okay so all you dime store fuckbaskets here's the thing
if someone doesn't consent to something, it's rape
if you think something might be rape, it is rape
if you have to ask yourself "is there the slightest hint they'd say no to what i'm about to do", it's rape
just because a woman has agreed to have sex that night does not mean you're free to whatever you want sexually to her "because she wanted sex already".
if a someone says they want sex but you need to use a condom, use the condom. sneaking the condom off is rape. they consented to condomed sex, not condomless sex.
if someone says they only want to make out, and you jam your fingers into their genitals because you want to "take control", you just raped them.
if a husband makes a wife have sex with them simply because they are married, it's rape. agreeing to marriage isn't agreeing to unlimited sex access. in fact, it has a specific term for the glade sniffers out there, marital rape.
okay, if you're gonna be pulling out edge cases, so here we go
if she says she wants a threesome with you and another guy, and you sneak in another guy into the room and have him have sex with her because you think it's funny, it's rape. Just because they consented to sex, consented to sex with multiple men, they did not consent to having sex with whatever multiple men you decided to change it to without their knowledge
so repeating again, get it through your heads
read it five times
sex and/or intimate touching without consent is rape.
consenting to sex and then having your consented-to-parameters changed is rape.
people can consent to narrowed parameters for how they want to do sex. Just because someone likes orgasms does not mean they will accept any orgasm forced upon them.
you can also orgasm while being raped. it's not something you can control.
consent can be withdrawn at any moment, time, by anyone, for any reason, and if you continue past it's rape. if you're balls deep inside her and about to explode and she says she's done, you pull out. "i just need to finish real quick" and keeping going is rape. Because the consent was withdrawn. This happens even in long relationships. It doesn't matter how much food you've given, money given, how many years together, you are at no time ever for a single god damn tick tock of the motherfucking grandfather clock of universal time ever entitled to access to another person's body for any reason what so ever.
no, "am i a rapist then if the condom broke by accident" replies,because that's not rape, that's an accident.
"do i need to ask her for consent for every little thing" affirmative consent is an awesome thing to practice. If you feel it's a burden to obtain consent, then stop having sex with other people because you're a god damn creep. Consent isn't always verbal.if you're heavy kissing in bed and you go "you want some of this d, babe?" and they nod yes, congrats you obtained consent. it isn't a goddamn field trip permission slip process like some people think it is. if you don't ask because you think they might say no or don't want to do it, you are on the highway to being a rapist, you chucklefuckasaurus rex.
women are already in a unique position of having to trust someone on average twice their size and strength when they want sex at a really vulnerable moment both physically and emotionally. and statistically,
hold on for it
most rape is committed by someone they know or love
so people trying to barter maybe-rape chips back and forth like "i dunno about that.. realllly" becaue they're more concerned about getting their fucking penis wet and badge unlocked that they forget there is a PERSON on the other side of this, get fucking consent. don't be a creep. don't be a rapist. all you have to do to not rape is simply not rape someone. it's not even complicated.
and goddamn every single time with the replies it's "but what if this woman does this" like you're trying to both sides this shit,
1) YOU NEVER SHOW UP IN MALE VICTIMS OF RAPES THREADS. IN FACT HALF THE TIME YOU POST THE FUCKING "NIIIIICE" JPG. There are male survivors on GAF that have literally given up participating in those threads because it's a tidal wave of "niiiice" and "he got some". Seriously. You. Never. Show. Up. When. Other. Men. Actually. Need . Supporters. It's all about "those fucking women and their rape card". Seriously just search for threads with rape in the title, ones about women will have a bunch of dudes running in to say women can rape too and pretty much just that line, while male ones are niiiice.jpg, what did she look like, welliwouldhadsexwithmyteachertoo, etc etc you actually almost NEVER EVER see those "women can be rapists too" posts in there. huh. strange. interesting.
if people spent half the time they do trying to categorize rapiness on their rapescale on obtaining consent, the world would be a much better place for everyone. Nobody would lose! NOBODY! LITERALLY NO DOWNSIDES TO OBTAINING AFFIRMATIVE CONSENT, EVER
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