Baki
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complex situation.
if it happens again, tell everyone
as for now... i dunno... complex.
No. Tell her BF now!!!
Leave the house.
complex situation.
if it happens again, tell everyone
as for now... i dunno... complex.
We haven't heard anything in a while from the OP. Is she alright?
Aiustis, please post again so that we know you are ok.
We haven't heard anything in a while from the OP. Is she alright?
Aiustis, please post again so that we know you are ok.
Well if you get a boner I do not think its rape because that is pretty much consent. She would have to sodomize you for it to be rape. That being said this situation. Is far worse but I wouldn't call it rape because there was no penetration.
complex situation.
if it happens again, tell everyone
as for now... i dunno... complex.
And, if he refuses to believe it, then move on without the guy. It's not the kind of thing that gets better over time. There are plenty of other people in the world that don't have fathers that don't realize that it's not okay to force themselves on their son's girlfriend. Regardless of whether or not the dad followed through, it's unacceptable.OPs bf deserves to know what his dad is capable of when left alone with his gfs. He might not believe it but he should know.
I would leave the house ASAP. Tell the bf of course. The fathers behavior goes beyond just being an asshole, he's clearly dangerous (sounds like an angry/violent drunk who has sexual aggression issues). I get the situation is complex in terms of, you love your bf and his mom. But ultimately this isn't your fault, and you need to protect yourself OP. I would not keep this hidden, nor would I assume it's a one time thing. Please consider leaving. At the very least tell someone.
Wow, the rape word is getting thrown around a lot - her description just sounds like he was begging for sex, why the eagerness to move it up a notch?
I don't wanna sound gloomy but prepare to get heavy accusations of being a liar, and worse, if the person you're describing is truly a narcissistic, misogynistic asshole.
Hopefully your BF isn't easily manipulated and trusts you.
Let's pretend that you have rapist tendencies, The_Wraith. So you try to rape someone that's obviously trying to fight you off via kicking and screaming. You think hey, look, boner, can't be that serious.Well if you get a boner I do not think its rape because that is pretty much consent.
If you choose to stay, make it very clear that you will castrate him if he touches you. If he has any semblance of human emotions, he'll be ashamed of his actions. This gives you power over him. Start recording conversations when he's around. That way, you can have proof to tell his son if he doesn't stop. Also, you may want to invest in a Derringer(if you live in a country that gives you the right to defend yourself.)
That's a shitty situation all around... Stay Strong.
big question ... who's paying for everything? if big daddy perv is bankrolling all of you living there, you'll have to decide whether getting away from him is worth giving up the free ride.
Agreed.
You need to get out of the house OP. When he begged you to stay for the benefit of your boyfriend's mom, he may have seemed contrite, but consider that maybe he was attempting to shift the guilty feelings from himself to you. That way, instead of HIM seeing some consequences for his actions (if you leave the house and tell the truth about why, everyone knows he's a piece of shit), he could try and make it seem that YOU are the one causing trouble by leaving poor sick mom with no caretaker. It sucks, but do not let him do this. Leave the house, it's not healthy for you to be there. Tell your boyfriend.
This whole situation is not your fault.
"I know I could have just screamed for his son who is very big in anti rape culture movement."
Exactly what it sounds like?What the hell is that?
I'm really worried about OP. I know the situation is complex in that she loves her BF and his mom. And what some posters said is true, these situations can lead to the family saying she's a liar. This could lead to relationships being damaged. But what is key here is that OP is not to blame. She is a victim, and needs to consider her own safety above all this.
These threads usually have a twist.
What's the odds the op gives into his advances?
Or he's a furry?
This is why it's extremely important to confide in the boyfriend first and have someone at her side when the father and/or mother are confronted. It's a toxic environment, and something needs to be done immediately before the situation gets worse. Value your own safety first and foremost, OP.
Yeah, agreed. But if the BF doesn't react the way she wants, or for whatever reason she can't tell the BF, I still think she needs to consider leaving the house.
Dr D Wayne Love;103601054]These threads usually have a twist.
What's the odds the op gives into his advances?
Or he's a furry?
She needs to leave the house immediately regardless. Very little to keep the offending father at bay once the first act has been broached, especially when alcohol is a factor. That house is dangerous as long as he is still in it in his present state.
These threads usually have a twist.
What's the odds the op gives into his advances?
Or he's a furry?
He may have stopped this time, but if you stay in the house he might very well try again, especially if he drinks all the time.
Caring for other people is great, it is an admirable trait, but it should never be at the expense of your own well-being, and you're clearly afraid of returning to that house in fear of him showing up. As such, you have to tell your boyfriend, so he can resolve the matter (whether that be by kicking the father out, beating him, turning him to the police, or ensuring you are protected), or leave the place.
Stay strong, know that you did nothing wrong.
Considering the fact that he's barely home at all during the week I'm given the impression he's getting his own while he's not home. And who knows how's he getting it, either by raping some random girl or simply picking someone up from a bar. Combined with the fact that the wife is I'll, I definitely agree with you that she's not his first victim.Also hate to bring this up, in this manner, but chances are you aren't his first victim. He's what past middle aged at this point? No one just wakes up one day and decides to coerce their boyfriends girl into having sex with them. What a piece of shit human being.
What the hell is that?
These threads usually have a twist.
What's the odds the op gives into his advances?
Or he's a furry?