Messofanego
Banned
The Paedophile Next Door Channel 4 UK documentary, 25th Nov 2014 (use Hotspot Shield or other means to watch it). Worth watching to get insight in a more comprehensive way than Louis Theroux' piece.
"At the moment, we only engage with pedophiles after they've become offenders. But if talking works, wouldn't it be better to do it before pedophiles act on their desires? Because that would mean fewer victims."
Eddie:
"People won't listen. People will automatically assume that you will at some point abuse a child and there's no way of helping you."
Investigative journalist, Tim Tate:
"We have to talk to pedophiles. We have to listen to pedophiles. However unpleasant what they may have to say is. We have to listen and we have to understand."
We've been going about dealing with pedophiles in completely the wrong way for so long. Demonising pedophiles, equating "pedophile" with "child rapist" or waiting in the wings to become one, forcing them out of our neighbourhoods where they're transferred to places out of sight and mind, driving them underground, has done little to reduce prevalance of child sex abuse cases. That stress on pedophiles has only increased the chances of abuse and them acting out on their desires. Majority of child sex abuse happens in the family, which is harder to report. Why don't we reach out to pedophiles for them to seek care without risk of incarceration?
Look, let's get this straight. Once a pedophile has abused a child, they deserve all the scorn. You can't get consent from children no matter how much someone tries to argue for it like PIE (Paedophile Information Exchange) did in the 70s-80s (mentioned at 18:45 of docu), because they're just not mentally developed enough. But if you haven't acted on your pedophilic desires, do you still deserve violent hatred for an innate sexual desire?
As the documentary shows, there are so-called virtuous pedophiles who are law-abiding citizens that haven't acted out. One of them, Eddie, talks openly about it with his face visible which is rare for a pedophile.
At the end of the docu, Eddie meets Steve, a man who was sexually abused at boarding school and they discuss some things in an adult manner. And then he writes a letter to his mom about this.
There are a lot of male pedophiles who also have attraction to women hence why some get married. Why force pedophiles to cope with their problems all alone and have no ability to come forward to seek help? There should be nothing wrong with a support network for them if it's properly regulated to reduce further abuse. It's because pedophiles had to go underground that organisations like PIE developed for a community to develop that shared child sex abuse tapes and locations of targets. If they can come out in the open, they're less likely to resort to such dangerous circles (can see parallels to hate groups or cults). They're not putting children at risk by seeking care. They're more likely to reduce chances of that ever happening.
Germany has been employing radical strategies like (38:18 of docu) with the Prevention Project Dunkelfeld, and they have garnered enough attention that other organisations like NSPCC (National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children) in UK are hoping to adopt similar approaches. A FAQ of their program (CBT, sex therapy, medication, empathy exercises, making sure they don't resort to watching child pornography).
Don't Offend ad: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ck3uOCyWB50
Do you like children in ways you shouldn't? ad: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vSvrDjOh2dc
We all want to prevent child sex abuse, so rather than provoking pedophiles to hide and become universal punching bags leading to less people brought forward, we have to accept pedophilia is a reality and work to help those people through this disorder. We might not be able to fix a pedophile's issues, but realising certain elements in the first place is a step forward to prevent criminal actions. Or it'll begin all anew in decades to come as revolving media retrospectives.
"If we don't, then, in another 30 years, we'll be hearing from the generations of victims that were abused today - that's our children - and asking ourselves, why didn't we do more to help them at the time?"