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sad RIP
she deserved better parents
she deserved better parents
May I suggest this documentary? http://www.mtv.com/shows/laverne-co...rne-cox-presents-the-t-word/1731865/playlist/
Don't get thrown off by the fact that it's a MTV production, it really is very well done. Surprised me too.
I feel really uncomfortable calling Leelah (chosen name) "her" or "daughter". Could be ignorance but Leelah is a male, a son, as far as I'm concerned. That doesn't mean Leelah can't feel like a girl trapped in a man's body. That doesn't mean Leelah doesn't have the right to transition. That doesn't mean Leelah doesn't have the right to be respected by peers, or to be loved, or to pursue a happy, fulfilling life. That doesn't mean Leelah was not justified in committing suicide. The parents were huge pieces of shit and in general the societal stigma against transgendered and gay people is horrible. Hopefully I don't come off as intentionally offensive - ignorant, maybe, I'll admit that, but I just wanted to get that off my chest.
If I had a son and he looked like what the OP looked like, and he still had his male genitalia, and he has not started any sort of transitioning, then he's a "he" and he's my "son". I'd love him no matter what though, and support him through whatever he wanted, and call him by Leelah if he wished too. I like to think that when I have kids, if they ever come out as gay or transgendered or whatever, we'll have lived in a household in which we aren't flip-floppers. We won't be the house that hated gays and transgenders and then suddenly sees the light once their kid comes out as a part of this group. My household will always preach tolerance.
I feel for the girl, but that's a shitty way to kill yourself, the poor driver.
I don't believe he actually was transgendered, actually, (instead being simply a gay guy who enjoyed drag and gender fluidity) based on that episode and his descriptions of his reasons/thought process involved w/ the transition. Don't want to derail, so if you'd like to discuss feel free to PM me.Not sure how true to reality it was but there's also a MTV True Life episode featuring a young man who thought of himself as transgendered and even went through surgery.
He later decided to live as a gay male because of how difficult being transgendered was.
It's really sad what some of them have to go through.
I think from the mother's perspective, she'd probably say she did love her, but that she simply thought she was sinning. Love the sinner, hate the sin sort of interpretation.
She'd likely (incorrectly) compare it to a kid who gets in a fight at school and you have to punish them but you still love them and wish them all the best. She'd probably say her attempts to put her daughter in therapy was proof of that love.
I come to this conclusion because I've heard this sad argument before
I've been reading a few articles here and there and apparently her parents are going to bury her as their son and not as their daughter? And they refuse to put "Leelah" on the grave?! A friend of mine was following her on tumblr and she told me the mother was calling transgenders "tranny's" on social media en that she blamed the community for her death.
Of course. Never my fault since i'm on gods side!!!
What a disgusting intent of a human.
I've been reading a few articles here and there and apparently her parents are going to bury her as their son and not as their daughter? And they refuse to put "Leelah" on the grave?! A friend of mine was following her on tumblr and she told me the mother was calling transgenders "tranny's" on social media en that she blamed the community for her death.
Don't they tend to try to treat it as a sickness of sorts nowadays? I mean, you look at the stats you outlined in the OP, it's illogical to choose to be that way on purpose.
I was brought up Christian (in the UK) and all I ever heard was that we're all made in God's image and to try to treat others as you would want to be treated. I'm not sure how that message got so muddied for some people.
I mean it's difficult to go too deep here without having to analyze the Christian faith as a whole, but I think a lot of the issue is the same it's always been. When you endow certain books with the authority of the holy, then you begin to interpret the text in a huge variety of ways and give it absolute final say in a situation.
So while you were taught "treat others how you want to be treated" and whatnot, others will read the Bible front to back and read how God was ok with raping children and stoning homosexuals and beating slaves. It's a very complicated subject because of this.
I guess part of the problem is that this is not something the general public can easily empathize with? For most people with no knowledge on the subjct, the idea of being born in the wrong body seems crazy.
I guess part of the problem is that this is not something the general public can easily empathize with? For most people with no knowledge on the subjct, the idea of being born in the wrong body seems crazy.
I feel really uncomfortable calling Leelah (chosen name) "her" or "daughter". Could be ignorance but Leelah is a male, a son, as far as I'm concerned. That doesn't mean Leelah can't feel like a girl trapped in a man's body. That doesn't mean Leelah doesn't have the right to transition. That doesn't mean Leelah doesn't have the right to be respected by peers, or to be loved, or to pursue a happy, fulfilling life. That doesn't mean Leelah was not justified in committing suicide. The parents were huge pieces of shit and in general the societal stigma against transgendered and gay people is horrible. Hopefully I don't come off as intentionally offensive - ignorant, maybe, I'll admit that, but I just wanted to get that off my chest.
If I had a son and he looked like what the OP looked like, and he still had his male genitalia, and he has not started any sort of transitioning, then he's a "he" and he's my "son". I'd love him no matter what though, and support him through whatever he wanted, and call him by Leelah if he wished too. I like to think that when I have kids, if they ever come out as gay or transgendered or whatever, we'll have lived in a household in which we aren't flip-floppers. We won't be the house that hated gays and transgenders and then suddenly sees the light once their kid comes out as a part of this group. My household will always preach tolerance.
What a bunch of pieces of shit her parents are. I'm sure she'll also go on the news and cry that her tombstone was "vandalized" with Leelah's actual name if someone went and actually corrected it.I've been reading a few articles here and there and apparently her parents are going to bury her as their son and not as their daughter? And they refuse to put "Leelah" on the grave?! A friend of mine was following her on tumblr and she told me the mother was calling transgenders "tranny's" on social media en that she blamed the community for her death.
Yes but we're taught to have empathy for people in bad situations that we haven't personally experienced. Are transgendered people just omitted from that?
Any decent human being could say "I don't personally relate to the problem, but they are suffering and deserve respect and comfort."
Her parents obviously were not decent human beings.
I've been reading a few articles here and there and apparently her parents are going to bury her as their son and not as their daughter? And they refuse to put "Leelah" on the grave?!
I feel really uncomfortable calling Leelah (chosen name) "her" or "daughter". Could be ignorance but Leelah is a male, a son, as far as I'm concerned. That doesn't mean Leelah can't feel like a girl trapped in a man's body. That doesn't mean Leelah doesn't have the right to transition. That doesn't mean Leelah doesn't have the right to be respected by peers, or to be loved, or to pursue a happy, fulfilling life. That doesn't mean Leelah was not justified in committing suicide. The parents were huge pieces of shit and in general the societal stigma against transgendered and gay people is horrible. Hopefully I don't come off as intentionally offensive - ignorant, maybe, I'll admit that, but I just wanted to get that off my chest.
If I had a son and he looked like what the OP looked like, and he still had his male genitalia, and he has not started any sort of transitioning, then he's a "he" and he's my "son". I'd love him no matter what though, and support him through whatever he wanted, and call him by Leelah if he wished too. I like to think that when I have kids, if they ever come out as gay or transgendered or whatever, we'll have lived in a household in which we aren't flip-floppers. We won't be the house that hated gays and transgenders and then suddenly sees the light once their kid comes out as a part of this group. My household will always preach tolerance.
They don't need to empathize, and it's likely impossible anyway. They just need to see that enough people have reported the same thing and that, given the repercussions, they almost certainly aren't lying. Just let them get on with it.
Yes but we're taught to have empathy for people in bad situations that we haven't personally experienced. Are transgendered people just omitted from that?
Any decent human being could say "I don't personally relate to the problem, but they are suffering and deserve respect and comfort."
Her parents obviously were not decent human beings.
It is ignorant, and it leads you in a somewhat unempathetic position. "Tolerance" shouldn't be the mark you aspire to; we tolerate things that we dislike that we nonetheless have to endure. And I think it leads you to the idea that continuing to call a transgender child "he", "him," and "my son," after she has said that she identifies as a girl to be an acceptable compromise, rather than a deeply hurtful rejection.
Though I'm not sure how you square your insistence upon still considering your hypothetical child "a son" with your stated willingness to call her by her new selected name, or your (apparent) willingness to support her through her transition.
Calling someone who identifies as female by male pronouns despite knowing what their wishes are is not acceptance. It's not even tolerance. It is an open act of aggression.
Sickening. Poor Leelah can't even get a proper funeral. At least news outlets have been respectful of her identity, as Simply Sarah said.I've been reading a few articles here and there and apparently her parents are going to bury her as their son and not as their daughter? And they refuse to put "Leelah" on the grave?! A friend of mine was following her on tumblr and she told me the mother was calling transgenders "tranny's" on social media en that she blamed the community for her death.
I can't imagine how your religion can have such a strong influence over you that it causes you to treat your own child that way. Eventually any rational or sane person would reach a point of, "Yeah, this just isn't right."
It can certainly be like this.
The desire to have our proper pronouns is something really important to alot of us, and when someone goes activily against it, it can hurt pretty bad.
I know several folk who have this and they have cut off contact, not because they hate the person who does it, but because it really hurts them and leaves them feeling sick because it's like having someone push the problem right into their face.
I tried to let people address how they wanted for the first few months, but after a while I just had to clamp down and ask that I only be called by Her/female because being called Male was like a a pulsing headache.
I think it's important to realize that her mental state at the time is not being used as an excuse for choosing to do what she did through meana of jumping infront of a truck. I don't see why it's brought up. Clearly it's not an ideal way of going about something so terrible, but again, it's likely not something that she considered. So unless by bringing it up you're faulting he, idk why it's worth mentioning.I'm glad I read this article. Leelah's comment about being afraid she would become too "old"to transistion helps to illuminate,for me, part of why the transgender suicide rate is so high.It's a stressful situation on it's own, then add what is essentially an expiration date for that person's personal happiness.Terrifying.
That being said,the use of the truck does bother me. I know someone who is dealing with the trauma of being the driver in a similar situation.Now you're harming someone else's life,and someone else's mental stability. Saying that she had her own pain doesn't excuse it, otherwise almost all harmful actions could be excused (as they are typically caused as a result of someone's own distress).
I've been reading a few articles here and there and apparently her parents are going to bury her as their son and not as their daughter? And they refuse to put "Leelah" on the grave?! A friend of mine was following her on tumblr and she told me the mother was calling transgenders "tranny's" on social media en that she blamed the community for her death.
What year is this? What country?
I wish there was a magic light switch someone, oh we'll say President Obama, a light switch that President Obama could press to make all the fags tolerant of others so we can get on with making our collective lives better through innovation and new scientific enterprise.
These parents are the worst.
If you prick us, do we not bleed? if you tickle us, do we not laugh? if you poison us, do we not die? and if you wrong us, shall we not revenge? If we are like you in the rest, we will resemble you in that - Bill S.
I don't know either thank you for your support or being offended by being called f*g lol. Well in some sense, if everyone was a f*g in the sense that we all were empathic with each other this wouldn't happen I think.What year is this? What country?
I wish there was a magic light switch someone, oh we'll say President Obama, a light switch that President Obama could press to make all the fags tolerant of others so we can get on with making our collective lives better through innovation and new scientific enterprise.
These parents are the worst.
If you prick us, do we not bleed? if you tickle us, do we not laugh? if you poison us, do we not die? and if you wrong us, shall we not revenge? If we are like you in the rest, we will resemble you in that - Bill S.
sad RIP
she deserved better parents