NobleGundam
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Yup. I fucking hated it. She coudnt make her damn mind.
Be honest. If he says no just remain frienda, there's tons of other guys out there.
I asked him if he missed me and he said "the bed is cold without you". Surely that means something.
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I asked him if he missed me and he said "the bed is cold without you". Surely that means something.
Not really the case with me, there is a very limited dating pool for guys my age.
I asked him if he missed me and he said "the bed is cold without you". Surely that means something.
I don't think there's any ambiguity in that one, sir.
He wants the D.
Yep.I don't think there's any ambiguity in that one, sir.
He wants the D.
How...often are you paying for his meals? Because, and hopefully this is not the case, but this could just be a "friends with benefits" situation for him. (That is, you're a friend that he can get to buy food for him.)
OP he is probably just as confused and wondering about how you feel as much as you are.
I don't think there's any ambiguity in that one, sir.
He wants the D.
Edit. The bed thing is about as straight forward as it gets. Good luck buddy
So I'm good? Just keep going out with him and pushing the boundaries?
So I'm good? Just keep going out with him and pushing the boundaries?
It's very hard sometimes the amount of mixed signals I've got from other girls is quite surprising when they wanted nothing.Man. I always forget how tricky it must be for gay people to date.
I guess if I was you I would try some non verbal cues like touching and hugging and go from there. Just see if he is comfortable with that. If not just back off.
From what you write, if a girl told me that I would be at her place like right now. BUT, since it's a "I am gay but not sure if he is" situation that is tricky. Like I said sounds like he is thinking about you the same way just a bit insecure and thinkng you do not have same feelings. We need Gay-Gaf in here to give you pointers to help you out.
I guess if I was you I would try some non verbal cues like touching and hugging and go from there. Just see if he is comfortable with that. If not just back off.
I actually haven't seen that as a good way to tell because there was this guy who was super touchy-feely with me, always lying his head down on my shoulder and other times holding my hand and then I see him with some girl.
I actually haven't seen that as a good way to tell because there was this guy who was super touchy-feely with me, always lying his head down on my shoulder and other times holding my hand and then I see him with some girl.
I had to re-read this about 10 times and I still have no idea what you're going on about.my rule of thumb is not to hangout alone with a girl without a third party. A few times that has happened it's been really awkward. It seems like when you're out alone with a girl (esp. if it was their idea) they always seems to expect something.
I had to re-read this about 10 times and I still have no idea what you're going on about.
I got exactly this situation going on right now.
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But on the third date we went to a movie and she literally sat the entire time with her arms crossed. I don't feel like I ever have an opening to flirt without it sounding completely awkward as shit.
Nope. I come in the room and she's sitting in a couch, with a single-person living room chair next to it. She offers me to sit on that chair :/ wat. Then the spends most of the time on her computer, while we're "watching" TV. Got so awkward I had to fake being tired just so I could leave.
To her credit, I haven't flirted either. Both of us are extremely new to dating (we're both senior engineers in college, so we have the social skills of 14 year olds)
I got exactly this situation going on right now.
I've been "out" with this girl about 4 times now. We talk friendly enough, but she never flirts and doesn't act like she's talking to anyone other than a casual friend.
I mean, that's fine. Not gonna go on a first date and expect to make out or be super flirty within 20 minutes. But on the third date we went to a movie and she literally sat the entire time with her arms crossed. I don't feel like I ever have an opening to flirt without it sounding completely awkward as shit.
Then last week we were going to have dinner at a restaurant. The day of, she says she thinks restaurants will be crowded that day and she instead offers to "hang out at her place". Obviously I'm not gonna "score", she hasn't been in the least bit flirtatious. But at the very least she wants alone time so if we do flirt it won't be awkward in public right?
Nope. I come in the room and she's sitting in a couch, with a single-person living room chair next to it. She offers me to sit on that chair :/ wat. Then the spends most of the time on her computer, while we're "watching" TV. Got so awkward I had to fake being tired just so I could leave.
To her credit, I haven't flirted either. Both of us are extremely new to dating (we're both senior engineers in college, so we have the social skills of 14 year olds), so I have a hard time "blaming" her for anything, but come on. If she's inviting me to her place she can't even invite me to sit on her couch and inch just a tiny bit closer than arm-length distance? I mean, I know the guy has to initiate this sort of thing, but I really don't want any situations where I'm making unwanted advances.
But I basically did ask him this twice. Just didn't use the word date.
Did you at least, you know, like put your arm around her at the theatre or something? Initiate any sort of contact? Do anything to show any sort of interest?
Seriously, that was painfully awkward to read.
Sounds like your in the friend zone bro
Nope, nope, and nope.
I know, it's my fault just as much. And believe me, it's just as awkward as you think it is.
I'm not being mean, I'm just not getting a vibe that she's all that interested. I keep going out thinking I'm definitely going to show interest at least once, then when I'm with her my brain is going "EVERYTHING SHE DOES SAYS SHE'S NOT INTERSTED, BAIL OUT".
Meanwhile, I'm sure she's thinking "wtf he keeps going out with me and doing nothing to show interest".
I bet you all have nostalgia for your middle school days right about now.
I asked him if he missed me and he said "the bed is cold without you". Surely that means something.