I didn't want to ask him that but I do wonder myself. I mean if your in sex videos all the time how does that go? I know Brent Everett married a guy in the porn industry and the guy still films him getting fucked by other guys.
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I didn't want to ask him that but I do wonder myself. I mean if your in sex videos all the time how does that go? I know Brent Everett married a guy in the porn industry and the guy still films him getting fucked by other guys.
A sling is to stones as a cock sling is to...
Dammit, do I have to wait for Replicant here?!
AceBandage
Banned
Hehe, cock sling.
Sean Cody has this new dude, Harrison I think, who's ridiculously hot. He does wrestling videos too in a site called Thunder's Arena, my boyfriend really likes that site. I don't care about guys wrestling when there's no naughty bits but Harrison is hot.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
A cock sling is a cock ring with "added benefits" so says amazon.
Don't worry, Botolf, I got the joke. I smirked a little.
AceBandage
Banned
Sometimes quite troublesome.
dragonlife
Member
Haha. I did the same thing and was disappointed. I guess I'll have to watch the movie.
Asses are awesome.
Watching the movie at the cinema was GLORIOUS. Why is he so perfect?
CHEEZMO
Obsidian fan
Chests are best.
Watching the movie at the cinema was GLORIOUS. Why is he so perfect?
Too bad I don't have Netflix.
SHOW ME THE GOODS, GOOGLE. GODDAMN IT.
Bel Marduk
Banned
I agree.. very much so.
I googled "fassbender in shame gif" and found a GIF of the opening scene of the movie. Fassbender and his long... torso. It's not a video but better than a screencap.
Hohohoho, I love you like Magneto loves Professor X right now. <3
I didn't even know who he was until Top Gear was on BBC America tonight. :x
He's not good looking, but I had to see him after Clarkson makes mention of him being nude for 2+ hours in Shame.
Plus I can't hate an (half-)Irishman.
OH HEY DRAGONLIFE: Are you getting VF5:FS on PS3? :x
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
It's a cock ring with a "tongue" that messages your perineum.
Necromanti
Member
Whatever it is, it doesn't look very comfortable...
agreed on all this, I do am a bit straightforward but I can't think of anything wrong with that. In fact, I'd be thankful if I were a shy guy if the other one gave me a hand by asking for stuff.
I am into knowing people better and that includes sex and ask for last names. If people don't want sex early on, it's fine I don't demand it the first date even though I may want to or maybe ask in some way for it. If they don't want it at all with me, it's fine I can take it.
If they are going to get all offended and feel awkward because I express sexual or affective interest, then they are timewasters and I am happy if they run away from me, don't really want to deal with them.
i_am_ben
running_here_and_there
I'm not sure, however here are two tips gaygaffers always make:
1) Thinking that a Grindr hookup is a date
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2) Getting upset when they don't have sex on the first date
Coppertracks
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Don't have sex.
Don't get absolutely wasted.
Don't blabber on about your ex's (nobody wants to hear about them), your personal problems/family issues.
Do smile, seem confident and pay lots of interest to the other person.
I'm guilty of getting smashed on a first date. Also talked about my ex (not with the same person). I know now that is something you shouldn't do.
Here's what I would do on a first date:
Don't ask too many questions. I used to ask so many questions out of nervousness. I've even been told that the date felt like an interview.
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Don't seem TOO eager. Let them know you are into them, but be subtle about it. Leave some things to the imagination. Everyone loves a little bit of mystery.
Some styles of cock rings are actually 3 rings. One for the balls, one for the shaft and one for both. A cock sling applies the same concept except its a single unit of rubber and or silicone. It also gives the balls a slight tug. You first insert your penis, then the testicles. And hence, cock sling.
Fort Troff (NSFW) is an awesome local establishment that sells them by the truckload.
To be honest from what I read you seem a little bit too intense on first contact. Yes getting to know the person you date is what a date is all about but there's a way of going about it that doesn't make it sound like you wanna know every single little detail of someone's life on a first date.
I don't ask for last name until several dates and I'd be slightly weirded out if someone asked mine (although depends on the context) because that'd sound like they're gonna spend their free time stalking me.
Also on the subject of letting people know you're attracted to them, it's great and you should do that but you should do it subtly. I've been on the receiving end of someone who was too eager and that is not attractive at all.
Your first and second paragraphs are correct in that, it isn't nice to be too intense or pushy, but no, that's really not how it happens when I date, I know how to behave. I am fine saying my last name but others don't and I don't mind, but there are friendly ways to tell that it is too early to ask for that, specially if you are otherwise interested in the person who made the question. instead of saying " what the fuck kind of question is that??!! do you actually need that information to like me?, no, right? then why the hell ask?" you can say " hey, Let us talk about that later, I know some don't mind telling their names but it makes me feel uncomfortable, I hope this doesn't upset you cause I'd really like to know you better". you can't tell me you don't feel the difference there.
Regarding being too fast or too slow, the basic and fundamental law of dating is to be as honest and real as you can, which doesn't mean jumping on the guy the first opportunity you have but it does entail taking steps and there is no right timing for that.
Related to the other persons sensibility, those steps are going to be either fast or slow or weird or the right ones, but the truth is there is no wrong step, there is just "I do(n't) feel the same" and/or "(not a) match" .
if you felt annoyed by some guy being too eager to be with you is simply because you didn't like him as much, I have been at that receving end too and it has nothing to do with a permanent law in my mind of not sleeping or cuddling with someone until some time has gone by, it has to do with the fact that I don't feel like it and I didn't like him to the necessary capacity, period, not him making a bad move or being eager, I would have rejected him later on anyway.
in that sense, no point in delaying the unavoidable: be yourself, be real, even if that is asking for cuddling, hugs and maybe sex at ANY point in time and wait for the outcome.
That being said, accept other people's stances and move accordingly, don't push or annoy, just make it clear how you feel and be respectful.
and last, don't fake intentions, don't pretend you are in love and interested just to get sex and don't say " I'd like to know you better as a person" when you know it's only a move that could get you sex faster, say things as they are.
Mystic Theurge
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Beautiful post, sphinx
I agree with most of your post, I just want to react to that sentence.
What I don't like about people being too eager is that I don't understand where that eagerness come from. You meet someone for the first time, you can't say things like "I can see you're a good one", "I like you a lot and I can see us going far" because no, really, you don't know after a couple of hours.
You don't know I'm a good person as much as I can't know you're a good person either. I can postulate from what I see and experience with you but I'll need more than 4 hours to know for sure. That's not the worst though.
The worst is when someone tells you that they see a future with you after the first date. I make the difference between infatuation and genuine feelings of love. Love at first sight does not exist for me. You're infatuated and then you're lucky enough that it develops in something meaningful but you can't fall in love with someone without knowing them and experiencing things together.
So when someone tells me something like "I know you're a good person", "I can see us being together for a long time" it just annoys me and raises a red flag.
First date , they ask about your last name (or the conversation just goes there), they like it, and then they just replace their last name with yours to see if they name now sounds "nice" or "cool" , riiight as if we gonna marry after the first date.
Also drama: this guy I had a date with on Friday canceled, and asked me if we could go out on Saturday, I already had plans with my friends, but told him he could join us, he didn't like it, he blocked me on FB, and didn't answer my call, I was going to insist on contacting him, but I have better things to do
not really, just play videogames, hang out with my only 2 friends here, and being exploited at work
A couple of nights ago, a guy online contacted me and without exchanging more than, I don't know... 5 sentences he was all "Oh, you and me could make a good couple!", "Why don't you want to meet me?!", "Please give me you number!". It really freaked me out. I haven't cut my contact with him just because he's really hot LOL, but I doubt I'm gonna meet him because he acts like a psycho.
First date , they ask about your last name (or the conversation just goes there), they like it, and then they just replace their last name with yours to see if they name now sounds "nice" or "cool" , riiight as if we gonna marry after the first date.
Also drama: this guy I had a date with on Friday canceled, and asked me if we could go out on Saturday, I already had plans with my friends, but told him he could join us, he didn't like it, he blocked me on FB, and didn't answer my call, I was going to insist on contacting him, but I have better things to dobailing out. That's all.not really, just play videogames, hang out with my only 2 friends here, and being exploited at work
He didn't like you suggesting he tag along with you and your friends? OK.
Yes, that's what I don't get yet
Coppertracks
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First date , they ask about your last name (or the conversation just goes there), they like it, and then they just replace their last name with yours to see if they name now sounds "nice" or "cool" , riiight as if we gonna marry after the first date.
Also drama: this guy I had a date with on Friday canceled, and asked me if we could go out on Saturday, I already had plans with my friends, but told him he could join us, he didn't like it, he blocked me on FB, and didn't answer my call, I was going to insist on contacting him, but I have better things to dobailing out. That's all.not really, just play videogames, hang out with my only 2 friends here, and being exploited at work
First, has that actually happened to anyone?! Some weeeeird people out there if so.
Well, if he hadn't met you before in real life, going out with you and your mates could seem a little over whelming/high pressure I guess. Though his reaction was childish/extreme.
oh absolutely agree with all of this..we were talking about different things.. absolutely agree on your reactions to the cases you are portraying, "We'd made a great couple!" on the very first date... I rather chill and have a good time than think about that but like I said, maybe two people with that same speed or "tempo" find each other and live happily ever after. Good for them, it's just not how it works with you and neither are they wrong nor you.
I was just having a phone call a couple of days ago with a guy who actually called because he found my phone number by googling the info he had... name, job, etc and got my cel phone number but o.k, so I thought... (red flag right there....)
while having the chat on telephone he said stuff like " Oh, you are a catch" (I said I owned stuff...) and " .. oh, and then we have to marry" (because I said I wanted to go back to my country and not stay in Germany).
the next day I received 3 calls, 1 message on the site and 1 message on the cellphone, all of which I didn't answer, that night I thanked him for his interest and said I need some time... I went away and didn't look back.
THAT was being eager.. and to hell with that.
umop_3pisdn
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I don't know, I believe in love at first sight. It's not commonplace at all, in fact I would say that it's extremely rare, but sometimes you just get that sense of 'knowing' someone almost immediately after meeting them, or it's like you always knew them, or something. I mean I almost feel embarrassed saying that as it is such a huge cliche, but I've experienced it. It was the only time that I had ever fallen for someone, and it was really uncanny.
But don't get me wrong, I generally agree with you, especially in regards to seeing a future together (which I think goes well beyond the notion of romantic love, anyways). But intuition (or a kind of unconscious perception) can be a very powerful way of 'knowing' something. It's not enough to say that we 'know someone', but I think it can be enough to say that we 'know enough'.
Though I expect that you would classify this under 'attraction', so maybe this is just a matter of semantics, but at least in my idiolect the defining difference between 'love' and 'attraction' is selfishness or selflessness. If it comes with a level of esteem that apparently leaves you no option but placing their happiness over your own desires, it only makes sense to call it 'love'.
I don't really think that that's what this is about, though.
Oh my.
Well, whatever helps you I guess. *shrug* Looks painful as hell to put on to me.
DR2K
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Check.
Check.
Fuuuuuck. Although it was recipricle.
Check.
Overall date went well he wanted to take me to his place, but the lady in me said no.
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