Snapchat filters have ruined online dating. Now you can catfish using your own face.
I always suspected this is what was happening each time someone posts how they matched with a girl and she immediately unmatches. Just seeing if the guy does like them for validation.
I look so good with giant eyes and a big head though. Its like anime me.
I think I'm with you.
I hate my job and it makes me a deeply unsatisfied person.
I'm already receiving signals of disinterest from the Brazilian girl. We're at "I'm really busy" combined with a decided lack of reaching out -- and, you know, whatever. She really is busy and likely shouldn't be dating. And I'm (basically) over dating at this point too.
It's funny. This thread is my goddamned hobby, and there's nothing I enjoy more than bringing people together and kickstarting things in others' lives. I've just never experienced it myself. It's literally the definition of "those who can, do; those who can't, teach."
That said, I'm sincerely happy for all of the success stories in these threads, and I hope there will be more.
If you need a job and a change of place, I got you. Come to Shanghai.
I have used the "I am busy" line too. I mean if you're really interested in someone, you could make time for a quick lunch or grab a movie/drinks.
Good luck with other ones tho~...
If I don't break back into my field by the end of next September, I'll take you up on that offer.
Starting next week, I get to telework from my job, and I'm going to use that time to hustle .)
Not to paint with too broad a brush, but French girls* are amazing. I would be on cloud 9 if I kept getting paired up with French girls. And I'm sure their English is just fine - don't let that discourage you.Currently I feel Tinder is trolling me.
Every time I find a girl I do like she turns out to be French.
Only things I can say in French is "hello" "goodbye" "Thank you" "can I have a (insert drink here)" and " where is the bathroom? "
I suspect you might just be a little too picky, or you have a subconscious fear of commitment (or a plain out disinterest in commitment), and the kind of partners you pursue are looking to settle down (even if they don't know it) and thus also subconsciously fade from your life /armchairpsychologist.
D:
It makes me sad reading this because you really deserve better! Also, I don't think that saying applies to you. I suspect you might just be a little too picky, or you have a subconscious fear of commitment (or a plain out disinterest in commitment), and the kind of partners you pursue are looking to settle down (even if they don't know it) and thus also subconsciously fade from your life /armchairpsychologist.
I'm sorry you hate your job, too. Will your parents be willing to support you?
Yes, to all of this lol.
Oh AD ❤️ You will be okay.
Chances are she wants some dick, if you're horny go for it. Bring protection but also be ready for an escape plan if things go south. Just be smart and have fun. Ask her when she wants to meet up and go from there.So, I'm probably going to look like a moron for asking this but...
say this Tinder girl, who previously suggested a meet-up at a public place, asks if you'd rather hang out at her place instead... what would be your response?
Where do you live? There's a cliche about French girls, based on truth and my own observations.
So, I'm probably going to look like a moron for asking this but...
say this Tinder girl, who previously suggested a meet-up at a public place, asks if you'd rather hang out at her place instead... what would be your response?
Chances are she wants some dick, if you're horny go for it. Bring protection but also be ready for an escape plan if things go south. Just be smart and have fun. Ask her when she wants to meet up and go from there.
Where do you live? There's a cliche about French girls, based on truth and my own observations.
I'm pretty much always horny, but I'm afraid I might fuck up any long-term chances by letting it get to sex on the first encounter. I've never tried, so I'm not sure if it even works that way.
She's said she wants someone to date. I said so as well. That was last week. Dunno, confused. I think I'll roll with it and judge as we go along.
The current gig just destroys my sense of purpose. However, I know I was MORE miserable while unemployed. Better to hate the job you have than one you dont, I suppose.
I'm pretty much always horny, but I'm afraid I might fuck up any long-term chances by letting it get to sex on the first encounter. I've never tried, so I'm not sure if it even works that way.
She's said she wants someone to date. I said so as well. That was last week. Could it be a test? Dunno, confused. I think I'll roll with it and judge as we go along.
(Although, as I was lying awake in bed last night, unless Aziz has entirely cornered the market, for a few minutes I honestly thinking that I could write a novel about all of this. They say to write about what you know. Sadly, this is what I know. Only it'd perhaps make more sense in a different medium to really convey how technology's integral to these story beats.)
Currently I feel Tinder is trolling me.
Every time I find a girl I do like she turns out to be French.
Only things I can say in French is "hello" "goodbye" "Thank you" "can I have a (insert drink here)" and " where is the bathroom? "
So, I'm probably going to look like a moron for asking this but...
say this Tinder girl, who previously suggested a meet-up at a public place, asks if you'd rather hang out at her place instead... what would be your response?
I'm still figuring out this Tinder thing, figuring out what to say as an intro, my natural smartass nature somehow works out well lol
Yo Dawg, don't lie to yourself, you're handsome!About three months ago, I saw a female coworker at a party I went to. We never really talked at work before this but we were both drunk and with friends and we started talking a bit. Teasing a little, too. I think. I always fancied her a little since she's totally my type but I always thought she was way out of my league. I'm average at best and she's really beautiful.
After that, we would sometimes chat about random stuff but never anything too serious. I figured she just wanted to have a good time and talked to me because she was drunk.
A few weeks ago, she started chatting to me out of the blue. Ended up going to another party with her and two other people. It was a lot of fun. Didn't make a move though.
After that, we started chatting a little more. It's gotten to a point where we are now chatting daily. Sometimes until like 3am. Next week, we are going karting with dinner afterwards. Just the two of us.
She casually mentioned she will try to get me a little drunk so she can get some more info out of me... but
... I still don't know if I should make a move or whatever. She could just be looking to have some fun and I could make work super awkward if I do the wrong thing. On the other hand, I really, really dig her.
It just looks too good. I don't know what to do. All I know is that I feel super different lately. My stomach feels weird. I look forward to conversations with her. When she arrives at work, I feel different....
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Yo Dawg, don't lie to yourself, you're handsome!
Unless if you're a spy, trying to get more info out of you seems like she's into you. There are some coy questions you can ask to find out if she likes you in that way. If you hear a confirmation that she sees you more than a friend, make your move. Not when you're super drunk, preferably.
He lives in DC, or at least he did last time I asked for advice about moving to DC
What are you looking for Diaboli? My area is faaaaar from glamorous but I can let you know if something opens up for it around here.
is there something you'd rather be doing that you aren't because of your current gig? cuz thats me
i'd rather be working on my game projects, but instead i'm at a job I have grown to hate, trolling around on GAF with you guys. But I can't fully invest because so much of my time has me enthralled to the cunts I work for. And I can't quit because then i'm broke, like I was before, and thus still unable to fully commit. Which is made worse because i've recently gotten a new car AND moved out and now have bills to maintain.
So occasionally I get that pit in my stomach, where I feel like i've gotten stuck in that Life wall corner combo infinite and now that i'm dependent on it, i'm forced to play ball lest my life implodes on itself and i can't do fucking anything
and I have no ACTUAL time to devote to women either, as my energy is already partitioned, and dating honestly just takes too much energy to waste
#adultingsucks
If you ever get around to it... how about a coffee table book?
You can get 100+ page coffee table books that are very asthetically pleasing and have a mix of pictures and text. You could split up your story into maybe 20-30 scattered vignettes of 2 to 5 pages each with 1-2 full page images. It could paint a patchwork narative of modern dating through slice of life stories.
Some dates would be just one chapter, other dates would be reoccuring showing up every few chapters for the next installment.
I'm a little impressed with that as an off the cuff pitch. I'd buy that book
Dawg come on.
Why are you on tinder and why nationality matters?
if she's real, yes.
If the relationship is worth maintaining, you still gotta work at it even if it does feel like work. It's like exercising or brushing your teeth; there's no real end goal, just maintaining healthy body/teeth. Sometimes it's not glamorous or fun or sexy, but you gotta keep at it, be it communication, spending time or even scheduling physical intimacy if you have to. Otherwise, it'll wither and die, just like your teeth would if you were too busy to brush them.
If the relationship is worth maintaining, you still gotta work at it even if it does feel like work. It's like exercising or brushing your teeth; there's no real end goal, just maintaining healthy body/teeth. Sometimes it's not glamorous or fun or sexy, but you gotta keep at it, be it communication, spending time or even scheduling physical intimacy if you have to. Otherwise, it'll wither and die, just like your teeth would if you were too busy to brush them.
By quitting the field and doing something easier that doesn't pay as well.do guys in IT ever find girl friends? I am overwhelmed by work, plus things I have to learn outside work. I attended a hackathon last weekend, work 8 to 5 from Mon to Fri and now I have to spend two days in the library going through a lot of stuff.
I like IT but eh, by the time I come home I am dead...no energy for anything. Even taking the dog out for a walk is a chore.
How do you guys manage work + life
do guys in IT ever find girl friends? I am overwhelmed by work, plus things I have to learn outside work. I attended a hackathon last weekend, work 8 to 5 from Mon to Fri and now I have to spend two days in the library going through a lot of stuff.
I like IT but eh, by the time I come home I am dead...no energy for anything. Even taking the dog out for a walk is a chore.
Anyone else in IT? How do you guys manage work + life
If the relationship is worth maintaining, you still gotta work at it even if it does feel like work. It's like exercising or brushing your teeth; there's no real end goal, just maintaining healthy body/teeth. Sometimes it's not glamorous or fun or sexy, but you gotta keep at it, be it communication, spending time or even scheduling physical intimacy if you have to. Otherwise, it'll wither and die, just like your teeth would if you were too busy to brush them.
What makes you think the kiss was bad?Date tonight...wasn't bad, good chemistry, good laughs, but based on the kiss and the texting afterwards, there won't be a second one. Whenever I ask someone out and get a "Next week will be crazy with blah-de-blah-de-blah", and no counter of another day, I assume disinterest. I try to do post-mortems, this one is less conclusive than most. Maybe she thought I came on too strong with the kiss? I dunno
What makes you think the kiss was bad?
I meanTinder is easy to figure out. Look good and you get a good response rate. Don't "hey" people if you are not a super-model (or way hotter than the match). Don't be creepy or over-complicated. Pay attention to details in their profiles. It's really not that different than a normal interaction (outside of the hey's) only easier cause you have so much more time to think.
do guys in IT ever find girl friends? I am overwhelmed by work, plus things I have to learn outside work. I attended a hackathon last weekend, work 8 to 5 from Mon to Fri and now I have to spend two days in the library going through a lot of stuff.
I like IT but eh, by the time I come home I am dead...no energy for anything. Even taking the dog out for a walk is a chore.
Anyone else in IT? How do you guys manage work + life
I haven't heard from the exonerated condom thief since she left a few nights ago. Maybe she is waiting for me to text her to show interest? Well two can play at this game!
Was just about to say this.Or don't play games and just text her if you want to see her again?