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Does anyone know what a colorist patriarchy is?
I'd assume the "colorist" bit refers to non-white cultures where lighter skinned people are considered more attractive.
Does anyone know what a colorist patriarchy is?
Good piece. Any time I see so called "pro-black" brothers or hotep ninjas with a white woman in tow I give em the side eye cause I know IRL they on thatbut online it's queen this and queen that
You can't be pro-black if you'll take the first white woman with a fetish over any of the millions of single black women out there.
That's why Pac dumped Madonna. LOL
Good piece. Any time I see so called "pro-black" brothers or hotep ninjas with a white woman in tow I give em the side eye cause I know IRL they on thatbut online it's queen this and queen that
You can't be pro-black if you'll take the first white woman with a fetish over any of the millions of single black women out there.
You can be pro-black with a white women. You just can't be slandering black women to make white women seem better.
You can't be pro-black if you'll take the first white woman with a fetish over any of the millions of single black women out there.
You just can't be slandering black women to make white women seem better.
Please elaborate.Love whoever feels right, just don't take anyone down to validate it, and don't pretend that there is no societal influence/consequence in who you choose. If you do, it'll be really hard on your kids (particularly your daughters) anyway.
Who's dumb enough to do this? And in what context do they do this? I've never witnessed someone do this, so I'm trying to understand their mindset.
I mean, I get that racist white people would do this, obviously. But what about other races?
(I'm a white guy from Canada, for what it's worth)
Who's dumb enough to do this? And in what context do they do this? I've never witnessed someone do this, so I'm trying to understand their mindset.
I mean, I get that racist white people would do this, obviously. But what about other races?
(I'm a white guy from Canada, for what it's worth)
Please elaborate.
Love whoever feels right, just don't take anyone down to validate it, and don't pretend that there is no societal influence/consequence in who you choose. If you do, it'll be really hard on your kids (particularly your daughters) anyway.
This can be true of intraracial marriages too, especially where the lighter skinned daughters are given preferential treatment.
This reminds me. Theres this video of this Dominican black dude who consoling his daughter who is light skinned/biracial. It's meant to be heart felt/sweet or whatever.
Dude has another daughter, a darker skinned black girl. And the treatment he gives them on just social media alone is like night and day. calling the darker skinned one an accident(wear condoms), and calling the light skinned one his princess, twin, fave etc.
He was called out on it.
One of my best friends is light skin and his sister is dark skin, despite them both having the same African American parents. They don't get along now as adults, and my friend believes there's been a growing resentment his sister has had for him ever since they were children and the preferential treatment she witnessed other people give him particularly women due to his light skin.
Black women get a lot of disrespect from everybody. A lot of people take liberty to be pieces of shit toward black women. All sorts of dumb ass stereotypes and people with a lot of nerve.
(I'm a black guy from Canada with a black sister).
People say some bullshit things about black women. It's entirely unfair
Yeah, I mean, kids are aware enough to understand and internalize what is happening. It's sad to see it manifest like this, but it's not surprising to me.
This article ties into a larger trend of Asian women publicly vocalizing disdain for their Asian male counterparts. Gina Choe and Jenny An both felt compelled to broadcast their Asian-exclusionary dating preferences on public platforms. Comedian Esther Ku routinely exploits (false) stereotypes of Asian men during her shows. A couple months ago, she even tweeted a video thanking United Airlines for assaulting Dr. David Dao.
There were two, and both were from online dating sites/apps. The one that wasn't OKCupid had a sample size of 2.4 million, though - pretty significant. Maybe it's not a be-all-end-all study, but I can't hand-wave the evidence either. Marmalade's on-point.
- A record 15.1% of all new marriages in the United States were between spouses of a different race or ethnicity from one another. This compares to 8.4% of all current marriages regardless of when they occurred. This includes marriages between a Hispanic and non-Hispanic (Hispanics are an ethnic group, not a race) as well as marriages between spouses of different races be they white, black, Asian, American Indian or those who identify as being of multiple races or some other race.
- Among all newlyweds, 9.4% of whites, 17.1% of blacks, 25.7% of Hispanics and 27.7% of Asians married someone whose race or ethnicity was different from their own.
- Among all newlyweds, intermarried pairings were primarily White-Hispanic (43.3%) as compared to White-Asian (14.4%), White-Black (11.9%), and Other Combinations (30.4%). Other combinations consists of pairings between different minority groups, multi-racial people, and American Indians.
- Among all newlyweds, native-born Hispanics and Asians were far more likely to intermarry than foreign-born Hispanics and Asians: 36.2% of native-born Hispanics (both men and women) out-married compared to 14.2% of foreign-born Hispanics; 32% of native-born Asian men out-married compared to 11% of foreign-born Asian men; 43% of native-born Asian women out-married compared to 34% of foreign-born Asian women. Foreign-born excludes immigrants who arrived married.
- Gender patterns in intermarriage vary widely. Some 24% of all black male newlyweds in 2010 married outside their race, compared with just 9% of black female newlyweds. Among Asians, the gender pattern runs the other way. Some 36% of Asian female newlyweds married outside their race in 2010, compared with just 17% of Asian male newlyweds. Among whites and Hispanics, by contrast, there are no gender differences in intermarriage rates.
- Rates of intermarriages among newlyweds in the U.S. have nearly tripled since 1980 (6.7%) increasing to 14.6% in 2008 and 15.1% in 2010.
- There is a strong regional pattern to intermarriage. Among all new marriages in 2010, 22% in the West were interracial or interethnic, compared with 14% in the South, 13% in the Northeast and 11% in the Midwest.
Please don't go full-on us vs. them both Asian men and Black women are just viewed super shittily by Western society
Like the article in the OP, it's incredibly shitty to try and use The Big Sick, largely based on the actor's actual experience with his wife, as the jumping off point for their soapbox about representation.I read a post in a similar vein yesterday that was complaining that Film/TV only portrays secular Muslims. A fair point, but I don't know if these criticisms stick in this case since it's based off his life.
The Only Muslims Hollywood Likes Are The 'Secular' Ones
Speaking of people who go out of their way to talk trash about the opposite sex of their own race, someone posted this link earlier: http://www.aprilmag.com/2017/06/24/we-need-to-talk-about-the-asian-women-who-hate-on-asian-men/
And it introduced me to this awful comic
Yikes. Not cute. No.
Just out of curiosity, I wonder about the way South East Asian men vs East Asian men are perceived? East Asian and SE Asian women aren't looked at as the same, so I would think the same is true for the men. While representation isn't huge for them, South East and South Asian men seem to be doing better in regard to getting projects off of the ground and gaining visibility, while there is only one current prominent example of mainstream East Asian men in a leading role in US media that I can think of (Fresh Off the Boat), which does happen to feature an intra-racial marriage. Hawaii 5-0 was on too but there goes that.
It's so bad that the whole internet was clenching in fear of Disney writing one of their best male love interests (and characters, period) out of Mulan all together. On the otherhand, no one is scare that Aladdin won't be the right race, it's a matter of whether they'll make everyone super light, which isn't how the original was.
I'm mixed-race, my mother is Korean and my dad is white. I felt the urge to drop in and offer some anecdotal experiences, but I find in past conversations that it ends up being entirely meaningless in the long run.
What I really want to just say is that I can't tell where the fuck to stand on mixed race issues anymore. Every time I think I'm "liberal" and "open-minded" about the issue, some liberal-leaning publication puts out a piece like this that makes me feel like my thoughts aren't actually all that open-minded after all. Obviously, the blatantly racist notions that get attributed to conservatism aren't at all appealing, either, so it's not like I'm about to turn coat and join their ranks.
So, I'm just confused, and frankly both the liberal and the conservative outlooks feel extremely alienating these days. I know liberal GAF likes to pop off a "moderate mindsets just lend strength to bigotry" attitude about a middle ground, but I'd argue the middle ground exists not because we want to make peace with bigots, but because both bigots and the righteousness-by-critical-espousal liberalism are both increasingly alienating, and both feel like I can't live a substantive, unambigiously fulfilling life without some shitty hang ups making me feel guilt about every fucking thing I think or do.
So, y'know what, I just feel stuck. I always felt at odds with larger American culture just by the very existence of being mixed-race and never feeling accepted by either white Americans or Koreans as a culturally pure example of humanhood... And I guess it's just going to fucking stay that way.
Frustrating as shit the way this gets presented all the time. I know critics aren't necessarily out to make people guilty around the clock, but it's really starting to feel like I can't say or do a damn thing anymore without "but, well, there's this thing that gets excluded by that mindset..."
GAF, what the hell do I have to do to just ... fit in someplace.
GAF, what the hell do I have to do to just ... fit in someplace.
I'm mixed-race, my mother is Korean and my dad is white. I felt the urge to drop in and offer some anecdotal experiences, but I find in past conversations that it ends up being entirely meaningless in the long run.
What I really want to just say is that I can't tell where the fuck to stand on mixed race issues anymore. Every time I think I'm "liberal" and "open-minded" about the issue, some liberal-leaning publication puts out a piece like this that makes me feel like my thoughts aren't actually all that open-minded after all. Obviously, the blatantly racist notions that get attributed to conservatism aren't at all appealing, either, so it's not like I'm about to turn coat and join their ranks.
So, I'm just confused, and frankly both the liberal and the conservative outlooks feel extremely alienating these days. I know liberal GAF likes to pop off a "moderate mindsets just lend strength to bigotry" attitude about a middle ground, but I'd argue the middle ground exists not because we want to make peace with bigots, but because both bigots and the righteousness-by-critical-espousal liberalism are both increasingly alienating, and both feel like I can't live a substantive, unambigiously fulfilling life without some shitty hang ups making me feel guilt about every fucking thing I think or do.
So, y'know what, I just feel stuck. I always felt at odds with larger American culture just by the very existence of being mixed-race and never feeling accepted by either white Americans or Koreans as a culturally pure example of humanhood... And I guess it's just going to fucking stay that way.
Frustrating as shit the way this gets presented all the time. I know critics aren't necessarily out to make people guilty around the clock, but it's really starting to feel like I can't say or do a damn thing anymore without "but, well, there's this thing that gets excluded by that mindset..."
GAF, what the hell do I have to do to just ... fit in someplace.
Speaking of people who go out of their way to talk trash about the opposite sex of their own race, someone posted this link earlier: http://www.aprilmag.com/2017/06/24/we-need-to-talk-about-the-asian-women-who-hate-on-asian-men/
And it introduced me to this awful comic
Some people internalize their self-hatred to breed out their "ethnic" features for more Eurocentric features. I always found it a strange concept. So girl you really gonna treat yourself like some kinda breeding device so you can incubate some biracial children?Yeah I met a few of these in college. One in a class called "Asian American Experience" of all things. We were talking about me being half Asian, and she started telling me she only dates white guys because she wants "cute halfie babies".
I'm sitting there thinking to myself "so only half white babies are cute or some shit?"
You can be pro-black with a white women. You just can't be slandering black women to make white women seem better.
Some people internalize their self-hatred to breed out their "ethnic" features for more Eurocentric features. I always found it a strange concept. So girl you really gonna treat yourself like some kinda breeding device so you can incubate some biracial children?
Is it really worth it?
Some people internalize their self-hatred to breed out their "ethnic" features for more Eurocentric features. I always found it a strange concept. So girl you really gonna treat yourself like some kinda breeding device so you can incubate some biracial children?
Is it really worth it?
If I used the "I can write your name in Arabic" party trick the first time I met my Filipino girlfriend does that still count as me doing a bad thing
paging jezebel
It's okay to be an individual and just follow your own conscience. You can listen to everyone, but keep your own counsel. Be a heretic. Follow your convictions.I'm mixed-race, my mother is Korean and my dad is white. I felt the urge to drop in and offer some anecdotal experiences, but I find in past conversations that it ends up being entirely meaningless in the long run.
What I really want to just say is that I can't tell where the fuck to stand on mixed race issues anymore. Every time I think I'm "liberal" and "open-minded" about the issue, some liberal-leaning publication puts out a piece like this that makes me feel like my thoughts aren't actually all that open-minded after all. Obviously, the blatantly racist notions that get attributed to conservatism aren't at all appealing, either, so it's not like I'm about to turn coat and join their ranks.
So, I'm just confused, and frankly both the liberal and the conservative outlooks feel extremely alienating these days. I know liberal GAF likes to pop off a "moderate mindsets just lend strength to bigotry" attitude about a middle ground, but I'd argue the middle ground exists not because we want to make peace with bigots, but because both bigots and the righteousness-by-critical-espousal liberalism are both increasingly alienating, and both feel like I can't live a substantive, unambigiously fulfilling life without some shitty hang ups making me feel guilt about every fucking thing I think or do.
So, y'know what, I just feel stuck. I always felt at odds with larger American culture just by the very existence of being mixed-race and never feeling accepted by either white Americans or Koreans as a culturally pure example of humanhood... And I guess it's just going to fucking stay that way.
Frustrating as shit the way this gets presented all the time. I know critics aren't necessarily out to make people guilty around the clock, but it's really starting to feel like I can't say or do a damn thing anymore without "but, well, there's this thing that gets excluded by that mindset..."
GAF, what the hell do I have to do to just ... fit in someplace.
Nah apparently it's only bad if the woman is white.
Pretty crazy to think that people hook up inside their race for shitty reasons, and people also hook up outside their race for shitty reasons.
Humans are shitty (sometimes.)
The way you guys make it sound youd think nobody actually dates anybody because they like and are attracted to that person
riotous said:(sometimes.)
People do both of the things I described... in no way does that imply it's the only reason people hook up... and since this is NeoGaf, I even threw a "sometimes" in my post so someone didn't predictably claim I was acting like it's the only reason people hook up.
I almost typed something like "obviously most people just hook up out of attraction, just remarking on those that have prejudice either way".. but I thought, nah.. "sometimes" should be enough.
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I like to think people tend to get together because they enjoy each others company and regardless of fetishism or self hate most won't stay with someone they aren't compatible with.
So, I'm just confused, and frankly both the liberal and the conservative outlooks feel extremely alienating these days. I know liberal GAF likes to pop off a "moderate mindsets just lend strength to bigotry" attitude about a middle ground, but I'd argue the middle ground exists not because we want to make peace with bigots, but because both bigots and the righteousness-by-critical-espousal liberalism are both increasingly alienating, and both feel like I can't live a substantive, unambigiously fulfilling life without some shitty hang ups making me feel guilt about every fucking thing I think or do.
I'm mixed-race, my mother is Korean and my dad is white. I felt the urge to drop in and offer some anecdotal experiences, but I find in past conversations that it ends up being entirely meaningless in the long run.
What I really want to just say is that I can't tell where the fuck to stand on mixed race issues anymore. Every time I think I'm "liberal" and "open-minded" about the issue, some liberal-leaning publication puts out a piece like this that makes me feel like my thoughts aren't actually all that open-minded after all. Obviously, the blatantly racist notions that get attributed to conservatism aren't at all appealing, either, so it's not like I'm about to turn coat and join their ranks.
So, I'm just confused, and frankly both the liberal and the conservative outlooks feel extremely alienating these days. I know liberal GAF likes to pop off a "moderate mindsets just lend strength to bigotry" attitude about a middle ground, but I'd argue the middle ground exists not because we want to make peace with bigots, but because both bigots and the righteousness-by-critical-espousal liberalism are both increasingly alienating, and both feel like I can't live a substantive, unambigiously fulfilling life without some shitty hang ups making me feel guilt about every fucking thing I think or do.
So, y'know what, I just feel stuck. I always felt at odds with larger American culture just by the very existence of being mixed-race and never feeling accepted by either white Americans or Koreans as a culturally pure example of humanhood... And I guess it's just going to fucking stay that way.
Frustrating as shit the way this gets presented all the time. I know critics aren't necessarily out to make people guilty around the clock, but it's really starting to feel like I can't say or do a damn thing anymore without "but, well, there's this thing that gets excluded by that mindset..."
GAF, what the hell do I have to do to just ... fit in someplace.
Don't pay too much attention to it, I am gobsmacked at the silliness here as well. People aren't getting how offensive the OG title was to mixed raced people. Best not to think about it and just love who the hell you want.
And you've been missin the entire issueDon't pay too much attention to it, I am gobsmacked at the silliness here as well. People aren't getting how offensive the OG title was to mixed raced people. Best not to think about it and just love who the hell you want.
I thought this was supposed to be a conversation about racial implications and representation in media, not rl..