This is what I mean when I say you treat sexuality like virginity. If you have sex once, you're no longer a virgin. Makes sense. I wouldn't argue that. But having gay sex once means you're no longer straight? I don't see why someone should be disqualified from being able to be called straight if they experimented once. If someone has sex with a woman hundreds of times and had gay sex once, they must identify as bisexual? Even if they didn't like the experience?
Only because you seem offended by someone no adhering to the same definitions as you. And because your liberal application of the term "bisexual" to any and every person who has ever experimented actually makes the term useless to actual bisexuals. You say that people should identify as bisexual if they had gay sex at least once.
I tried smoking once because I wanted to try it at least once to know what it's like. Decided I didn't like it and will not be smoking. Have no desire to smoke and haven't developed any kind of addiction. If I date someone who staunchly does not like smokers, do I have to put "smoker" on my dating profile because I've done it once?
yeah to your post paragraph because bisexuality is defined as having sexual attraction to both genders which is something heterosexuals don't do. they're not gay, but they're not straight. they may personally identify as straight, but they technically are not since they feel sexually attracted to both sexes.
smoking is entirely different than sexuality. let's not equate the two. we both know deciding to have sex with the same gender is entirely different from smoking.
how many people of the same sex does a person have to have sex with before they're gay? in your eyes a person can have sex with a ratio of people of both genders but lean towards one and say they're straight/gay?
I disagree, I think you're being too presumptuous on other peoples motives and desires. Sexuality and sexual behaviour is complex.
For example, a person might be extremely sexually frustrated and experiments in a same-sex encounter that presents itself. During the sex, the person doesn't enjoy it all or find the partner attractive. They engaged in the activity out of impulse rather than a want or desire for same-sex, or the want or desire for any sexual release at that point eclipsed their usual orientation.
and you would say that person is straight when straight people would rather masturbate to porn instead of seeking out a partner of the same sex to mess around with?
that person sounds like a sexually promiscuity bisexual person, not a sexually frustrated heterosexual male. you can have a lack of sexual attraction/enjoyment without jumping to fucking a member of the same sex. people do that all the time - gay and straight and everything in between
there are two ends/extremes to a spectrum; if we try to change the definition of those two ends then we wouldn't have a spectrum. it's ridiculous to destroy that because there are way too many people that don't engage the opposite sex for us to not say they're completely straight just like there are too many people that only engage the same sex for us to destroy the other end.
I, personally, think you guys are way too offended and upset over nothing. We can continue this discussion as long as you want but you're not going to persuade me and I don't think there's anything wrong with having two well defined ends at both sides with a really flexible line inbetween there for people. I'm not asking people to label themselves or am I judging. We just disagree with aspects of a spectrum and sexuality; apparently, you guys think it's completely 100% flexible while I believe there are two defining points and there's nothing wrong with either opinion because we're still for the same thing although we disagree on the same issue.
