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[neutralgamer02]

I've been thinking about marriage lately and I am just wondering, how common is a sexless marriage?

I am guessing it is probably common, but is it something that men should expect heading into marriage?

Edit: I mean there is sex at the beginning, but then it drops off for some reason.

 

[Shanadeus]

I've been thinking about marriage lately and I am just wondering, how common is a sexless marriage?

I am guessing it is probably common, but is it something that men should expect heading into marriage?

I think it's not just a case of being married, but being married with children.
Anecdotally speaking, most child-free couples are happy and have a healthy sex life.

 

[BertramCooper]

Liza Minnelli has been married four times.

So there's your answer.

 

[blame space]

have you guys seen that commercial for "Man Up" on ABC?

the guy's playing video games, right? and he's talking to his man friends, and his one man friend says, "how'd you convince your wife to let to let you play video games tonight?" and then there's a cut to the guy talking to his wife (she's folding clothes) and he's like "wanna have sex tonight?"

HAHA! Man Up on ABC catch it right after Last Man Standing with Tim Allen 8:30/7:30c on ABC!

 

[Woorloog]

I've been thinking about marriage lately and I am just wondering, how common is a sexless marriage?

I am guessing it is probably common, but is it something that men should expect heading into marriage?

So, you're wondering if a marriage ends up sex-starved, not being sexless due to some religous reason or something like that (marriage being more about spiritual marriage or something like that)?

 

[Dreams-Visions]

A sexless marriage? The fuck?

 

[B_Rik_Schitthaus]

Children + over familiarity = Lowered libido

 

[bjb]

I've been thinking about marriage lately and I am just wondering, how common is a sexless marriage?

I am guessing it is probably common, but is it something that men should expect heading into marriage?

Your wife won't fuck you? Dude bail out.

 

[ohhthegore]

isnt the point of marriage to get sex without having to put in effort?

 

[Seep]

A lot more common than you think.

Some people just want a companion.

 

[JGS]

I think it's not just a case of being married, but being married with children.
Anecdotally speaking, most child-free couples are happy and have a healthy sex life.

Married with kid(s) couples have happy sex lives too. The priorities do change though.

A lot more common than you think.

Some people just want a companion.

I'm pretty sure this is the way I'll be when I'm old & widowed (Assuming I live longer). It's also why I'll probably never get married again.

I know a couple who got married mainly because they were lonely. As long as both are content, then no problem. Otherwise it's not terribly favor.

 

[elrechazado]

Your wife won't fuck you? Dude bail out.

What about "thinking about marriage" makes you think he has a wife?

 

[thetrin]

I assume it's wildly common. I've just always assumed that I would never get laid again after I got married.

isnt the point of marriage to get sex without having to put in effort?

No, that's having a girlfriend.

 

[neutralgamer02]

I edit the OP. I meant couples who used to have sex, but then the sex slows down or stops after a couple of years for whatever reason. How common is that.

 

[B_Rik_Schitthaus]

Your wife won't fuck you? Dude bail out.

What the differnce between a dude bail out and a regular bail out?

 

[Shanadeus]

Married with kid(s) couples have happy sex lives too. The priorities do change though.

Yeah, that's what I mean.
If you have children, they are infinitely more important than any carnal pleasure - and the latter must always give way for the former..

 

[ohhthegore]

I edit the OP. I meant couples who used to have sex, but then the sex slows down or stops after a couple of years for whatever reason. How common is that.

oh well when you put it that way that pretty much happens to every couple

 

[B_Rik_Schitthaus]

What about "thinking about marriage" makes you think he has a wife?

People who own cars still think about cars.

 

[pelicansurf]

What the differnce between a dude bail out and a regular bail out?

It's coming from a fellow bro.

 

[malingenie]

isnt the point of marriage to get sex without having to put in effort?

Being in a marriage takes a lot more effort than being a single man-whore.

 

[Game-Biz]

Pretty common after years of marriage.

 

[Bulbo Urethral Baggins]

I've been married for almost a hundred and fifty years and it still hasn't slowed down. Well, the frequency hasn't but the actual sex probably looks slow motion.

 

[WanderingWind]

I think it's not just a case of being married, but being married with children.
Anecdotally speaking, most child-free couples are happy and have a healthy sex life.

I am part of the proof of this. Hell, I'm having sex right now! And my wife is too!

 

[DominoKid]

quite common i'd think.

just a matter of when, not if.

 

[Dreams-Visions]

I edit the OP. I meant couples who used to have sex, but then the sex slows down or stops after a couple of years for whatever reason. How common is that.

Ah. Extremely common.

Pro-tip: I you want to get pussy in reasonably high volume for the remainder of your life:

1.) Don't get marred.

2.) Cheat.

Choose wisely. Don't let anyone tell you their sex life remained as active or increased post-marriage. Their liars from the pits of hell hoping you will join them in misery.

 

[WanderingWind]

Choose wisely. Don't let anyone tell you their sex life remained as active or increased post-marriage. Their liars from the pits of hell hoping you will join them in misery.

lol. 11 years and counting, still good.

 

[elrechazado]

Ah. Extremely common.

Pro-tip: I you want to get pussy in reasonably high volume for the remainder of your life:

1.) Don't get marred.

2.) Cheat.

Choose wisely. Don't let anyone tell you their sex life remained as active or increased post-marriage. Their liars from the pits of hell hoping you will join them in misery.

hell no man, after marriage I've been all

 

[olbareun]

having sex with your family is illegal

 

[Deleted member 81567]

Not as bad as the media depicts it.

 

[flyover]

Anecdotally speaking, most child-free couples are happy and have a healthy sex life.

Anecdotally speaking, I can vouch for this. Married eight years and it still feels like we're boyfriend and girlfriend, which is great. I'd wager there are plenty of couples with kids who feel this way, too. At least I hope so.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

I am part of the proof of this. Hell, I'm having sex right now! And my wife is too!

With... each other?

 

[Dreams-Visions]

lol. 11 years and counting, still good.

Okay. Except for you.

But I'm sure you already knew you were the extreme exception. It's just the nature of the beast.

 

[low-G]

People who own cars still think about cars.

What is this carrrr you speak of?

 

[Extollere]

No clue how common it is. I've been married 6 years, and sex is still good. I just jerk one out during those moments when it's been a while. We're both busy people after all.

 

[WanderingWind]

With... each other?

Sure!

Okay. Except for you.

But I'm sure you already knew you were the extreme exception. It's just the nature of the beast.

Eh, I really think kids are the issue. We're still just as hot and heavy as the first year. Seems to be a trend among those couples who opt out of child rearing.

But, until there is a study to back it up, it's all anecdotal.

 

[SolKane]

The moral of this thread is that children will ruin your life.

 

[Diatribe1974]

If you want to maximize your chances of having as healthy of a sex life as possible (outside of just screwing anything that becomes available), do the following:

1) Never get married
2) Never have children

Those 2 things will put a serious drain on your partners desire for sex, no matter how good you are in the relationship (re: You could be "Mr. Perfect" both in bed & out of the bedroom). Not only did I see a drastic decline in frequency before my son was born, but I bet you serious cash you could ask any number of male friends of yours and they'd almost unanimously tell you the same thing.

 

[2th]

Liza Minnelli has been married four times.

So there's your answer.

I came to just posted something like "bwahahahahahahahahahahahaah" but google image search provided me something better.

Also this is how you have a sexless marriage

 

[Kalnos]

The moral of this thread is that children will ruin your life.

but I already knew that : (

 

[JGS]

If you want to maximize your chances of having as healthy of a sex life as possible (outside of just screwing anything that becomes available), do the following:

1) Never get married
2) Never have children

Those 2 things will put a serious drain on your partners desire for sex, no matter how good you are in the relationship (re: You could be "Mr. Perfect" both in bed & out of the bedroom). Not only did I see a drastic decline in frequency before my son was born, but I bet you serious cash you could ask any number of male friends of yours and they'd almost unanimously tell you the same thing.

OK, 2 I get, but how does getting married drain your partners desire for sex unless it's the partner's intention to leave/cheat on you in the first place?

 

[titiklabingapat]

I know of two friends as a couple and one of the bf claims they haven't had sex since they met. They are together for two years now. I'm still baffled but my friend said it's not his position to say why.

 

[Diatribe1974]

OK, 2 I get, but how does getting married drain your partners desire for sex unless it's the partner's intention to leave/cheat on you in the first place?

Well, let's be brutally honest here: Most women (yes, I'll use the term "most"), see the lure of a possible marriage as a reason to stay "available" to her partner. Once that need/want/desire has been met, there's significantly less reason to continue, now that it's been met.

 

[highrider]

i won't front, with two young sons i am not getting anywhere near the sex that i used to. my wife wants to have another kid.. she really took the whole be fruitful and multiply to heart.

 

[JGS]

Well, let's be brutally honest here: Most women (yes, I'll use the term "most"), see the lure of a possible marriage as a reason to stay "available" to her partner. Once that need/want/desire has been met, there's significantly less reason to continue, now that it's been met.

Got it.

Not arguing that point, but then the relationship turns into baiting the woman to keep the sex going. It's all a game I guess.

 

[Gospel]

"Nothing in your vagina? It's more likely than you think."

 

[Shanadeus]

Sure!



Eh, I really think kids are the issue. We're still just as hot and heavy as the first year. Seems to be a trend among those couples who opt out of child rearing.

But, until there is a study to back it up, it's all anecdotal.

http://www.yourtango.com/201172701/study-young-childless-couples-are-happiest
Doesn't really say anything on sex life but childfree couples does seem to be a bit happier than couples with children.

 

[Violater]

At some point other things become more important to you as you mature
And once a week don't seem so bad

 

[JGS]

Well, this goes back to priorities. There's no question that having a big bundle of pure responsibility s going to add stress and worry which in turn reduces happiness. The magic trick is that the joy is indescribably actually having kids unless you never wanted them.

It's hard to have a metric on it. Sex is no longer a primary condition of a relationship (Still a need though).

 

[Rapstah]

How screwed up in the head am I if I actually thought for several seconds you were talking about marriages inbetween alien races that don't have separate sexes and saw nothing unusual in it?

 

[Cooter]

If your GF is not a freak and craving it before marriage with kids I'd say don't do it. Life happens and it probably will decrease with responsibilities so make sure a decrease is still a healthy acceptable level. If not you will end up miserable. Take it or leave it.