TUROK
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To be fair, it's exponentially harder for men to get laid than it is for women.
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How many sexual partners for girls is too many?
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Devolution
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Some men.
Some? Yea okay
Devolution
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I live in a house with 3 dudes who have no problems getting laid. Seems to be the case with their group of friends too. Someone's getting laid if women are having an "easy time" doing so.
Vermillion
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Yeah, that's true.
MaschinenZimmer
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Condoms? Really? You DO know that you can catch some nice things such as Hepatits from kissing only? Have you thought about gum bleeding?
Also, arbirary standards, lol. Let's not pretend that having such a high number of sexual partners is something healthy and normal. It's not. Again, same for dudes. Maybe there was a phase in her life where is was very very active but you must be living in fairytales land when you think somebody like this suddenly starting to think about some serious relationships at the age of 24.
Most men.
Well, sex with someone you care about is, most if the time, going to be more than just a "good time". Why can't it be both? Finding someone you care about/love is hard enough without putting arbitrary limits on how many partners said person has had before you.
Devolution
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Nope.
Ignoring lesbians for a second. If women are getting laid, so are men. That means most men are enjoying sex. Unless of course you think a certain group of men has the monopoly on all sex.
Arjen
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I can't even phantom these train of thoughts
That is true to an extent, we're generally ones that have to peruse and face the rejection.
But people will always see a girl who has had many sexual partners as a woman who has no standards or respect for herself. As if this is always the case.
There are definitely girls who get around on low standards, as they are guys who do the exact same thing. But you won't hear the guys being called out much.
TUROK
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It's not arbitrary when you're trying to find someone with similar values to you.
Some people just don't find the idea of casual sex appealing. Some do. Is either side wrong in their preferences?
It is a pretty shitty double standard. There should be nothing wrong with either gender wanting to enjoy multiple partners... Or if you do have a problem with it, criticize equally.
Vermillion
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If I recall correctly, based on that study where an attractive man and woman approached women on a college campus and asked them for sex, more men than women accepted (and I'm not talking about the videos). It's easier for women to acquire sex than men. Then again, social pressures on women could balance it out more. Mind, this isn't saying that an attractive man cannot be having loads of sex, or more than a given woman.
But on average, a woman has to do less to acquire sex. Perhaps this is because women have more to fear from a perfect stranger's advances, or some other reason, but that's a blanket statement.
Of course it's normal.
Give me a statistic on how common it is that people get hepatitis from kissing.
Uh, why wouldn't she/he start thinking that? What kind of fairyland do you live in?
Obviously it's somewhat dependent on the society that you live in. I grew up in Sweden, and I guess we're pretty liberal about these things.
Devolution
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Regardless if a woman has to do less that's a man getting laid too.
Is there a demeaning or degrading word to hurt the feeling of guys who have a lot of sex?
EDIT: I can kinda see what you're saying, I was just addressing what the thread was about.
Evolution_1ne
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it's the simple logic really
Devolution
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I know dudes without game getting laid >_>.
Are the women fucking air
Or did you meant to type "it's harder for people that don't really try to get what they want"
I know, I was just messin'.
Not that it really matters to me any more, I'm all settled down. I'm glad I've 'had my fill' though, same for the missus.
Devolution
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Good for them. Most men I know aren't that fortunate.
The very fact that the prostitution business is massively slanted towards men buying sex from women and not the other way around etc is just one of the indicators that a large percentage of men rely on women selling themselves to have a physical encounter.
Please don't pray to tell me what I meant to type, or should I condescend in your direction also?
Vermillion
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It's a man getting laid, certainly, but who's to say that this man hasn't been laid before? It's not a perfect 50/50 ratio where everyone fucks someone of the opposite sex. And I don't submit to the monopoly theory. I imagine that it's but one reason that male prostitution isn't necessarily as widespread as female prostitution, though I also imagine that there are myriad reasons for that...
This is, for the record, not something to be used as an excuse for not getting laid. I imagine that with some effort and courage, most guys here could get laid pretty regularly. Moreso for those in college. However, women have to make less effort, and those guys who are more confident - or in the right situations - are more likely to get laid.
Okay, this sounds interesting. So... how?
Devolution
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Well actually the male prostitute market is more for successful older professional women single and divorced. It's kind of growing.
Socializing. With women. Getting female friends. Getting girlfriends by socializing. No real game, just immersion in lots of groups with women.
I have no game, at least I don't think I do.
I just know how to talk to girls and make them laugh. I don't think that's game though, cause I was never that guy who could just walk up to girls and get their number. I just made them laugh. It helps when they're attracted to dorks though.
EDIT: And when I say I know how to talk to girls, I mean that in a natural way. Just keeping conversations flowing and stuff. Not that every sentence I say sounds like 5 star erotica.
I just know how to talk to girls and make them laugh. I don't think that's game though, cause I was never that guy who could just walk up to girls and get their number. I just made them laugh. It helps when they're attracted to dorks though.
EDIT: And when I say I know how to talk to girls, I mean that in a natural way. Just keeping conversations flowing and stuff. Not that every sentence I say sounds like 5 star erotica.
MaschinenZimmer
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You quoted me with the gum bleeding part, so I assume you understand that there is a possibility? Sometimes I get the feeling people think that putting a little bit of rubber gum on your little pee-pee makes you invulnerable to all STDs.
SquiddyCracker
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Laughing Banana
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Doesn't really matter for me personally.
Although I do indeed expect that if I am in a meaningful relationship with someone, that someone would stop playing around regardless of her possibly colorful past.
Although I do indeed expect that if I am in a meaningful relationship with someone, that someone would stop playing around regardless of her possibly colorful past.
Hypereides
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No. ∞ is too many.
Devolution
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No. I'm saying you won't meet women complaining about this shit on a forum.
Not really true.
I have had a few since I have been in long relationships, my SO have had maaany more then me, and she says (yes she can lie...) that feels very experienced and her best (of course she lies here). So I can assume I'm good at least.
breakfuss
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hahaha!
Hell yeah, it does. This is not about chastity. But, shit, 30+ people???
I'm not judging...
except I am.
Is it that hard (lol) out there?
My friend just got back in the dating game and has had sex with 3 different women in 2 months.
Like devo said if women are having sex...then so are men?
SquiddyCracker
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I heard a wise man once say that 30% of men are having sex with 70% of women, with the remaining 60% men either going without sex or hooking up with one of the remaining 30% women.
He also said that when you start going to the gym it'll take 4 weeks for you to notice the changes, 8 weeks for your friends to notice, and 12 weeks for everyone to notice.
Did you read the title?
Vermillion
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Interesting. Perhaps that's a reversing of social trends.
At any rate, that doesn't change that women can have more sex while doing less. Even if a guy is also having sex, it doesn't change that it's easier for the woman, if she chooses. And often times, these guys have had sex before.
EDIT: And that's not a bad thing or anything. Nor does it stop guys from having sex, so.
How anticlimactic :/
AdventureRacing
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GAF happened.
So, 5% of men are having sex with 5% of men.Not all men are looking to have sex with women.
Where do bisexuals fit?
(You can have the punchline to that one for free).
AdventureRacing
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Nah it's harder for some men to get laid so it' more like 2% of men having sex with 8% of men.
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