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[chicko1983]

I've spoken in this thread about a co-worker before.

We went out a couple of times but decided that because we work together and literally sit next to each other, it was not the best idea to take it to the next level.

We have been good friends since and I recently applied for a job at another company and I was asked in for an interview.

I told her about my job application in confidence and she offered to give me a mock interview. She did actually provide me with really good feed back and my confidence went from 30% to 80% for the interview.

I been asked to conduct a medical and my referees were contacted this morning from the new company. I am starting to feel confident about actually getting this position, which will result in a big pay rise.

If I get the job, I want to get my friend, who I want to be more than friends, a gift for the help with the interview. I'll then ask her out on a date (despite up catching up in the past without ever calling it a date).

I need some ideas on a good gift, what do you think GAF? I need a gift that says thankyou but doesnt go overboard. I like this woman and I have a feeling that if I do not reign in my feelings for her, I will buy an excessive gift that may be over the top.

My ideas so far are:
- chocolates from this boutique chocolate place that she likes
- gift voucher at an online clothes store she shops at.

Keep in mind, the new job Im going to, if successful, will increase my salary by approx. 35%, hence why I dont think a gift for her help is out of the ordinary here.

 

[Stopdoor]

I need a bit of advice. I've been talking to this girl for about 1 month now. Things seem nice, it looks like we are into each other, etc. Last Sunday night we were talking via a messaging app and conversation was flowing amazingly well. Well, on Monday she gave me the silent treatment all day long (which is not normal because we talk all the time) but I thought nothing of it, maybe she was busy or whatever. Then yesterday morning she said hi but in a very flat way so I knew something was up and I asked her as much. Apparently during that whole conversation on Sunday she asked me something that I didn't answer, so I naturally asked her to tell me what it was so I could answer her. She said that she it wasn't important and for me to have a good day. I asked her again, and she said (again) to not worry about it. I could tell by the way she was answering me that she was mad. And that was the last thing I heard about her.

Now my question is, shall I wait for her to get back to me or shall I call her and ask her what's going on? I went back to the conversation and didn't find anything about a question missing an answer anywhere. For me it's kind of a childish attitude to take, and it could be resolved in less than 10 seconds if she would just ask me again what she wanted me to answer, but it seems that with women they want you to figure out what's on their mind like you are some kind of mind-reader or something.

You know, not gonna lie, I played these sort of games with my ex a bit and it was mostly because I was insecure about my hobbies, I'd work up the courage to bring up something I'd find interesting and then it'd feel like they were trying to change the subject ASAP. Like I still kind of hate when someone interrupts a conversation with something else and doesn't offer for you to continue your topic after to show they were listening or care even a little. Some people just seem to do this passively, so maybe aren't trying to offend but don't think about that sort of vulnerability?

So I dunno. It's still a bit of an emotional game, so yeah, best to just get to the point (I think I tried, but this was a longer term relationship), but just saying, it might not be entirely a "girl thing". It's an insecurity thing. I can't see how you'd resolve this without her eventually clearing it up though. Just don't get aggressive about it, articulate something like you're worried this is a wedge. Or just make every effort to be attentive to her conversation topics in a noticeable way?

 

[GK86]

A gift? Just buy her a round of beer as a thank you.

 

[chicko1983]

A gift? Just buy her a round of beer as a thank you.

She doesn't drink that much.

Also, she knows the the job position and pay level which I was asking for. If I was her, I'd feel a little ripped off if I was only given a beer for helping me out for 3 hrs on a weekend (admittedly I did buy her lunch on the day as well).

 

[mingoguaya]

You know, not gonna lie, I played these sort of games with my ex a bit and it was mostly because I was insecure about my hobbies, I'd work up the courage to bring up something I'd find interesting and then it'd feel like they were trying to change the subject ASAP. Like I still kind of hate when someone interrupts a conversation with something else and doesn't offer for you to continue your topic after to show they were listening or care even a little. Some people just seem to do this passively, so maybe aren't trying to offend but don't think about that sort of vulnerability?

So I dunno. It's still a bit of an emotional game, so yeah, best to just get to the point (I think I tried, but this was a longer term relationship), but just saying, it might not be entirely a "girl thing". It's an insecurity thing. I can't see how you'd resolve this without her eventually clearing it up though. Just don't get aggressive about it, articulate something like you're worried this is a wedge. Or just make every effort to be attentive to her conversation topics in a noticeable way?

The thing is that I've been VERY attentive to all of what she says to me and I follow up on it. And I went back and read the conversation a bunch of times and never found out nothing that wasn't answered. And I don't want to come about looking like a clingy fool because I haven't heard from her in 24 hrs. And also, she did tell me that she was very difficult to deal with sometimes and that I would need a lot of patience to deal with her. But I do feel that this is something that needs to be resolved before we continue talking. But by her giving me the silent treatment, I'm stuck with no options here and I will not go around begging for attention.

 

[Alpende]

She doesn't drink that much.

Also, she knows the the job position and pay level which I was asking for. If I was her, I'd feel a little ripped off if I was only given a beer for helping me out for 3 hrs on a weekend (admittedly I did buy her lunch on the day as well).

Helping somebody can be free you know. You don't know if she helped you because she wanted a gift, chances are she helped you because she just wanted to help. If you really want to buy her a gift I'd go with the chocolates.

 

[PancakeBurglar]

She doesn't drink that much.

Also, she knows the the job position and pay level which I was asking for. If I was her, I'd feel a little ripped off if I was only given a beer for helping me out for 3 hrs on a weekend (admittedly I did buy her lunch on the day as well).

I would just treat her to dinner honestly or plan a date that you pay for.

 

[War Peaceman]

I don't think you should give a gift that is tied to a date.

Give her a gift as thanks. Ask her to dinner separately.

Don't conflate the two. To suggest (indirectly) that her help reflects her romantic interest undermines the basic decency of her act (regardless of her intentions).

 

[always crazy bacon]

https://youtu.be/l8FdF5wh4HQ?t=3

 

[mingoguaya]

I guess this is the first time you have experienced this, but it definitely won't be the last because it's a super common way for some immature women and unfortunately some more mature ones to deal with a man who has slighted them. Intentional or not or just in her head.

You have two plays;

Play her game, KNOW it's a game and load her up with apologies and attention until she gets over it. "baby what's wrong? I'm sorry I didn't mean to hurt you. How can I make it up to you" it's only a pussy move if you mean that stuff. Downside is, she'll do it again and again is she thinks it "worked".

Don't play her game. Ask her what's upset her and if you get the "Nothing!" treatment, just say "when your ready to talk you know where I am/how to contact me" (phrase that however you like, that's the basic message to communicate). Then ignore her until she contacts you. Hang out with your bros, play video games talk to other women or whatever.

I developed zero tolerance for that behaviour if I encountered it before we were in a relationship or early days of one. Red flag, kick to the curb because it's emotional manipulation.

This is what I plan on doing. Talked to my sister about it and she told me the same thing (leave her alone, she'll come back to you in a couple of days, don't play her game because in her mind she'll think she won, etc). It sucks because so far everything was going amazingly well, but if I don't stand my ground now, I will be sucked into a vortex of manipulation behavior that I'm not willing to get sucked into.

 

[gaiages]

I've spoken in this thread about a co-worker before.

We went out a couple of times but decided that because we work together and literally sit next to each other, it was not the best idea to take it to the next level.

We have been good friends since and I recently applied for a job at another company and I was asked in for an interview.

I told her about my job application in confidence and she offered to give me a mock interview. She did actually provide me with really good feed back and my confidence went from 30% to 80% for the interview.

I been asked to conduct a medical and my referees were contacted this morning from the new company. I am starting to feel confident about actually getting this position, which will result in a big pay rise.

If I get the job, I want to get my friend, who I want to be more than friends, a gift for the help with the interview. I'll then ask her out on a date (despite up catching up in the past without ever calling it a date).

I need some ideas on a good gift, what do you think GAF? I need a gift that says thankyou but doesnt go overboard. I like this woman and I have a feeling that if I do not reign in my feelings for her, I will buy an excessive gift that may be over the top.

My ideas so far are:
- chocolates from this boutique chocolate place that she likes
- gift voucher at an online clothes store she shops at.

Keep in mind, the new job Im going to, if successful, will increase my salary by approx. 35%, hence why I dont think a gift for her help is out of the ordinary here.

Don't get a gift if you're planning to ask her out. Giving her a gift and then going "by the way I wanna go on a date" will make it seem like you're using the gift to try and pressure her into a date as some sort of payback for it, regardless of whatever reason you're giving it to her for.

So just ask her out.

 

[always crazy bacon]

https://youtu.be/l8FdF5wh4HQ?t=3

 

[Llyranor]

This is what I plan on doing. Talked to my sister about it and she told me the same thing (leave her alone, she'll come back to you in a couple of days, don't play her game because in her mind she'll think she won, etc). It sucks because so far everything was going amazingly well, but if I don't stand my ground now, I will be sucked into a vortex of manipulation behavior that I'm not willing to get sucked into.

You have the right instinct. Mindgames suck butt and the only way to win is not to play.

If this becomes a """"problem"""" (completely self-created on her part), remind yourself that there are tons of women out there that don't resort to dumb mindgames to get attention or 'test' the 'relationship'(come on, it's been one month; if it's bad now, forget about the longterm)

 

[mingoguaya]

You have the right instinct. Mindgames suck butt and the only way to win is not to play.

If this becomes a """"problem"""" (completely self-created on her part), remind yourself that there are tons of women out there that don't resort to dumb mindgames to get attention or 'test' the 'relationship'(come on, it's been one month; if it's bad now, forget about the longterm)

I'll give her a couple of days to cool down and try again. If she still has the attitude that's all I need to know then and there.

 

[chicko1983]

I don't think you should give a gift that is tied to a date.

Give her a gift as thanks. Ask her to dinner separately.

Don't conflate the two. To suggest (indirectly) that her help reflects her romantic interest undermines the basic decency of her act (regardless of her intentions).

Don't get a gift if you're planning to ask her out. Giving her a gift and then going "by the way I wanna go on a date" will make it seem like you're using the gift to try and pressure her into a date as some sort of payback for it, regardless of whatever reason you're giving it to her for.

So just ask her out.

Sweet, cheers for the advice. I didn't think of it from that perspective.

I have to ask her out first and foremost. I'll get her a small gift later, and make sure it can't be confused as anything other than a thank you for her help.

The reason why I feel the need for giving her a gift is that, with the payout from the current company when I leave, plus the pay rise with the new job, it's a big financial windfall for me. There is no way I would have done as well at my interview without her help. She correctly told me three of the four behavioural questions they ended up asking me.

 

[protomouse]

Did you read the OP?

Silence is your answer. You don't need to know why someone's not feeling it. If they're not actively agreeing to see you again, it doesn't matter, because -- for whatever reason -- they're not feeling it.

You don't become jaded because you realize it has nothing to do with you. You are not owed anything. Get over it. You've just got to learn how to read the tea leaves here, and if you're able to do that, things are pretty self-explanatory.

This too. Or, quite honestly, haven't we all been in dates where neither party was feeling it? What on earth is the point in reaching out to say the obvious?

I mean, each situation is different. Frankly, if you've only gone out with someone once or twice and you're not asking them out again and both parties are not especially signaling interest, what's the point in saying that? You're both socially aware enough to "get" it.

I've spent years in therapy and on medication trying to "get over" my separation-related paranoia. If I'm not explicitly told why someone is moving away, my mind starts filling in the blanks and it's a downward spiral from there. So what's "obvious" and "pointless" to you might save someone else a lot of pain.

Of course no one owes me this. It's my cross to bear. But it's a ridiculous argument to make. Social interactions at any stage are more than IOU. I realize that some women have problems with jerks who can't deal with rejection, and I won't hold that against them. I'm frustrated, because I'm on the opposite end of that spectrum. It's not in me to be a jerk about it, and so I vent here.

In other news, I was just openly rejected by the girl I saw on Sunday. Thanked her for it. Feeling a bit more optimistic now.

 

[Gotdatmoney]

I've spoken in this thread about a co-worker before.

We went out a couple of times but decided that because we work together and literally sit next to each other, it was not the best idea to take it to the next level.

We have been good friends since and I recently applied for a job at another company and I was asked in for an interview.

I told her about my job application in confidence and she offered to give me a mock interview. She did actually provide me with really good feed back and my confidence went from 30% to 80% for the interview.

I been asked to conduct a medical and my referees were contacted this morning from the new company. I am starting to feel confident about actually getting this position, which will result in a big pay rise.

If I get the job, I want to get my friend, who I want to be more than friends, a gift for the help with the interview. I'll then ask her out on a date (despite up catching up in the past without ever calling it a date).

I need some ideas on a good gift, what do you think GAF? I need a gift that says thankyou but doesnt go overboard. I like this woman and I have a feeling that if I do not reign in my feelings for her, I will buy an excessive gift that may be over the top.

My ideas so far are:
- chocolates from this boutique chocolate place that she likes
- gift voucher at an online clothes store she shops at.

Keep in mind, the new job Im going to, if successful, will increase my salary by approx. 35%, hence why I dont think a gift for her help is out of the ordinary here.

Don't get her a gift and then ask her on a date. Please don't do this. If you want to ask her on a date (should you get the job, my fingers are crossed for ya man) do it a bit after you secure the job. But if you get the job it's normally for friends to go out and celebrate and you can grab dinner or something. A material gift for your not gf that you're trying to make your girlfriend will be weird and you will never be able to separate the idea of "this is a thanks" with a "this is a show of affection"

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

I've spent years in therapy and on medication trying to "get over" my separation-related paranoia. If I'm not explicitly told why someone is moving away, my mind starts filling in the blanks and it's a downward spiral from there. So what's "obvious" and "pointless" to you might save someone else a lot of pain.

Of course no one owes me this. It's my cross to bear. But it's a ridiculous argument to make. Social interactions at any stage are more than IOU. I realize that some women have problems with jerks who can't deal with rejection, and I won't hold that against them. I'm frustrated, because I'm on the opposite end of that spectrum. It's not in me to be a jerk about it, and so I vent here.

In other news, I was just openly rejected by the girl I saw on Sunday. Thanked her for it. Feeling a bit more optimistic now.

I'm sincerely sorry that you're going through what you're enduring. But this paradigm isn't changing. There's no other answer than that you and your therapist will need to craft a targeted regime that best equips you with dealing with it.

That said, it's not a ridiculous argument for me to make; it's also just how things are. I'm glad that your open rejection helped you process this last encounter, and I hope your next one leads to unadulterated success.

 

[LookAtMeGo]

I don't know what TRT stands for, sorry. But we seem quite similar otherwise. I think porn might be part of my equation as well, the sex in our relationship is nothing like porn. I'd like the lights on too, I'll try to make that happen :lol Watching porn gets me going faster than anything, not sure if that should worry me xD Then it's like I have the opposite problem if you catch my drift haha.

I'm pretty sure there's something off physically as well though, my masturbation technique is apparently very unique from I've been told, any other standard way doesn't do me any good, and I'm very insensitive to touch or heat (teeth or hot water), to the point of "are there even any nerves there at all?" Doctors say things aren't too tight but I'm not so sure :/

I never noticed any of this until I got into my first long-term relationship, didn't come up during my own promiscuous period.

I wonder how you'd find legal Cialis and such in Sweden. The doctors asked me if I wanted it but I turned it down because I'm not really looking for a bandaid, you know? But I guess it might be of help for the brain ghosts so to speak. All of this quickly turns into a negative downward spiral of course :/

TRT stands for testosterone replacement therapy. And if like you said if your levels are almost non existant, thats something that needs to be adressed. Testosterone is what makes us horny and gives us erections and alk that. You need it.
There are diets and exercises, mainly in the legs, that can help produce natural testosterone. Proper sleep is probably the most important.


Maybe try laying off the porn. That whole no fap thing has worked for me. Maybe even try jerking off to your imagination instead. The more porn you watch the more desensitized you get. Especially if you into some freaky shit. After like a week of no jerking off and no porn watching. I find that I can maintain much stronger boners for longer and there is more sensitivity down there. Give it a shot. Its tough but if you really need to wank it then just use your imagination.

You can always see if a partner wants to watch porn with you. Having sex while watching porn together can be pretty hot.

I think you are noticing it in your long term relatonships more than the promiscuous stage is because like me, you probably get bored of having sex with the same person. I attribute this problem for me to porn as well.

Try going a week without watching any porn or jerking off and see if you get some sensitivity back.

Blood flow is also super important. Exercise helps. Ive even been looking into getting a dick pump because I hear good thing about them and helping maintain stronger boners for longer. They have cock bands and stuff that can help too. Getting old sucks.

 

[Ernest]

Yeah, I'm an old fuck (44), and after getting over an injury that kept me from seriously exercising for over a year, I've put myself back into shape over the summer (I got my resting heart rate down to 50bmp), and my cardiovascular health is exemplary. I had old-man whiskey-dick a year ago, and now I get woken up by boners (my own, you sickos), and when a girl is involved, I'm getting boners that rival my late-teen years. Just get that blood flowing (and don't over-'bate) and you should be fine without needing supplements that might have negative side-effects.

 

[Krauser Kat]

Yeah, I'm an old fuck (44), and after getting over an injury that kept me from seriously exercising for over a year, I've put myself back into shape over the summer (I got my resting heart rate down to 50bmp), and my cardiovascular health is exemplary. I had old-man whiskey-dick a year ago, and now I get woken up by boners (my own, you sickos), and when a girl is involved, I'm getting boners that rival my late-teen years. Just get that blood flowing (and don't over-'bate) and you should be fine without needing supplements that might have negative side-effects.

50BMP is crazy to me when im pretty fit and AVG 60-62 at 31.

Are you on any blood pressure meds?

 

[Ernest]

50BMP is crazy to me when im pretty fit and AVG 60-62 at 31.

Are you on any blood pressure meds?

Nope, never been on a single med in my life - most I've done is Ibuprofen for pain. I run and bike a lot. Some weights, not much, I find it boring. And I'm a little over 50bmp, more like 52-54. Genetics?

 

[Ozorov]

Latest ios, but it's a 6. 6s I think.

Okey. I read some reviews on app store from the latest tinder update. Seems to be a problem

 

[timetokill]

I'm one of those people who sees hand holding as really intimate, honestly initiating sex is sometimes easier than hand holding with a new girl. Yeah I'm weird.

Last initial "meetup for drinks" I went on the girl was giving me all sorts of signals to hold her hand, she had them on the table and kept "subtly" moving them towards mine, until they were seriously just barely not touching. Wish every girl gave off such obvious signals, lol

 

[NoctisVsStar]

So it's been awhile since my last online escapade. To recap I was "talking" New Yorkers know what I mean by this lol with this girl for 6 months. Despite there being a connection the distance was an issue (SI and uptown) so we ended it but remain good friends to this day.

So last week I was bored decided to get back on okc, right away got a msg from a Romanian BX girl. Initially, i thought shorty was a catfish since her Spanish was on point.. little did I know she's legit got her number and everything seeing her on Friday. She sent me this meme today.

[IMG]https://i.imgur.com/iO0A6Tfl.jpg[/IMG]

I also got another date Friday night with a Puerto Rican/Italian girl, she's a 4'11 cute little thing with a booty got me like

So far both girls got cool personalities but the Puerto Rican Girl is a bit more serious and shy yet she said she wanted to see on Friday..so I don't how that's gonna go. On the other hand the Romanian girl is straight fun and more expressive.. pray for the kid will update this weekend.

 

[jimmypython]

You response makes it sound like the GF is cheating on him and he should do the same, neither of which are exactly great.

It's pretty obvious she's too busy to have a boyfriend, though.

Cheating is never acceptable in my book. Honesty is a low but most important bar.

I was suggesting the poster to care more about himself not others if the affection is not reciprocal.

 

[The_Joker1721]

So far both girls got cool personalities but the Puerto Rican Girl is a bit more serious and shy yet she said she wanted to see on Friday..so I don't how that's gonna go. On the other hand the Romanian girl is straight fun and more expressive.. pray for the kid will update this weekend.

I'm praying for ya fam.

So The girl I've been talking to hit me up today and told me a guy hasn't been honest or upfront like I was with her last night. She then texted me like ten minutes after saying she's attracted to me and she likes me too.

Now,

I gotta be honest with you guys. This is where I need advice. I'm not the best person in the mental and I've got a knack for ruining good things for myself and I'm not sure why. I'm also no good at commitment. the only actual committed relationship I had was the very first girlfriend I've ever had like 10 years ago and that ended terribly So far she's been a sweetheart and I like her back and I think it would be great to get into a relationship with her (fuck what you heard in that other thread, it's cuffing season booooiii) but these old habits are hard to break. So now we know we like each other, Ahora que? Now what?

 

[Subpar Scrub]

So now we know we like each other, Ahora que? Now what?

Keep dating and when you want to be exclusive, ask to be exclusive or go steady or however you want to word it. That's what I'd assume anyway, if you wanted to be explicit about it.

 

[Thequietone]

Not sure this is the best place for this but here goes. I may get the proverbial frying pan over my head for asking this, but here goes. A friend of mine has been doing stuff that I consider flirting, but she may just be a natural flirt and may not realize she is doing it, or I am taking innocent things and equating them to flirting. For instance she texted me randomly the other morning (waking me up) saying "I woke up thinking about you. ", and the other night she knew I was on a date with someone, as in I told her a few hours before, and she started texting me random things during my date. Yes, I forgot to turn my phone on silent, people don't usually call me or text. I admit my mistake here. She doesn't usually contact me unless it has to do with us meeting up for lunch or something important. Sent me an article this morning about how people say I love you besides using words, but thinking that's innocent.

/drunk post

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

Not sure this is the best place for this but here goes. I may get the proverbial frying pan over my head for asking this, but here goes. A friend of mine has been doing stuff that I consider flirting, but she may just be a natural flirt and may not realize she is doing it, or I am taking innocent things and equating them to flirting. For instance she texted me randomly the other morning (waking me up) saying "I woke up thinking about you. ", and the other night she knew I was on a date with someone, as in I told her a few hours before, and she started texting me random things during my date. Yes, I forgot to turn my phone on silent, people don't usually call me or text. I admit my mistake here. She doesn't usually contact me unless it has to do with us meeting up for lunch or something important. Sent me an article this morning about how people say I love you besides using words, but thinking that's innocent.

/drunk post

You didn't ask a question.

If you like her, ask her out and be prepared for the friendship to end. If you're not willing to do that, then don't.

Your situation is not complicated.

 

[NoctisVsStar]

I'm praying for ya fam.

So The girl I've been talking to hit me up today and told me a guy hasn't been honest or upfront like I was with her last night. She then texted me like ten minutes after saying she's attracted to me and she likes me too.

Now,

I gotta be honest with you guys. This is where I need advice. I'm not the best person in the mental and I've got a knack for ruining good things for myself and I'm not sure why. I'm also no good at commitment. the only actual committed relationship I had was the very first girlfriend I've ever had like 10 years ago and that ended terribly So far she's been a sweetheart and I like her back and I think it would be great to get into a relationship with her (fuck what you heard in that other thread, it's cuffing season booooiii) but these old habits are hard to break. So now we know we like each other, Ahora que? Now what?

Ahora que? Well do you want to be exclusive? Just don't waste her time. Be upfront about your feelings to her and let her know you want to take it slow.

 

[Subpar Scrub]

You didn't ask a question.

Was about to say haha

 

[dreamcastmaster]

Not sure this is the best place for this but here goes. I may get the proverbial frying pan over my head for asking this, but here goes. A friend of mine has been doing stuff that I consider flirting, but she may just be a natural flirt and may not realize she is doing it, or I am taking innocent things and equating them to flirting. For instance she texted me randomly the other morning (waking me up) saying "I woke up thinking about you. ", and the other night she knew I was on a date with someone, as in I told her a few hours before, and she started texting me random things during my date. Yes, I forgot to turn my phone on silent, people don't usually call me or text. I admit my mistake here. She doesn't usually contact me unless it has to do with us meeting up for lunch or something important. Sent me an article this morning about how people say I love you besides using words, but thinking that's innocent.

/drunk post

Yes, she likes you.

 

[Spoiled Milk]

Not sure this is the best place for this but here goes. I may get the proverbial frying pan over my head for asking this, but here goes. A friend of mine has been doing stuff that I consider flirting, but she may just be a natural flirt and may not realize she is doing it, or I am taking innocent things and equating them to flirting. For instance she texted me randomly the other morning (waking me up) saying "I woke up thinking about you. ", and the other night she knew I was on a date with someone, as in I told her a few hours before, and she started texting me random things during my date. Yes, I forgot to turn my phone on silent, people don't usually call me or text. I admit my mistake here. She doesn't usually contact me unless it has to do with us meeting up for lunch or something important. Sent me an article this morning about how people say I love you besides using words, but thinking that's innocent.

/drunk post

yeah, she's really into you.

 

[Messofanego]

I woke up thinking about you DatingGAF

 

[always crazy bacon]

https://youtu.be/l8FdF5wh4HQ?t=3

 

[Subpar Scrub]

Going out to a friend's party tomorrow night Gaf and she's inviting a bunch of her friends, wish me luck in meeting new (single) people.

I woke up thinking about you DatingGAF

Uguu~

 

[Ozorov]

I woke up thinking about you DatingGAF

 

[Ernest]

I woke up thinking about you DatingGAF

I'm just not into you like that.

 

[Ozorov]

I'm the only one having problems with Tinder since the latest update?

I don't get any notifications at all.
I usually get 100+ matches (22 - 30 years, 50 km) within two weeks, now I've tried and set it to 18 - 50, 100 km+ for four days and ONE match and TWO likes (Tinder gold shit). Swiped right to everyone just to test, even tried one boost.
I matched with someone, checked directly afterwards and shes not in the match-list.

When I did my account something very weird happen also. It was a new system to swipe right / left, it also had a "force feedback"-system on the iphone 7, kinda like when you're pressing the homebutton everytime you swiped someone. Next time I tried to log in it was back to the normal thing.

wtf?

 

[Hrothgar]

Not sure this is the best place for this but here goes. I may get the proverbial frying pan over my head for asking this, but here goes. A friend of mine has been doing stuff that I consider flirting, but she may just be a natural flirt and may not realize she is doing it, or I am taking innocent things and equating them to flirting. For instance she texted me randomly the other morning (waking me up) saying "I woke up thinking about you. ", and the other night she knew I was on a date with someone, as in I told her a few hours before, and she started texting me random things during my date. Yes, I forgot to turn my phone on silent, people don't usually call me or text. I admit my mistake here. She doesn't usually contact me unless it has to do with us meeting up for lunch or something important. Sent me an article this morning about how people say I love you besides using words, but thinking that's innocent.

/drunk post

Signal overload, she is into you.

 

[always crazy bacon]

https://youtu.be/l8FdF5wh4HQ?t=3

 

[Pattycakes]

I woke up thinking about you DatingGAF

I wake up every day and I say to myself, "I hope Messofanego is doing well today."

Traveling tomorrow to go see my girlfriend in Arkansas! 7 hour drive but she's absolutely worth it. I'll get to spend Friday night thru Monday afternoon with her.

 

[Pattycakes]

Not sure this is the best place for this but here goes. I may get the proverbial frying pan over my head for asking this, but here goes. A friend of mine has been doing stuff that I consider flirting, but she may just be a natural flirt and may not realize she is doing it, or I am taking innocent things and equating them to flirting. For instance she texted me randomly the other morning (waking me up) saying "I woke up thinking about you. ", and the other night she knew I was on a date with someone, as in I told her a few hours before, and she started texting me random things during my date. Yes, I forgot to turn my phone on silent, people don't usually call me or text. I admit my mistake here. She doesn't usually contact me unless it has to do with us meeting up for lunch or something important. Sent me an article this morning about how people say I love you besides using words, but thinking that's innocent.

/drunk post

How can you over think this this much? She's into you dude. Go for it.

Like the only way she could probably be more obvious is if she straight up kissed you.

 

[Ozorov]

Just use this as an opportunity to try other apps while they fix it. Well, even try non app dating becuse that tried and tested.

Yeah I've installed happn. Non-apps yes. But it's addictive with these online apps.

 

[Ralemont]

Like the only way she could probably be more obvious is if she straight up kissed you.

She probably should have tried that before sending articles about unrequited love tbh

 

[Incendiary]

Not sure this is the best place for this but here goes. I may get the proverbial frying pan over my head for asking this, but here goes. A friend of mine has been doing stuff that I consider flirting, but she may just be a natural flirt and may not realize she is doing it, or I am taking innocent things and equating them to flirting. For instance she texted me randomly the other morning (waking me up) saying "I woke up thinking about you. ", and the other night she knew I was on a date with someone, as in I told her a few hours before, and she started texting me random things during my date. Yes, I forgot to turn my phone on silent, people don't usually call me or text. I admit my mistake here. She doesn't usually contact me unless it has to do with us meeting up for lunch or something important. Sent me an article this morning about how people say I love you besides using words, but thinking that's innocent.

/drunk post

Dude she wants you. If you like her ask her out, if you don't find a way to make it clear you just want to be friends.

This is so obvious even I would know she was into me. And I'm the guy who walked in on his friend talking to her friend saying "I like Incendiary and don't really like my bf anymore" and still thought "hmmmm, should I ask her out?" after they broke up.

 

[Ernest]

Not sure this is the best place for this but here goes. I may get the proverbial frying pan over my head for asking this, but here goes. A friend of mine has been doing stuff that I consider flirting, but she may just be a natural flirt and may not realize she is doing it, or I am taking innocent things and equating them to flirting. For instance she texted me randomly the other morning (waking me up) saying "I woke up thinking about you. ", and the other night she knew I was on a date with someone, as in I told her a few hours before, and she started texting me random things during my date. Yes, I forgot to turn my phone on silent, people don't usually call me or text. I admit my mistake here. She doesn't usually contact me unless it has to do with us meeting up for lunch or something important. Sent me an article this morning about how people say I love you besides using words, but thinking that's innocent.

/drunk post

Playing devil's advocate (though this has actually happened to me), could be a trap!

I've had more than one female friend show affection and throw "signs" my way only after I started dating again, mainly because I sorta stopped paying attention to them as I was putting myself out there for other women. So the couple times I did return the affection signs, they immediately turned them off, almost to say, "yeah, I was only looking to get your attention, I'm not really interested". So be careful.

 

[Lulubop]

Dating makes me happy, I'll be able to date to my fullest in a week or too. I'm happy 😀

I've meet some really nice people over the summer however, one of which I really like a lot.

 

[EchoChamber]

Hi NeoGaffers and well new thread new challenges to face in my dating life.

So i met a girl and i think she likes me, obviously i need to ask her out

Spoiler

already

but is hard to me to just ask her number because of my anxiety, but we have a whatsapp group, is considered weird

Spoiler

probably it is

to just add her number from there?