Count Dookkake
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Jesus dude, relax. I'd say the same thing about a guy. My best friend used to be an extreme man whore and I gave him shit about it all the time. He stopped when some girl gave him an STD. Also you can be a good person but also be a whore.
Yeah, but I think you're saying "don't be obsessed with anything to the point where it's unhealthy." That isn't a reflection on sexual activity, it's just "don't do things to an unhealthy extent." People can partake in sex with many partners in a controlled, healthy way and often do.
the typical college kid doesn't have that many partners.
http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nsfg/abc_list_n.htm#numberlifetime
They do, but if you're considering a relationship or in a relationship with them, you would have already established if this is true. So then why does the number matter?Highly promiscuous people have significantly increased chances of acquiring STDs as well as higher chances of unwanted pregnancies.
As the sort of guy that prefers to move slow about that sort of thing, I'd definitely be concerned. Not as a judgment call - I mean, sure, go ahead, I don't care either way - but just as a compatibility issue. If you're having sex with a different person every few weeks than we're probably not on the same wavelength for a lot of things.
I wouldn't dump her over it, but it would be a warning sign.
What? No, that's not what I was saying. I'm saying that for most women they don't have sex with 30 different people. Most of them don't even reach a fifth of that number during college. Roughly 40% of college graduates are virgins or have had sex only once. You really think in that remaining 60% it's normal for women to sleep with 30 different people?
Well that's the typical adult, but I'll take your point. I'm not sure someone in college will have more partners or less than someone not in college.
Yeah, I don't think it makes much sense to judge someone based on their past sex life. Not to mention there is seriously nothing wrong with having 30+ partners by 24. They like sex, so what?
the only point I was making is that I thought it was hilarious that the OP considered 30 average :V
All of this is getting in to a very vague, nebulous zone where we define what "a lot" is. It isn't very easily defined even by the number of partners, because some people may spend years pursuing sex with 50 partners while another person might have 50 partners in a single night.
It isn't easily quantified, but it sounds like we generally agree on the concept -- we just might differ on the degree, rather than the kind.
Fly, fight, win!
How is that a barometer for that at all?30+ No thanks, for me it's not about the amount, it's how faithful is this woman?
You can decide if a date is the right person for you based on their hair color or taste in music. Sex life shouldn't be off limits.
we should do a survey on GAF, "How many sexual partners have you had?" and "How many sexual partners is too much for you to consider them dateable?"
it'd be a great time
Fly, fight, win!
hint: unless she loses 20HP with every orgasm she has...or she has a very very small bed...there is no "too many". forget what you learned at the lunch table.
Do you consider that a valid standard to judge morality from?Shit there's sites out there solely for the purpose of one-off hookups.
Having negative opinions and intruding on their sex life as something other than an informative sex positive person is sexual repression at its peak and the reason so many people view sex through the lens of guilt.
No one in here said sex is negative, the only things called negative were lack of commitment, responsibility, worries about fidelity and healthiness.it's sex negativity
How is that a barometer for that at all?
I'll totally wife his girl if he won't. She seems capable of actually having relationships despite the judgments that she can't based on dumb numbers, and having that many partners means she must be reasonably attractive and personable. Let's do this.
(Why don't you guys judge women for their numbers like this instead? Why does it go to the negatives? Nevermind, I know why.)
We got some free love hippies round here on gaf, which is fine I suppose. Personally if a girl I'm dating has slept with over 50 people or so, it's not a great sign. Having that many partners doesn't make you a bad person or anything, but it doesn't exactly scream "I can maintain a relationship". For the people that say it doesn't matter and its shallow if you think it does; do you not have standards that are equally shallow? You don't go for attractiveness, you don't go for qualities that fit your personality? Come on now, let people choose what type of partner they like.
Which how much easier it is to use dating services these days and meet people outside of your immediate area, I'm not sure why people who have a vagina should be scared to use it to get themselves off. Not every woman needs or wants an emotional attachment to get their rocks off.
30+ No thanks, for me it's not about the amount, it's how faithful is this woman?
Could you rephrase that? I don't really understand what you meant to say.
Yeah, I don't think it makes much sense to judge someone based on their past sex life. Not to mention there is seriously nothing wrong with having 30+ partners by 24. They like sex, so what?
Having over thirty done seems like the kind of thing that would be taxing on both your time and your wallet.STD tests exist you know.
Just curious, in what way does have a lot of partners mean 'I can't maintain a relationship'. Are you assuming that everyone they slept with was a failed attempt at a relationship? I know I sure didn't sleep with some of the people I've slept with in the hopes of dating them. They're just good in bed.
I think we're just talking about two very different things. How many is too many vs. how much of a focus on something is healthy. I absolutely agree that you can focus on anything to an extent that's detrimental, but men saying "women shouldn't sleep with this many people" and the people saying "no one should sleep with this number of people" aren't arguing from a position of "I feel like this is an unhealthy level of focus," it's sex negativity and slut shaming, and I think that's the problem.
The disease argument just doesn't hold because if someone has already slept with X, they either do or don't have an STD already and X isn't relevant.
Do you consider that a valid standard to judge morality from?
I was expecting you be first post.
8-12 is too many for marriage material...................
You could interpret it as 's/he prefers casual sex over relationships'.
I just realized I misread that post, I understand it now. I don't see how ethical objections to noncommittal casual sex are per se repressive. No one suggested sex per se should be considered a matter of ethical objection.What don't you understand about a judgmental parent being sex negative and passing that guilt onto their children?
we should do a survey on GAF, "How many sexual partners have you had?" and "How many sexual partners is too much for you to consider them dateable?"
it'd be a great time
Only if you can take the time to establish with each and every potential partner whether they have an STD or not. Given that we don't have long lives and must be time efficient, it's often not worth the time to discover whether any particular man or woman has STDs or unwanted children or anything of that nature. Those things can take time (and in the case of STD checks, money) to discover, and there are plenty of other people out there to meet. It can frequently be more efficient to simply move on and meet other people.
I just realized I misread that post, I understand it now. I don't see how ethical objections to noncommittal casual sex are per se repressive. No one suggested sex per se should be considered a matter of ethical objection.
Having over thirty done seems like the kind of thing that would be taxing on both your time and your wallet.
Or even 300! The rule is:
(number of people the girl said she slept with) x (10 or 100)
Women always lie!