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Physically assaulted and wondering about what to do next

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____ said:
I'll never understand folks that want to see family in jail. Especially after a first offense. What happened to talking things through? Nope. Throw the fucker in jail. Smh.
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I also never understand folks that want to physically harm/abuse their own family. Act like an adult? Nope, go straight to hitting and abusing. Smfh.
 
panty said:
I also never understand folks that want to physically harm/abuse their own family. Act like an adult? Nope, go straight to hitting and abusing. Smfh.
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I didn't say what his brother did was right but be serious. Brothers fighting over dumb shit isn't unheard of, and certainly doesn't warrant LOL CONGRATS YOU NOW HAVE A CRIMINAL RECORD BRO.

Just tell him that shit better not happen again or he's getting kicked out.
 
____ said:
I didn't say what his brother did was right but be serious. Brothers fighting over dumb shit isn't unheard of, and certainly doesn't warrant LOL CONGRATS YOU NOW HAVE A CRIMINAL RECORD BRO.

Just tell him that shit better not happen again or he's getting kicked out.
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I think they are living together because they cant afford to live alone.
 
Morrigan Stark said:
This post.... That you think OP's actions are more fucked up than being repeatedly punched over throwing a pillow at someone being a dick says a lot about your priorities.
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I in no way said that the brother was right to do what he did. I'm the elder brother and there has been more than one occasion when my younger brother has skitzed out and attacked me with a knife etc...when we were teens. I have never, EVER, considered making it a police matter.

From OPs wording the very first thing that springs to his mind when his brother is punching him in the chest (the chest ffs) is not to defend himself, try to control his brother etc...no, it's to NOT defend himself so he can potentially press charges when this has never happened before (by OPs own admission).

Frankly, I think they're both manchildren.
 
while I had my hands up in the air not defending myself at all because if I did that it would've been a fight and this was now an assault.
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Man, idk about you but if my brother is hitting me I'm not thinking of these thoughts. I'm fighting back bruh. It's obvious your brother has issues that needs to be worked out, that's common. This though? How often has this happened with you? Are you used to this? Have you ever been in a fight before? It's just uncommon for someone to think these thoughts when they're getting hit well at least where I'm at. I might be different. You might need to get some issues worked out too tbh.

Either way good luck to you both. I hope you both get this sorted out.
 
so did he apologize at least? if not i'd throw another pillow at him.

also i'm not sure why you didn't at least defend yourself. like you describe the situation as if you wanted it to be a situation where you could opt to press charges...which is weird if there's like no past history of this behavior.
 
I wouldn't press charges unless you were injured or you're in fear of being injured in the future. Especially since you threw the pillow. And it's not a good idea to leave your face unprotected if someone is swinging at you.

It sounds like you want him out anyway. But putting your brother in jail is obviously going to cause stress to your parents as well. I also feel like the police would be hesitant to pursue the case if you're easily a physical match for him.

I think you guys should have a family discussion and consider living apart in the future.
 
I strongly get the sense that we're only hearing one side of the story. Regardless, you sure as fuck don't want to press charges. This is not something that warrants entering your brother into the system.

Have an adult conversation with him about the fact that you're grown men and have to learn to live with each other. Remind him that we can't act like children to bring a little clarity and shame to the situation. It's what I did with the skin head with anger issues that lived across the hall from me after high school. Do not show fear to your brother though, ever.
 
Seeing as how you did actually hit him first whether you say it was a "soft pillow" or not I'm pretty sure that's self defense. Especially since it's not like he beat you within an inch of your life. Sincerely doubt you're telling your side of the story accurately because if so you both sound like you're 11 years old.
 
Jesus Christ sibling rivalry and you guys are all screaming "lock him up".

Talk it out like men he's your brother not some random stranger.

If you can't handle living together then seperate.


I can't believe all the "file charges" comments, shits ridiculous.
 
The Driver said:
When I first read this I thought y'alls spat was "all over the TV", like, somehow notable enough to make the news.

It added a whole nother level of incredulity to two grown men fighting over TV privileges.
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I thought someone got hit so hard blood splattered onto it or something :|
 
Mister_Ruck said:
Seeing as how you did actually hit him first whether you say it was a "soft pillow" or not I'm pretty sure that's self defense. Especially since it's not like he beat you within an inch of your life. Sincerely doubt you're telling your side of the story accurately because if so you both sound like you're 11 years old.
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How is beating the crap out of me is self defense when I threw one soft pillow and then walked away without any intention of a second follow up pillow throw?

Him doing self defense would be me like constantly smacking him over the head with it or something.
 
Gritesh said:
Jesus Christ sibling rivalry and you guys are all screaming "lock him up".

Talk it out like men he's your brother not some random stranger.

If you can't handle living together then seperate.


I can't believe all the "file charges" comments, shits ridiculous.
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sounds something Americans do to eachother
 
Sounds like the two of you have a good relationship outside this instance. I wouldnt risk a good relationship over a minor fight. Having a family member arrested is going to cause friction for years and make your family choose sides. Talk to him and if it turns into a habit by all means call the cops, but losing a brother for 2 decades is much worse than an evening of pissing each other off.
 
____ said:
I'll never understand folks that want to see family in jail. Especially after a first offense. What happened to talking things through? Nope. Throw the fucker in jail. Smh.
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Yeah, what the hell? Do you care more about arbitrary criminal justice or actually saving your relationship with your brother? Just bloody talk to him for god sake.
 
TheVampire said:
How is beating the crap out of me self defense when I threw one soft pillow and then walked away without any intention of a second follow up pillow throw?

Him doing self defense would be me like constantly smacking him over the head with it or something.
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You initiated it. Your action caused his reaction.
 
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TheVampire said:
How is beating the crap out of me self defense when I threw one soft pillow and then walked away without any intention of a second follow up pillow throw?

Him doing self defense would be me like constantly smacking him over the head with it or something.
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Bruh, straight up. You're 31 and and he's 29. You need to talk it out with him like grown adults. It might hurt you to think about doing it because it's your brother but you need to do an adult thing right now. Not talking it out is some childish shit at the end of the day. Beating the crap out of you? That's your brother. What would you do if you didn't have us to talk about this with? Seriously.

Just talk to him.
 
rocketskates said:
You initiated it. Your action caused his reaction.
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I'm trying to get to the bottom of why the younger brother wailed on him after being hit with a pillow but it's really hard. We are not getting the full picture here and I predict OP is going to double down instead of going and talking to his brother

A real snafu on our hands, isn't it?
 
Realistically;
- Do you and your brother have a history of similar spats, but none have blown up as much as this?
- Is there any resentment bubbling under either way between you?
- How is home life at the moment?(doesn't sound good if this has happened)
- Is he physically larger than you, a more intimidating presence?
- Does he have a history of violence?
- Was the pillow throw the only form of provocation?

Do you really want to press charges on your younger brother, for one instance of anger, where you should really be talking to him about this? Does he show any form of penitence? What do you hope to gain from pressing charges?

You are both in and around your 30s for fuck sake, how has the situation come to this if not for a history of bad behaviour on his part that didn't warrant some intervention prior to this?
 
Call the cops on him but make sure to plant some hard drugs on him so he goes away for a long time. On a serious note, this may be one of the saddest threads I've read on this forum.
 
Get mcdonalds buttermilk chicken combos for your mom and you, and get your brother a happy meal. I'm not sure if you should leave the toy in or take it.
 
Have a sit down with him and talk it through. Tell him his actions have made you question whether you two can live together anymore and if it happens again you're calling the police and kicking him out.
 
On the real OP, get a mod to lock this thread ASAP.

And go talk to your brother like an adult. This thread doesn't need to be here. You'll only get more upset reading it.
 
You need to talk to him and set things straight. You know you better than we do. If this is the first incident of this kind, it's better to figure out a way to nip it in the bud before it becomes the norm, or it happens again.

Lol at these file charges and call the police people here. As someone who has had to call the police on family this is totally NOT a "call the police" situation. Consider it when your life or others are in legitimate danger. You arw angry about him being with you and for punching you. Calling the police should only be the last and final straw for anyone. You do not want your brother to develop a record for something like a fight. Filing a lawsuit is also super unnecessary. As it stands you can still figure it out amongst family.
 
Kick his ass out. He definitely has issues with anger management, they might be rare but they are there and the best way to deal with this kind of people in your family is to reduce your interactions with them, so that you only see them every now and then and everything's good between both parties because, since you only see each other occasionally, you don't fight or anything and the few times you see each other is basically to catch up and small talk. Virtually zero chance for fights like this to happen.
 
Well if you don't want to press charges or move out, try at least to put the TV and PS4 in your room and close it and of course stop talking to him unless it's important. It will at least teach him to be more grateful and show him that you are upset.

But to be honest the best IMO, is to move out or kick him. Pressing charges depends on your relationship with him and the damage he did to you.
 
TheVampire said:
I had my hands up in the air not defending myself at all because if I did that it would've been a fight and this was now an assault.
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You didn't defend yourself because you wanted it to be assault so you could get your brother in trouble with the cops?


No offense but you sound kinda weird
 
I want to hear the other side to this story. What kind of person doesn't fight back against their brother so that they can later press charges?
 
Amory said:
You didn't defend yourself because you wanted it to be assault so you could get your brother in trouble with the cops?


No offense but you sound kinda weird
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I'm starting to realize that the OP wants his brother out of the appartment but doesn't know how to talk. And that he is more comfortable with pressing charges than actually sitting down to talk it over about moving out
 
gutter_trash said:
I'm starting to realize that the OP wants his brother out of the appartment but doesn't know how to talk. And that he is more comfortable with pressing charges than actually sitting down to talk it over about moving out
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Considering the type of the threads we get...I'm leaning towards this.
 
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