the content says WAAAAAY more than the caps in this case. People get emotional all the time and say things they shouldn't when they're emotional. IANAP, however, what she said says a few things to me:
1. part of her motivation in all this is attention craving.
Negative attention is better than no attention. Argue with her until eternity and she'll probably be satisfied. Turn the phone off and the world ends.
2. She seems manipulative, using guilt as a tool
this happens all the time but what's freaky is how fast she ended up at the convenient conclusion that YOU hate her. Notice how at the end she didn't say: "I'm sorry that
I did something wrong, please tell me what
I can do to fix it. She said that YOU did something wrong, and completely turned it on its head.
I don't really know enough to say with any certitude, but I get the feeling logic and talking it out just isn't going to work with your mom. Especially given the stuff you said about her before. My grandmother was crazy in the same way, and my mom spent years in therapy to finally figure out that
you can accept that someone is crazy and still love them for who they are. You just have to realize that their craziness is not a reflection of your self worth.