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[Vermillion]

No I'm in college, but you still get the "fratbros" and what have you. It's just easier to avoid them.

And I know that, but I can't force myself out. Like I was at a practice for a play I have coming up, and I was just making comments to my friends in a pretty friendly open manner and I must've hit a nerve or something because they just on edge. I was pretty taken aback and just buried my head in homework when I was off-stage. I'm horrible at reading people and I feel like if I that's gonna happen so often if I'm just out there.

But like I said, I feel that's lie. The way I act is I approach it as a "controlled lie." You believe me on stage because I'm a good liar. Like I said before, I don't want to act to a certain way to build a friendship or relationship with someone like that. I don't want that built on a fallacy.

Mm. Never really had problems with frats, but I know a few people in them, so.

No, it's not necessarily lying when you're attempting to build confidence. It's how you portray yourself, and every one attempts to change it at some point or another. The only difference between you and other people is that you can show results much quicker, and the more you do that is the more it becomes you, because that is who you want to be.

 

[FelixOrion]

Dude, I think you might need a shrink. You make it sound like you'll develop a split-personality/persona that'll steal your life bit-by-bit as you sleep.

Haha, it's not that bad. It's just way I approach it. I can turn it off and on at will, that hasn't changed, but there's no middle ground with between real me and the character I'm playing.

It's hard to explain. Maybe I should see one, just get my head sorted out.

 

[Vermillion]

I can see your point. It's something I need to work on. And I mean I try that to an extent, but I don't want that confidence to turn into a persona, because once that confidence isn't me being a little more confident, then it become another person that's not me. If I really consciously try to fake being extra confident, I'm gonna start think about the encounters and what to say from behind that mask and that character, and that's not me anymore.

If I were to tell you to be yourself, exactly yourself but more confident, would that be hard to do? You'd still be yourself, and even if this "persona" takes over, not only is it what you're aiming for, but it's what everyone wants to do. Do you think that everyone stays the same throughout life? They want to change, develop and grow, and sometimes they end up drastically different. It's not a bad thing.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

If I were to tell you to be yourself, exactly yourself but more confident, would that be hard to do? You'd still be yourself, and even if this "persona" takes over, not only is it what you're aiming for, but it's what everyone wants to do. Do you think that everyone stays the same throughout life? They want to change, develop and grow, and sometimes they end up drastically different. It's not a bad thing.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

 

[FelixOrion]

Mm. Never really had problems with frats, but I know a few people in them, so.

No, it's not necessarily lying when you're attempting to build confidence. It's how you portray yourself, and every one attempts to change it at some point or another. The only difference between you and other people is that you can show results much quicker, and the more you do that is the more it becomes you, because that is who you want to be.

If I were to tell you to be yourself, exactly yourself but more confident, would that be hard to do? You'd still be yourself, and even if this "persona" takes over, not only is it what you're aiming for, but it's what everyone wants to do. Do you think that everyone stays the same throughout life? They want to change, develop and grow, and sometimes they end up drastically different. It's not a bad thing.

Again I get the point, but it's just hard in my head to be "Confident me" without it just becoming a character. I don't know. It's just hard for me to process.

ALSO: I have a test I need to study like mad for, so fuck. I'm gonna pop off and deal with it.

 

[Danj]

Yep. Though, realistically, why would you worry about dating if you can't afford it? I don't wanna sound mean, but take care of yourself first.

If you have a job but you're still broke I guess that's out too then?

Guess I need to wait 7 years until my new debt consolidation loan is paid off then.

 

[Vermillion]

Again I get the point, but it's just hard in my head to be "Confident me" without it just becoming a character. I don't know. It's just hard for me to process.

ALSO: I have a test I need to study like mad for, so fuck. I'm gonna pop off and deal with it.

Then make a character of it. But this character is you plus confidence. Make it a character, but know that it's a change you wish to make. Grow more and more comfortable with it. Make the world your stage. Then, once the character and you are indistinguishable, you will have succeeded. No one's saying not to be you. We're saying to be a better you.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

If you have a job but you're still broke I guess that's out too then?

Guess I need to wait 7 years until my new debt consolidation loan is paid off then.

Even if you're broke, why should that stop you from dating? Just be creative with your dates and what you and your person of interest do on them.

Then make a character of it. But this character is you plus confidence. Make it a character, but know that it's a change you wish to make. Grow more and more comfortable with it. make the world your stage. Then, once the character and you are indistinguishable, you will have succeeded. No one's saying not to be you. We're saying to be a better you.

 

[HarryHengst]

Skinny as a post and unable to alter it, to the best of my attempts.

Come over to the fitness thread for help. Its seriously bullshit that you cant alter your body, you simply havent tried hard enough. Also, more muscles makes a man more confident (i know, i used to be skinny as fuck).

 

[FelixOrion]

Then make a character of it. But this character is you plus confidence. Make it a character, but know that it's a change you wish to make. Grow more and more comfortable with it. Make the world your stage. Then, once the character and you are indistinguishable, you will have succeeded. No one's saying not to be you. We're saying to be a better you.

...ffs. Yeah. You're right. Might as well try.

Come over to the fitness thread for help. Its seriously bullshit that you cant alter your body, you simply havent tried hard enough. Also, more muscles makes a man more confident (i know, i used to be skinny as fuck).

I'd love to but I simply just do not have the time to work out effectively.

 

[TheSchwab_7]

Come over to the fitness thread for help. Its seriously bullshit that you cant alter your body, you simply havent tried hard enough. Also, more muscles makes a man more confident (i know, i used to be skinny as fuck).

This. Working out and getting in shape is a great way to boost confidence. Anytime you see gains makes you feel that much better.

Also, the chick I went on the date with yesterday texted me today. I ignored it since I was busy all day, but later she sent me this wall o' text asking me what we were. I want nothing to do with her so to be nice I told her we'd just be friends. From my experience, when I tell a girl that or she tells me that, then I know we're probably not going to be friends, especially after one date.

So she responds with "that's awesome. I'll remember that and be sure to hold you to that " wtf no. Then she keeps on texting me random stuff. I don't even respond to any of it. Oh lord.

 

[Mr.City]

...ffs. Yeah. You're right. Might as well try.




I'd love to but I simply just do not have the time to work out effectively.

And how much time do you think that is? Will you continue to deprive yourself of things you desire with the use of illusions and assumptions?

 

[FelixOrion]

And how much time do you think that is? Will you continue to deprive yourself of things you desire with the use of illusions and assumptions?

Well when school and work and everything else keeps me busy basically from 8am to midnight or later, I'm pretty sure I don't have any fucking time to work out. Does that sound like an illusion?

 

[Vermillion]

Well when school and work and everything else keeps me busy basically from 8am to midnight or later, I'm pretty sure I don't have any fucking time to work out.

30 minutes a day.

And it's funny, because I was just having a conversation with my roommate: grades are not everything. School is not everything. You have to, HAVE TO set some time apart for you. Not enough people realize that. On this very forum, I've read two very different groups of people complain about what they regretted not doing in college.

One half said that they partied too much and should have studied more. The other half said that they studied too much, and they wish they'd partied more... that they'd gotten at least one "B" or "C" to realize it didn't matter all that much.

I'm not saying don't work hard. But if you don't take some time off for you, you're doing a gross disservice to yourself and you're wasting your life.

 

[FelixOrion]

30 minutes a day.

And it's funny, because I was just having a conversation with my roommate: grades are not everything. School is not everything. You have to, HAVE TO set some time apart for you. Not enough people realize that. On this very forum, I've read two very different groups of people complain about what they regretted not doing in college.

One half said that they partied too much and should have studied more. The other half said that they studied too much, and they wish they'd partied more... that they'd gotten at least one "B" or "C" to realize it didn't matter all that much.

I'm not saying don't work hard. But if you don't take some time off for you, you're doing a gross disservice to yourself and you're wasting your life.

I'm sorry, but no. Grades are a big thing to me. That's why I'm paying this school. I'm not paying to party. I'm at a science and engineering university. My GPA matters. Classes are hard. I've had mostly A's and a few B's and I'm probably gonna get my first C this semester in Differential Equations, and that's not out of slacking off.

EDIT: And 30 mins, okay. That's sounds great and all, but I have nearly no knowledge of how to workout, what good that 30 mins will do for me, and at the end of the day and studying and work, I'm just tired. Not the best time to want to work out. Sorry if I"m sounding like a dick, but DiffEQs is pissing me off and when I get tired, I get really...misanthropic, for lack of a better word.

 

[Vermillion]

I'm sorry, but no. Grades are a big thing to me. That's why I'm paying this school. I'm not paying to party. I'm at a science and engineering university. My GPA matters. Classes are hard. I've had mostly A's and a few B's and I'm probably gonna get my first C this semester in Differential Equations, and that's not out of slacking off.

You still don't understand life, then. That's honestly depressing to me.

If you literally cannot enjoy yourself, you're really just wasting your life. Do you have any idea what gets people the most jobs? Networking. Parties facilitate that. Experience. Clubs and other extracurricular activities help with that. if you want to be a workaholic who doesn't enjoy himself, fine, go ahead. But I've learned quite a few things from those who have gone before me, and I only hope that you can figure it out before it's too late.

I'm currently reading How to Argue and Win Every Time, and the lawyer in there constantly complains about those who can't feel, the lawyers who are as dull as sand. The profession is filled with those, so it's no wonder that so many lawyers, when asked, wish they picked another career. I honestly have an on/off relationship with the profession, because while I want to be one, it sounds dreadful. But when it all comes down to it, I am in this life to work on me. I can enjoy myself, or I can waste life learning nothing, becoming one of those dead lawyers. What the hell do YOU want to do with your life?

EDIT:
How can you want change in your life, yet not be willing to change yourself?

 

[Jzero]

You still don't understand life, then. That's honestly depressing to me.

If you literally cannot enjoy yourself, you're really just wasting your life. Do you have any idea what gets people the most jobs? Networking. Parties facilitate that. Experience. Clubs and other extracurricular activities help with that. if you want to be a workaholic who doesn't enjoy himself, fine, go ahead. But I've learned quite a few things from those who have gone before me, and I only hope that you can figure it out before it's too late.

I'm currently reading How to Argue and Win Every Time, and the lawyer in there constantly complains about those who can't feel, the lawyers who are as dull as sand. The profession is filled with those, so it's no wonder that so many lawyers, when asked, wish they picked another career. I honestly have an on/off relationship with the profession, because while I want to be one, it sounds dreadful. But when it all comes down to it, I am in this life to work on me. I can enjoy myself, or I can waste life learning nothing. What the hell do YOU want to do?

This is so freaken true. You may be way better than someone at something but if they know more people than you they are going to be more successful than you.

 

[Vermillion]

There's a fitness thread above that Harry kindly pointed you towards. They can help you figure out what to do.

And misanthropic? Again, I know that feeling. I try not to hate anyone, but people really, REALLY piss me off a good deal of the time. Random people. But that cannot get to me. If I can force myself to make the changes that make my life better, that's at least one thing to feel good about.

Also, many people who have graduated from college note that grades aren't nearly as important as you think they are. The people with connections will be better off than you. The people with ideas. The people with necessary social and life skills. You can textbook yourself to death, but you'll be no better off for it.

 

[Kalnos]

This is so freaken true. You may be way better than someone at something but if they know more people than you they are going to be more successful than you.

The engineering company I co-oped at hired 3 people, one of them would have not been hired had he not known them through someone else who had worked there. He had a sub 2.5 GPA and they trashed any resume that was less than a 3.0.

So I third this.

 

[FelixOrion]

You still don't understand life, then. That's honestly depressing to me.

If you literally cannot enjoy yourself, you're really just wasting your life. Do you have any idea what gets people the most jobs? Networking. Parties facilitate that. Experience. Clubs and other extracurricular activities help with that. if you want to be a workaholic who doesn't enjoy himself, fine, go ahead. But I've learned quite a few things from those who have gone before me, and I only hope that you can figure it out before it's too late.

I'm currently reading How to Argue and Win Every Time, and the lawyer in there constantly complains about those who can't feel, the lawyers who are as dull as sand. The profession is filled with those, so it's no wonder that so many lawyers, when asked, wish they picked another career. I honestly have an on/off relationship with the profession, because while I want to be one, it sounds dreadful. But when it all comes down to it, I am in this life to work on me. I can enjoy myself, or I can waste life learning nothing, becoming one of those dead lawyers. What the hell do YOU want to do with your life?

That's why I'm in a play. That's my my escape.

I'm a chemistry major and I'm working a commercial research lab right now as an intern. I love it. I know networking gets your foot in the door, but if I ever want to go into graduate studies as a Chemist, I need a good GPA. I'm not saying if I will or not (not sure if I can afford it). Even if I have a good network, a bad GPA as a chemist is a bad sign I don't want to be cocky or arrogant, but I'm too smart to just waste my talents slacking off.

What do I want to change? Lots. And I will. But something comes at the cost of my career or academic achievements, that I will not risk.

Sorry if I starting up a firestorm, that wasn't my intent. You wanted me to be less... shielded, well, here ya go.

 

[Vermillion]

That's why I'm in a play. That's my my escape.

I'm a chemistry major and I'm working a commercial research lab right now as an intern. I love it. I know networking gets your foot in the door, but if I ever want to go into graduate studies as a Chemist, I need a good GPA. I'm not saying if I will or not (not sure if I can afford it). Even if I have a good network, a bad GPA as a chemist is a bad sign I don't want to be cocky or arrogant, but I'm too smart to just waste my talents slacking off.

What do I want to change? Lots. And I will. But something comes at the cost of my career or academic achievements, that I will not risk.

Sorry if I starting up a firestorm, that wasn't my intent. You wanted me to be less... shielded, well, here ya go.

No one said that. But if those things are going to come at the cost of your life, you shouldn't risk that, either. For the record, good grades as a tool to achieve your dreams are indeed important, I don't deny that - I intend to step up my work in the coming years to get into a damn good law school. But not at the cost of growing and developing as a person.

If the party scene isn't your thing, that's perfectly fine. I think I'm going to cut down on the booze and leave weed behind, personally. But if you're ignoring partying because you feel like it's a waste of time, you should try going. I never said ignore academics. If you look at my previous example, it's about balance.

 

[FelixOrion]

No one said that. But if those things are going to come at the cost of your life, you shouldn't risk that, either. For the record, good grades as a tool to achieve your dreams are indeed important, I don't deny that - I intend to step up my work in the coming years to get into a damn good law school. But not at the cost of growing and developing as a person.

If the party scene isn't your thing, that's perfectly fine. I think I'm going to cut down on the booze and leave weed behind, personally. But if you're ignoring partying because you feel like it's a waste of time, you should try going. I never said ignore academics. If you look at my previous example, it's about balance.

Well, obviously. I don't do drugs, because (and if you feel differently, sorry) they're really fucking stupid. And yeah, I don't like the party scene, but for different reasons. The people who populate those parts and run those parts usually are the "fratbros" I try to avoid and not associate with. Also, alcoholism runs in my family, especially in my uncle, and I've been told I'm basically his "clone," so to speak, and looking back at that, it's pretty true. I'm not saying I'm gonna get addicted, but that's a huge risk for me especially.

Plus, it also sucks when I get left out of the loop about the parties going down, which is all the time, but whatever.

 

[Vermillion]

Well, obviously. I don't do drugs, because (and if you feel differently, sorry) they're really fucking stupid. And yeah, I don't like the party scene, but for different reasons. The people who populate those parts and run those parts usually are the "fratbros" I try to avoid and not associate with. Also, alcoholism runs in my family, especially in my uncle, and I've been told I'm basically his "clone," so to speak, and looking back at that, it's pretty true. I'm not saying I'm gonna get addicted, but that's a huge risk for me especially.

Plus, it also sucks when I get left out of the loop about the parties going down, which is all the time, but whatever.

1) No, I agree. Drugs are stupid. But you know why so many people do it? Social advantage. Lesson number one - don't give up who you are to fit in. You can find another way.

2) I honestly don't know of that, but I've met some pretty nice frat people. Again, my roommate is one, and I've met his friends. Yeah, he likes sex and shit, but he is disgusted by rape culture (he's a good guy). Lesson two - never generalize. Look, I could judge SO many people based off of race, gender, how they look, etc. And I'd be right. But there are enough outliers for me to know that many people are worth meeting. Why judge them? Besides that, if I look down on them without knowing them, am I really that much better than they are?

3) Nope, I've got that. I wouldn't want you drinking either.

4) I know that feeling too. But you've got to be open to going to a party and you've got to know the right people. Or, if your school has a few general party areas (mine does), you can do what some of my friends do (which I don't like) - take a friend or two and go looking for the noise. It'll probably cost you a small fee to get in, unless you're bringing one or more girls. I was with them when they did this before and met some frat guys at a satellite house. They invited me to the actual frat house (I didn't have the grades for joining, if you're wondering the rest of the story). The times we went there were some of the best parties we had.

Now, I look to my roommates or friends around the hall for parties. Learning where parties are could prove valuable network training. You create a network so if ever you're bored on a weekend, you could go out and meet some women. Just because you have to work hard doesn't mean you can't play hard.

 

[FelixOrion]

1) No, I agree. Drugs are stupid. But you know why so many people do it? Social advantage. Lesson number one - don't give up who you are to fit in. You can find another way.

2) I honestly don't know of that, but I've met some pretty nice frat people. Again, my roommate is one, and I've met his friends. Yeah, he likes sex and shit, but he is disgusted by rape culture (he's a good guy). Lesson two - never generalize. Look, I could judge SO many people based off of race, gender, how they look, etc. And I'd be right. But there are enough outliers for me to know that many people are worth meeting. Why judge them? Besides that, if I look down on them without knowing them, am I really that much better than they are?

3) Nope, I've got that. I wouldn't want you drinking either.

4) I know that feeling too. But you've got to be open to going to a party and you've got to know the right people. Or, if your school has a few general party areas (mine does), you can do what some of my friends do (which I don't like) - take a friend or two and go looking for the noise. It'll probably cost you a small fee to get in, unless you're bringing one or more girls. I was with them when they did this before and met some frat guys at a satellite house. They invited me to the actual frat house (I didn't have the grades for joining, if you're wondering the rest of the story). The times we went there were some of the best parties we had.

Now, I look to my roommates or friends around the hall for parties. Learning where parties are could prove valuable network training. You create a network so if ever you're bored on a weekend, you could go out and meet some women. Just because you have to work hard doesn't mean you can't play hard.

But like the thing is, if everyone is just gonna get wasted at these parties (I've yet to see/hear of one that wasn't just a booze fest) and I'm not gonna drink, so is there anything that's really worthwhile to do? I understand, socializing. But at what point is the socializing even worth it if I'm the only sober person in a room of people who are smashed? I mean, I hate dealing with drunk people.

And my friends usually know about the parties. They just either forget about me or don't tell me. I don't really tell them I don't want to go, but they just don't connect me and parties in their mind. I think that's good, but yeah.

Lastly, yeah. Generalizing is bad, but here's the thing. I tried rushing my freshmen year. I quickly learn that these frats were not what I wanted to join. At a Monday Night Football recruitment event, for half time they had food and PORN. Hardcore porn. On a TV in the middle of the room. FFS. And no one there had any objection. I don't like generalizing, but that's NOT for me. I've met some decent frat guys, but that environment is toxic in my view.

 

[HarryHengst]

I'd love to but I simply just do not have the time to work out effectively.

It takes 3 hours a week to work out effectively. If you cant spare three hours a week to work on your body i dont think you should even be dating.

 

[Vermillion]

But like the thing is, if everyone is just gonna get wasted at these parties (I've yet to see/hear of one that wasn't just a booze fest) and I'm not gonna drink, so is there anything that's really worthwhile to do? I understand, socializing. But at what point is the socializing even worth it if I'm the only sober person in a room of people who are smashed? I mean, I hate dealing with drunk people.

And my friends usually know about the parties. They just either forget about me or don't tell me. I don't really tell them I don't want to go, but they just don't connect me and parties in their mind. I think that's good, but yeah.

Lastly, yeah. Generalizing is bad, but here's the thing. I tried rushing my freshmen year. I quickly learn that these frats were not what I wanted to join. At a Monday Night Football recruitment event, for half time they had food and PORN. Hardcore porn. On a TV in the middle of the room. FFS. And no one there had any objection. I don't like generalizing, but that's NOT for me. I've met some decent frat guys, but that environment is toxic in my view.

No, not necessarily. My friends (and eventually me) considered this a bad idea, but I always went after the sober chicks at parties. There are plenty of them. Even if all the guys are drunk and making asses of themselves, you can still enjoy yourself. You don't have to bother with the drunk people. Not too much.

Ask your friends to let you know of a party. But you're going to have to make a good impression. Personally, I suggest dressing somewhat nicely. I used to (and sometimes still do) just wear a hoodie, but I try to get ready for parties. Be presentable and be strong. Be willing to socialize. Listen, ask questions, input your own experience. That's pretty much it. Rinse and repeat for a successful conversations.

Huh, wow. I... hm. I personally feel like it would be weird to watch porn with a bunch of guys. It's like, what's the point? Besides that, that's one frat. Maybe filled with no one who wanted to speak up. My third lesson - look at yourself on the good days and the bad. you know why you do certain things, but no one else does. How do you know that no one felt as uncomfortable as you if you didn't speak up either? Besides, I've heard of sororities and fraternities where they have the people look at lesbian/gay porn, and the first one to get aroused has to do... something. Some frats get into gang rapes, some roofie chicks. But that's not all of them. Not all of them give a toxic environment. My roommate's frat required them to get certified to intervene in violent situations and to be able to help stop sexual assault. Plus they learned a bit of martial arts to deal with the more belligerent drunks who would ruin a party.

 

[FelixOrion]

It takes 3 hours a week to work out effectively. If you cant spare three hours a week to work on your body i dont think you should even be dating.

Is that 3 hours in one shot? How should that be spread out? The weekends, maybe, is where I would have that time. That's when any dates would happen for me or realistically anyone at this school, imho. But what do I know.

No, not necessarily. My friends (and eventually me) considered this a bad idea, but I always went after the sober chicks at parties. There are plenty of them. Even if all the guys are drunk and making asses of themselves, you can still enjoy yourself. You don't have to bother with the drunk people. Not too much.

Ask your friends to let you know of a party. But you're going to have to make a good impression. Personally, I suggest dressing somewhat nicely. I used to (and sometimes still do) just wear a hoodie, but I try to get ready for parties. Be presentable and be strong. Be willing to socialize. Listen, ask questions, input your own experience. That's pretty much it. Rinse and repeat for a successful conversations.

Huh, wow. I... hm. I personally feel like it would be weird to watch porn with a bunch of guys. It's like, what's the point? Besides that, that's one frat. Maybe filled with no one who wanted to speak up. My third lesson - look at yourself on the good days and the bad. you know why you do certain things, but no one else does. How do you know that no one felt as uncomfortable as you if you didn't speak up either?

I have hard time believe there are sober chicks at parties here, but I have no idea. And yeah, that makes sense. I just feel I would out of place at these parties, somewhat.

And I know they didn't feel as uncomfortable as me, because as soon as they put that shit on, I left. No one else did. And yeah, that's one frat, but we only have four. And when three of the four seem like clones of each other and the other one is full of Bronies, well...

EDIT: Fuck, why I'm on GAF talking about shit like this at 2:30am when I have a test. Fuck.

 

[Vermillion]

I have hard time believe there are sober chicks at parties here, but I have no idea. And yeah, that makes sense. I just feel I would out of place at these parties, somewhat.

And I know they didn't feel as uncomfortable as me, because as soon as they put that shit on, I left. No one else did. And yeah, that's one frat, but we only have four. And when three of the four seem like clones of each other and the other one is full of Bronies, well...

EDIT: Fuck, why I'm on GAF talking about shit like this at 2:30am when I have a test. Fuck.

How do you know that if you left?

Also, that's depressing. Well, you don't have to join a frat. That's a huge time commitment as is. I don't plan on joining one, and I don't need to.

 

[The Anti-Monitor]

I can't speak because I dunno how college parties are in America, but if they end up in a club or something you should have no trouble to find sober girls.

You're pretty attractive and have stuff to talk about. You just need to work on your confidence.

 

[Vermillion]

^Boom, now you have a female weighing in on that too, in case you needed more proof.

 

[Ovid]

Is that 3 hours in one shot? How should that be spread out? The weekends, maybe, is where I would have that time. That's when any dates would happen for me or realistically anyone at this school, imho. But what do I know.



I have hard time believe there are sober chicks at parties here, but I have no idea. And yeah, that makes sense. I just feel I would out of place at these parties, somewhat.

And I know they didn't feel as uncomfortable as me, because as soon as they put that shit on, I left. No one else did. And yeah, that's one frat, but we only have four. And when three of the four seem like clones of each other and the other one is full of Bronies, well...

EDIT: Fuck, why I'm on GAF talking about shit like this at 2:30am when I have a test. Fuck.

An hour a day, three times a week.

 

[Johnlenham]

And my friends usually know about the parties. They just either forget about me or don't tell me. I don't really tell them I don't want to go, but they just don't connect me and parties in their mind. I think that's good, but yeah.
.

You remind me of myself when I was 18-19 and its pretty sad to think I was this negative and closed minded even your reasons for not trying/doing stuff are the same.


No offense but that is probably because you come of as a drip.
You seem so negative about so much stuff it probably comes off in the way you talk about things (even if you dont think you are ) and that brings people down.

Have you ever been drunk? or do you even drink anything atall?
Have you ever tried any drugs? any reason as to why not? apart from mental stuff like crack cocaine and heroin they are safer than drink whihc still blows my mind.

I find it very very hard to give advise to people that just write of stuff completlly without having real first hand experience in the stuff they are slating.

Drunk or even tipsy people can till hold a conversation..most are just drinking to ease up. I know my tounge gets alot losser after a few ciders you dont have to be paraletic to have a good time.

Making assumptions about things like "Oh I wont like XXX because of YYY reason" is not a good way to live. You should be open and try new things with every chance you get, if AFTER you have done it you still dont like it THEN you have a real reason to dislike something.

I can only imagine what a miserble life I might have had if I had stayed on that path of negativity and I feel compelled to post when I see others with the same way of thinking squandering their opertunitys like I did.

 

[Chinner]

drugs are bad i heard if you take them then you're 100% more likely to die of aids just drink alcohol instead guys its way safer. if you take them you are very stupid and a sheep also why doesn't anybody like me?

 

[Raynes]

drugs are bad i heard if you take them then you're 100% more likely to die of aids just drink alcohol instead guys its way safer. if you take them you are very stupid and a sheep also why doesn't anybody like me?

yeah.

 

[Mr.City]

You remind me of myself when I was 18-19 and its pretty sad to think I was this negative and closed minded even your reasons for not trying/doing stuff are the same.


No offense but that is probably because you come of as a drip.
You seem so negative about so much stuff it probably comes off in the way you talk about things (even if you dont think you are ) and that brings people down.

Have you ever been drunk? or do you even drink anything atall?
Have you ever tried any drugs? any reason as to why not? apart from mental stuff like crack cocaine and heroin they are safer than drink whihc still blows my mind.

I find it very very hard to give advise to people that just write of stuff completlly without having real first hand experience in the stuff they are slating.

Drunk or even tipsy people can till hold a conversation..most are just drinking to ease up. I know my tounge gets alot losser after a few ciders you dont have to be paraletic to have a good time.

Making assumptions about things like "Oh I wont like XXX because of YYY reason" is not a good way to live. You should be open and try new things with every chance you get, if AFTER you have done it you still dont like it THEN you have a real reason to dislike something.

I can only imagine what a miserble life I might have had if I had stayed on that path of negativity and I feel compelled to post when I see others with the same way of thinking squandering their opertunitys like I did.

The drip part made me laugh. The part about using drinking as a social crutch made me sad

 

[HarryHengst]

Denying that alcohol helps people be more sociable is pretty silly though? I can socialize just fine, but with some beers talking about dumber subjects become a lot more funny. If you can only talk to people with alcohol then yeah, its a problem, but i dont think that was what he was saying.


In dating news, I decided to send the girl i started dating a text message yesterday simply asking how her weekend was, despite thinking i should give her space as she seemed that kind of girl. I was surprised to get a reply within a minute. The reply however was a bit short and not saying much, but i knew she was at a birthday party so whatever. But an hour later i got a much longer text, telling me she thought it sweet to just ask how she was and asking if i wanted to go out again on Tuesday. So yeah, happy i decided to follow my own gut instead of deciding she wants this or that.

 

[electricshake]

Going speed dating on Wednesday, anyone got any tips or advice?

 

[Beer Monkey]

One of brent's best videos ever

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=snW8gtuTLZI&feature=related&fb_source=message

Cant believe I didn't see this earlier.. so much insight.

Brent nailed it. Sex first, dating second. It's a rule for me at this point. The girl I'm seeing right now, the second time we ever met I offered to walk her to her car. Kissed her, she reciprocated, and immediately I said "let's go to my place". Bam. Girls want to feel like women. You make them feel like women by sexualizing them. Not by taking them out to dinner.

This shit works guys. It really does.

The younger the woman, the more true it is. If you are confident, the only women that will even try to get you to buy them dinner and drinks and shit aka dating are the ones that are older and jaded.

Stop trying to date women and start simply connecting with them.

 

[Mr.City]

Denying that alcohol helps people be more sociable is pretty silly though? I can socialize just fine, but with some beers talking about dumber subjects become a lot more funny. If you can only talk to people with alcohol then yeah, its a problem, but i dont think that was what he was saying.

Best to keep this on topic. An angry young man who has been bullied his whole life and now denies himself any pleasure is not the same as someone who drinks a few beers with his buddies.

 

[Minamu]

http://www.funtasti.com/gag/523
Sums it up pretty well. This is the only way to think.

 

[Jason's Ultimatum]

So this girl from college that played games with me calls me. I was shocked, because I thought I deleted her number, and listening to the ringtone I assigned to her made me rage. I ignored her. I listened to the message she left, saying her and another friend of ours came back from Africa and Lebanon, and they were meeting with our old professor on campus to get something to eat for lunch.

Well, I'm not going. Fuck her. I always thought she was amazing, and I thought I'd never meet anyone like her again, but funny how things change. You do meet someone better.

Last year was hilarious. Everyone from one of our classes thought we were dating.

 

[Johnlenham]

Denying that alcohol helps people be more sociable is pretty silly though? I can socialize just fine, but with some beers talking about dumber subjects become a lot more funny. If you can only talk to people with alcohol then yeah, its a problem, but i dont think that was what he was saying.

Yeah thats what I meant not that you should drink to be able to socialize just that its a means to an end and not everyone is out to get smashed out of their minds.

Oh and trying stuff instead of slating it example from this weekend:

Two friends I go to see Djs with said they would never ever go to their favourite club on a saturday night as they play house music instead of dubstep and drum and bass (on Fridays) and how it would ruin the atmosphere of the place for them.

I spent all of last week asking and chatting it up and friday night they cracked and we go.

The next day they are saying how amazing it was and how it was diffrent but equally good and all these silly fears they had about it were completly blown away.
Hell it even put them onto a whole new genre of music.

Wouldnt have known if they had clammed up and stuck to their "I wont like it because XXX" reasoning!

 

[Pachimari]

So my ex's menstruation is delayed and she is wondering if she is pregnant, which makes me nervous so that it is hard to focus on tomorrow's job interview. Her last one were on February 28, isn't it normal to get a little bit delayed sometimes, especially when she is speculating?

(she were supposed to buy a pregnancy test today but she's damn incompetent, so probably won't have an answer before Wednesday.)

And I don't need comments of what I should have done or that I did this and that wrong, as I have already gotten a verbal beating by my advisor and psychologist and understand I were a complete and utter fool.

I'm pissed at myself, and she have said before it would be a nice souvenir to get a baby from an European man, which I am. I'm just hoping its just a delay of her menstruation. She have had no signs of being I'll, vomiting, fever or any symptoms at all. I need some kind of cheering up, not a in-your-face-truth kinda response.

 

[soultron]

So my ex's menstruation is delayed and she is wondering if she is pregnant, which makes me nervous so that it is hard to focus on tomorrow's job interview. Her last one were on February 28, isn't it normal to get a little bit delayed sometimes, especially when she is speculating?

(she were supposed to buy a pregnancy test today but she's damn incompetent, so probably won't have an answer before Wednesday.)

And I don't need comments of what I should have done or that I did this and that wrong, as I have already gotten a verbal beating by my advisor and psychologist and understand I were a complete and utter fool.

I'm pissed at myself, and she have said before it would be a nice souvenir to get a baby from an European man, which I am. I'm just hoping its just a delay of her menstruation. She have had no signs of being I'll, vomiting, fever or any symptoms at all. I need some kind of cheering up, not a in-your-face-truth kinda response.

A woman can miss or offset her period because of things like medication or stress. She might not be pregnant.

 

[Pachimari]

Yea, she says she have been stressed. She have never tried delay before she say. What if she don't get menstruation for a month?

 

[Devolution]

Yea, she says she have been stressed. She have never tried delay before she say. What if she don't get menstruation for a month?

She needs to get a damn pregnancy test and if she can afford it and doesn't have side effects, she needs to get on the damn pill or some kind of birth control.

 

[Pachimari]

She needs to get a damn pregnancy test and if she can afford it and doesn't have side effects, she needs to get on the damn pill or some kind of birth control.

It seems like she don't take it seriously.
If she take birth control pills, can that prevent her giving birth?

But she says she will hide with it if she gets one but I think she is kidding. Just a sick humor I guess.

 

[Devolution]

It seems like she don't take it seriously.
If she take birth control pills, can that prevent her giving birth?

But she says she will hide with it if she gets one but I think she is kidding. Just a sick humor I guess.

Um no the birth control is not an abortifacient but if she's sexually active she really should be protecting herself from unwanted pregnancies as best she possibly can. Hide with what? I'm going to go ahead and guess english is your second language because I'm getting lost here.

 

[Pachimari]

She says she wanna hide with the baby if she turns out to be pregnant.
Yea, I know birth control is to prevent it, but I'm thinking isn't there a medicine that makes sure the baby doesn't get born? Anyway that's nonsense talk until she have gotten her test.

I'm almost better at English than my primary language. I guess I'm just too quick at typing on the iPad combined with me not being able to concentrate.

 

[Devolution]

She says she wanna hide with the baby if she turns out to be pregnant.
Yea, I know birth control is to prevent it, but I'm thinking isn't there a medicine that makes sure the baby doesn't get born? Anyway that's nonsense talk until she have gotten her test.

I'm almost better at English than my primary language. I guess I'm just too quick at typing on the iPad combined with me not being able to concentrate.

It's too late for the morning after pill which is what she should have used if the condom broke or she's not on the pill at all and you had sex with her condomless. How was it prevented before? Rhythm method? Condoms?

If she doesn't want it she has to consider an abortion now. But it sounds like she wants to keep it without anyone's knowledge? What?