Where is the report?
In the bathroom
Where is the report?
Where is the report?
In the bathroom
I'm so sure because I have over a decade of failure under my belt at this point. What other conclusion should I have come to? I'd certainly like to! I just keep failing... I wish you could see me attempt to socialize so you could really understand.
Also, you quoted me but didn't really address the question. Can we discuss why it's allegedly "not hard" to meet people? I'd like to get some input on why people feel this way because I certainly don't agree. Rather than whine, I'd like to hear why other people succeed for a change.
Just got back. The date went really well I think. We had quite a bit in common even with being separate majors and interest areas. Played trivia at the first bar, (and came in last for the whole bar), then we went to a second bar that was quieter. Spent a couple more hours there talking, and then walked back to our cars. Cue awkward hug because I didn't know if it was a kissing situation or not.
Anyways we'll see what happens.
I'm typing this from my bathroom.
Is it worth chasing a girl who you went out with 5 times and somewhere along the line she lost interest? When I asked why she seemed distant, she said that it takes her a long time to get comfortable with people and then she said she is not sure about the relationship.
I still like her and I'm wondering if a love letter expressing my feelings will help
"...I'm too old to do what I don't want."
So, I met this woman in OKCupid. We spent over a month and a half messaging and texting, talking on the phone from time to time. Lots of flirting. We finally decided to meet.
We met at this bar and everything seemed to be going really well. We talked about what we like, what our life plans are, career paths, etc. We talked about bad movies we thought we should see together. Overall, it was a very enjoyable date.
I walked her to her car, and then leaned in for a kiss - to which she accepted. We talked a little more, and then I leaned for another kiss as, y'know, a goodnight kiss. She moved away. I asked what was wrong, and she said, "I'm too old to do what I don't want." I asked what she meant by this, and she said kissing once was fine, but she was done with that. I'm like, what, are we done with like, dating? And she said no, she just didn't want to be kissing anymore since she had enough.
I just gave her this "are you kidding me" look. I said "fair enough", and shook her hand. She then says "I hope we get to hang out for the movie soon, I had a great time". I said sure, and took off.
I have not messaged her since. She said she liked me and wanted for us to start dating, but that whole thing really threw me off -- and turned me off too. I've lost all interest. Maybe I'm being unfair, but I am completely fine with rejection - it happens. It's just, that was so weird. It's been close to a week now and we haven't sent a single text to each other, even though we used to do it daily. So, I think she was done with it too but tried to be polite? I don't know.
Plenty of women out there to be too hung up on this one.
"...I'm too old to do what I don't want."
So, I met this woman in OKCupid. We spent over a month and a half messaging and texting, talking on the phone from time to time. Lots of flirting. We finally decided to meet.
We met at this bar and everything seemed to be going really well. We talked about what we like, what our life plans are, career paths, etc. We talked about bad movies we thought we should see together. Overall, it was a very enjoyable date.
I walked her to her car, and then leaned in for a kiss - to which she accepted. We talked a little more, and then I leaned for another kiss as, y'know, a goodnight kiss. She moved away. I asked what was wrong, and she said, "I'm too old to do what I don't want." I asked what she meant by this, and she said kissing once was fine, but she was done with that. I'm like, what, are we done with like, dating? And she said no, she just didn't want to be kissing anymore since she had enough.
I just gave her this "are you kidding me" look. I said "fair enough", and shook her hand. She then says "I hope we get to hang out for the movie soon, I had a great time". I said sure, and took off.
I have not messaged her since. She said she liked me and wanted for us to start dating, but that whole thing really threw me off -- and turned me off too. I've lost all interest. Maybe I'm being unfair, but I am completely fine with rejection - it happens. It's just, that was so weird. It's been close to a week now and we haven't sent a single text to each other, even though we used to do it daily. So, I think she was done with it too but tried to be polite? I don't know.
Plenty of women out there to be too hung up on this one.
Both of us are 17. I agree that I reacted in an unhealthy manner. I also see that the relationship was fairly toxic. Some people never seem to know what they want and I believe she is one of those people.
I've been playing soccer or running cross country a lot recently and I've found myself happier than I was when I was in a relationship. In fact, the moment I she ended it I was very relieved. Not specifically because the relationship was over, but because a verdict had been reached. Looking back, I should have ended it weeks prior to when we actually split--I will definitely keep this experience in mind with regard to future relationships.
I do try to distance myself from it at this point. As for the height thing, I was relating it to sex so the whole "big guy = big dick" was what I was referring to.
That's an unfortunate way to look at shit on her end. I couldn't date someone who was "done" with kisses."...I'm too old to do what I don't want."
So, I met this woman in OKCupid. We spent over a month and a half messaging and texting, talking on the phone from time to time. Lots of flirting. We finally decided to meet.
We met at this bar and everything seemed to be going really well. We talked about what we like, what our life plans are, career paths, etc. We talked about bad movies we thought we should see together. Overall, it was a very enjoyable date.
I walked her to her car, and then leaned in for a kiss - to which she accepted. We talked a little more, and then I leaned for another kiss as, y'know, a goodnight kiss. She moved away. I asked what was wrong, and she said, "I'm too old to do what I don't want." I asked what she meant by this, and she said kissing once was fine, but she was done with that. I'm like, what, are we done with like, dating? And she said no, she just didn't want to be kissing anymore since she had enough.
I just gave her this "are you kidding me" look. I said "fair enough", and shook her hand. She then says "I hope we get to hang out for the movie soon, I had a great time". I said sure, and took off.
I have not messaged her since. She said she liked me and wanted for us to start dating, but that whole thing really threw me off -- and turned me off too. I've lost all interest. Maybe I'm being unfair, but I am completely fine with rejection - it happens. It's just, that was so weird. It's been close to a week now and we haven't sent a single text to each other, even though we used to do it daily. So, I think she was done with it too but tried to be polite? I don't know.
Plenty of women out there to be too hung up on this one.
Got rejected again tonight. It was only a four-date fling, which isn't that long, but whatever. At this point, I am just so extremely tired. After however many dates, with however many girls... I'm just tired of getting rejected. I'm tired of being lonely. I'm tired of getting my hopes up after each promising date, only to end up disappointed. I'm tired of being told I'm funny and attractive and nice and thoughtful and then getting dumped regardless. I'm tired of planning dates. I'm tired of investing and hoping that each fling might lead somewhere, when they never do. I'm tired of never getting past the fourth or fifth date. I'm tired of pretending like everything's OK. I'm tired of being alone. Just tired.
At this point, there's enough data to recognize failure when I see it. If I can't find who I'm looking for in my 20s, why should the next few decades be any better? Maybe I'll get lucky. Or maybe I need to lower my hopes or die alone.
I know this is whiney drivel, but whatever. I'm tired of pretending like I'm above whiney drivel. I'm tired of being exhausted and alone and miserable. I'm tired of pretending like everything's OK. Tired, tired, tired.
Shitty Friday.
Got rejected again tonight. It was only a four-date fling, which isn't that long, but whatever. At this point, I am just so extremely tired. After however many dates, with however many girls... I'm just tired of getting rejected. I'm tired of being lonely. I'm tired of getting my hopes up after each promising date, only to end up disappointed. I'm tired of being told I'm funny and attractive and nice and thoughtful and then getting dumped regardless. I'm tired of planning dates. I'm tired of investing and hoping that each fling might lead somewhere, when they never do. I'm tired of never getting past the fourth or fifth date. I'm tired of pretending like everything's OK. I'm tired of being alone. Just tired.
At this point, there's enough data to recognize failure when I see it. If I can't find who I'm looking for in my 20s, why should the next few decades be any better? Maybe I'll get lucky. Or maybe I need to lower my hopes or die alone.
I know this is whiney drivel, but whatever. I'm tired of pretending like I'm above whiney drivel. I'm tired of being exhausted and alone and miserable. I'm tired of pretending like everything's OK. Tired, tired, tired.
Shitty Friday.
So I asked the girl I was talking about earlier out and she said she was busy this weekend but gave me her number. That means 'yes', right?
So now that I have her number, should I send her a text sometime this weekend? We didn't really organize any get-together because we were in a rush so should I do through texting? I really know nothing about dating; this is the first girl I've ever asked out. That also means I have no idea where to take her.
I was thinking of taking her to the movies and coffee afterwards but apparently movie dates for first dates are a bad idea. I don't really know if that rule applies in my situation because I feel pretty familiar with her.
I could really use your guidance GAF!
everywhereWhere is the best place to meet a womans?
Why must you mock us?Where is the best place to meet a womans?
Shitty Friday.
Where is the best place to meet a womans?
So I asked the girl I was talking about earlier out and she said she was busy this weekend but gave me her number. That means 'yes', right?
So now that I have her number, should I send her a text sometime this weekend? We didn't really organize any get-together because we were in a rush so should I do through texting? I really know nothing about dating; this is the first girl I've ever asked out. That also means I have no idea where to take her.
I was thinking of taking her to the movies and coffee afterwards but apparently movie dates for first dates are a bad idea. I don't really know if that rule applies in my situation because I feel pretty familiar with her.
I could really use your guidance GAF!
For what it's worth - you're not alone. You are also describing me, down to the tiniest detailGot rejected again tonight. It was only a four-date fling, which isn't that long, but whatever. At this point, I am just so extremely tired. After however many dates, with however many girls... I'm just tired of getting rejected. I'm tired of being lonely. I'm tired of getting my hopes up after each promising date, only to end up disappointed. I'm tired of being told I'm funny and attractive and nice and thoughtful and then getting dumped regardless. I'm tired of planning dates. I'm tired of investing and hoping that each fling might lead somewhere, when they never do. I'm tired of never getting past the fourth or fifth date. I'm tired of pretending like everything's OK. I'm tired of being alone. Just tired.
At this point, there's enough data to recognize failure when I see it. If I can't find who I'm looking for in my 20s, why should the next few decades be any better? Maybe I'll get lucky. Or maybe I need to lower my hopes or die alone.
I know this is whiney drivel, but whatever. I'm tired of pretending like I'm above whiney drivel. I'm tired of being exhausted and alone and miserable. I'm tired of pretending like everything's OK. Tired, tired, tired.
Shitty Friday.
Where is the best place to meet a womans?
So out of all these girls you've gone out with every single one of them was girlfriend material for you? I ask because you make it sound like you're the only one getting rejected. Do you instantly think of every girl as great and want to date her?Got rejected again tonight. It was only a four-date fling, which isn't that long, but whatever. At this point, I am just so extremely tired. After however many dates, with however many girls... I'm just tired of getting rejected. I'm tired of being lonely. I'm tired of getting my hopes up after each promising date, only to end up disappointed. I'm tired of being told I'm funny and attractive and nice and thoughtful and then getting dumped regardless. I'm tired of planning dates. I'm tired of investing and hoping that each fling might lead somewhere, when they never do. I'm tired of never getting past the fourth or fifth date. I'm tired of pretending like everything's OK. I'm tired of being alone. Just tired.
At this point, there's enough data to recognize failure when I see it. If I can't find who I'm looking for in my 20s, why should the next few decades be any better? Maybe I'll get lucky. Or maybe I need to lower my hopes or die alone.
I know this is whiney drivel, but whatever. I'm tired of pretending like I'm above whiney drivel. I'm tired of being exhausted and alone and miserable. I'm tired of pretending like everything's OK. Tired, tired, tired.
Shitty Friday.
At 17 years old all I would suggest to you is that you don't bother with girls who wanna have guys on the side. I know teenagers and the whole "I'm in love, she's amazing" thing but honestly no. If a girl can't make up her mind, you make it up for her and move on. And once you move on, stay moved on. Don't ever let them engage in discussion with you after. You're not a comfort mechanism.
For what it's worth - you're not alone. You are also describing me, down to the tiniest detail
Update on my situation:
It turns out that she texted me. It was a rejection.
I knew there was something off when I asked her out. It seems I was pretty spot-on in my first post. In my defense, I probably lost the game before I even played it.
I wish I could get over her quickly. My productivity took a pretty big hit from this.
Movie dates (as a first date) is terrible regardless if you know the person well or not. Go with the coffee idea. Or even a bar (assuming you guys are of age).
As for setting up a (potential) date, call her up, don't text her. Be confident and clear when talking to her. Good luck!
Got rejected again tonight. It was only a four-date fling, which isn't that long, but whatever. At this point, I am just so extremely tired. After however many dates, with however many girls... I'm just tired of getting rejected. I'm tired of being lonely. I'm tired of getting my hopes up after each promising date, only to end up disappointed. I'm tired of being told I'm funny and attractive and nice and thoughtful and then getting dumped regardless. I'm tired of planning dates. I'm tired of investing and hoping that each fling might lead somewhere, when they never do. I'm tired of never getting past the fourth or fifth date. I'm tired of pretending like everything's OK. I'm tired of being alone. Just tired.
At this point, there's enough data to recognize failure when I see it. If I can't find who I'm looking for in my 20s, why should the next few decades be any better? Maybe I'll get lucky. Or maybe I need to lower my hopes or die alone.
I know this is whiney drivel, but whatever. I'm tired of pretending like I'm above whiney drivel. I'm tired of being exhausted and alone and miserable. I'm tired of pretending like everything's OK. Tired, tired, tired.
Shitty Friday.
Sigh... my relatoinship isn't going so well. Only been several months. We usually have mini squabbles over small things. Just tonight we were having a great time. I was escorting her to the exit of the mall but like usual she doesn't want me to do it. She doesn't like feeling left behind so she's often the one who takes me to wherever I have to catch my ride home.
Well she kept badgering me to go home first like usual then ended up admitting she was going to buy something along the way (before where I have to drop her off). I'm like, okay. I waited a bit but couldn't find her in the store she went inside so I assume she snuck out on me to buy something (the something is a long story). She was nagging me to go home a while ago so I stupidly assumed so.
Several miles later I saw she's been texting and calling nonstop asking where I was. My phone wasn't set to vibrate so I didn't feel it. She was waiting for me for a good 20 mins. She was really mad, told me to cancel our trip and blocked me on Facebook. I mean yeah I completely understand getting mad because something like that happened to us back then but I was the one who was kept waiting for nothing. I just don't get all this big reaction, especially since she was late for an hour for our date that day.
She's an incredibly nice person otherwise. Sometimes I felt she was TOO nice because she kept letting other people walk over her and I kept reminding her that other people people are taking advantage of her kindness.
And me.
The worst part for me is that I end up carrying that resentment and frustration with me afterwards and it sabotages future opportunities.
Case in point - I was stood up (cancelled on last minute) by two different girls in the same week, all after plenty of texts, jokes, flirting, etc. back and forth. Also, both girls volunteered their number to me without having to ask, AND suggested a date.
I was so frustrated after the second flake that the next day when I was leaving the gym, a really cute girl jogged up to me as I was leaving and said "Hi, I saw you in the gym and wanted to say hello" , I turned around and said "hey", turned back around, put my headphones back in, and kept walking. In my mind I was thinking, "why the fuck should I bother talking to another person who's just going to flake on me anyway; fuck her."
Is that a healthy attitude to have? No. Was I completely rude to a friendly stranger for no good reason? Yes. I hate dating.
Man, I just feel low and shitty... My ex, who I'm still in love with, has met someone new and his happy. It just crushes. I've tried going on a couple dates, but I just don't have the confidence . It sucks living in a smaller state, especially one like Ariansas, where I just can't connect with most women here. I have no interest in mudding or hunting
Sounds like she's got some major insecurities. That kind of a big reaction to a misunderstanding isn't normal. It's not to say that it's wrong, it's just to say that you won't be able to remain in a relationship with her unless she fights to improve on such things. Everyone's allowed to have a poor knee-jerk reaction to things, but if she blocks you from facebook, that's just having it be way too big. You can't really say it like that to her, but if you do talk to her about it, try and have her see that it was an honest mistake.
I don't get the whole 'escort, but like usual", and what's really going on. The language is a bit shabby. However, it sounded like a misunderstanding. That should be understandable. I get that she might've been upset, but she can't really act like that. How old are you two?
I've been in a relationship for four years, where there was a lot of similar things going on. It's good to fight for something you want to fight for. Just realize that when you justify her things by saying she's awesome otherwise. It doesn't change that this is not something that can remain the way it is, now. But it will take time to fix, and she will need to want to fix it. Be vigilant, and fight for you two to properly communicate.
I don't get the "too nice" thing, either, but it does seem to relate to her insecurities. If you are young, it makes sense. We all need to work through a lot of things in our lives. But know that it's really hard to fix these things while in a relationship. It takes for both to want to fix it, and a lot of figuring things out. I don't want to say it's a doomed relationship, but this will be hard.
Update on my situation:
She's calmed down and we're alright now and apologized first thing in the morning. It was really a lot due to her feeling really hurt whenever she feels like she's being left behind, and I think it was due to past experience. The "escort like usual" ties with this. I mean, normally it's the guy who walks the girl home right? Well, it's the opposite for us, since she doesn't like feeling left behind. Even if we're already at her bus station, she'll still walk me to my own bus station.
I try not to give too much detail, but she's several years older than me and pretty much "marriage age". She grew up outside the city so she's still quite innocent at many things. You're right, we both still are young at heart at least. I did have a poor knee-jerk reaction as well back then and I keep it in mind. I just jokingly told her we're even now. We had our misunderstandings but we've fixed them. We still remember them sometimes so we keep them in mind as lessons.
This is my first relationship so I'm not sure how often couples usually have small misunderstandings. I get that they're normal though.
welp, back to single status, mostly I got myself to blame since I got scared and I lashed out so she dumped me. Sooo, back to doing whatever I was doing before.
She's calmed down and we're alright now and apologized first thing in the morning. It was really a lot due to her feeling really hurt whenever she feels like she's being left behind, and I think it was due to past experience. The "escort like usual" ties with this. I mean, normally it's the guy who walks the girl home right? Well, it's the opposite for us, since she doesn't like feeling left behind. Even if we're already at her bus station, she'll still walk me to my own bus station.
I try not to give too much detail, but she's several years older than me and pretty much "marriage age". She grew up outside the city so she's still quite innocent at many things. You're right, we both still are young at heart at least. I did have a poor knee-jerk reaction as well back then and I keep it in mind. I just jokingly told her we're even now. We had our misunderstandings but we've fixed them. We still remember them sometimes so we keep them in mind as lessons.
This is my first relationship so I'm not sure how often couples usually have small misunderstandings. I get that they're normal though.
I was having second thoughts about our relationship, mainly because she was really, really into me, and we where only going out for 5 months, so as typical as it sounds I got cold feet. For some reason I wasn't confortable with her around other people, which may be due to a general fear of commitment on my end.What happened?
Got rejected again tonight. It was only a four-date fling, which isn't that long, but whatever. At this point, I am just so extremely tired. After however many dates, with however many girls... I'm just tired of getting rejected. I'm tired of being lonely. I'm tired of getting my hopes up after each promising date, only to end up disappointed. I'm tired of being told I'm funny and attractive and nice and thoughtful and then getting dumped regardless. I'm tired of planning dates. I'm tired of investing and hoping that each fling might lead somewhere, when they never do. I'm tired of never getting past the fourth or fifth date. I'm tired of pretending like everything's OK. I'm tired of being alone. Just tired.
At this point, there's enough data to recognize failure when I see it. If I can't find who I'm looking for in my 20s, why should the next few decades be any better? Maybe I'll get lucky. Or maybe I need to lower my hopes or die alone.
I know this is whiney drivel, but whatever. I'm tired of pretending like I'm above whiney drivel. I'm tired of being exhausted and alone and miserable. I'm tired of pretending like everything's OK. Tired, tired, tired.
Shitty Friday.
The ol' "you need to be happy with yourself but you're unhappy because you're alone" argument. This always ends well.I'll say the same thing i always say to posts like this. You need to sort yourself out before you can expect anyone else to want to be with you. So you're exhausted, tired, miserable and lonely. You seem to have a pretty negative outlook as well. Do you think this is the type of person people want to date? Is this the type of person you want to date? Even though i'm sure you think you don't project these emotions onto other people (everyone thinks this) in general people are good at picking these things up.
Trying to take over the world?welp, back to single status, mostly I got myself to blame since I got scared and I lashed out so she dumped me. Sooo, back to doing whatever I was doing before.
Trying to take over the world?
back to balding
when im full bald my dating life will be over
The ol' "you need to be happy with yourself but you're unhappy because you're alone" argument. This always ends well.
But the reason I'm unhappy is because no one likes me. I have interests, I have things to share. I can't find a single person who isn't put off by them or myself. That's depressing.Do you ever wonder why everyone tells you that you need to be happy with yourself first? Do you think we're all saying it just to torture you or something?
Work and then TV. Which just consists of watching the same few cartoons I've already seen a hundred times.Your situation is beyond stupid, no offense. You're good looking, you know how to work out, and I'm sure you're a nice guy. You're one of the few people I'd recommend getting off the computer and going outside to do anything. And I mean anything. I'm convinced that your typical day is just going to work and then gaming. Which is like my typical day, except I don't hate myself. Stop making yourself go in circles, man.
Literally no one wants anything to do with me, male or female: http://m.neogaf.com/showpost.php?p=135220489This is going to be the millionth time I mention this, but why not post about a GAF meetup in your area? If you live in a small area, take your car and drive to the main city. You need to meet people - any people.
But the reason I'm unhappy is because no one likes me. I have interests, I have things to share. I can't find a single person who isn't put off by them or myself. That's depressing.
Work and then TV. Which just consists of watching the same few cartoons I've already seen a hundred times.
I'm too depressed to even hook up my computer or play any games. I even bought parts to upgrade my PC like a month or two ago thinking it would motivate me to finally to hook up my PC after already living here over a year. I own like 20+ PS4 gamesand I can't motivate myself to play any of them.and 3 PS4s
Literally no one wants anything to do with me, male or female: http://m.neogaf.com/showpost.php?p=135220489
Just look at how much I get avoided in this thread. That's how complete strangers treat me in real life too. Not simply ignoring but purposely avoiding. There's a difference and I've picked up on it but it happens a lot. It's really difficult to try and meet anyone when everyone is going out of their way to avoid you.
Did you take into account what I said? When you ask someone out, but they say they're busy, it's normally not a good sign. If they say they busy, but they plan other time it works, it's a lot better. So when you have a number, but think you might've been rejected, it's a good idea to build up rapport over some messages before trying again.
If you really like her... then go do something else with her. Go out with her and i dont mean a date i mean just hanging out. Treat her like a friend. Get over the fact that you are in the Friendzone right now.
This might lead to having someone that would help you understand women better or if you are really lucky and work hard for it you might end up in a relationship with her.
But dont get your hopes up. Just play it cool even if it hurts sometimes.
How do you handle being somewhere else financially?
I like this girl, we've been out together and everything is great. Except when we talk on facebook, she casually mentions stuff like: "if I buy those clothes (not some designer crap, but day to day stuff that she needs for her hobby) I won't have anything to eat for the rest of the month with a smiley face behind it.
I'm just not sure how to react to that. She also dislikes me paying for her when we're out.
I'm relatively well-off, I have never been in her situation and I never know what to say. I also feel like crap whenever she wants to pay, because I know I can spare the money and she can't.
Frustrating.