I'm done now. That's it. I'm going to try cold turkey. I know it's going to be hard, but I have to draw the line. I was really sick the other day and I was still at it instead of resting properly. This probably worsened my recovery. Wish me luck on the 3 months thing, but I'm hoping for permanence.
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Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction
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Ultimadrago
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Preach, Brother Suairyu!
mclaren777
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She probably has a long history of sexual abuse/assault just like most of the other girls in the industry, and by any estimation, that hardly makes porn a force for good in this world.
I dont think I could abstain from sex or masturbation. Keeps me regular. Also takes the edge off. I doubt I could sleep otherwise. I've actually always had trouble sleeping and I've found sex or "relieving myself" to be better than any sleeping pill.
This whole thread reminds me of Uncle Andy from Weeds...
This whole thread reminds me of Uncle Andy from Weeds...
Mammoth Jones
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Never had a problem performing despite watching copious amount of "entertainment". I find it enhances our relationship on occasion, not hurt it.
Sweeping, reductive statement that belittles both porn stars and victims of abuse!
Fabulous!
Enjoying porn with a partner is one of life's great pleasures, truth. This entire voyage isn't about "porn makes your performance suck", however, but "porn addiction makes your performance suck".
I noticed when I first started having sex (this year) that it would take me forever to reach orgasm. On one occasion I never did cross the finish line but I feel that was due to me overthinking it at one point. Needless to say I was very desensitized. Getting head just felt wet, topping didn't do too much for me and it took a lot of distraction for me to cum.
When these problems arose I tried to masturbate without porn. First couple of times I would go for an hour with no success and had to turn on a video to get off. Eventually I just abstained from everything for about 2 weeks. Not a lot of time, but it was enough to were I was able to relieve myself on feeling alone AND it ramped up sensations during sex tenfold.
I kinda want to go without for around 30 days or so max, but lately i've been so horny I'm not sure I could last haha.
When these problems arose I tried to masturbate without porn. First couple of times I would go for an hour with no success and had to turn on a video to get off. Eventually I just abstained from everything for about 2 weeks. Not a lot of time, but it was enough to were I was able to relieve myself on feeling alone AND it ramped up sensations during sex tenfold.
I kinda want to go without for around 30 days or so max, but lately i've been so horny I'm not sure I could last haha.
JasoNsider
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I will say this - i sometimes think something is wrong with me until the (kind of) annual GAF contest comes around. 3-4 weeks into the contest and I swear I have primal animal-like urges. Just stop all of it for at least a week or two and your brain and body go into animal mode.
When is the next GAF contest, btw? Costanza still around to MC that thing?
When is the next GAF contest, btw? Costanza still around to MC that thing?
Amakusa
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I don't watch as much porn as my friends would think, I've worked for two porn story's in my time. Fairvilla Megastore in Orlando FL and Starship in Columbus (store out of Atlanta GA).
I'm also 32 years old and my sex life is still pretty much the same, my new girlfriend is pleased and so am I. Keep in mind I had to watch A LOT of porn while working for Fairvilla. We could rent 2 porn's a night as research for when customer's ask how is this porn, how is that porn, ect ect. We got paid 2% on DVD's sold and 3% on toy's sold. So I watched A LOT of porn.
I believe this would really effect people who beat off 2-3 times a day due to being overly horny. You sex drive doesn't grow with age for us guys keep in mind, so those peeps who self pleasure themselves a number of a times a day may develop sexual disorders over time. It might lead to them needing kinkier and sometimes nastier forms of porn in order to get them off.
A word of advise, when you have a Girlfriend, DO NOT TOUCH YOURSELF. Save it for the nights you get to have sex, you build greater Stamina if you know how to control it. What also helps is masturbating a few hours before hand.
I pass my wisdom to those who don't know
sebajuNujabes
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Google doesn't let us have those contests any more. And come to think of it I remember reading somewhere that after a week of no fap or sex, testosterone skyrockets.
Edit: found it
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/12659241?dopt=Abstract
TAJ
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.
It might not matter. I've been trying for about three months now, and I haven't made it to six days. Just getting to two days is still an incredible struggle.
stop watching porn.
wondermega
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This thread is amazing for many reasons. Both hilarious, stupefying, and depressing. Hey, it got me delete a folder ("a" folder).
I am definitely in a bad place with my relationship and internet porn has definitely contributed to it. Being out of work/ stuck at home alone a lot definitely does not do much to facilitate things in a positive way. I've thought of trying something like this many times before, but honestly reading through this thread has really motivated me to getup off of my ass.
I've been in a "fatty contest" for the past 6 weeks as well trying to dramatically change my eating habits. I am probably asking for real trouble by doubling up, but screw it, wish me luck.
I am definitely in a bad place with my relationship and internet porn has definitely contributed to it. Being out of work/ stuck at home alone a lot definitely does not do much to facilitate things in a positive way. I've thought of trying something like this many times before, but honestly reading through this thread has really motivated me to getup off of my ass.
I've been in a "fatty contest" for the past 6 weeks as well trying to dramatically change my eating habits. I am probably asking for real trouble by doubling up, but screw it, wish me luck.
Etrian Oddity
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My knee-jerk reaction to this post was to say you can't blame a guy for fapping so much if he has bad luck with women; but reading further, I wonder how much merit your argument has. I doubt you're going to find a girlfriend all of a sudden because you stopped watching porn/jacking it to porn...but you've made me think.
I think I'm going to give this 30-day abstinence a try. I wonder how it'll affect my interactions with the opposite sex (Dating-age knows my story).
Always-honest
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If by real woman you mean the "amateurs"/ "real wives", etc, then i agree. Pornstars just don't get me excited in any way...
No, but maybe you can masturbate without porn.
One idea that might be silly is don't watch porn, but read porn. Okay, it's still porn, but your imagination will do a lot of great things for you.
Well the day came and so did I.
Was nearing thirteen weeks since my last release and today I met up with a friend of mine.
Summary:
1st round - She rode me and I came at around the ten minute mark. Oh lawd there were buckets and accidental spilling.
2nd round - Missionary leading to doggy. Came at around the ten minute mark.
3rd round - Missionary leading to doggy to riding to handjob to nothing. I could not come and I literary felt nothing after a while (we gave up at the 25-30 minute mark). Also my dick is swollen from half-way out! It looks like it's choking on an apple, wtf.
Was nearing thirteen weeks since my last release and today I met up with a friend of mine.
Summary:
1st round - She rode me and I came at around the ten minute mark. Oh lawd there were buckets and accidental spilling.
2nd round - Missionary leading to doggy. Came at around the ten minute mark.
3rd round - Missionary leading to doggy to riding to handjob to nothing. I could not come and I literary felt nothing after a while (we gave up at the 25-30 minute mark). Also my dick is swollen from half-way out! It looks like it's choking on an apple, wtf.
Jerk it with gold bond lotion, 2 birds one stone...
Yeah, ok, I have this.
Yesterday I had a 2 1/2 hour session of love making with my new girlfriend and I couldn't get off. At all. Most of the time I was even half limp.
She didn't complain cause I pleased her in other ways and I had a ton of fun too, but yeah, porn is gonna go now. Not that I'll need it much anyway now that I'm in a relationship again.
Yesterday I had a 2 1/2 hour session of love making with my new girlfriend and I couldn't get off. At all. Most of the time I was even half limp.
She didn't complain cause I pleased her in other ways and I had a ton of fun too, but yeah, porn is gonna go now. Not that I'll need it much anyway now that I'm in a relationship again.
i still watch porn and masturbate everyday between the times that i see my girlfriend... maybe i have a problem :S
I'm Ok. Had a few hours nap and the swelling is practically gone now, there is full sensation again. I think the reason was because of it slipping out once during riding in the 3rd session and she landed back on it with full force and 'broke'/bent it, sensation dropped after that.
Thanks Suairyu for posting your own experiences in this thread in detail. You pioneered the procedure on this forum and I felt much safer going through this following your guidance. If I had encountered some of the scary stages like the 'dead dick period' I would have panicked a bit if I didn't already had your words to back up on. I thank you, truly. You have my sword.
Well I'm not gonna ban porn from my life, but I'm definitely not using it as a substitute for physical contact anymore
Lord Ghirahim
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Pop On Arrival
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lol, I probably say this to myself everytime I cum to something kinda fucked up. I always end up jerking off to even more fucked up shit the next day.
But yeah i've got issues, I think. I've seriously passed up on getting laid a lot recently because I've already jerked off two times the day that some old friend contacts me to fool around.
Congrats!
I've just recently started this - though I have to confess I've only cut out the porn. Coming up to a full week and I've had to do masturbate three times now. The first two were likely just from habit at the start but I've completely forgotten about how hard mornings can get when you abstain for awhile.
I was originally just going to do two weeks, but we'll see if I can make the full thirteen. I've found after the first couple of days the desire to look at porn quickly diminishes. So that should be working in my favour.
These comments are in direct conflict with your GAF name bro.
In this 90+ day period I have been working out 5-6 times a week. I have set up a personal business in two different countries and also migrated. I also refurbished(?) and sold my previous home. Basically I got heaps of shit done, lots of energy to spare. I don't regret one second having gone through this.
yep, that's what I need to do now. My business has been stagnating lately and I need to rehaul some things to keep it going. Also I don't want to be in a relatioship for a while because the last one was dull and infuriating. + I feel like I must start something big and I have a very blurry image in my head of what it is going to be but I need some serious kick in the ass to pull it off.
I'll try this. I hope I won't go crazy.
That shit is always painful. Potential boner killer. Not straight after a 90 day dry spell though, eh?
My pleasure, bro. I resisted posting about my experiences for so long but I realised that everyone makes positive steps for improvement when they can see other success stories. I'm so happy you managed to do it yourself!
Now do your best not to fall back into the old ways.
Of course it does. It's visual stimulation. Why would it being of your partner make any difference?
I think a lot of people need to look at the why rather than the specifics of the how. It's a lot easier to understand than trying to work up a lot of ways you can game the imaginary system.
If you're going to masturbate, try to do it without fantasy, you know? Just focus on how good it feels to touch yourself rather than the various porno fantasies that are stored in your head.
This shit right here. This is about life improvement!
Still kept hard the following ten-fifteen minutes (were I was given a furious hand-job). I had no sensation though, could slam it against a brick wall and wouldn't feel it.
TheOnlyMook
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Haven't really watched internet porn in awhile, but I do check out my lady's noodie pics and vids she has sent me over the years quite often (we currently live in separate states, otherwise I'd just be banging her instead). Last time I came down to visit, I couldn't keep it up after 45 minutes or so, but we took a break and then proceeded to finish the deed a bit later on. I do masturbate quite often, maybe taking a break from masturbating and porn viewing will help. This was really the first time I ever had performance issues, so I felt pretty weird afterwards.
Is quitting cold turkey the best option, or is there a better method like just cutting back at first? I'm wondering if I should approach this like I approached quitting smoking.
Is quitting cold turkey the best option, or is there a better method like just cutting back at first? I'm wondering if I should approach this like I approached quitting smoking.
Deified Data
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This thread always makes me nervous when it pops up. At this point in my life, viewing porn just makes me want my partner all the more, but I wonder if I should just stop just in case.
I think the most powerful force influencing people to masturbate, porn or no, is sheer boredom.
I think the most powerful force influencing people to masturbate, porn or no, is sheer boredom.
phosphor112
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I work over 40 hours a week
I'm designing a game
I do light exercises (slightly overweight)
but...I get erections constantly... I have a healthy sexual life with my wife and when she can't ... erm.. provide... I take care of things with porn... which is often... like nearly every day. My libido has never been more powerful... Of course I much prefer my wife over porn... but am I the odd man out? Lol.
This 100%. Porn has never been a substitute for my wife. It's just a supplement for when I've already had sex with her 3 times in one day and she needs a rest.
Like I said, my libido is powerful...
I'm designing a game
I do light exercises (slightly overweight)
but...I get erections constantly... I have a healthy sexual life with my wife and when she can't ... erm.. provide... I take care of things with porn... which is often... like nearly every day. My libido has never been more powerful... Of course I much prefer my wife over porn... but am I the odd man out? Lol.
This 100%. Porn has never been a substitute for my wife. It's just a supplement for when I've already had sex with her 3 times in one day and she needs a rest.
Like I said, my libido is powerful...
Mammoth Jones
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This. Replace game with apps.
Was a massive part of the problem for me. Day off, nothing to do? May as well spank it five times to porn, each time having to reach for progressively nastier and nastier stuff.
Bit of a thread revivial..
So after two false starts where I got to around six weeks before giving up, Im two days away from eleven weeks and Im feeling pretty good about myself. That said Im going a bit stir crazy and Ive got way too much energy but its forcing me to go and keep myself occupied which is a good alternative to sitting on the couch.
At this point in time, I have little interest in porn, I really dont care if I never watch anymore porn ever again, its a pretty poor substitute for the real deal anyway.
Ive also noticed lately that I really dont care as much what people especially the opposite sex think of me, I just dont care anywhere as much anymore, Im finding more happiness in just being myself and not giving a fuck what those around me think of that. Anyone else found this?
So after two false starts where I got to around six weeks before giving up, Im two days away from eleven weeks and Im feeling pretty good about myself. That said Im going a bit stir crazy and Ive got way too much energy but its forcing me to go and keep myself occupied which is a good alternative to sitting on the couch.
At this point in time, I have little interest in porn, I really dont care if I never watch anymore porn ever again, its a pretty poor substitute for the real deal anyway.
Ive also noticed lately that I really dont care as much what people especially the opposite sex think of me, I just dont care anywhere as much anymore, Im finding more happiness in just being myself and not giving a fuck what those around me think of that. Anyone else found this?
crimsondynamics
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Self acceptance is a wonderful thing.
And as for the pent-up energy, try Insanity in the morning, sports during lunch and P90X in the evening. It's worked wonders for me haha!
Fuck I had sex for the first time this week and although I drunk a fair amount that night I was sobering up and I still was unable to get a great erection. I'm still hoping it was just the alcohol but I think I'm gonna try to simulate the real thing a bit more when masturbating. I wasn't very anxious during the whole thing (because of the alcohol partly) so I feel like that isn't it although this was my first time... Creepy how this just got bumped after my recent experience. WHAT ARE YOU TRYING TO TELL ME GAF? THAT I'M NOT MAN ENOUGH?
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