davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
sounds like this relationship will end one way or the other. i'd stay out of this one. its not like theyre married and theyve already been on the outs repeatedly from what you'd say
A would no longer be my friend after doing that to B.
Stay out of it, if you say something you risk losing one or both friends.
Stay out of it, if you say something you risk losing one or both friends.
Stay the fuck out of it.
I'll never understand this. How shitty does a friend's behavior have to be before you'll stand up and say something?
Maybe I'm the weirdo here, but I have too much respect for my friends to just watch them act like assholes without saying anything. If I could, I'd have to question how much I really care about them.
Whatever choice you make, in the long run it probably won't matter.
Most friendships are fleeting. People come. People go.
There's only one question you need to ask yourself:
What kind of person are you?
I know it's gonna make the entire post sound freaking dumb, but let's call them Friend A and Friend B.
I've known Friend A for a long time and only met Friend B through A.
It's not my business, and I definitely don't wanna tell people how to run their relationships, but I can't help and feel complicit in this by pretending not to know. Even though I still care about A, and have known them far longer, I consider B a friend as well. Staying quiet feels like I'm betraying them. Yet if I speak up, I betray A.
I've talked to A, and they've said they tried to break up and end things, and wants to move on, but B keeps imploring to stay and give the relationship more time.
This wouldn't be relevant to me, except when I hang out with them together now, I have to play along with this charade where things are fine. All while A tells me they're stepping out to see the other person on the side. As I stay and keep B company.
I feel absolutely horrible for B and can't figure out how to level with them without robbing A of the opportunity to come clean and betraying their trust.
Advice?
So friend A is your friend longer, and you only met friend B through A.
And friend A is cheating?
Stay way out of this. A is your friend. B is only your friend through association. Do eight by your friend and keep your mouth shut.
It's none if your business and it makes you a shitty friend to go all chatty patty and start blabbing.
Stay out of it.
I wouldn't want to be friends with a cheater who also exploits me in covering up his cheating.
That's the other factor, friend "A" expects the OP to cover for him, that's not true friendship.
Depends on your definition of friendship.That's the other factor, friend "A" expects the OP to cover for him, that's not true friendship.
Fuck the other one.
I would argue that's actually showing true friendship that he got his friend's back.
If OP is a guy, and friend A is a guy then that's Man Code 101.
So many people willing to defend cheating. End it or don't cheat, those are the two real options. The third, cheating, is just fuckery of the highest order. It really messes people up and gives them trust issues when they find out. Fuck anyone that excuses it, certainly people who think covering is part of the "man code".
This has nothing to do with cheating. OP isn't in a relationship so he should stay the fuck out.So many people willing to defend cheating. End it or don't cheat, those are the two real options. The third, cheating, is just fuckery of the highest order. It really messes people up and gives them trust issues when they find out. Fuck anyone that excuses it, certainly people who think covering is part of the "man code".
This has nothing to do with cheating. OP isn't in a relationship so he should stay the fuck out.
Stop projecting, no one is excusing cheating.
OP is just sticking his nose in where it doesn't belong. It's their relationship, respectful that and stay the fuck out of it.
That's irrelevant though. Cheating is shitty, and getting OP involves is between OP and his friend to discuss.If OP's friend didn't OP to stick his nose where it didn't belong, then he shouldn't have purposely chosen OP's doorstep to drop his steaming, wet shit on.
What type of friend tattle tales on their own friend who they've known longer, to their significant other that they only met through their friend they've known longer, that they're cheating?
What kind of person allows someone's assholery to slide just because you are friends?What type of friend tattle tales on their own friend who they've known longer, to their significant other that they only met through their friend they've known longer, that they're cheating?
That's irrelevant though. Cheating is shitty, and getting OP involves is between OP and his friend to discuss.
OP getting involved or issuing ultimatum is not his place.
What kind of person allows someone's assholery to slide just because you are friends?