efyu_lemonardo
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Out of curiosity, has she said why?
Never used tinder but I imagine you'll see both attitudes with that height. Take into account the fact that many girls enjoy wearing high heals.
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Wow, being short instantly kills a man's chances in online dating
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Schattenjäger
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I bet!
CarpeDeezNutz
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Ya'll fixate on the wrong shit, I am like 5'6" and dated all kinds of women. Tall ass girls and skinny girls.
Epsilon-delta
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Not from my experience.
At the end of the day, most guys would date any type of woman.
I've met far too many women who wouldn't waste their time with a short guy.
A woman with no ass or slightly overweight would get far more dates than a short guy.
Don't kid yourself.
Response/Message #s does not imply pick of the litter. Otherwise I wouldn't see these types still 'looking for a long term relationship' when i log in month after month.
Your Entertainer
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Nope. Not even close, either.
But I'm pretty sure you're being humorous here so watevs
ViewtifulJC
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^Especially on something like Tinder, with guys outnumbering the girls, they get the pick of the litter. Dudes tend to the first one to initiate messages and contact, and if she gets 10-20 messages a day, she starts weeding them out with height(or worse, race). The dudes are applying for the job, and the women are filtering through the resumes for the best candidate.
I get that, I just wonder if being upfront about it is better than leaving them guessing by the photos.
efyu_lemonardo
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Oh absolutely be upfront about it! Otherwise some will be unpleasantly surprised and make sure you know about it!
Baki
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Give me some of your height please.
soundahfekz
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It's evolutionary selection. Clearly height is a good indicator of health, fitness, and wealth.
I'm sure all women love overweight guys. lol
http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/race-attraction-2009-2014/
nailbombxx
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I'm 5'10 and I still feel like I should be taller
Sometimes it feels like I live on an entirely different planet than other people. I don't understand how people can care about this at all.
efyu_lemonardo
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Wait is this something a lot of women assume? Do I have to start lying about my height too now?
Host Samurai
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Why face when it's about height
I'm more surprised that people don't know that women look for taller men to date.
Either you're new to dating, or you just don't have any lady friends.
I assume people are like me. I don't care about height, so why would other people do? To me, it's about as absurd as people caring about the size of your ears or whatever.
efyu_lemonardo
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Of course I know women look for taller men. Was asking if it's common for women to assume men lie about their height.
Lovely Salsa
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Well, you should
Thats below average here. I suppose it depends where you live
I also wish I was taller sometimes and Im 6'1
To me, 6'3 is the perfect height
thesoapster
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I mean I don't find that to be that bewildering. What I do find funny are girls that are 5'6" and think they are "tall" and say they'll only consider 6' and taller because of this
entremet
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Yep. That person is clueless about dating dynamics.
Fluffhead14
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there are plenty of girls under 5'3" that are attractive. focus your efforts there?
Sho_Nuff82
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As has been mentioned, evolutionary biology and learned gender roles both play a part.
Women have given many reasons to me over the years - the need to feel protected, the need to be with someone strong/athletic, the need to not look "silly" when standing next to someone in heels, the need to look up at someone when kissing, the desire to have taller children, the assumed phenomena of "tall cock".
Cizeta-Moroder
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Not that they're tweeting anything wrong, but those seem to be just false flag attacks.
Pretty much
thesoapster
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6 inches is a lot shorter than you think[the difference]
5'6" is pretty tall for some girls. I'm of Chinese descent and 5'6" is REALLY tall. I tower over over chicks... the only time they're my height is when they're in heels.
You're saying the difference is smaller or bigger in reality? Anyway, these were all white girls. They just couldn't find it in their heart to say they prefer tall guys.
On a side note, I had a Taiwanese friend who is 5'8" and she said it was a serious dating hazard for her, which I found kind of funny (I'm sure she did not). I met a mainlander at work who is about 6'3". She's married, though!
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When someone fights heightism with weightism
Don't dish it out if you can't take it.
efyu_lemonardo
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LOL I've never heard of this and it's pretty hilarious
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CoffeeJanitor
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yeah being short is easily the hardest thing ive had to deal with in life
EASILY
Best part is you have Zero control and are fucked once you realize the inevitable
EASILY
Best part is you have Zero control and are fucked once you realize the inevitable
entremet
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That's not a dating site. It's a hookup site.
But more men do it than women. This is a common pattern.
what you mean by inconveniently tall?
Impossible to find clothes/shoes in regular stores, bumping into ceilings, uncomfortable chairs etc
User 73706
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As a guy who's 6'12", yeah, being short really kills a lot of your options when it comes to online dating.
eot
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I guess he means hitting your head on stuff, no legroom etc. maybe finding clothes.
6'3 is not enough to hit your head that much, but maybe it depends on the country.
hey_it's_that_dog
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Probably means the built environment wasn't created with people of that height in mind. (Not agreeing or disagreeing, just taking a stab at what they meant.)
On the general topic:
If you have an obvious deficit in a superficial attribute, your best bet is to avoid superficial means of dating, like online profiles and hook-up apps. If OP's friend truly has all the great qualities he claims, then he needs to put himself into situations with women where those qualities clearly outshine his height. Women, on average, are not as concerned with appearance as men are, but that may not be true of the sub-sample of women using technology to filter through many potential partners in an efficient manner. He needs to get into real life situations where he can present himself holistically.
loaf of bread
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Just say you're 6'2" and carry around a rigged tape measure that has a smaller scale to prove it. Go the extra mile and practice some sleight of hand and carry an identical one with a normal scale in case she gets suspicious and wants to measure herself.
Sho_Nuff82
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Did you know that most roller coasters have height maximums along with height minimums? I have to slouch to go on some at Six Flags.
Also buses, planes, smaller cars, and most stadium seating is terribly uncomfortable. I can't sit in the grandstands at Fenway at all.
SlaughterX
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This. The ones with fish in the bottom
Nocturnowl
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Gotta love asian parents. My mom tells me I'd be perfect if I was taller. I think got screwed since I spent my first 4 years in Vietnam so nutrition wasn't as good so I'm a couple inches shorter than my brother.
Anyway OP - I would recommend Meetup as a way to meet people in real life. I've been able to get more dates that way but you still have to have confidence and all that. Eventually found my long term girlfriend from a random meetup (someone who doesn't care about height and likes to wear high heels for that matter)
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