People projecting their own personal preferences for wanting to date outside of their race in this thread does not invalidate her claims, just as much as you said.
She says it right there that the film plays into this, it's not a condemnation of their actual relationship.
It's an independent movie.
This is an independent movie. This wasn't financed by some big cigar smoking Hollywood executive. I doubt it's going to rake in much money either. If the the producer was interested in maximum profit margins he would have backed something else.
It's almost like you made this problem up. Minorities already have an issue with representation in general in American media, yet alone some supposed issue that arrives from them being on screen together in relationships. LOL
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people tend to interact (also, date) people within their communities. Because of segregation (guess who's responsible for that) people tend to marry within racial/ethnic groups not only because of close proximity but shared cultural experience.
lets not make this topic into shipping colored people with white people is what's gonna kill racism, it's quite frankly depressing.
Just like Hollywood, you seem to be under the impression that minorities can only end up with another person of the same ethnicity or with a white person.
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It would still be empowering to black women because the real life event itself is empowering. The issue is when you make that connection with the Big Sick it means that you're also bothered by real life brown man dating white women.Let's take this further:
Is Hidden Figures somehow exempt from being included in "empowering media for Black women" because it's inspired by a real life story? All media plays, no matter if it's inspired by real stories or not, is valid to be criticized just like how any other "fictionalized" stories and characters are.
Does that mean much? Probably picked up for cheap.Distributed by Lionsgate and Amazon
It's ok to criticize a writer for making a salient point but using a piss poor foundation to make it. If someone is insistent on focusing on the larger issue, then do your due diligence and don't carelessly drop in a derailment, particularly when it involves real peoples' lives.
Distribution is fundamentally different than production.
no it doesn'tIt would still be empowering to black women because the real life event itself is empowering. The issue is when you make that connection with the Big Sick it means that you're also bothered by real life brown man dating white women.
That fucking title
For someone who I see so frequently posting in threads about racial inequalities, you sure do like to determine what is and isn't a problem for other minorities. Maybe you should check yourself a little instead of talking down to people.
What exactly was your point?
"I rebuke this argument because there's only now a little bit of PoC representation in media?"
Let's take this further:
Is Hidden Figures somehow exempt from being included in "empowering media for Black women" because it's inspired by a real life story? All media plays, no matter if it's inspired by real stories or not, is valid to be criticized just like how any other "fictionalized" stories and characters are.
Wow!
"You finally have yours, now shut up and stop complaining" is not a valid form of criticism. Speaking down to a majority female blog is also not a good look. How dare these WoC have criticisms for the media they enjoy!
You can separate interpretations of art and how it plays into the culture as a whole over the individual choices and actions of people.The movie is practically autobiographical! It's not a couple of people using their own experiences to fill in the gaps in a character's arc or personality, they wrote it about themselves! Your entire point collapses once you take this into account.
I think the writer has a valid point to make, but that she literally picked the absolute worst movie to do it. In using this movie the article opens itself up to being interpreted in this way.
The problem is that The Big Sick is another one of those movies that portray "secular Muslims" as the standard for "good Muslim representation" in Hollywood. No one is criticizing the people themselves, but you have to consider that the film is yet another example of a Brown man seeing a White woman as the ultimate prize.It would still be empowering to black women because the real life event itself is empowering. The issue is when you make that connection with the Big Sick it means that you're also bothered by real life brown man dating white women.
It's a trend in the already slim amount of representation of South Asian men in Hollywood.My argument is that she only has a few examples. It's hardly a trend, if it even is one. She's stomping on a tiny sprout, south asian representation in media, before it has any chance of blooming. Aziz Ansari is fairly well known, but Kumail, Kaling, and others are barely known.
And the issue here ultimately isn't about movies being made, it's what hollywood decides gets mass release
You can separate interpretations of art and how it plays into the culture as a whole over the individual choices and actions of people.
The problem is that The Big Sick is another one of those movies that portray "secular Muslims" as the standard for "good Muslim representation" in Hollywood. No one is criticizing the people themselves, but you have to consider that the film is yet another example of a Brown man seeing a White woman as the ultimate prize.
Wait I thought that Asian men's problem was that were sexless? Now they're getting too many white women?
Without having seen that movie I take that interpretation with a big grain of salt, but also, what are they supposed to do? Not show their real life experiences?The problem is that The Big Sick is another one of those movies that portray "secular Muslims" as the standard for "good Muslim representation" in Hollywood. No one is criticizing the people themselves, but you have to consider that the film is yet another example of a Brown man seeing a White woman as the ultimate prize.
That's another thing, can you really call this a trend?Asian men (easten, indian and even arabic) have near zero positive representation in mainstream media and suddenly the author is oh so exhausted that a couple of movies (one which is biographical) put them in nice relationships with white women.
But women of color have always been desired in film. It's men of color -- primarily Asian men -- that are underrepresented as romantic interests.
I read a post in a similar vein yesterday that was complaining that Film/TV only portrays secular Muslims. A fair point, but I don't know if these criticisms stick in this case since it's based off his life.
The Only Muslims Hollywood Likes Are The 'Secular' Ones
A key part of what I think people are failing to grasp from this is that it's not an attack on the couple this particular movie is about. It's rather about what Hollywood decides is worth pushing to the masses.
Nobody is saying their story isn't worth being told, just that it's emblematic of a larger trend of what gets widely distributed in the market. Ergo, a systemic issue. But a lot of you can't parse targeted individual critiques from systemic issues regarding a lot of topics so I'm not surprised many of you are slow on the uptake here.
Why should my seeing it or not invalidate what the author has been saying? The author herself has seen the movie--she's even enjoyed it-- and she makes it pretty clear that this happens:You keep misrepresenting the movie.
Have you seen it?
She is not seen or treated as a fucking prize.
The mating dance between Asian men and white women is rife with exotification and cringe-worthy othering. As bell hooks puts it, in ”the commodification of Otherness," ethnicity becomes spice to a dull, mainstream white dish. In The Big Sick, ”Kumail" picks up ”Emily" by writing her name out in Urdu in the beginning of the film. (Apparently Pete Holmes recommended Nanjiani use ”Once you go Pakistan, you never go Backistan," a line that would have made me vomit just from the pronunciation of ”Pakistan.") We later see ”Kumail" pull the write-her-name-in-Urdu move on another white chick. (He sleeps only with white women throughout The Big Sick.)
No?Without having seen that movie I take that interpretation with a big grain of salt, but also, what are they supposed to do? Not show their real life experiences?
I read this earlier, and while I understand the general complaint, the use of Te Big Sick is odd because it's a true story of Nanjiani and his wife, so criticizing it in this way feels fairly close to criticizing Nanjiani's real life romantic decisions which is off putting.
This didn't get a mass release. Opening weekend was five theaters. It's getting the same sort of release as Amira & Sam, a movie about a white man and a brown woman(with Martin Starr no less).
"You're free to show off your real life relationship but I really don't like it if you do"No?
You are free to do as you wish, but always remember that granting your relationship a spotlight by putting it on the big screen will lend itself into criticisms of how it plays into the culture as a whole.
Maybe you should make a real point, instead of some made up one. Perhaps your point was poorly explained, but can you at least agree that there is no issue of South Asians consistently paired up together in relationships in American media, when they are barely even represented in media, yet alone in relationships.
Says who?"You're free to show off your real life relationship but I really don't like it if you do"
And I don't know, are their personal interviews playing into film representations in Hollywood?The Big Sick has been roundly lauded in the press lately, including here at Jezebel, and not without good reason: it's a funny, heartwarming love story based on the true-life experiences of cowriters/married couple Kumail Nanjiani and Emily V. Gordon. But as much as I liked it—and I did—I also found myself exhausted, yet again, by the onscreen depiction of a brown man wanting to date a white woman, while brown women are portrayed alternately as caricatures, stereotypes, inconsequential, and/or the butts of a joke.
I get where she is coming from? I remember a site called bitterasianmen.cm or some shit where the Asian guys complained about Asian men being emasculated in the media, Asian women loving white men, and Asian men's inability to get white women. Like shit was weird, they fetishised white women in ways way worst than they accused Asian women. They seemed exponentially more disloyal than the Asian women they criticised, they were just capable to jump the fence.
Any?
It does sound like she would have enjoyed it more if the movie was a little less like their real relationshipSays who?
Wish my family were like yours, was scared as fuck bringing home a black or white girl to my parents, so they never knew any shit like that was going on and the women knew nothing was ever going to come out of it long term. Shit even a Indian girl ain't enough, she needs to be a Sikh and the right caste as well, that really narrows the pool. I like my family so ain't gonna go against them for a women, now worth it.
I know a few Indians that married white girls and one married a Muslim, their families either told them to get fucked or didn't give a shit about them in the first place. Shit's rough but that's life.
My argument is that she only has a few examples. It's hardly a trend, if it even is one. She's stomping on a tiny sprout, south asian representation in media, before it has any chance of blooming. Aziz Ansari is fairly well known, but Kumail, Kaling, and others are barely known.
Asian guy + Black woman typing please and thank you.
Seriously I wanna see that.
This didn't get a mass release. Opening weekend was five theaters. It's getting the same sort of release as Amira & Sam, a movie about a white man and a brown woman(with Martin Starr no less).
I don't see that criticism being levied at any point in the article nor did she even attempt to make rewrites of the script. She also said she loved a certain point of the script and how her feelings were probably validated by that one point as well:It does sound like she would have enjoyed it more if the movie was a little less like their real relationship
In what might be the climax of The Big Sick, Nanjianis character shouts at his parentswhy did you bring me to America if you did not want me to be American? He criticizes them for sticking to the old ways, striking a chord with many second-generation immigrants in the US. The American dream is dangled before them like a carrot rotting from the inside out. Its a scene that portrays the apex of Othering, for the minoritized person to see their own people as Other. (Similarly, in Meet the Patels, Ravi Patel travels all the way to India to find a suitable wife despite being in love with a white girl, but he finds nobody who meets his expectations. His parents finally agree and he ends up his white love interest, who in the end we see sitting in the kitchen, rolling roti with her mother-in-law.)
It's showing up in more than your local indie theater, there are at least 3 separate theaters within 30 minutes of me where it's showing.
Is it gonna show up in the one theater in Nowheresville, Wisconsin with a population of 5000? No, but it's getting a release
Fuck it that's the reality we shouldn't have to sugar-coat it at all.
Yeah i get it, its bigger than just them especially when the women of color arent placed on the same level as other love interests unless there is a white person involved and again being after thoughts and one dimensional characters.
Mainstream HAS to have someone white in the movie or it then becomes a "Black or an asian movie etc vs being just as mainstream"
Why should my seeing it or not invalidate what the author has been saying? The author herself has seen the movie--she's even enjoyed it-- and she makes it pretty clear that this happens:
No?
You are free to do as you wish, but always remember that granting your relationship a spotlight by putting it on the big screen will lend itself to criticisms of how it plays into the culture as a whole.
A key part of what I think people are failing to grasp from this is that it's not an attack on the couple this particular movie is about. It's rather about what Hollywood decides is worth pushing to the masses.
Nobody is saying their story isn't worth being told, just that it's emblematic of a larger trend of what gets widely distributed in the market. Ergo, a systemic issue. But a lot of you can't parse targeted individual critiques from systemic issues regarding a lot of topics so I'm not surprised many of you are slow on the uptake here.
The Big Sick goes wide release on July 14th.
If you followed these sort of think pieces, then you would know that Mindy is also very much getting dragged for only dating White men on her show too."A South Asian man rejecting a South Asian woman because of her culture is a more radical statement than if it were the other way around. In The Mindy Project, Mindy Kaling's onscreen relationships with white guys take on a different context, because South Asia is a patriarchy—a colorist patriarchy."
So Mindy Kaling dating only white dudes is ok, because the "South Asian patriarchy"? What in the what? The mental gymnastics astound me. Is there no such thing as the white male patriarchy in America anymore?
https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/wd739w/inside-the-asian-men-black-women-online-dating-scene-456
IT'S HAPPENING!!?!?
All of my posts in this thread directly related to what the writer has stated in her piece, and my defending her examples used.*You* are the one arguing Emily is treated as a prize in the movie, without seeing it.
Not the Jezebel writer, you. Don't hide behind her words.
It's frankly disgusting and reductive to treat her as a "prize", given what she went through in real life.
Again, you don't get to decide what is and isn't a problem for other communities. South Asians chiefly have a problem with representation in Hollywood but when they are presented in a romantic relationship, they're almost always paired with their same race and simultaneously stereotyped as a South Asian couple rather than two individual people in a relationship. The former being a larger looming issue does not preclude the latter from being problematic or from being pointed out.
Again, you don't get to decide what is and isn't a problem for other communities. South Asians chiefly have a problem with representation in Hollywood but when they are presented in a romantic relationship, they're almost always paired with their same race and simultaneously stereotyped as a South Asian couple rather than two individual people in a relationship. The former being a larger looming issue does not preclude the latter from being problematic or from being pointed out.
The entire underlying premise here is that productions with homogenous ethnic casts aren't worth being made or funded/distributed by Hollywood.
It's not a marginalization of white interracial relationships, it's a marginalization of homogenous ethnic relationships and communities.