It's important to repeat, this seems to be innate and their attraction starts at the same time as any other sexual awakening. Pedophiles never wanted to be pedophiles.
My thoughts on pedophiles changed after that amazing NPR report. We should be sad for them and offer as many help avenues as possible instead of pre-judging and condemning them.
There was something on NPR about this maybe a few years ago. I guy running a support group for non offending pedophiles. Really interesting read.
Edit: it was April of last year
http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/522/tarred-and-feathered?act=2
Thanks for this.
Mandated reporting revolutionized the way child abuse is handled in the U.S. and has brought many incidents to light, but it can be problematic for young men like Adam who havent abused children. The civil and criminal liabilities facing those who fail to report someone who goes on to molest a kid, combined with the fact that it need only be based on suspicion and not probable cause, means a report could be triggered when well-intentioned individuals reach out for help. The overwhelming number of minor-attracted men I spoke with said this was too much of a deterrent. Which also makes it harder to learn more about them.
Mandated reporting means we get to hear less from pedophiles and seems a flawed law since it doesn't require proof of abuse but more just suspicion.
Michael Seto, director of the University of Ottawas Forensic Research Unit and associate editor of Sexual Abuse: A Journal of Research and Treatment, believes that the prevalence of male pedophiles sits closer to 1 percent of the population, which would equate to at least 1.2 million in the U.S. alone. (Female pedophiles exist, but in smaller numbers.)
If the population of pedophiles is that high, something preventative should be done about it. These support programs should exist. As that longform article reports, focusing on young pedophiles especially with non-exclusive minor attraction could yield important research.
Some commenters were working through their own abuse history, and couldnt stomach the idea of helping a self-confessed pedophile. But two female sexual-abuse survivors eventually came forward, convinced that he was of an age where a change could still be made. One of them, Adam believes, had suffered particularly brutal abuse, abuse that was filmed, and their conversations about the evils of child pornography would often trigger her past traumas. She cared about me, he said. But she made it known that she felt I deserved whatever the law decided to do with me if I were caught for the CP [child porn].
It's interesting how victims are more likely willing to talk it out with pedophiles instead of having no remorse which is the default for the general public.
Adam told me that sometimes theyd tease each other about peer-aged crushes, offering relationship advice and egging each other on to ask people out. I talked to Mike a fair bit about dating. Partly about the guy I dated for a little while and partly about this girl in his class who he wanted to ask out. Hed find every excuse in the world not to do so, and Id be supportive by trying to push him to take the leap, he said. We did talk about everyday things that most everyone else in the world has to deal with.
For pedophiles with non-exclusive attraction, that seems like the best option if they can be attracted to people of appropriate ages and help each other in regular dating.
When I told Professor Letourneau that I was in contact with a group of young, non-offending pedophiles, she seemed taken aback. In her 25 years in the field shes had plenty of experience with juveniles who have abused children, but she had never met a pedophile who hasnt. It seemed strange to me considering her line of work, but she explained that, because such pedophiles rarely come forward, researchers have no way of accessing this particular segment of the population. I dont know anyone else who has made it a goal to talk to young people who have an attraction to younger people, she said.
I asked her if shed like to be put in touch with the group, and she jumped at the chance. After speaking with four of them over the phone, which she described as kind of a life-altering experience, she flew out and met Adam face-to-face, and has been speaking with him regularly ever since. She said they have taught her things about pedophilia that she didnt know before, and its giving her a clearer understanding of how these attractions develop. Shes now using this information to modify her proposed treatment plan and has brought Adam on as an official advisor.
Im not a teenage boy attracted to children, and so I dont know what that experience is like, she said. They all describe years of just agonizing self-hatred, agonizing fear of being detected as having sexual interest in children, viewing themselves as monsters, being afraid to look for help
If they could have just turned to someone to talk about this, a professional whos going to treat this objectively and see them as a person of worth, whos going to know that theyre not bad kids, that theyre good kids but they have this aspect of them that they really need help controlling. Thats what theyre looking for and thats what I hope we can provide.
Adams input has helped expedite the pilot program shes putting together, aimed at pedophiles aged 17 and under. If successful, it will provide the foundation for a comprehensive preventive model, which she hopes to eventually expand to include pedophiles of all ages, that will be rolled out online and to therapists across the country. Though its in the early planning stages, Letourneau imagines it will involve disabusing them of the notion that sex with children is ever appropriate, improving self-esteem in light of a situation that might not change, and strengthening social interaction with their peers. In many ways, its an extension of what Adam has been doing with his group for the past three years.
I hope that researcher Letourneau's preventive project gets through.