My boyfriend's mom is pretty fabulous and I love her to death. She's done more for and treated me better than my mother ever did. Her son is leaving so I know if I left she'd be pretty much on her own.
big question ... who's paying for everything? if big daddy perv is bankrolling all of you living there, you'll have to decide whether getting away from him is worth giving up the free ride.
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No no no no no! If the father is bankrolling this situation that puts him in a position of power.
The man is obviously a sexual predator in a position of power if the OP does not speak up. We know he also drinks and honestly has no compassion. Think of the thought process an individual would go through to assume its ok to sexually assault your sons girlfriend?
A free place to stay is not worth your mental or physical health. Events such as this can cause longterm mental issues you will have to deal with your entire life. A free place to stay is not worth it in any situation.
You got a lot of growin' up to do, junior...
Thanks for the support. I've been able to tell a few people and my bf (he's supportive, but he lives in a different state). I've been able to line up a few places to stay. I do have relatives here but I'm worried that they'd just make me feel like it's my fault (talking to them about anything has never been easy)
Jesus that made my heart sink :\ I'm really glad she's okay now man.
Take all this unanimous advice to heart OP, and please keep us up to date with your situation
I don't think a post has ever made me feel physically sick before, that's horrific
Thanks for the support. I've been able to tell a few people and my bf (he's supportive, but he lives in a different state). I've been able to line up a few places to stay. I do have relatives here but I'm worried that they'd just make me feel like it's my fault (talking to them about anything has never been easy)
Thanks for the support. I've been able to tell a few people and my bf (he's supportive, but he lives in a different state). I've been able to line up a few places to stay. I do have relatives here but I'm worried that they'd just make me feel like it's my fault (talking to them about anything has never been easy)
Thanks for the support. I've been able to tell a few people and my bf (he's supportive, but he lives in a different state). I've been able to line up a few places to stay. I do have relatives here but I'm worried that they'd just make me feel like it's my fault (talking to them about anything has never been easy)
Have you told the other son? It sounds the he's best placed to look out for your well being and ensure that the father knows how fucked up and unacceptable his behaviour was. You could ask him to accompany you if you're afraid of being in the house alone and need to pick up some shit, or when visiting your boyfriend's mother.Thanks for the support. I've been able to tell a few people and my bf (he's supportive, but he lives in a different state). I've been able to line up a few places to stay. I do have relatives here but I'm worried that they'd just make me feel like it's my fault (talking to them about anything has never been easy)
Thanks for the support. I've been able to tell a few people and my bf (he's supportive, but he lives in a different state). I've been able to line up a few places to stay. I do have relatives here but I'm worried that they'd just make me feel like it's my fault (talking to them about anything has never been easy)
Thanks for the support. I've been able to tell a few people and my bf (he's supportive, but he lives in a different state). I've been able to line up a few places to stay. I do have relatives here but I'm worried that they'd just make me feel like it's my fault (talking to them about anything has never been easy)
I seriously can not understand the thought process that would lead someone to believe this with everything that you have told us.Thanks for the support. I've been able to tell a few people and my bf (he's supportive, but he lives in a different state). I've been able to line up a few places to stay. I do have relatives here but I'm worried that they'd just make me feel like it's my fault (talking to them about anything has never been easy)
I seriously can not understand the thought process that would lead someone to believe this with everything that you have told us.
Thanks for the support. I've been able to tell a few people and my bf (he's supportive, but he lives in a different state). I've been able to line up a few places to stay. I do have relatives here but I'm worried that they'd just make me feel like it's my fault (talking to them about anything has never been easy)
I want to make something clear, one does not need to utilize violence to scare or coerce someone into sex they really don't want to partake in. If crying basically got him to stop more so than her words telling him "no" that's a sign that he would have kept going otherwise despite her verbal admissions. My guess is the crying actually put him off. This is the sign of someone who coerces women in vulnerable situations and doesn't take no for an answer. I'm not exactly sure what else you'd call this kind of sexual behavior other than predatory.
Thanks for the support. I've been able to tell a few people and my bf (he's supportive, but he lives in a different state). I've been able to line up a few places to stay. I do have relatives here but I'm worried that they'd just make me feel like it's my fault (talking to them about anything has never been easy)
Something about this statement doesn't stack up. You told your boyfriend who lives in another state that while his very ill mother was in hospital, his horrible farther tried to have sex with you and wouldn't stop until you cried and he was 'supportive'. What the hell is that meant to mean?
No no no. Something is very amiss here.
Thanks for the support. I've been able to tell a few people and my bf (he's supportive, but he lives in a different state). I've been able to line up a few places to stay. I do have relatives here but I'm worried that they'd just make me feel like it's my fault (talking to them about anything has never been easy)
I don't follow.
As an example. If I was the boyfriend. I'd have jumped straight in my car and driven to my folks house to have a word or two with my dad.
Just being 'supportive' sounds like a massive under reaction to me given the circumstances.
As an example. If I was the boyfriend. I'd have jumped straight in my car and driven to my folks house to have a word or two with my dad.
Just being 'supportive' sounds like a massive under reaction to me given the circumstances.
As an example. If I was the boyfriend. I'd have jumped straight in my car and driven to my folks house to have a word or two with my dad.
Just being 'supportive' sounds like a massive under reaction to me given the circumstances.
I don't want to make any assumptions here but would you even be using your girlfriend for live in care for your mother in the first place?
You can have "a word or two" over the phone.
As an example. If I was the boyfriend. I'd have jumped straight in my car and driven to my folks house to have a word or two with my dad.
Just being 'supportive' sounds like a massive under reaction to me given the circumstances.
BF and dad probably have issues, wouldn't be surprised if BF fears dad.
I'm sort of inclined to agree with cyberheater. At east from the OP's update, the boyfriend's reaction sounds inappropriate and not nearly responsive enough. He doesn't need to drive across the country but I imagine something more than "supportive phone call" would be more appopriate. That said, more detail on this would be good.