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[ClayKavalier]

Perfection.

Thanks! Always crazy to see how people will let one little thing stop them from pursuing a relationship. And something like religion or something big like whether or not you want to have kids I can see, but video games? C'mon.

 

[Inspectah_Deck]

The tremendous last 3 years have taught me that It makes things easier if you participate, or at least try out your partners hobbies. You may not end up as invested as they are but you will gain an understanding of their interests as well as the mutual respect of each other's hobbies.

This is vital for a relationship imo!

Mine used to play only Candy Crush and had a Wii Mini with Mario Kart and Party.
We moved together in january and she loves my Wii U.
We started with Mario Kart 8 and Party 10 and now she works herself up to the more "hardcore" stuff.
Recently shes been Splatoon addicted and even reached level 20 before me.
I´m kind of proud.

 

[nintendork666]

My ex was the Ms. Pac-man/Galaga only type. Then I introduced her to gems like Dr. Mario, Mario Kart, and the Silent Hill series. Eventually she started beating more titles than me: mostly survival horror. Man, do I miss her.

 

[Summoner]

My wife doesn't like gaming. She tries to watch, but then 30 seconds later she's gone.


She also DESPISES my arcade stick with the passion of a million sons.

Why is that lmao. The clickity noises?

 

[daxy]

Live together with my girlfriend and while we have many common interests, she isn't into videogames at all apart from an occasional game of Tetris. We'll be playing The Wolf Among Us together some time soon though after having raised her interest in it. Nonetheless, I think it's healthy to have our own separate hobbies so that we both have our 'me time' on occasion. Thankfully she gets that games are important to me, so for me it's a question of prioritizing my free time. I don't play as often as I used to, but then I didn't have the same responsibilities either. Understanding each other and having the discipline to manage your time properly taking into account the fact that you're not an island is key here.

My girlfriend really likes playing Diablo 3 with me, and a fighting game here and there. Oh she also was huge on Super Sports Friends for a while and loved what she played of Gang Beasts. That's pretty much it.

Other than that once in a while I'll get her interested in some story driven indie titles. But that usually only keeps her attention for a couple of goes.

Ryckert, is that you?

 

[Tyraniboah]

My wife isn't a gamer and this hasn't caused a problem 8 years in. She does get a kick out of watching me play more story oriented stuff though. She knows almost as much about Mass Effect as I do. There's other stuff too and we share a love of sports and other things so I'm quite alright with gaming not being her thing

Although if she was a Patriot fan we never would have started dating. Lol

 

[davidbloop]

My girlfriend enjoys Nintendo games and RPGs (as do I) but doesn't enjoy some of the harder games (too many buttons camp). That said she understands that they're important to me and never complains. I'm a collector and she only ever reels me in when I'm overspending like crazy when more important things need to be done. I even got her into collecting and now she has a nice hand-held collection.

She didn't even complain when I got my Majoras Mask tattoo. Even though I can tell she was hesitant at first once it was done she loved it.

 

[Iriscomeback]

My wife sometimes plays Yoshi's Woolly World or Kirby and the Rainbow Paintbrush with me.

But other than that she only plays shit like Candy Crush...

 

[WeAreStarStuff]

My g/f does not like games at all; I can't even get her slightly interested......or so I thought. We were at the beach the other week and came across an arcade, and she was like 'Oh I love Area 51.' This totally threw me for a loop since I've never been able to get her interested in a single game. I told her she was a conundrum, and she said it's a simple game.

 

[Rsinart]

My wife doesn't game, and I believe hates that I do. In 13 years I've only ever gotten her to play Hot Shots, and just last week we played through Until Dawn. If any of you want a game your significant other might play, pick up Until Dawn.

 

[gar3]

My wife has only really enjoyed playing Clubhouse Games on Nintendo DS. That's really about it, heh. When we first started dating she really liked watching me play Animal Crossing on Nintendo GameCube but never wanted to play herself, though.

 

[Kinokou]

I could not imagine being in a relationship where the other part didn't like gaming. However I might be picky towards what kind of games they like, someone only liking shooters would probably not work out.

Edit: Also, lol at only about 6 of 266 posts being about male SO's.

 

[openrob]

Well my missus basically had no interest in my little hobby. However, loved her mobile games.
This year has been different though, and has really gotten into certain games, I just had to find out the games she was interested in.

For some odd reason she got into Splatoon a LOT. And since I recently got an Xbox 360 has gotten into LA Noir after watching me play (strikes a chord with our love of crime/detective dramas).

She has no interest it fantasy or 'epic' games, and unless it's very fun (like Yoshi, or Splatoon) prefers something where you have to use your brain a bit.


But long story short, don't try to sell your SO the games you like, but ones they THEY might. Oh and its fun to do something together, but if you have some fantasy of a 'gamer girlfriend' or whatever, it's not that glamorous looool.

 

[Crayon]

Why is that lmao. The clickity noises?

Yeah i think its the noise. Same over here. I think she also associates it with me getting angry lol.

 

[ldcommando]

My wife like games, but doesn´t play them anymore

 

[rainy_day]

My wife won't normally play games, she has trouble with the movements on consoles. She does like animal crossing on her DS and loves Simpsons tapped out/fallout shelter.

If the game I am playing has a decent story she will watch and get mad if I play without her.
Games she has watched to completion:
Bioshock 1, 2 and Infinite
Fallout 3
Farcry 4
Dead Space 1 and 2
Walking Dead Season 1
TLOU

She dislikes the online shooters.
I wish she would play games with me but the fact that she will watch a good majority of the games is enough for me. Maybe one day she will jump in!

 

[Mahonay]

Ryckert, is that you?

Hahah pretty he does sure he has a GAF account on here.

But yeah now that you mention it I think I remember him saying his lady friend being into the same games. Weird.

 

[djtiesto]

My girlfriend has been hooked on Pokemon Snap and Yoshi's Island lately. Progress!

Too bad she still thinks I spend too much time and money on games

 

[bob_arctor]

An addendum to my earlier post:

My wife actually did like Resident Evil and Ridge Racer on the PS1, specifically the "Itchy, tasty" journal entry and the announcer in RR. She's also a fan when I lose playing Street Fighter online. She absolutely loves that shit. Salt in the wound style.

 

[Az987]

My girlfriend is kind of but not nearly as much as me. She sticks to certain genres, first person shooters and animal crossing mostly. I got her into pokemon and elder Scrolls online recently but she kind of loses interest quick.

 

[thelastcrusader]

Got my wife hooked on FFXIV and she's a higher level healer than me now . Problem solved. Except when I have to kick her offline so she gets to wifing. She's a bit of an addictive personality

 

[CitizenCope]

My gf doesn't like games at all. Altough, somehow, I convinced her once to play Diablo III with me on the PS4 and we ended up finishing the whole game together. We had a great time. She was more worried on destroying sutff on the map though....

Haha this was my wife when playing some of the Lego games. I would do what was necessary to progress while she enjoyed smashing things.
She doesn't have an issue with me playing at all. When you are married there is no reason to have to be together 24/7. Hell she doesn't even like sports.
Not going to lie though, with an empty nest now, not having so much in common is becoming more obvious.

 

[angrygnat]

My kids and I are pretty avid gamers so my wife is the odd one out.

 

[Interfectum]

My wife plays a lot of mobile games (The Room, Lifeline, DNBHL, etc) and she occasionally gets into bigger titles on console. She's currently playing through Life is Strange (waiting for ep5) and Until Dawn.

 

[Special C]

How old are you?

Usually you learn as you get older that if your significant other is turned off by one of your favorite hobbies; you wouldn't date them in the first place.

My Wife has zero interest in video games and we are both extremely happy in our relationship. Its healthy for each party to have one or two separate hobbies

 

[Zukuu]

Sadly she isn't. But I well get her into it at some point. She really likes South Park, so I'm gonna play the South Park game with her. I doubt she will ever play on her own tho.

 

[Interfectum]

My Wife has zero interest in video games and we are both extremely happy in our relationship. Its healthy for each party to have one or two separate hobbies

I don't know if the person you responded to ment this or not but I think it's important that your significant other respects your hobby even if they don't participate in it. I've seen quite a few examples in my lifetime of my friend's girlfriends looking down on them playing video games assuming "it's a phase" they'll hopefully grow out of.

 

[VanWinkle]

My wife likes video games. In fact, it was our shared enjoyment of games that got us to start hanging out (I would go to her house and play L4D even that I didn't even really like the game so I could hang out with her).

That being said, she's not so into them that she researches online and on forums and stuff like I do.

 

[BRocknRolla]

It's a real shame so many people can't seem to get past Title Fight's bait post.

There's an actual conversation to be had here were people to actually respond to what the OP said,

I don't know if the person you responded to ment this or not but I think it's important that your significant other respects your hobby even if they don't participate in it. I've seen quite a few examples in my lifetime of my friend's girlfriends looking down on them playing video games assuming "it's a phase" they'll hopefully grow out of.

Exactly. The "turn-off" that the OP is talking about is a fairly serious thing. It isn't just disinterest.

 

[jon bones]

Yeah, my wife doesn't care.

We'll play some Mario Kart once in a blue moon, but not much more than that.

 

[prag16]

My wife doesn't like video games at all. At all. She'll get addicted to puzzle type games on her phone like sudoku or 2048 but that's the full extent of it. She'll play Mario Kart with me and my son very VERY VERY rarely (and at that not recently), but other than quiz show type games (she loved You Don't Know Jack on Wii), absolutely nothing else. She also seems to prefer steering my son towards sitting and mindlessly watching TV shows for his "TV time" rather than playing games, which is inexplicable to me.

She knows full fell I'm into gaming and she doesn't mind it. But she does think it's a "for kids" thing to a great extent, and is at least somewhat baffled by my continued interest in it. When we started dating eleven years ago, I have a feeling she thought that I'd have lost interest by now. As others have alluded to, she does seem to "look down on" me doing it slightly, but nothing serious. It's the same way I look down on her antiquing and the entire concept of "shopping as a hobby" that many people are into for some reason. Her mother is the worse; shopping is literally her ONLY hobby (that and burning gas needlessly, but they go hand in hand...).

 

[glaringradio]

Really into them. Probably plays games more than I do. It's great, having a legitimate hobby that we both share, means there's always something to do even if it is just sitting on the sofa playing co-op in something for hours on end.

My last SO always bugged me for how much I played games (which wasn't really much at all, just that because she didn't seem to really have a hobby she enjoyed, any time I spent playing games was seen as time not doing things with her), but when on occasion she got really into a game that I asked her to play (e.g. Diablo 3, Professor Layton games) you literally couldn't drag her away from them. It wasn't good.

 

[Tigress]

Ok, my SO is definitely not interested in games. But I don't keep it in the closet. In fact he seems to not mind that I'll play games and he'll just peruse the internet while keeping me company.

But I can't even get him interested enough to want to try to tell me to "go do that." I even tried with TellTales Walking Dead game cause he seemed to like the tv show and I figured since the game has much better story/characters I could get him into it enough to at least want to influence my decisions. Nope, kept just perusing his computer .

Tried to get him to play a few co op games and he just gets annoyed with the controls (He's just not interested enough to bother with all those buttons. If he does any gaming he prefers nostalgia stuff like Atari/TI-99 <- yes we're that old that those were the games of our childhood). I mean I even tried this game that came out when the PS4 came out (was one of the first offerings for PS+ for PS4, I can't remember the name, a lot of people liked it) that reminded me a lot of old style atari like games but modernized. He wasn't so annoyed with it but still decided it was just too hard and not worth the effort.

Oddly, GTA V is the only game I've had any success with and he just liked stealing cars and driving like a maniac (didn't want to do any missions, just steal cars in free roam). He was greatly amused by that for a while.

I guess I'm lucky he doesn't mind that I game so much since he has absolutely no interest in it.

 

[WGMBY]

I've brought my GF over to playing games, when we started dating she really didn't have any interest. Started her with Portal, then Infamous, then GTAV. She's currently partway through Assassins Creed 1 right now. My plan is to work her up to Dark Souls .

I actually have to wait for her to get home today so we can watch the opening of MGSV together.

 

[pablito]

She likes games even though she doesn't play herself too often nowadays. She goes with me to EVO, she loves watching horror games or anything that has interesting story/cutscenes. And she doesn't give me any shit about MMO phases since she knows what it's like, being an ex WoW player herself.

 

[Shake Appeal]

My wife has zero interest in videogames. The last one she played was SMB3. We also have long discussions about violence in videogames and why I like to shoot virtual representations of strangers, and those conversations usually end in her being more confused than ever about the appeal.

But she's fine with me playing them.

 

[Kamina]

She only likes Sims, and maybe some Pokemon sometimes.

 

[Georome]

Yep. She loves the Lego games, Zelda games, Mario Kart, Ratchet and Clank, and we spent an entire summer playing Star Wars Battlefront II together.

 

[ArkkAngel007]

She's not into it...except what she gets into and she's the one spending time on it. If I'm playing something though, well, I'm sure all the responses are elsewhere in this thread.

Sat down and played on the PS4 for the first time in 2 months and the first time since she's been back from deployment...holy shit at the venom despite she spent nearly a day last weekend playing South Park: The Stick of Truth. Same with mobile games like Fallout Shelter or even duolingo. She plays Candy Crush or is on Facebook all day, time well spent between the both of us. I put on duolingo, and I'm interfering with time.

I guess I don't get it. She's similar when it comes to tv. Family Guy and Spongebob reruns for the thousanth time: ok. Watching a new movie or putting on a show I want to watch: fits be thrown.

Only games that she likes I know for sure (PC/console) are South Park TSOT, Skyrim, Minecraft, and McGees Alice Madness Returns. Mobile is usually the King stuff, Dumb Ways to Die, and Plague Inc.

 

[Jeronimo Jones]

She's not actively seeking out games but we have played together, most recently, Knack...we haven't finished it, though.

I have bought a few games with the intention of us playing together on PS4, but there hasn't been much time for it. Used to play Hot Shots Golf, LittleBigPlanet, and PixelJunk Monsters on PS3.

She's definitely supportive of my hobby and that's what matters. For example, she sometimes gets me gift cards for games and we both hope for a gameroom/theater/basement whenever we seriously start looking for a house. Feels good, man.

If she was generally against games for some reason, like one of her friends, that would have been a problem a looong time ago.

 

[Letep]

She loves Tetris, and is very good at it, but otherwise, nope.

 

[Shinriji]

My wife used to play a lot of Atari games when she was a little kid. Her favourite was "Bobby is Going Home". Nowadays, she plays some Candy Crush.

But she loves watching TV and doing handcraft with me around, so I am a handheld person now.

 

[JigglesBunny]

My now ex-girlfriend (broke up a week ago) never got into it but the girl I'm currently seeing a bit who has been my best friend for years is pretty casual.

She's beaten The Last Of Us on her own and played Call of Duty with her brothers and her and I have played some Nintendo Land, plus she's interested in playing Until Dawn so she totally understands the hobby which was a big problem in my last relationship at some points.

 

[SandTorso]

She'll play games from her childhood on occasion (descent 1 and 2),but generally I don't play games around her, as we have enough free time not working the same schedule for that. She's also super competitive, so even stuff like Mario kart can cause some frustration if I win, especially in a cheap way.

 

[Hollabootsey]

I don't think my wife has ever played a game outside maybe solitaire but it hasn't been a problem in 9 years of marriage. I did kinda keep my love of gaming on the low when we were dating, don't know if she would've approved. The ps4 is hooked up to the main tv so I make sure to not hog the box but sometimes, she'll watch me play a story based game and talk about the characters, she knows the uncharted story.

 

[Raitaro]

Reading this thread makes me realize that games still have a long way to go in terms of becoming universally accepted forms of entertainment. The fact that so many partners of people here have never played a game nor have any interest in them whatsoever - even when their partners, i.e. you guys, love them so much - bums me out quite a bit to be honest. How incredible would it be if someone would say that their wife never watched any movies or read any books? Only with games can this still happen it seems, despite the growth of the gaming industry.

As for my own wife: I feel blessed to be able to say that she has a selective interest in games that started before meeting me with PC games like Myst and puzzle games. Over the years she's remained a fan of puzzle games like Tetris, Picross etc and she has become a fan of Animal Crossing, Mario Kart, Fire Emblem, Harvest Moon, 999, Phoenix Wright, Ghost Trick and most recently Splatoon (rollers only though, as aiming is tricky for her) and Boku no Natsuyasumi (which she is playing with a translation at hand).

She'll also play an occassional fighting game or beat 'm up with me if I ask her to, which I can definitely appreciate as a person without gaming friends of any kind. Oh and she also likes to occassionally watch me play certain (more artistic?) games like Metal Gear Solid or Ico. In general she favors games that rely less on reflexes and complex controls though, so no platformers, FPS games, or action games etc. I've always thought she'd become a (J)RPG/ Zelda fan over time as well, but so far she seems to find them interesting but also too time consuming to really get into them.

 

[CanUKlehead]

Not necessarily the games I play, though she likes fantasy, so she'll sit when I play Skyrim or Castlevania LOS. She'll also play Guitar Hero/Rock Band.

She also loves old school graphics adventure. She wants to go visit places from the Gabriel Knight games for our holiday.

 

[Novocaine]

She's hooked on a browser game called Illyriad at the moment. She doesn't play many of my games but sometimes one will grab her attention. The most recent one was The Unfinished Swan.

 

[Zero²]

Well, he really loves Mario Kart 8, specially battle mode
I tried getting him into Splatoon, but I guess the controls need some getting into and he gets frustrated easily haha
He likes playing mario with me too, NSLU is out favorite.
I've never tried playing an RPG with him, mostly because that's more of a "me" moment, but I'll try when I get xenoblade. And Zelda? Well thats a mystery!

 

[KdylanR92]

Nope she never even played a mario game, sad really but i don't mind, most of my friends don't play video games.