Their most popular article on there is "She Has a Boyfriend… Who Cares?". That's not really showing me the 'bright and sunny side' of PUAs.Here are some guys in the seduction community that talk more about self improvement as well as how to pick up women. Also they have almost 200 podcast episodes of free stuff.
http://pickuppodcast.com/
I do get annoyed that if a guy isn't born out of the womb knowing how to talk to a girl he's demonized but then guys who go get advice about how to be better with women are still made fun off. If a girl reads the Rules books no one bats an eye lid even though from what I've seen there's far more psychological manipulation in those books than the Game. That said I only read a synopsis of each chapter in one of those books and not any of the actual books so I don't truly have an informed opinion. A lot of women say x, y and z about the Game and haven't read it, if you've actually read it you'd see it's more of a memoir than a self help book.it shows the self destructive elements of the PUA community as well as the self improvement parts of it.
What did your sister think about it?
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Their most popular article on there is "She Has a Boyfriend Who Cares?". That's not really showing me the 'bright and sunny side' of PUAs.
(http://pickuppodcast.com/2009/01/07/she-has-a-boyfriend-who-cares/)
"Born out of the womb knowing"? Lol. Dude, no one is 'born' knowing how to talk to women. Socializing, be it with men or women, is a skill you have to develop. It takes you getting out of your comfort zone, taking a chance and striking up a conversation with someone. Sometimes you'll succeed, and this person will want to talk you more or get to know you better, but most times you'll fail. And that's okay! It helps you build confidence, and develop a callous to a fear of failure.
Yeah, some people are more naturally social than others. I wasn't social as a kid - I was fat, lonely nerd. But I learned how to be social by challenging myself to get out more, meet more people (not just women!) and live a more varied, fulfilled life. Using 'Game' does not get you that. You don't need a manual, a seminar, or a guy in a funny hat to tell you that. And when you see people as mere objectives and not, you know, people, how can you expect to grow as a person?
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that's pretty sillyNo one's allowed in her box.
I never visited their site i only listened to their podcast about two years ago. The podcast stuff talks about stuff mentioned about. As for confidence being needed, no shit. Some guys may have the balls to say hello but not able to hold a conversation shit takes practice and some guys need more help than others. Some guys are naturally very social and can talk to women easily, others may need a book to teach them stuff like demonstrating higher value.
Some shit that's obvious to to some is oblivious to others. Whether you wanna call it charisma or game. It's easy to paint a picture of all self-styled PUAs as seeing women as nothing more than a notch on the belt. I am not gonna pretend that there aren't. That said i don't see why a guy reading a book on how to improve his chances with women makes him a guy who sees them as nothing more than notches on their belt. Hell they can learn to understand women better, this was something women who went to the signing claimed as well.
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What the heck is this?
personal space box! xD
There's no irony. 100% of PUAs are pieces of shit. It's a philosophy and lifestyle based entirely on thinking women are stupid and easy to game.
The problem in all the PUA / 'self improvement' things I've seen is that it operates on a standard that women are utterly different from men, almost like aliens that men need to study and carefully measure out their interactions with.
Instead of, you know, treating women like fellow human beings who respond positively or negatively to many of the same things you'd respond positively or negatively to. That is, unless you're one of those people who think sexual assault by women is hot and irresistible, in which case you have an overall problem interacting with society, not just dating women.
There are ways to make good impressions on people, and they're not very complicated rules, nor manipulative or restricted to courting women. PUA advice essentially churns out the same type of pseudo-likeable male with the same bag of tricks.
Also, DHV (demonstrating higher value) is still kind of manipulative and encourages lying and other bullshit that doesn't represent who the person actually is.
Again, the problem is not that people had sex, it's that PUA encourages men to dig their heels into a playground idea that women are incomprehensible alien things rather than people. It's not that there's something awkward and unappealing about you as a person, or that you hide the interesting things about you away from women for whatever reason, nooo... it's just that women need to be decoded, seduced, conquered, and gamed.
The guy's advice referenced in the OP really isn't inherently wrong, just a bit crassly phrased. The issue is though, socially well adjusted, confident guys inherently know when they can start to get a bit more touchy feely in the interaction, and they know the signs that tell them to stop or go further. But put that info in the hands of basement dwellers who've never even held a conversation with a girl before...and you can see where this is going.
The guy's advice referenced in the OP really isn't inherently wrong, just a bit crassly phrased.
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The guy's advice referenced in the OP really isn't inherently wrong, just a bit crassly phrased.
DHV can range from walking into a club with an army of Swedish supermodels to just not looking like you're out on the pull and talking to everyone you see guy or girl. I don't think that it's as easy as you make it out to be when it comes to the opposite sex. Remember that rape thread based on that advert about what women wear? Some shit that seems logical in some women's head might not be too men. A guy may see a girl putting effort into her appearance more than might be usually expected at a club and think she is out to meet guy, girls will say it just means they are wearing what they feel comfortable. Some guys may not notice when a girl likes them and may need to be told and or taught what to look out for.
I think it's interesting that he wanted to manufacture controversy and in fact reveled in it. Shows how difficult it is to fight this stuff, when fighting it promotes it.
Can't we just y'know treat woman like human beings. Fuck sake.