I hope the new city is nice.
 
How many times have you met previously? I would probably visit a bit before making a big move, but I hope the new city is nice.

That's the problem, we've never met, that's why I'm confused as fuck about this. I was planning to move anyway, I know there's nothing for me here, but now that I know that he's waiting for me, I'm getting stressed about everything.
 
You should definitely plan a trip/visit. If it goes well, then yay, if it doesn't then no harm done, and you get to live somewhere new. Near an okay friend.
 
Well, if it's anything like the Manti Te'O story, the guy is probably not what he claims to be and has been deceiving you for 10 years. It's really a girl, she's confused and she's now an ex-straight on the road to recovery.
 
For every couple that makes it work, there are probably hundreds that don't. Not only that, but it can prevent you from making irl connections that could more feasibly turn into something significant.

I agree. As far as strictly online relationships go I don't see how that can work. You can develop feelings for someone you've never met but until you meet them in person and spend time with them you'll never know if anything they say is true. You could be falling in love with a lie and never know it. Much like the show catfish there are plenty of people who do this but come to find out after finally meeting that person isn't exactly who they said they were. Doesn't mean that happens to everyone mind you.
 
You never hear about porn actors having a nice retirement, but I'm sure they exist, right?
In any case, this guy being a porn actor probably didn't have anything to do with his personal issues that ended in suicide.

Also, I don't really have a "favorite" porn star, haha, so I don't really remember names. But sometimes I do remember faces.
 
Of course we can't be sure, but since people of all kinds commit suicide I personally don't think we have any reason to think his profession had anything to do with it.
 
So what do you think about online relationships?

FWIW my relationship started out as an online-based relationship from tumblr (lol). We lived in different states (though they were neighboring) and we've been together for about a year and a half now and live together.

Anything is in the realm of possibility. My advice is just that you have to sit down and think about what you really want weighed against the risks and consequences.

Also yeah an IRL visit first is essential.
 
So... I don't suppose there's any fix for premature ejaculation?

It is only a problem if it is a problem for your partner, I've even read some doctors don't consider it a "disease", well at least not a physical one.

I did read about some spray but it was in some tabloid so it's probably bogus.
 
So I am gay, can I stay in this community?
Edit:@fernoca you don't want to see an ugly fat guy

Thanks for accepting me :)

Btw I am Mexican and I love Nintendo first party games, that's why I usually stick with their consoles, especially their portable systems. What else? I am a SoIaF fan lol and I am 18 ha. I love alternative music, but sometimes I can listen to rock or pop.

@Ratsky Froakie is the superior water starter, I love that Pokemon
 
It is only a problem if it is a problem for your partner, I've even read some doctors don't consider it a "disease", well at least not a physical one.

I did read about some spray but it was in some tabloid so it's probably bogus.

Was about to mention that.
I was with a guy that said "he had that problem", but mainly because he wanted to last more than an hour and "only lasted around 30 minutes".

Another guy, ejaculated in like 5 minutes after I started touching him and he felt sorry and asked for forgiveness.

Guess it's usually related to shame, as they fell they're doing something bad. That guy mentioned that usually, when it happened the other guys either laughed or just masturbated quickly and left.

I told him that it wasn't a problem and that he could continue doing things, cuddling and anything he wanted to do (he wanted to hug and kiss so, we did). He was glad and shocked by that.
He still ignored me afterwards, and never returned any phonecall or email, and never saw him again on MSN...but "that's my problem". :p


So I am gay, can I stay in this community?
Post naked pictures, and we'll see.

Wellcum!! :p
 
It is only a problem if it is a problem for your partner, I've even read some doctors don't consider it a "disease", well at least not a physical one.

I don't have a partner. Masturbation from a cold start to completion typically is less than a minute. I orgasm during making out, before sex is even initiated. Yes, it's a problem: this is embarrassing and somewhat emasculating. You can't concentrate, can't satisfy a person, can't enjoy yourself, etc.
 
I was thinking the same thing when I saw his tag.

I honestly don't care since it'd just be done as bad as Bioware (and the character is straight in novels, IIRC) but it was such an easy pot-shot to take I had to take it. What with GAF being smart-asses and all that.

(When are you going to let me side-hug you and go through chamber 04 in Portal 2 for "Still Alive"'s achievement? >:|)
 
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