Megalosaro
Banned
This is an ideological battle I've been having with my former friend for some time.
He hates "nice" people. He views it as a weakness. That only weak people are nice, because they're scared or some stupid shit. He thinks that being nice doesn't accomplish anything. And because of that he attacks me.
I don't view it as a bad thing. I'm "nice" not because I expect anything in return, but because I think that being kind is the right way to be. I try to treat everyone with respect until they do something that makes it so they don't deserve that respect.
I guess that's where we diverge, is in niceness as a tactic for resource acquisition. I do think there is a difference between niceness and being a pushover. But I just don't want to live in a world being respectful is a bad thing. I've managed to accomplish whatever goal I set out for, and do so without compromising my integrity or treating others like shit.
Meanwhile, he's hewed a very successful career by riding roughshod. Go on a drunken rant against a female boss at an after hours dinner? Get a promotion! Threaten to leave the company without bumping up your pay 40%? Get a 45% raise! I can't deny that he's done pretty well for himself, except in one area: relationships. All of his friends think he is the most toxic asshole on the planet. They still hang out with him though. He's also single and wants a relationship so bad. He can't get passed a 3rd date, usually because they realize what a fucking sociopath he is. He does manage to hook up with different random girl each week though, usually by mass spamming "Hey, are you up for casual sex" on dating apps. Apparently it's "brave and they like how direct he is".
The reason I make this thread? My other roommates is basically dieing from asthma, essentially. I've been trying to tell him for months to get health insurance. he didn't do so. Asshole told him he was going to kick him out of the apartment if he didn't get insurance. The next day asthma kid has insurance. I'm sick and tired of Asshole getting what he wants while treating everyone like shit. Is it bad that I want someone to knock him down a peg or two?
He actually used this as a way too insult me. Called me out into the living room and then started making fun of how "soft and gentle" i am.
He hates "nice" people. He views it as a weakness. That only weak people are nice, because they're scared or some stupid shit. He thinks that being nice doesn't accomplish anything. And because of that he attacks me.
I don't view it as a bad thing. I'm "nice" not because I expect anything in return, but because I think that being kind is the right way to be. I try to treat everyone with respect until they do something that makes it so they don't deserve that respect.
I guess that's where we diverge, is in niceness as a tactic for resource acquisition. I do think there is a difference between niceness and being a pushover. But I just don't want to live in a world being respectful is a bad thing. I've managed to accomplish whatever goal I set out for, and do so without compromising my integrity or treating others like shit.
Meanwhile, he's hewed a very successful career by riding roughshod. Go on a drunken rant against a female boss at an after hours dinner? Get a promotion! Threaten to leave the company without bumping up your pay 40%? Get a 45% raise! I can't deny that he's done pretty well for himself, except in one area: relationships. All of his friends think he is the most toxic asshole on the planet. They still hang out with him though. He's also single and wants a relationship so bad. He can't get passed a 3rd date, usually because they realize what a fucking sociopath he is. He does manage to hook up with different random girl each week though, usually by mass spamming "Hey, are you up for casual sex" on dating apps. Apparently it's "brave and they like how direct he is".
The reason I make this thread? My other roommates is basically dieing from asthma, essentially. I've been trying to tell him for months to get health insurance. he didn't do so. Asshole told him he was going to kick him out of the apartment if he didn't get insurance. The next day asthma kid has insurance. I'm sick and tired of Asshole getting what he wants while treating everyone like shit. Is it bad that I want someone to knock him down a peg or two?
He actually used this as a way too insult me. Called me out into the living room and then started making fun of how "soft and gentle" i am.