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November? More like Confessember! Anonymous Confessions/Advice Thread 2013

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Featheredkitten

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ronito said:
Proactive TL;DR: Girl problems. Money problems. Woe is me.
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Dude is really whiny, yea sometimes life sucks.

Learning a language isn't hard if you really want too, and if (like he's implying) he already knows some french it won't be that hard. It's not like he needs to know crazy tenses to get a job.

What it comes down to is how hard he's willing to work....and how much help he wants to accept.
 
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ronito

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I'm gonna make this brief but I'm a girl who tends to get really close to other people to the point of having huge crushes on them, but every time it happens (twice) they get into a relationship of some sort and I feel like I'm being abandoned by them. I end up despising whoever they're with and get really tense and on edge when the person they're with is around.

It makes me feel like shit and I don't know how to help myself like the people or try to get to know them better so I usually end up heartbroken and angry at them and myself. It doesn't help that my parents told me that I'm going to be left behind and alone because all my friends are going to get married soon. I've never been in a relationship and the pressures of my friends is making me feel like I need to be in one. I'm (mostly) gay though, and if my parents found out they'd probably hate me forever.

TL:DR I'm gay girl with anxiety problems who hates people.
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I don't think being gay has much to do it. The best advice I've gotten is to remove yourself from the outcome. It's what got me out of the friendzone and all that. Hang in there.
 
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ronito

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I have a crush on Season 1-era Maeby Funke. She looks more attractive there than Alia Shawkat does now.
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I have to agree. I was excited to see how she had aged in Season 4 and then

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ronito

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I am male and I really don't like being touched or touching other people. Like to the extent that I don't find a professional sports massage or sex relaxing or particularly enjoyable. I'm not like 2d girls BONZAI! I do like actual women but I think for now I like them from afar...I think I may have a mild psychological issue or something since it seems most people like physical contact.

Instead of getting relaxed I just build more and more tension and it becomes super awkward for me and I try to find a way out of the situation (which admittedly usually isn't that hard...you just walk away).

I tend to be rather anti-social outside of work where I do enjoy flirting and chatting with coworkers and don't mind doing afterwork bar hops with them in moderation but the rest of the time I'm most comfortable just by myself watching movies or gaming. In this case flirting doesn't equate to touching.

I don't know, maybe it is a panic/safety thing where I feel safe/comfortable around coworkers so I can spend more time with them where I basically just walk out if it is a room of strangers. So maybe if I find "the right one" the touching won't be so bad but for now I think I prefer my solitude.
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Sensory processing disorder. You might wanna look into it.
Also I too am not like 2d girls. BONZAI!
 
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LaNaranja

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Before this thread ends and gets locked I would like to thank you all for the entertaining stories. I have been reading this in my free time but am barely on page 15 so I figured I would say my thanks while I still have the chance. Thanks!
 
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ronito

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DarthOrange said:
Before this thread ends and gets locked I would like to thank you all for the entertaining stories. I have been reading this in my free time but am barely on page 15 so I figured I would say my thanks while I still have the chance. Thanks!
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you wouldn't thank us if you had read all of it
 
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ronito

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OK, since we're doing the "gay" secrets:

I've realized I'm definitely into men (ogled, fantasized about sexually/romantically, jerked off over) in addition to women, but I'll probably never act on it.

One, I'm pretty sure that a guy who is into both genders is a lot less attractive to both men AND women, so I'd get the worst of both worlds from dating and society. Two, most studies seem to indicate there really aren't any bisexual man, so I'm not even really convinced these are my actual feelings and not just some weird fetish or something. I'd rather just call myself straight.

People will probably say that's cowardly, and maybe it is, but I'd like to argue it's a rational decision. It would just be too much effort to have to constantly defend my sexual/romantic preferences and too depressing to constantly take criticism over it. Can't I decide I don't want to subject myself to that?

Maybe in some other world in some other reality where this wasn't so controversial, I would embrace this, but it's too much of a headache in this world at this time.

So, this stays in the anonymous confessions only :p
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What are you talking about "no bisexual men"? I know quite a few. I should go and tell them they don't exist.

Ok gents, last few hours to get in your last anonymous secrets.
 
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Perspicacity

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From my understanding bisexual men have a real visibility problem, in that those who are with long term partners are just assumed to be [straight/gay] and there are many people like the confessor who specifically don't act on feelings towards both genders because they consider it easier just to remain straight and not deal with coming out if they can avoid it.

The especially unfortunate thing is that this attitude just self-perpetuates the culture that causes it.
 
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ronito

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Perspicacity said:
From my understanding bisexual men have a real visibility problem, in that those who are with long term partners are just assumed to be [straight/gay] and there are many people like the confessor who specifically don't act on feelings towards both genders because they consider it easier just to remain straight and not deal with coming out if they can avoid it.

The especially unfortunate thing is that this attitude just self-perpetuates the culture that causes it.
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I've seen it go both ways (lol).
Where I know where a gay guy that about once a year hooks up with a woman. And when you say he's bi he says "I'm gay. I just sleep a woman every once in a while. But I'm gay."

Same thing with straight guys, they'll be like "Oh I'm straight, but I just like a cock every once in a while."

For both gays and straights it seems taboo to say you're bi if you're a guy.
 
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Valhelm

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I've actually never met a bisexual guy. One acquaintance of mine is interested in men and women, but he identifies as pansexual.

A good friend told everybody in high school that he was bi, but recently confided to me that he never actually liked guys, and just pretended so he'd seem "unique and progressive".
 
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Vermillion

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ronito said:
I've seen it go both ways (lol).
Where I know where a gay guy that about once a year hooks up with a woman. And when you say he's bi he says "I'm gay. I just sleep a woman every once in a while. But I'm gay."

Same thing with straight guys, they'll be like "Oh I'm straight, but I just like a cock every once in a while."

For both gays and straights it seems taboo to say you're bi if you're a guy.
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Mm - many people I know say that there's no such thing as a bisexual guy. "If you like dick, you're gay."
 
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LonelyGreyWolf

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I'm pretty sure that a guy who is into both genders is a lot less attractive to both men AND women
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Really?

As a man, I can't say a bisexual woman would necessarily be any less attractive than a straight woman. A lesbian woman wouldn't necessarily be any less attractive either.
 
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Valhelm

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When Ronito finishes this thread, he should give us a list of his favorites. Or perhaps a list of the most heinous.
 
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grumble

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LonelyGreyWolf said:
Really?

As a man, I can't say a bisexual woman would necessarily be any less attractive than a straight woman. A lesbian woman wouldn't necessarily be any less attractive either.
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I can see why someone would be wary at seriously dating a bisexual, viewing them as a bigger flight risk than someone attracted to their gender only. Purely at seeing someone across the street, yeah sure.
 
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NotTheGuyYouKill

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Valhelm said:
I've actually never met a bisexual guy. One acquaintance of mine is interested in men and women, but he identifies as pansexual.

A good friend told everybody in high school that he was bi, but recently confided to me that he never actually liked guys, and just pretended so he'd seem "unique and progressive".
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Every hole's a goal.

I've met somebody who claimed to be bisexual, but she just did it to seem edgy.
 
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Vermillion

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LonelyGreyWolf said:
Really?

As a man, I can't say a bisexual woman would necessarily be any less attractive than a straight woman. A lesbian woman wouldn't necessarily be any less attractive either.
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Oh, no - the same thing doesn't apply to bisexual women. These are attitudes targeted only at bisexual men.
 
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ronito

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OK all, that's all for this year. I'll close up the confessional, if you send anything after now it'll go next year.

As to the survey, it only got 80ish responses. So I didn't do too much of a job interpreting it. Here's some basic info (forgive the charting, had to use google's crappy charting, as there just wasn't enough data to port it to something better).


Gender/Orientation Break out:
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Female Interest Scores:
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Male Interest Scores:
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Combined Interest Scores:
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Thanks for the confessions!
 
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Uncle

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Surprisingly many of those heterosexual females want to have a strap-on used on them. Especially when compared to bi-sexuals!
 
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ronito

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A few last data points before we close this.

Demographic/Age stuff
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Percent committed
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And the most important chart ever
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Roubjon

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Thanks for the thread ronito, it was great. Contributing was fun too, lol.

Also those stats are pretty neat. I Didn't realize the discrepancy between males and females watching porn was so large.
 
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ronito

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Samarecarm said:
What are the "interest scores"? Does an interest score of 25 mean 25% of people, 25 out of 100, what...?
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sorry I should explain.

Its a basic interest score many marketing firms use.

Have done and would again - 100 pts
Actively want to but haven't - 75 pts
Would under right circumstances - 50 pts
Have done and wouldn't again - 25 pts (because you were interested once)
No interest - 0 pts

Then do an average of the points and you get an overall feel of people's interest or lack thereof

But again the numbers of responses was so low that these are mainly junk stats.
 
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