That depends on the something. What if I throw you a kiss or a paper plane with a heart drawn on it? I'll tell you what I consider violence, a form of violence is to neglect and ignore your family's needs. So, he was egging her on to reach that tipping point by doing that to play a video game and she reacted in, yes, a type of violence, one however that did not warrant her getting arrested with common assault as he did. In the end, he brought it on himself. He was being a dipshit, she was trying to take care of a family, he preferred to play video games. You can claim that a pregnant woman should behave like a robot and not have emotions and outbursts when mistreated to this degree, I can claim she was justified in her outburst which was in fact rather mild because family is above pretty much everything, never mind a dumb video game you already play for 8 hours a day, and in her case sitting and caring for 2 children and one in her womb she upheld that standard and he failed to do the same. I do not see her crossing a line in the video, she did not actually harm him in any way, he retaliated to her justified outburst that he caused with actually hitting her, crossing a ton of lines at once. Murder and rape are also violence, I won't equate them to anything seen here by generalizing the dictionary word to ask a dumb question. If the roles were reversed, the same would apply to the man. His mild outburst would be justified over her shitty behavior, her hitting him in return would just make her position worse. There's your equality. But the roles were not reversed, it is what it is, a sad excuse of a man hitting his pregnant wife because she dared demand attention, not for her selfish lazy ass self, but for the family she worked so hard for (kids don't grow themselves), over a video game.