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The worst 'dating' rejection someone had to face?
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Man, there's no way in hell this is real.
ConradCervantes
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Ugh. I remember it well.
I had a crush on this girl back in high school. We had sat next to each other in US History during 7th grade and made polite chitchat to each other and the occasional in-class group project, but never really were friends elsewhere. I thought I was beginning to like her, but it never went anywhere.
A couple of years later, we're sophomores and Valentine's Day is 'round the corner. I finally muster up the courage and say "YES, TODAY IS THE DAY!" In French class that day, we were assigned a Valentine's Day card project. I used very VERY schmoopy lines like "you light up my life" and "I love your long, golden hair." At the end of the day I see her at her locker talking to friends and approach her, holding out the card and telling her it was for her. She looked down at it, and back up to me, several times as I translated the card's contents for her. All the while I'm thinking I'm firebombing this whole thing but since I'm in so deep, why quit now, right?
She says thank you, rather surprised and befuddled, and I walk away. Never spoke to her again after that. In hindsight I'm surprised I liked her as much as I did. She was a skinny blonde and I've always gravitated to curvy brunettes.
So yeah, not soul-crushing or anything, but I could definitely tell by her facial expressions that she was most assuredly not on the same wavelength as I.
I had a crush on this girl back in high school. We had sat next to each other in US History during 7th grade and made polite chitchat to each other and the occasional in-class group project, but never really were friends elsewhere. I thought I was beginning to like her, but it never went anywhere.
A couple of years later, we're sophomores and Valentine's Day is 'round the corner. I finally muster up the courage and say "YES, TODAY IS THE DAY!" In French class that day, we were assigned a Valentine's Day card project. I used very VERY schmoopy lines like "you light up my life" and "I love your long, golden hair." At the end of the day I see her at her locker talking to friends and approach her, holding out the card and telling her it was for her. She looked down at it, and back up to me, several times as I translated the card's contents for her. All the while I'm thinking I'm firebombing this whole thing but since I'm in so deep, why quit now, right?
She says thank you, rather surprised and befuddled, and I walk away. Never spoke to her again after that. In hindsight I'm surprised I liked her as much as I did. She was a skinny blonde and I've always gravitated to curvy brunettes.
So yeah, not soul-crushing or anything, but I could definitely tell by her facial expressions that she was most assuredly not on the same wavelength as I.
talisayNon
Member
no game and there was this girl who was absolutely smoking that my friends and i would obsess over.
went up to her at a club function (forgot where) and i told her "i see you in the lunch room all the time"...she kind of looked away and was like "uhhhh...."
i walked away and never talked to her again. god damn embarassing.
follow up story: i told my current girlfriend this story. one day she linked me to a blog that she follows...then i see a guy i'm familiar with..i keep clicking through different posts and i realize..shit that was the girl! I told my girlfriend one of her favorite fashion blogs was run by the girl in my story.
I didn't hear the end of it from my girlfriend for about a week. She was pissed.
went up to her at a club function (forgot where) and i told her "i see you in the lunch room all the time"...she kind of looked away and was like "uhhhh...."
i walked away and never talked to her again. god damn embarassing.
follow up story: i told my current girlfriend this story. one day she linked me to a blog that she follows...then i see a guy i'm familiar with..i keep clicking through different posts and i realize..shit that was the girl! I told my girlfriend one of her favorite fashion blogs was run by the girl in my story.
I didn't hear the end of it from my girlfriend for about a week. She was pissed.
hawkshockey11
Banned
When I was 12-13 I bought a Valentine's Day card for a girl of my class who I thought it was cute. Gave it to her, read it and handed it back saying "no thanks".
Of course, this was crushing at first, but eh, I shrugged it off after a few days. The funny part is that for the next couple of years, the girl thought I was still in love (?) with her and made fun of my "advances" with her friends.
By pure luck I happened to meet her mom, which was a very kind woman who worked in the school cafeteria and where I got a part time job. The lady liked me and said that "I don't know why my daughter dislikes you so much". This, of course, was annoying to the girl in question, so I enjoyed getting her mad.
Last I heard by some mutual friends, is that she's still single. I'm 24 now.
Of course, this was crushing at first, but eh, I shrugged it off after a few days. The funny part is that for the next couple of years, the girl thought I was still in love (?) with her and made fun of my "advances" with her friends.
By pure luck I happened to meet her mom, which was a very kind woman who worked in the school cafeteria and where I got a part time job. The lady liked me and said that "I don't know why my daughter dislikes you so much". This, of course, was annoying to the girl in question, so I enjoyed getting her mad.
Last I heard by some mutual friends, is that she's still single. I'm 24 now.
I was reading some of these feeling happy that while I simped for one girl in college I never did something really simpish. I mean I even knew it at the time and jokingly called myself the "daytime boyfriend without the nighttime benefits", so obviously self-recognition of ones pathetic tendencies makes it better. And she showed me her breasts a few times so obviously I am much superior.
Then I read a few more and something jogged my memory and I all of the sudden I remembered some drunken email where I gushed for about 6 paragraphs about how we were perfect for each other and I loved her yada yada yada. Didn't even have the courage to do it in person or one of the many times we were cuddling. Her reply was some variation of "I like you as a friend but...."
What is worse is after that humiliation I still simped for a bit, though that was the beginning of the end.
I had completely blocked out that memory and hadn't thought of it for years. Fascinating how we humans hide the truth from ourselves.
Then I read a few more and something jogged my memory and I all of the sudden I remembered some drunken email where I gushed for about 6 paragraphs about how we were perfect for each other and I loved her yada yada yada. Didn't even have the courage to do it in person or one of the many times we were cuddling. Her reply was some variation of "I like you as a friend but...."
What is worse is after that humiliation I still simped for a bit, though that was the beginning of the end.
I had completely blocked out that memory and hadn't thought of it for years. Fascinating how we humans hide the truth from ourselves.
Maybe.
I met up with an old friend and we found her on facebook. I was considering getting in contact just to say hi. Possibly even apologize. I haven't yet, though, because I fear she may be traumatized. She's still really pretty too.
This basically happened to me. I met a Brasian at a club, got her number started texting her and stuff. Every time I tried asking her out she'd make up some really shitty excuse. I got the hint fast enough and just left her alone. Later I see her friend, turns out we had a friend in common, post something about only dating other Brasians. My reaction was pretty much that I laughed and just said wow.
genericsuperhero
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If you don't contact her, no harm done, but you will always wonder. And she may be looking at your Facebook page also, thinking the same thing, but you'll never know.
If you two were close, go for it. If she had that strong of feelings for you there's a good chance you still cross her mind every now and then, and now that you're past that awkward middle school age you'll laugh about it and hit it off.
What have you got to lose?
FutureZombie
Banned
That's actually a good way to be turned down because instead of thinking "she could have been the one" you know she's an asshole and you're better off without her.
You're right. There really isn't much to lose. My hesitation wouldn't be us bringing up the incident itself (as I really do want to apologize), but more so her specifically detailing how it may have deeply affected her emotionally. Perhaps even impacting her childhood. For example, I can recall our entire group of friends consoling her for about a week (or longer). Everyone was telling me she was crying nonstop. I was just so perplexed by the whole situation that I didn't handle it well at all. So there's that and then the potential that she hates me now. But I guess I won't know unless I find out.
FUCK IT. I'm contacting her. You've inspired me superhero. Kudos to you, good sir.
Jack Remington
Banned
Rodney McKay
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All the woman I have been rejected by all had boyfriends already, so it wasn't too bad.
One actually accepted to get some lunch, but then she called me to make sure it wasn't a date or anything, so I guess that was kind of shitty.
One actually accepted to get some lunch, but then she called me to make sure it wasn't a date or anything, so I guess that was kind of shitty.
I would have told her "No...but if you want to make it one I'll have to buy a Tux" to show her some of my stupid humor.
Jack Remington
Banned
The worst I've experienced was just a female friend telling me straight out that she didn't have romantic feelings for me, and that she couldn't see us ever being an item. Prior to that we'd kissed in a bar when she was drunk, and I got confused (my friends say understandably) about how she felt. What made it sting was that she started dating this other guy who was a real piece of shit.
In college, one of my female friends called me up one day after I hadn't seen her for the summer. She asked if I wanted to have her come over and watch a movie that we'd been talking about. When she got there, she made sure to tell me about how she was interested in some guy. She changed the subject specifically to mention this; that was no accident.
I wasn't crushing on her or anything (although I would have been down if she was down), so it didn't hurt or anything, but it was kind of funny and maybe slightly insulting in retrospect.
In college, one of my female friends called me up one day after I hadn't seen her for the summer. She asked if I wanted to have her come over and watch a movie that we'd been talking about. When she got there, she made sure to tell me about how she was interested in some guy. She changed the subject specifically to mention this; that was no accident.
I wasn't crushing on her or anything (although I would have been down if she was down), so it didn't hurt or anything, but it was kind of funny and maybe slightly insulting in retrospect.
genericsuperhero
Member
Yes, keep us updated. Time heals all wounds. Good luck.
I think I'm currently in a "she doesn't want to hurt my feelings" so she wont reject me situation right now.
-Met this chick in class, we talk about dumb awesome shit like movies and rap music and stuff, exchange numbers, add on facebook. Constantly texting, facebooking.
-Invite her over for drinks, goes well, nothing physical.
-Christmas break comes, still texting and facebooking.
-Once the new semester starts up and we both get back in town, invite her to a concert, we fuck.
-And then boom. We've had maybe one or two of our long normal convos since then (almost a month now), and those have both been through facebook, not in person.
-I've tried asking her to lunch a few times, says she can't cause of work which is fair.
-So this past weekend I invited her to this party on Friday, says she can't come because she has to drive back to her hometown (on friday) to help her parents out with some shit, which is whatever.
-But then my fucking roommate tells me that he saw her on his way home from partying Friday night. And then she texted me today (Monday) saying she just got back.
Bitches mannnnn
-Met this chick in class, we talk about dumb awesome shit like movies and rap music and stuff, exchange numbers, add on facebook. Constantly texting, facebooking.
-Invite her over for drinks, goes well, nothing physical.
-Christmas break comes, still texting and facebooking.
-Once the new semester starts up and we both get back in town, invite her to a concert, we fuck.
-And then boom. We've had maybe one or two of our long normal convos since then (almost a month now), and those have both been through facebook, not in person.
-I've tried asking her to lunch a few times, says she can't cause of work which is fair.
-So this past weekend I invited her to this party on Friday, says she can't come because she has to drive back to her hometown (on friday) to help her parents out with some shit, which is whatever.
-But then my fucking roommate tells me that he saw her on his way home from partying Friday night. And then she texted me today (Monday) saying she just got back.
Bitches mannnnn
Bam Bam Baklava
Member
Just end it kai, forget about it.
I was dating this girl for about two months recently and I sensed some distance appearing on her end. So we talked about it and she said that she really likes me but there's something that's keeping her slightly back. (What it is, she doesn't know. Or won't tell me.) But she still texts me every day to talk. Games. No fun for anyone.
talisayNon
Member
you fuckin right? the fucks the problem? text a picture of your hard dick tonight problem solved.
no camera phone bruh
Seems like things died off right after you guys had sex. It's very possible she thought you were bad in bed. Either way, just move on.
Thanks. I'll update accordingly if/when anything happens.
Was talking to a girl on Match, physically she was definitely my type (thin, petite, blonde hair, glasses, vaguely Eastern European looking). We agree to meet up at a mall near her house (about 45 min from where I live) and then from there head over for dinner. So I get to the mall, and meet her outside of the H&M. Ask her if she wanted to head out for dinner and she said "no thanks, I already ate"... bear in mind I thought she was down for dinner and I didn't eat anything so I was starved ... so I'm like, let's get coffee then. She suggested the Starbucks down the road, I wasn't familiar with the area so I didn't know where exactly the Starbucks was, so she said that I could just follow her SUV there.
She parked in a different parking lot than me, so she told me to wait for her there... I sat in my car for 10 min, still no sign of her (the mall isn't very big)... then waited another 10 min, I decided to call her to see where the hell was she? I called, no answer. A few minutes later, I get a response saying how she went home because she wasn't feeling good and "it wouldn't have worked out anyway". Disgusted, I left the mall parking garage and got some food by myself on the way home
If only this was true
... so I'm like, let's get coffee then. She suggested the Starbucks down the road, I wasn't familiar with the area so I didn't know where exactly the Starbucks was, so she said that I could just follow her SUV there. She parked in a different parking lot than me, so she told me to wait for her there... I sat in my car for 10 min, still no sign of her (the mall isn't very big)... then waited another 10 min, I decided to call her to see where the hell was she? I called, no answer. A few minutes later, I get a response saying how she went home because she wasn't feeling good and "it wouldn't have worked out anyway". Disgusted, I left the mall parking garage and got some food by myself on the way home
If only this was true
When a girl is interested, you will hear from her. If you go more than a week not hearing from a girl, or the communication takes a turn for the worse or changes radically. SHE'S NOT INTERESTED.
i disagree. regardless of looks, if you have game and wit, you can score easily.
Was talking to a girl on Match, physically she was definitely my type (thin, petite, blonde hair, glasses, vaguely Eastern European looking). We agree to meet up at a mall near her house (about 45 min from where I live) and then from there head over for dinner. So I get to the mall, and meet her outside of the H&M. Ask her if she wanted to head out for dinner and she said "no thanks, I already ate"... bear in mind I thought she was down for dinner and I didn't eat anything so I was starved
She parked in a different parking lot than me, so she told me to wait for her there... I sat in my car for 10 min, still no sign of her (the mall isn't very big)... then waited another 10 min, I decided to call her to see where the hell was she? I called, no answer. A few minutes later, I get a response saying how she went home because she wasn't feeling good and "it wouldn't have worked out anyway". Disgusted, I left the mall parking garage and got some food by myself on the way home
f this, man. she'll get what's comin her way. be glad you avoided this mess.
I once had the whole first date "I just got a phone call and my mom is in the hospital" thing happen to me. That was a little disheartening. I was angry, so I played along, drove her home, walked her to her car and forced her to get into it and drive off, waving as she drove away. Never talked to her again.
I know quite a few Asian girls who said this. Some say Asian guys remind them of their father/brother(s), others said Asian men were too domineering, others said Asian guys just weren't handsome, others said only Koreans were handsome. I found it weird. Also to the guy who said a black girl said she did not date black guys, i knew a black guy who'd get insecure when they'd see sexy as black girl with a white guy he'd get bent out of shape assuming she probably does not date black guys without knowing a thing about the girls. The added irony is he does not give black girls the time of day in his dating life.
CherryWoodFuton
Member
Most of my rejections come from hispanic girls that don't find Asian guys attractive for some strange reason.
It's still infintely easier for a girl to get laid than a guy. Any girl above a 7 can get laid every day with a new guy if they want. Any girl above a 2/10 with an internet connection.
Man. If that shit happened to me..... i'd be so pissed i'd start laughing. How much was the meal?
Jack Remington
Banned
Yeah, dating is infinitely easier for girls who are at least moderately attractive; it becomes entirely a selection issue rather than a success/failure proposition. That's the one "female privilege", probably doesn't balance out all the male privilege in the world, but it's not a bad one to have.
This is what I don't understand..how can conversations go super well for some time but then contact is severed very abruptly? Do girls just meet a new guy?
Why do people think that stuff works with girls? Girls do not like you to be romantic with them at the begining. It's just creepy. Like the "you light up my life" stuff. That can't even be true if all you do is occasionally make small talk.
Well I've known a few women who don't realize that a guy is interested in them until they reach "that conversation" then it dawns on them, and others maybe they do just meet another man or woman or don't view things the same way.
Hell I was with a girl once who was a lesbian and I knew it, but we slept together whenever she was drunk or feeling a bit wild, so me like a moron asked her on a date and she said she doesn't date men. Which I was like huh...? So yes it's many things but I tend to think it's just a misunderstanding on viewpoints. Edit: yes she dropped me like a rock afterward.
And FYI reading this thread you'd really get the sense women were some cold, cold creatures hahaha.
The worst type of rejection is the silent treatment after what seemed like a great and fun date. I know it's not fun to tell someone that you're not really into them, but come on, you owe me that much. Do it by text for all I care, but don't leave me hanging.
Getting told that they had a great time, but just want to be friends is awful as well. These days I simply tell them that I'm not looking for additional (female) friends and end it there. Having one female friend who's friendzoned me is more than enough. I have no room for more than one.
Getting told that they had a great time, but just want to be friends is awful as well. These days I simply tell them that I'm not looking for additional (female) friends and end it there. Having one female friend who's friendzoned me is more than enough. I have no room for more than one.
That or they aren't in the same head space anymore (just grumpy, bad situation at work etc).
I'd kill to have many female friends, that's one of my goals in 2013. Do you know how much easier it is to get women that way?
Devolution
Member
What does this have to do with being rejected by people we want to actively pursue?
peteykirch
Member
I can't stand the entire mind trip of when a girl just exudes how well the date went and how interested she is, and then when you follow up, she falls off the face of the Earth.
I went on this one date, I honestly thought it went pretty average, we were laughing at times, there were bits of silence, but then the next day she asked me out. We set up another date, she cancels the day before, I tell her it's fine I suggest another time, and that was it. I never heard from her again, the worst part, randomly a few days later I get a message on OKC she added me to her Favs and rated me 5 stars.
Jack Remington
Banned
More contingency options. Maybe Timedog turns you down, but you know blamespace is right there, and he's interested. Most dudes don't get that luxury.
Bam Bam Baklava
Member
What kind of choices are those man? This is why I never voted in that thread.
Back up plans. You may not get guy A, but there's guy B, C, D,E etc.
edit: beaten like a man falling for the 2 dollar hooker scheme.
Devolution
Member
I don't want B, C, D or E. That's the point. Just because some random dudes want up our skirts doesn't make rejection of someone you wanted to get serious with any better. Maybe you guys need to broaden your perspective a bit.
the 1/10s are just out in the wilderness huh?
Jack Remington
Banned
You'd really look a gift horse in the mouth like that?
So much privilege in this thread, I swear.
Well that's true, if you're looking to seriously date, you're right it's basically the same. Rejection is rejection.
But in the context of what he said, dating to "Get laid", he's right.
Jack Remington
Banned
Focusing on one single person is a recipe for disappointment anyway. You need to keep your options open and play the percentages.
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