Im kind of freaking the fuck out right now. There is a girl I used to have sex with, she kind of wanted more but I just wanted to keep it casual, and I let her know that. She didn't like that she she broke it off. I was cool with that, I understood her pov and let bygones be bygones. Well two weeks ago I was out drunk as hell and I ran into her at a bar, we went back to my place and had drunk unprotected sex. Well yesterday I find out I got her pregnant. Now I was kind of freaking out but I remembered a conversation I had with her when we had unprotected sex when we were hooking up and we both agreed that abortion was an option. When I figured out she was pregnant in person yesterday, it still seemed like abortion was an option. She kind of made some off hand remarks that made made me kind of think but I thought it was me overreacting as usual and misreading her. I went out and did some research yesterday and let her know she would have to use her insurance as I am going to pay for it. I texted her today asking about the insurance ans she tells me that she is feeling emotional and she is both terrified of having an abortion and having a kid. We are supposed to meet up in an hour. I am a mix of emotions right now, mostly anger as we both agreed that abortion was an option. I'm am not ready to be a father for multiple reasons and the thought of it is making my anxiety go crazy, any advice?
Edit: So we talked about it, it looks like we are going through with the abortion. Thanks for some of the actual advice in this thread it helped. Obviously I took many responses with a grain of salt as it seemed like some people thought I was some player forcing some girl to do an unwanted abortion so I could party more, which wasnt the case. It was a good conversation, she first stated her reasons why she was unsure, then I stated my reasons why I think this would be a terrible idea and we came to an understanding. We both said we were glad to have the talk and it sounds like both of us feel better about going through with this.
Edit: So we talked about it, it looks like we are going through with the abortion. Thanks for some of the actual advice in this thread it helped. Obviously I took many responses with a grain of salt as it seemed like some people thought I was some player forcing some girl to do an unwanted abortion so I could party more, which wasnt the case. It was a good conversation, she first stated her reasons why she was unsure, then I stated my reasons why I think this would be a terrible idea and we came to an understanding. We both said we were glad to have the talk and it sounds like both of us feel better about going through with this.
