It never ceases to amaze me how far right Americas left is.ZephyrFate said:
It never ceases to amaze me how far right Americas left is.ZephyrFate said:
What so bad about it?beje said:Ugh, I met a guy today that would be pretty much the perfect husband (a little nerdy, likes outdoors sports, cute, nice muscle body, smart, funny and amazing sex) if it wasn't for a "little detail": he's more than 20 years older than me
T_______T
Yeah, but in some ways that makes it worse to me. Just opposing because it's the done thing, not even from a ideological basis.Rez said:to be fair, it seems like that's just a traditional political wave of the arm, not a stance
fernoca said:What so bad about it?
It seems you like everything about him.
fernoca said:What so bad about it?
It seems you like everything about him.
40 used to be my barrier, then I reached my mid 30's :lolbeje said:40 years old is my phychological barrier for a potential relationship. I'm not dating such and old guy again in my life. You know, the good ol' "it's all fun and games until the generational breach kicks in and ruins everything".
Dead Man said:40 used to be my barrier, then I reached my mid 30's :lol
"As a policy matter, the President has made clear that he believes DOMA is discriminatory and should be repealed," said Justice Department spokeswoman Tracy Schmaler. "The Justice Department is defending the statute, as it traditionally does when acts of Congress are challenged."
It's appealing for the sake of appealing. They are not pointing to any flaw in the ruling, rather just pointing to a tradition of opposing such rulings. If the DOJ was non political/partisan, I could see it being reasonable, but it is not.Siebzehn50 said:I think it's best that they are appealing it. I hope that they lose, but it really is what the DOJ should do.
As the article says...
fragilebroken said:Were I to reattempt the bar scene, is it customary to go to a bar alone if your intent is to meet people? I did that once and felt utterly foolish just sitting there people-watching by myself, although I did get a couple free drinks.
beje said:It's usually hit and miss, but I'd rather go with a couple friends. I also feel stupid if I go alone unless I actually know the bartender.
Don't make it a big deal, just ask if they want to go. Straight people go to gay bars a lot as well, especially girls. I don't think you'll face much resistance unless your friends don't like bars in general.fragilebroken said:Problem is I have no one to go with 98% of the time, and with my closest friends I'm not sure how okay they'd be with going to a gay bar with me, frankly. Then again, I haven't asked; they could surprise me.
You have a date with someone you like. You poor thing.beje said:Update: I found last night's guy in the supermarket and he asked me if I wanted to go to his place tonight. My penis kicked in before my brain could take control and I said "yes".
FML
Alcoori said:If you don't wanna go you can still say no, it's not like you HAVE to
ilikeme said:You should fuck him. If it feels good, if you have doubts.. rain check? (do you use this this way)
Just ask him to show some papers that he's clean.
You know, old people
This is a good thing maybe if it does win in court though... if it wasn't appealed it would only affect Massachusetts but now that it's going to higher court it could affect the whole country.ZephyrFate said:
Just breathe and have a fun time and see where the night takes you.beje said:STDs are not what scares me (I always play safe). A guy that might fall for me (or vice-versa) when I'm not in the mood for a relationship with a guy much older than me does.
beje said:STDs are not what scares me (I always play safe). A guy that might fall for me (or vice-versa) when I'm not in the mood for a relationship with a guy much older than me does.
Because I'm a slut.Cosmic Bus said:Gee, I dunno. Maybe you could... talk to him about your hesitations? I suppose I'm naïve, but he asked you to come over after meeting you (again?) by chance and seemingly would like to get to know you. Avoiding someone you apparently share interests and attraction with is silly just because he's "old."
Hm, going back to read your original post again, it sounds like you already slept with him? If that's the case, then this is partially your own fault. Why you would fuck someone you don't want to be involved with is, frankly, beyond me.
Happens to the best of us.DarkUSS said:I think I'm falling for a guy I've only recently met and I barely know. I feel good just being around him, is this the feeling? :lol
And the worst is that he's probably straight. FML.
First rule of social interaction: keep them at arm's length until you're sure they feel the same way as you feel for them. Detach all emotions and don't fall for anyone so easily.DarkUSS said:I think I'm falling for a guy I've only recently met and I barely know. I feel good just being around him, is this the feeling? :lol
And the worst is that he's probably straight. FML.
I've done that with straight guys and I have sort of that same problem right now. I hate straight crushes. They are distracting and extremely frustrating since it's kind of out of your control. I have no advice other than do not tell him about your crush unless he is gay/bi, and don't do anything for him that you wouldn't do for a friend you weren't into sexually.DarkUSS said:I think I'm falling for a guy I've only recently met and I barely know. I feel good just being around him, is this the feeling? :lol
And the worst is that he's probably straight. FML.
I guess. It has happened to me before, I won't lie, but this time felt different.ZephyrFate said:Happens to the best of us.
Easier said, than done but I appreciate the input from someone with past experience in similar situations. :lolReplicant said:First rule of social interaction: keep them at arm's length until you're sure they feel the same way as you feel for them. Detach all emotions and don't fall for anyone so easily.
DarkUSS said:Easier said, than done but I appreciate the input from someone with past experience in similar situations. :lol
Good thing is that I won't be seeing him all that often unless I pursue it. This might help.
DarkUSS said:I guess. It has happened to me before, I won't lie, but this time felt different.
Easier said, than done but I appreciate the input from someone with past experience in similar situations. :lol
Good thing is that I won't be seeing him all that often unless I pursue it. This might help.
fragilebroken said:The most basic of questions, but I'm at a loss. WTF do I say in an introductory message to a girl online other than "nice hair, wanna f#*@?"
Replicant said:LOL, I always wonder about online interaction too. Should I do the crappy chit-chat asking about their job/interest or should I just go for the kill and say "So, what do you have in mind?". The later sounds kinda crass to me but I get the suspicion that most men online just want to jump right into the sex.
Alcoori said:For a first message I usually go with a variation of "Hi, I liked your profile so I thought I'd send you a message" with a little conversation starter sentence. Depends where you're messaging people, but if it's on okcupid, it's more geared towards dating than, say, Manhunt or Grindr (or whatever Lesbian equivalent ).
But really, I'd rather go out for a drink to talk to the person and get to know them than chit-chat online.
fragilebroken said:I, too, would much rather sit and have coffee or something with someone than try to keep up some emoteless internet chat, but there has to be a certain level of "ok, you're not going to club me over the head and drag me back to your cave without my consent" familiarity before planning a meeting; at least in my experience - which is, admittedly, slim.
i'd wonder why a 45 year old man with a penthouse suite is singleokno said:*story*
dustytruly said:i'd wonder why a 45 year old man with a penthouse suite is single
ZephyrFate said:smacks of one-night-stand rather than dating, to me =/