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[The One and Done™]

For a girl you mean, but for a guy he's totally alpha right?

my eyes roll.

Did you miss the part where I said I feel the same way about guys too? Anyways I'm out. Sorry for voicing an apparently unpopular opinion.

 

[Gustav]

She could have had like ten 8 inchers, a great tantric session, oral for hours, multiple orgasms. I just can't compete. Wah. Wah.

Hope you have fun ragging on people's insecurities!

 

[Liu Kang Baking A Pie]

Did you miss the part where I said I feel the same way about guys too? Anyways I'm out. Sorry for voicing an apparently unpopular opinion.

It's unpopular for a reason.

 

[Dark Octave]

Over 30 people by 24??

Nope, way too casual about it for me.

 

[Deleted member 80556]

I really don't care. She'd be with me anyway.

This is all some mentality people always have. Specially men. Some always want to have as many sex partners, but when it comes to their partners, they don't want them to even see another possible partner. Polygamy for me, monogamy for you.

What if you find out she fucked Idris Elba or Benedict Cumberbatch? Isn't that kind of like being inside Idris Elba or Benedict Cumberbatch?
You decide GAF.

"HA, I HAD SEX WITH THE CUMBERBATCH!"

"Dude, you ain't attracted to men"

"..."

 

[KissVibes]

30+ at 24 indicates she was the drunk girl everyone had a chance to poke, I'm not saying I would break up with her in that situation but it would raise a ton of questions

This post raises a ton of questions about you.

1) Have you fallen down several flights of stairs at some point in your life?

Hope you have fun ragging on people's insecurities!

Hope people have fun judging women and suggesting they're whores and sluts for being with several men!

 

[Devolution]

What? No, that's not what I was saying. I'm saying that for most women they don't have sex with 30 different people. Most of them don't even reach a fifth of that number.

From my experience a bunch lie about the number precisely because of the shit posted in this thread.

Hope you have fun ragging on people's insecurities!

Yeah it's cool when they use it as a reason to make others miserable!

 

[Count Dookkake]

Only the unwanted ones.

 

[Plywood]

How many sexual partners is not enough?

 

[Jenga]

I hope your future daughter (or son) doesn't give a fuck what you think and goes and has all the fun that they want.

I hope your son posts on GAF

 

[readLeader]

Gross.

I'm sure that not being able to be honest with her dad is going to turn out great for her.

Not OK for parents to be disappointed with their children if they behave in a manner that the parents consider massively unethical?

I'm fine with prostitutes too, he's clearly using it as a judgmental pejorative.

Fair enough, so you're consistent in that regard. But it's really not surprising to get people using pejoratives when the first three pages are condescension and mockery of their position (not saying that insults from either side are useful or ok).

They are apparently judging potential sexual partners by that merit, so yeah, they'd likely judge any female they know the same way.

I assumed by "judging" you meant "telling them to their face" or "talking negatively about that behavior behind their backs", so possibly, my mistake. Still, contrary to what you seem to think, no one here has expressed the opinion that it's ok for men to sleep around, but not for women. It would only be fair play if you stuck to accusing people of what they actually said, not what you would like to suggest they might want to say.

 

[Angelus Errare]

Did you miss the part where I said I feel the same way about guys too? Anyways I'm out. Sorry for voicing an apparently unpopular opinion.

It's unpopular for a reason. GAF isn't an Amish forum.

 

[demon]

The higher the number, the more likely I am to eventually be one of them. So I wouldn't care.



Seriously though, any more than one is just downright slutty and un-ladylike.

 

[Derwind]

What? No, that's not what I was saying. I'm saying that for most women they don't have sex with 30 different people. Most of them don't even reach a fifth of that number during college. Roughly 40% of college graduates are virgins or have had sex only once. You really think in that remaining 60% it's normal for women to sleep with 30 different people?

These statistics. Not sure if real........

 

[Count Dookkake]

How many sexual partners is not enough?

Less than 3 is pretty gross.

 

[Kickz]

Well she probably has HPV, and the Herpes

 

[terribletwo]

OP thinks 30 partners at 24 is average? the hell

e: this goes for woman or man

 

[Devolution]

Not OK for parents to be disappointed with their children if they behave in a manner that the parents consider massively unethical?

A parent invested in their child's sex life in that manner and worried about a number is just more sexual repression this world doesn't need.

 

[Massive Duck. C.M.]

What? No, that's not what I was saying. I'm saying that for most women they don't have sex with 30 different people. Most of them don't even reach a fifth of that number during college. Roughly 40% of college graduates are virgins or have had sex only once. You really think in that remaining 60% it's normal for women to sleep with 30 different people?

Source? Links?

 

[Nemo]

If he's that bothered by it he should talk to her about it, if he still feels that way ater he should break up if he feels that it'll eat him up or something over their relationship

 

[Opiate]

I doubt most people who are saying women shouldn't have more than a few sexual partners is going around judging their guy friends for having a ton.

I can tell you I do. In fact, I've never really judged a woman for having lots of sexual partners, primarily because I don't know any women with lots of sexual partners (my girlfriend with the most partners before me was 4). I do know guys who pursue sex constantly, however, and I absolutely do judge them.

With that said, a few counterpoints of my own: 1) I believe I am an exception, and absolutely agree that a double standard exists even if I do not personally practice it. 2) Some would argue that the standard should be that no one should be judged, but I do not personally agree with that. Just like I judge a person who plays enormous amounts of video games or someone who watches enormous amounts of TV, I also judge people who spend tons of time trying to (and having) sex. 3) I would actually say I "have an opinion" about them. The difference between "judging" someone and "having an opinion" about them is slight but meaningful. I am, as an extreme example, not "judging" someone if they use heroine, but I certainly have an opinion about it, and that opinion is "that is a poor use of your short time here on earth."

 

[Kano on the Phone]

Did you miss the part where I said I feel the same way about guys too? Anyways I'm out. Sorry for voicing an apparently unpopular opinion.

I'd tell you not to let the door hit you in the ass on the way out but I'm afraid you'd judge the door for being so touchy.

I can tell you I do. In fact, I've never really judged a woman for having lots of sexual partners, because I don't know any well enough to make that judgement (my girlfriend with the most partners before me was 4). I do know guys who sleep around, however, and I absolutely do judge them.

However, a few points to make in regards to this: 1) I believe I am an exception, and absolutely agree that a double standard exists even if I do not personally practice it. 2) Some would argue that the standard should be that no one should be judged, but I do not personally agree with that. Just like I judge a person who plays enormous amounts of video games or someone who watches enormous amounts of TV, I also judge people who spend tons of time trying to (and having) sex.

I would actually say I "have an opinion" about them. The difference between "judging" someone and "having an opinion" about someone is slight but meaningful.

But why would you judge them at all for this? Sex is a natural, fun, free experience. I'm really trying to understand why that would be something to judge someone over. It isn't playing video games, it's a biological need. I feel like you're conflating sexual experience with people who are filling a hole (lol figuratively) with something external, and that isn't really about sex, that's about mental health.

 

[xelios]

Varies from person to person, what they're comfortable with. Should be the same number as they'd expect of themselves though, in that people should not have double standards when it comes to number of sexual partners. If 30 sexual partners makes someone uncomfortable that's perfectly fair if they haven't fucked twice as many and don't carry the opinion it makes them more of a man, but somehow ruins a woman. At that point you're just a sexist asshole.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with having personal standards you adhere to yourself and expect the same from a partner, though.

 

[VanquishUK]

 

[Neki]

OP thinks 30 partners at 24 is average? the hell

e: this goes for woman or man

average for GAF or average for the typical college kid?

people saying that a woman shouldn't have a more than a certain number (let's say 5), I really hope you hold yourself to that same standard.

 

[Jenga]

I'd tell you not to let the door hit you in the ass on the way out but I'm afraid you'd judge the door for being so touchy.

lol

 

[Solideliquid]

Yeaah 30 partners by age 24 seems a little too much for anyone, male or female. It seems irresponsible for one. To each their own though. I wouldn't break up over it, but I wouldn't want to dwell on it either.


Also - 7 pages??

 

[Platy]

By that definition the prostitute you're having sex with is also emotionally attached if I understand what you're saying. Cause from what I understand the moment of sex causes emotional attachment, but that just means all sex involves emotional investment.

Prostitutes are monetarily atached to clients.

People are emotionaly atached to people who they CHOOSE to have sex.

 

[Princess Carl]

Less than 3 is pretty gross.

Phew! Just made the cut. I'm not gross!

 

[User 100115]

I assumed by "judging" you meant "telling them to their face" or "talking negatively about that behavior behind their backs", so possibly, my mistake. Still, contrary to what you seem to think, no one here has expressed the opinion that it's ok for men to sleep around, but not for women. It would only be fair play if you stuck to accusing people of what they actually said, not what you would like to suggest they might want to say.

I am talking about slut shaming culture actually, mostly occurring as someone pointed out in high school and college. There, men will keep a running tally of how many women that have slept with, cheer each other on for their 'conquests' and immediately label sexually adventurous women as sluts and treat them with disdain. And possibly go on to judge future mates as such for having more than a few partners.

 

[terribletwo]

average for GAF or average for the typical college kid?

the typical college kid doesn't have that many partners.

http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nsfg/abc_list_n.htm#numberlifetime

 

[The Librarian]

Source? Links?

I posted this on the second page. The idea that it's average for a woman to have slept with thirty different people a few years out of college is ridiculous.

 

[Jenga]

Yeaah 30 partners by age 24 seems a little too much for anyone, male or female. It seems irresponsible for one. To each their own though. I wouldn't break up over it, but I wouldn't want to dwell on it either.


Also - 7 pages??

OT's favorite threads are when they can brow-beat people into submission for being rigid in their standards. And bad cop threads.

 

[Derwind]

Phew! Just made the cut. I'm not gross!

 

[User 100115]

 

[Violater]

Does the x3 rule still apply here?

 

[Opiate]

But why would you judge them at all for this? Sex is a natural, fun, free experience. I'm really trying to understand why that would be something to judge someone over. It isn't playing video games, it's a biological need.

Highly promiscuous people have significantly increased chances of acquiring STDs as well as higher chances of unwanted pregnancies. Lastly, at least in the context we're discussing here, it's a largely vacuous endeavor. Watching tons of TV can also be a "fun, free" experience," but I absolutely judge that to be a poor use of time.

 

[CornBurrito]

exactly, so why risk being with someone who has slept with a ton of people?

STD tests exist you know.

 

[readLeader]

A parent invested in their child's sex life in that manner and worried about a number is just more sexual repression this world doesn't need.

Where's the line between valid parental involvement and "sexual repression the world doesn't need"? Does it stop at a certain age? Can parents no longer be disappointed after, or only starting at a certain age to not make it "sexual repression this world doesn't need"? The idea that parents can't have negative opinions about their child's behavior is foreign to me.

I posted this on the second page. The idea that it's average for a woman to have slept with thirty different people a few years out of college is ridiculous.

I can't read that article without some sort of registration I have no interest to conduct.

I am talking about slut shaming culture actually, mostly occurring as someone pointed out in high school and college. There, men will keep a running tally of how many women that have slept with, cheer each other on for their 'conquests' and immediately label sexually adventurous women as sluts and treat them with disdain. And possibly go on to judge future mates as such for having more than a few partners.

And you decided it would be a good idea to accuse anyone in here not agreeing with you of doing that?

 

[AllIsOneIsNone]

We got some free love hippies round here on gaf, which is fine I suppose. Personally if a girl I'm dating has slept with over 50 people or so, it's not a great sign. Having that many partners doesn't make you a bad person or anything, but it doesn't exactly scream "I can maintain a relationship". For the people that say it doesn't matter and its shallow if you think it does; do you not have standards that are equally shallow? You don't go for attractiveness, you don't go for qualities that fit your personality? Come on now, let people choose what type of partner they like.

 

[TacticalFox88]

What? No, that's not what I was saying. I'm saying that for most women they don't have sex with 30 different people. Most of them don't even reach a fifth of that number during college. Roughly 40% of college graduates are virgins or have had sex only once. You really think in that remaining 60% it's normal for women to sleep with 30 different people?

40 percent? Virgins?

There's no fucking way.

I could believe 20, maybe. But almost half?

Hell no.

 

[The Librarian]

40 percent? Virgins?

There's no fucking way.

I could believe 20, maybe. But almost half?

Hell no.

Read that sentence again. More slowly this time.

 

[Devolution]

Where's the line between valid parental involvement and "sexual repression the world doesn't need"? Does it stop at a certain age? Can parents no longer be disappointed after, or only starting at a certain age to not make it "sexual repression this world doesn't need"? The idea that parents can't have negative opinions about their child's behavior is foreign to me.

Having negative opinions and intruding on their sex life as something other than an informative sex positive person is sexual repression at its peak and the reason so many people view sex through the lens of guilt.

 

[Opiate]

40 percent? Virgins?

There's no fucking way.

I could believe 20, maybe. But almost half?

Hell no.

She said that 40% were either virgins or had a single partner.

In addition: http://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Argument_from_incredulity

 

[Kano on the Phone]

Highly promiscuous people have significant increased changes of STDs and higher chances of unwanted pregnancies. And lastly, at least in the context we're discussing here, it's a largely vacuous endeavor. Watching tons of TV can also be a "fun, free" experience," but I absolutely judge that to be a poor use of time.

Yeah, but I think you're saying "don't be obsessed with anything to the point where it's unhealthy." That isn't a reflection on sexual activity, it's just "don't do things to an unhealthy extent." People can partake in sex with many partners in a controlled, healthy way and often do.

 

[HiiiLife]

0 is crossing the line.

 

[Sai-kun]

I hope your son posts on GAF

Now this is something I'd be disappointed in

Spoiler

only if he posts in halogaf

shoutouts to halogaf

 

[Massive Duck. C.M.]

I posted this on the second page. The idea that it's average for a woman to have slept with thirty different people a few years out of college is ridiculous.

Thanks, sorry I missed that post.

 

[amnesiac]

STD tests exist you know.

pretty sure a lot of people don't get them.

 

[jph139]

As the sort of guy that prefers to move slow about that sort of thing, I'd definitely be concerned. Not as a judgment call - I mean, sure, go ahead, I don't care either way - but just as a compatibility issue. If you're having sex with a different person every few weeks than we're probably not on the same wavelength for a lot of things.

I wouldn't dump her over it, but it would be a warning sign.