Sure, but if they are in the "quite a catch category" they're highly unlikely to consider settling down with woman of their own age. If they aim at something serious they will look for it among women in their 20s.A few of my friends that are nearing 30 (not yet 30) are very picky... but whatever. That's their right. I suspect that it will get harder for them to maintain the same quantity in terms of male suitors, but I honestly don't know if I think the quality will get worse. Shouldn't it be true that there also exists men over 30 that are also very picky and holding out?
Does this mean you feel that once a woman is no longer in her 20s, she's no longer quite a catch?
Less of a catch.
You see, if a guy is in his 30s and have not settled because he is picky, chances are he isnt waiting for misses right in her 30s..... Chancessssss.......
I guess we're all robots. The perfect match for someone isn't always picked by age.
I don't feel this way at all, nor do I respect my fellow males for whom this is true.Sure, but if they are in the "quite a catch category" they're highly unlikely to consider settling down with woman of their own age. If they aim at something serious they will look for it among women in their 20s.
I don't feel this way at all, nor do I respect my fellow males for whom this is true.
I'm kinda surprised guys in their 30's prefer young women. Super odd to me.
I'm kinda surprised guys in their 30's prefer young women. Super odd to me.
I don't feel this way at all, nor do I respect my fellow males for whom this is true.
My last gf was quite a few years younger than me, too. I ended it with her because she was still kind of a child.
I also have a coworker who's in his forties and married a truly gorgeous woman in her twenties. He's miserable and his advice to me is: don't do it. He tells me this literally every day. (It'd be funny if it weren't sad).
If you discriminate sexually based on age, you're probably cutting yourself off from some really great women.
because they're emotionally immature and feel like they'll be able to control a younger female; an older one would call them out on their shit. Plus the way society portrays that a woman's youth is one of her attributes
Please tell me more about me.because they're emotionally immature and feel like they'll be able to control a younger female; an older one would call them out on their shit.
Please tell me more about me.
Not at all.So don't discriminate on age... But stay the hell away from younger women.
Was surprised to see the thing about older men having kids having a correlation with autism
I've been thinking about this since the thread about the where a single 31 yo hung herself (not only because she was single, but clearly had other mental health issues) and as such I decided to look around my own social circle and I noticed that almost everyone (myself included) is dating someone a few years younger.
I talked about this with a friend last night, let's call him Simon, he's 32 and was dating someone his age last year, they had a good relationship or so it appeared but she broke up with him when someone else came along and he was left heartbroken (it didn't work out with those two, she tried to get back with him recently, but...more on this later**) so after months of being a miserable ass (seriously, months. Some people...), he decided to get back out there and noticed the interest he was getting from dating sites was from younger women. He got a few messages and dates with women his age, but he found they simply didn't have realistic expectations of a relationship or they were so desperate to move things along that he felt pressured into committing after just a couple of dates.
Then he met his current girlfriend, a 27 yo lawyer and he hasn't been happier. She is pretty amazing from what I've seen and I haven't seen two people so madly in love before. I asked him why did he decide to date someone five years younger and his answer was simple, she wasn't pressuring him to do anything or make commitments he wasn't ready for.
(** You're wondering about this, well his ex recently got in touch in and started to try and worm her way back in his life. When she found out he was dating someone new and younger to boot, she went into a tirade about how he was robbing the cradle and that of course he'd go younger because anyone is age wouldn't want him anyway. Much laughs were had listening to this voice message...)
Anyway, are single women over 30 screwed in some senses? Especially if they want children?
because they're emotionally immature and feel like they'll be able to control a younger female; an older one would call them out on their shit. Plus the way society portrays that a woman's youth is one of her attributes
Less of a catch.
You see, if a guy is in his 30s and have not settled because he is picky, chances are he isnt waiting for misses right in her 30s..... Chancessssss.......
because they're emotionally immature and feel like they'll be able to control a younger female; an older one would call them out on their shit. Plus the way society portrays that a woman's youth is one of her attributes
this is a complete aside to the discussion about whether women age 30+ have it rough in dating, but i have to laugh at this author's "learning" experience on bumble.
plenty of women these days identify as progressive/feminist -- yet so many women seem entrenched in the antiquated notion that men should always be the pursuing party. there is no good reason that women should not be able to ask men out, especially so since we have, ostensibly, moved on from an era when women were chattel.
and yes, i know that more women these days are asking men out than before, but those remain a tiny minority. i know why: rejection is hard, and it's much easier to be passive and wait for the men to come to you than to seek them out.
That's news to me.
We're still talking about picky guys, right? It's not any different from picky women, they're just picky about different things.Does this mean you feel that once a woman is no longer in her 20s, she's no longer quite a catch?
My wife lost one of her good friends from childhood she is married and her friend isn't(can't even get a date) and now she's in her late 30s.
The jealousy, snide comments have been building over the years until it finally blew up.
There's more to the story here about how her friend isn't "willing to settle" and is going for men way out of her league(even if they're married) of course.
Wat- Once you've fucked someone raised on porn, it's hard to go back a generation.
That's just... sad. It's obviously none of my business but I'm still curious as to why you've given up. May I ask why?I hear that.
I gave up by the time I was 17 lol. Now it's just about trying to find a guy friend, but men don't want to be friends, so...that's out the window too basically.
Bottom line, I will never have any kind of relationship, friendship or otherwise, with a man IRL. 29 this year, never have, never will.
Let me guess, that's a "friend of yours" right, m'sir?Guess it depends how much older than 30 really. I find some people can be way too picky when it comes to dating though, and then wonder why they can't find anyone.
Same for women who go for "bad boys" who treat them like crap, but then they wonder why they get treated badly and keep getting hurt and are also too picky to go out with a nice guy.
One my GF's friends is always going out with idiots but then keeps moaning she gets cheated on or treated bad, yet we know a really decent guy who likes her (not ugly or anything either) and would be a pretty good match for her, yet she's not interested, and she carries on moaning about finding someone who would treat her right, guess there is no helping some people when it comes to dating.
....Because pussy is tighter on younger women.
Haha.
I read somewhere that often times women aren't necessarily looking for successful men, but rather men who have the potential for success.
For example Ang Lee was unemployed for 6 years after college, and was a stay at home dad while his wife worked as a molecular biologist.
Then he directed his first feature at 37, and eventually won a bunch of academy awards.
I guess that motherfucker was dripping with dat sexy potential.
I don't feel this way at all, nor do I respect my fellow males for whom this is true.
My last gf was quite a few years younger than me, too. I ended it with her because she was still kind of a child.
I also have a coworker who's in his forties and married a truly gorgeous woman in her twenties. He's miserable and his advice to me is: don't do it. He tells me this literally every day. (It'd be funny if it weren't sad).
If you discriminate sexually based on age, you're probably cutting yourself off from some really great women.
It's not true. My wife got pregnant 1 month after going off 17 straight years of birth control and we have a healthy baby now. She is 33.Most childless women I've dated post +30 all also have this "I've been consuming birth control waiting for Mr.Right for the last 15 years so my uterus/reproductive system is most likely destroyed" theory.
Not sure of its true but like I said I've heard it quite frequently.
It's not true. My wife got pregnant 1 month after going off 17 straight years of birth control and we have a healthy baby now. She is 33.
I hear that.
I gave up by the time I was 17 lol. Now it's just about trying to find a guy friend, but men don't want to be friends, so...that's out the window too basically.
Bottom line, I will never have any kind of relationship, friendship or otherwise, with a man IRL. 29 this year, never have, never will.
Does this mean you feel that once a woman is no longer in her 20s, she's no longer quite a catch?
The value of vagina is only good from 18 to 29.
P*ssy ages like bread, not like wine.
Is it because you are saving money, or living with parents due to finances?
Saving money for a house.
I'd love to meet a single 30+ woman without kids who doesn't want to have them.
I won't date a single mom who is 30+ because I don't want to come into some kid's life. I don't like kids and don't want to have any.
Unfortunately most 30+ women I've met are in a hurry to get married/have kids because of that biological clock thing.
I'm 36.
When is it that woman start having difficulties in having children?, the average age i mean...
Damn leeness thought we were friends
From the late comedian Patrice O'neal:
Let me guess, that's a "friend of yours" right, m'sir?
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And anecdotaly speaking.......Single people who have never been married get crazy in their thirties. It's just hard finding someone that can put up with your level of crazy.
I know it's a joke, but absolutely false and this myth should be done away with. It depends on their lifestyle during previous years. If a woman is into fitness, eats healthy and doesn't abuse drugs she can be gorgeous in her 30s and even beyond. This is true for men as well of course. And this is not only genetics, compare Marlon Brando and his lifestyle to that of other celebrities and how they looked then and now.
Louis CK has a bit about this. As you age as a man you slowly gain more power in the dating game, vs women who start out at over 9000 power level and slowly decrease. It's the nature of things, at least in modern Western society.