Drinky Crow said:
Pretty self-righteous for someone so "caring and selfless," olimario. Badge of pride, izzit?
Like I said, you've never been tested, because when you've truly given of yourself, feeling self-congratulatory doesn't come in the bargain.
Even now, you're actively calculating the karma of playing the role of the child's godfather, and the potential consequences versus how many Good Points you can put in your personal Holier-Than-Thou spreadsheet, rather than just doing the right thing and living with the risk just BECAUSE your friends/family need you. You're still selfish enough that pride is part of the deal.
I don't understand how humble plays into being selfless and caring. ANd even then, I only mentioned those things to give people a better view of how I would be around this child and the kind of person that might potentially raise him.
If I lead a wreckless life in any regard I wouldn't have mentioned that I'm responsable.
If I generally didn't care about the well-being of my fellow man, I wouldn't have mentioned that I was caring.
I'm just trying to give those who are ACTUALLY giving advice some material to work with.
Bacon said:
What kind of shitty parent asks a 19 year old kid to be their child's godfather? Like, how would you even support a child when you're still living your parents?
That was beyond rude. They really are wonderful parents and finding out that she was pregnant drastically changed both of their lives. The chances of them conceiving were slim to none, but they did anyhow. The day they found out she was pregnany they both stopped smoking cold turkey, they both stopped drinking, and they both began the road to parenthood by taking classes and studying the best way to raise a child. I've never seen parents more dedicated to their kid.
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Personally I'm ready to take on this responsability, but if I don't have the means to give this child a great life, I won't accept right now. I'd hate to "test" all my traits in a one bedroom apartment while I'm working 40 hours a week.