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Is your significant other not into games at all?

My wife has un-diagnosed issues relating to attention span - I'm sure of it. Any time I try to get her to play games with me, her excuse is that she would get bored after 10 minutes, and she doesn't get how I can sit an play for hours.

So yeah, she's not into games, but these days nothing really holds her attention. I'm worried about her lol.
 
My fiancé loves to play some Nintendo games with me and previously played a lot of Age of Empires and old school FPSes (Doom, Heretic, Hexen...), but nowadays she doesn't have a lot of free time to play, but always avoided playing online due to "gamers" harassment.
 
Arkhanor said:
My fiancé loves to play some Nintendo games with me and previously played a lot of Age of Empires and old school FPSes (Doom, Heretic, Hexen...), but nowadays she doesn't have a lot of free time to play, but always avoided playing online due to "gamers" harassment.
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I'm like that too, I don't enjoy playing many games online because of they're bullying and harassment. I also dislike when I can't mute voice chat globally. It's annoying muting people individually.

My GF enjoys GTA V online because of how the people act. ha
 
My wife is not into most games. She plays candy crush, we played Lego marvel together, and she likes old n64 games sometimes. But by and large she is not a gamer at all.
I honestly was never looking to date a gamer anyway. We have our own hobbies and our own interests and we share what we can, but I didn't want someone exactly like me. I'm glad that I can game when I want and that we can enjoy doing other things together like working out, watching movies, etc. I'm of the opinion that moderation is good and that being different bring some balance to the relationship and broadens horizons. Since I met my wife, who is an ex gymnast and now personal trainer, I'm gotten in fantastic shape and have way more muscle than I ever have before. I've learned to enjoy new things and be around different people. I still game and I love games, but I have more diversity in my life than I did before. She's learned to love sports cars and shooting, I've learned to love working out and singing. She's into musicals and show choir and such. So that was new.
 
She'll get into a new game for a few weeks and then forget about it. The 3DS she has hasnt been touched in over a year with a sealed Bravely Default next to it. She also got a PS4 over the weekend from the Target Cartwheel deal...............and it's still unopened in the plastic bag

:|
 
Mine isn't necessarily disinterested but its not really her thing.

She'll play with me if I want her to. She has a lot of fun playing SM3DW with me and is having a great time going through Until Dawn at the moment.

She just isn't very good so I'm trying to ease her in to them. She also doesn't mind me playing and will ask me about them.
 
My GF recently tried Zuma's Revenge on my PC (it's free in Origin) and she has clocked in like 25 hours on that alone now.
She's into bunch of different mobile games as well.
She also likes playing around in GTA San Andreas with cheats on.
But the Zuma games are definitely her favorite, sometimes she gets home from work and goes straight to my PC and starts playing Zuma..
 
My girlfriend is a very casual gamer. She can heavily get into games like The Sims or Animal Crossing, but not too much else. We do have a lot of fun with two player games, like Mario Kart, Smash Bros, and Lego Games.

I would never hide or tone down my hobbies around her though, that's crazy. If you can't be yourself in a relationship you're not in the right relationship.
 
mattiewheels said:
Assuming most people who post here are more than casual gamers, I'd bet they're in relationships where they share interests like that. But are there any relationships here where you don't keep this hobby out in the open because a SO would end up being bored or turned off by it?
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My wife loves gaming too, especially survival games and she encourages me to play games. She is pretty bloody awesome and many a night is sat with me on my consoles or pc and her on her pc playing 7 days to die :)

good times and I love her :)
 
My gf hasn't traditionally been into games, but I've recently began converting her haha. She's a South Park fan and she saw me playing the Stick of Truth which got her really excited to try it out.
 
My wife loves games. But she has nausea playing 3D games where there's too much going on.

2D games like "Little Big Planet" and most Nintendo games are fine though. I wish i could play some COD with her.

She also like to watch me play games, especially stuff like Uncharted, God of War, Metal Gear, Infamous, Gears of War... to name a few. She even follows the stories and asks questions.
 
My wife is a pretty avid gamer. We've played everything from Diablo to Rocket League together, and she's counting down to days till Fallout 4. Having the same hobbies has helped up have a pretty smooth relationship.

My ex's, on the other hand, were not into gaming much. It's not the reason why any other relationships I've had didn't end in marriage, but it helped. Haha.
 
Nope. My lady has occasionally attempted to play Halo with me before, but the controls just baffle her.

She's really respectful of my time though. During the week, I can sometimes sneak gametime in, especially if she's doing laundry or whatever. I also try to plan out anything that will take more than 2 hours ahead of time and let her know. Ended up running an impromptu Destiny Raid a few weeks ago and it wasn't particularly great. Especially since I was super confident in my team and we just kept failing.
 
silentchiloner said:
My wife loves gaming too, especially survival games and she encourages me to play games. She is pretty bloody awesome and many a night is sat with me on my consoles or pc and her on her pc playing 7 days to die :)

good times and I love her :)
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Good times indeed, my wife is a gamer too, it's awesome, gamer wifes are the best ;) makes all the nerdy gamer stuff so much more fun and no argueing about how much time or money we spend on gaming, as long as it isn't affecting our kids or the family negatively.

But when I was younger I had a gf that said she liked video games when we were dating but it turned out she was a fake and just lied to get closer to me, I still liked her but I kind of buried gaming and other hobbies too during that time and never played video games or the guitar etc when she was around and it all went downhill after a year or so since I could never quite be myself. Others may handle it better though as this thread seems to show, but it was a really bad experience for me personally, I kind of lost my whole self, but I guess it works as long as the significant other aren't too negative about it and tries to control you.
 
My soon to be wife didn't pay attention to games/comics before she met me. Now she enjoys playing some occasional Rayman Legends or LEGO Marvel Super Heroes with me.

She loves and respects that I enjoy them and show so much passion about them.
 
Yup, it sucks. Won't even play the mobile ones.

I'm currently sitting on Lego Marvel Superheroes (she at least likes those), but I doubt she'll play it with me even if I got another controller.
 
My wife hates them and with me pumping more time into Destiny to get ready for TTK she hates them even more. Lately, as soon as I pickup the controller she gets riled up unless I put on Amazon or HBO, then she calms back down.

Mostly she can tolerate the single player experiences, but when I can't quit when she wants me to, that tends to set her off. I'm starting to switch to off hours (early morning/late night) to avoid the conflict.
 
Interfectum said:
I don't know if the person you responded to ment this or not but I think it's important that your significant other respects your hobby even if they don't participate in it. I've seen quite a few examples in my lifetime of my friend's girlfriends looking down on them playing video games assuming "it's a phase" they'll hopefully grow out of.
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Yep..based on what OP was asking, it's pretty clear that this is what Title Fight was talking about..not sure how/why people are taking it out of context. As mentioned, my wife plays Rock Band occasionally. Other than that, zero interest in games, and yeah, we couldn't be happier.

It's when the SO honestly thinks that you're some kind of man-child for liking video games, and commiserates about it with his/her friends, that there is a problem, and you should bail.
 
Not in the slightest. I tried to get her into games with one of my favourite of all time: Ultima IV. She was scared of the Orc that was chasing her trying to get her, so she said "forget it, games are not for me".

The only game I ever got her to play somewhat reliably is Carcassonne on the 360. She likes that one but it's not really a "video game" more like a "digital board game". Which I love BTW I think that there should be many more faithful recreations of board games. What I wouldn't give for a PC version of 7 Wonders! Anyway, that's a whole 'nother topic.
 
IronRinn said:
Yep. She likes the old Mario Brothers games but almost all my video game stuff is in a separate room as she really has no interest. The PS3 is in the living room, because we use it as a Blu-ray player.
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Are you me?

Basically this is where I am but she likes old Zelda too.
 
My girlfriend actually likes games but wont play them because she gets sucked it and wont want to stop. She is also a "controller thrower"...

she is also a beast at Bubble Bobble.
 
My fiancee is pretty indifferent towards games but doesn't have an issue with me playing them. Though between work, spending time with her and a baby on the way I'm not finding much time to game.
 
My wife really hates gaming, but it's no big deal. We each have our own interests. Sometimes they overlap, but not in this instance.
 
Sat on the couch with my girlfriend last night and she asked what games we could play together. After I found Sports Friends on my PS4 we started barabariball and she concluded there was too many rules in it. Interestingly, she loves Animal Crossing.
 
My girlfriend's never really been exposed to gaming. She's played classic Mario games and has a Wii with Mario Kart, but other than that, anything I show her is new. She's expressed a lot of interest in learning about video games because I enjoy them so much. I had her try The Last of Us and she enjoyed the beginning and wants to keep playing. She thought the beginning of Journey was alright, but wasn't in the mood for something that slow.

I'm gonna give her Roller Coaster Tycoon 2, Puzzle Agent, Cave Story, and Thomas Was Alone to try at her own leisure during downtime at college. She doesn't have a very good laptop, so I figured they'd be some good games to at least experience a wider variety than just Mario and Call of Duty.
 
Wife has no interest in video games and does not mind them being my primary hobby which is cool.

Few days ago I was playing Mega Man 1 and she walked by and said "Mario?"... I replied with "No this is his cousin"
 
My wife has no interest in games whatsoever. We've been together for 17 years now though and she understands my love of video games and gives me the space and time to do so.
 
My wife doesn't care much for playing any game that's not Tsum Tsum, but she does enjoy watching live videos on niconico. She doesn't seem to be very interested in watching me play games for extended time, but there are some games that I will probably play through with her present, like Until Dawn.

She is interested in Star Wars: Battlefront, but I'm not sure if she can play it. I expect her to watch it a lot, though.
 
She's definitely into games, or at least she was. She's played several JRPGs over the years. Lately, the Wii U has helped rekindle her love for games a fair bit. She absolutely loves playing Mario Kart (even though I never let her win).

She has no interest in my PC gaming hobby, but she certainly doesn't mind it. I'm not nearly as bad as I used to be in the days when I'd put hundreds of hours into a new FPS. I'm sure she felt pretty neglected then, but still stayed with me for the past 16 1/2yrs.
 
While I totally agree that a partner doesn't have to be interested in exactly the same thing (great relationships are based more on other things than on interests/hobbies), it fascinates me that a couple of answers in here mentions the SO hating gaming and hating the fact that you spend time with games at all. How does that work? I can't wrap my head around it. Is it not a big hobby for you? I wouldn't be able to enjoy a game if I knew my partner hated that I spent any time with it. It would sap out every little bit of fun I could have with it since that would gnaw at the back of my mind all the time.

The one interest I personally feel my partner has to share is gaming. It's my biggest one and the one that takes up the majority of my time. In my case I just feel that it wouldn't work if he/she wasn't into it at all.
Thankfully, my SO since nine years is just as interested in games as I am. That's pretty much our only shared interest. He doesn't read, doesn't care about music, has no interest in home decoration and for some reason has an interest in boring cars. ;D I also love to tease him about his "shitty taste" in movies <3

Raitaro said:
Reading this thread makes me realize that games still have a long way to go in terms of becoming universally accepted forms of entertainment. The fact that so many partners of people here have never played a game nor have any interest in them whatsoever - even when their partners, i.e. you guys, love them so much - bums me out quite a bit to be honest. How incredible would it be if someone would say that their wife never watched any movies or read any books? Only with games can this still happen it seems, despite the growth of the gaming industry.
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My SO doesn't read. Not even comic books or anything.
It's not uncommon for men not to read, but it's brought up as sort of a problem in the world today. There's the difference.
 
Mine mostly hates games, but doesn't mind that I like them as she likes having her own time too. I like it as it gives me my own hobby, and I mostly play single player or co-op games with friends so it's nice not having to make time for local co-op with her or fight over who gets to use which console when etc.
 
My girlfriend doesn't play games at all, but knows I love them and does not mind at all. She isn't willing to even try stuff which does kind of bother me, even something like pinball (the real thing, not any of the VG simulations) which is about as basic as it gets (two buttons and a plunger).

I suppose the thing to try would be start off with something super basic like Flower, which doesn't move too quickly and has the most straightforward of controls. And then maybe move to titles like LBP and Journey. If anyone else has any ideas (preferably non-twitch or fast reaction titles) I'd love to read them!

But yeah, it does suck she's not willing to give them at least a little go. More than just firing up solitaire on her iPhone/iPad.
 
My wife has a weird relationship with games. She used to be into Little Big Planet for a while, which we played together, but then she said she was worried she was becoming too addicted to it and stopped playing, only to start playing mobile games like Candy Crush, Pet Rescue and Rummiplus. She spends more of her waking time playing mobile games than I do playing console games but says that I spend too much time gaming... SMH.
 
My wife's somewhat chill about gaming we have our own hobbies and interests which after being married for as long as we have is kind of nice: I'd take tolerance of a hobby while she does her own thing over just being co-dependent and never having alone time any day.
 
I and my wife had fun time together on several games

games we played together

Mario Kart WII
New Super Mario Bross WII
Beyond 2 Souls
Fortune Street
Wii Party
Kirby's Epic Yarn
Don King Kong Country Returns

games she played & i watched and then vice versa

Heavy Rain
The Last of Us
Life is Strange
Telltale's Game of Thrones
Hatsune Miku Project Diva 1 & 2nd (she's really good with Miku series, still play it until now with Hard & Extreme difficulty whereas i no longer play it anymore and mostly stuck with normal difficulty)

games she played and i just didn't care

Yoga on Wii Fit Plus

games she hate and i love it

FIFA series

if we have PS4, we probably would enjoy Until Dawn together
 
My past 3 relationships, which were also my only ones, were ones that didn't have a lot of compatible interests.

So I said fuck it and I won't pursue until I know our interests are at least mildly similar.
 
MrMephistoX said:
My wife's somewhat chill about gaming we have our own hobbies and interests which after being married for as long as we have is kind of nice: I'd take tolerance of a hobby while she does her own thing over just being co-dependent and never having alone time any day.
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Wait what? How does sharing an interest for something equal "being co-dependent and never having alone time"?
You know that you are not forced to play co-op with your SO just because you both happen to like games, right? :S
 
I once almost dated a girl who was really condescending when it came to video games. She seemed to really like me otherwise, but any time the topic of a game came up (which came up pretty often, because gaming has always been a strong hobby of mine), she'd make a point to say something like "I can't believe you waste your time with that crap" and whatnot. After a few times, I decided that I could never date someone closed-minded enough to diss an entire artform just because they don't really understand it and haven't ever given it a try themselves. I don't think I'll ever back down from that.
 
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