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So I totally screwed up everything and I'm going to be alone forever now
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DeaconKnowledge
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How old are you? I doubt highly you'll be alone forever.
Damn boy you really gave it to yourself on this one
But listen, you're 31, which is essentially the new 21. Leave the game, go explore some mountains or some shit, do some meditating etc. Come back at 35 ready to slay these hoes and you'll realize that pain is temporary and life is long.
Just don't make the same mistakes goddamn
But listen, you're 31, which is essentially the new 21. Leave the game, go explore some mountains or some shit, do some meditating etc. Come back at 35 ready to slay these hoes and you'll realize that pain is temporary and life is long.
Just don't make the same mistakes goddamn
finalflame
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This read like someone who doesn't have the maturity to realize that nothing, short of the actual end of the world, is ever the end of the world. You'll be fine. Take a breather and focus on yourself, losing a relationship, or two, is not the end of the world or even close to it.
We don't agree on the whole circumcision matter but here I echo your sentiment.
finalflame
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CountAntonius
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Forever is a long time. Just stop making the same mistakes over and over and you should be fine next go round.
John Kowalski
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At least you didn't miss moon orbit op. Then you would truly be alone forever.
Lmao this is some Christmas future type shit
Saucestin_Roast
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Look, you really messed up. I kind of just got angry reading all of that. Cheating isn't cool obviously. You don't need to be told this. Or do you...? But you won't be *forever* alone. People make mistakes in life. It's all part of the process. And no one is incapable of redemption. You can totally learn from this and have a great life ahead of you full of wonderful relationships.
Just relax. Catch your breath. Realize your life isn't over. Define who you want yourself to be. Start making steps every day, no matter how small, to reach that goal.
Good luck.
Just relax. Catch your breath. Realize your life isn't over. Define who you want yourself to be. Start making steps every day, no matter how small, to reach that goal.
Good luck.
Imp the Dimp
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Bit of a bizarre situation and I can see why you feel bad about your mistake at the moment, but what makes you think you'll be alone forever? Couldn't really extract that from your post.
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Just got finished texting her.
She's really, really hurt. She blames herself for not being more physical with me sooner (absolutely not true, she's awesome as is). Says I should stay with my Ex because I still want her (absolutely not true). We had a long discussion. Personal things were said.
However,
Despite the fact that I'm scum, she said that she needs to think about all this and we said goodnight.
I'm going to give her several days space. I'm fully prepared to be fully dumped. But I've made it as clear as I can that my Ex is X'd and that I really do want to be with only this girl.
She told me "Things always get better".
Now I wait.
finalflame
Member
Tbh, relationships are almost never the same after shit like this. One or both sides end up bottling up a lot of resentment/mistrust and in the end you're most likely just putting yourself in a needlessly complicated relationship. Personally, I'd take the lesson and look for other fish (in the sea).
Either way, hope whatever the outcome you end up feeling better.
Either way, hope whatever the outcome you end up feeling better.
Sounds like you're not that great of a person, screwing over a great person like that. Maybe it's best you end up alone.
Thanks man.
thehypocrite
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Next time you find yourself thinking about hooking up with someone while in a relationship as GAF first.
Spaced Harrier
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If you take yourself back, you should marry yourself.
Subpar Spatula
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This sounds super familiar. Reminds me of the time of when someone does something bad and the person goes, "shit, I'm sorry, I'll buy you a case of beer or something to fix this".
You shouldn't be making promises to make your sins appear less.
kame-sennin
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hurricanes
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And cheat and lie to her when you got another chance? Let her go.
Laughing Banana
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Nahh OP, just use this as an opportunity for you to grow. You're feeling that way only because you only have that happening to you so your mind is screwy and not thinking logically.
I too have been, more than once, at a point where I believe that I would be alone forever. I too, have been, more than once, at a point in my romantic life where I truly fell to the utmost bottom of the ocean...
Yet now I am with someone. So just make sure you learn from this, and not to repeat your mistakes in the future.
I too have been, more than once, at a point where I believe that I would be alone forever. I too, have been, more than once, at a point in my romantic life where I truly fell to the utmost bottom of the ocean...
Yet now I am with someone. So just make sure you learn from this, and not to repeat your mistakes in the future.
ZackieChan
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Nope to all that. Get yourself tested if you must, then bury that shit deep inside and never do it again. What good came from him telling her? Not a goddamn thing.
kame-sennin
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Have you not even had sex with this woman yet?
I made it to the first sentence mentioning the ex. That was enough information.
lightskintwin
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I will never understand why people confess to cheating on their own free will. If you feel guilty and shitty doing it then learn from it and never cheat on them again, and hope your partner never finds out; because once that trust is broken, it's very difficult, if ever, to rebuid it.
Yeah, I'm not saying you start lying, but this was brutal. Basic social etiquette indicates you just don't mention some stuff out of politeness.
FUCK NO.
You should not:
1. Marry someone
2. Have children
In order to make up for the bad things you've done to the other person (cheating, etc). That'd be disastrous.
Instead be a better person and show that side to the person that you've wronged. Whether or not you'll end up together should happen naturally and not because you feel guilty.
30 is not the new 20 and neither is 40 the new 30, people should really stop saying this stupid whatever it is that some idiot coined up. The Man is 31 years old and fucked up. Sure he can make changes to his life and get lucky again with another lady. But he fucked up and he's not a child, he's 31 years old. Teenagers are the ones that should get a free pass as they are teens and most likely will do silly things, which is part of the life experience, this man is not a child, he's 31 years old.
How About No
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Take this advice though, holy wow
Well shit I was really banking on this concept
Sounds promising. After a few days, call her. Stop with the texting nonsense when it comes to the important stuff. Show her you care, let her hear how much you care and have her see and feel you put the effort in. It sounds like she has confidence issues so do your utmost to make her feel fucking special.
Lmao right? This is like when people were making excuses for Ryan Lochte's behavior with "oh he's just young, boys will be boys" or whatever the fuck else they said, when the dude is in his thirties.
Certain things can be excused as "young and stupid" up to a certain age. Past 30 is way past whatever that certain age would be (maybe mid 20s at the latest).
This OP. Honestly the best thing for you probably is to take it easy for a while. Give yourself some time to reflect and grow. If she's willing and if you really care about this new girl, give your relationship the best chance to succeed and take it slowly.
To exhaust a metaphor, it's already on a shaky foundation. The only way it will be healthy and long is if you take the time to mend it properly before you try building on it.
And if she isn't willing then for heaven's sake take some time to be alone and reflect
Oh boy. You made huge mistakes but you have admitted to them and realize what you did was wrong; that's a good first step. As long as you learn from this and don't repeat your mistakes, then it's not all bad and not all for nothing. You won't be alone forever, even if it feels like it now. Also, even if you get back with the girlfriend, this definitely taints the relationship in a way that will cause issues going forward unless she is one hell of a forgiving person. As a result, you're probably better off with a brand new relationship where you both have a fresh start anyway.
miller.skippins
Banned
i guess nostalgia is a powerful drug (or poison) for OP..
I feel bad for laughing at this.
Me too.
Any Questions
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My thoughts.
The more you say stuff the less I trust you. I am not even sure you aren't getting back with your ex again.
Can Crusher
Banned
You fucked up, you felt bad, you said sorry, and now you really need get your shit together because this doesn't mean you're dead or sentenced.
Nostremitus
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Internalize the lessons you've learned and be a better person next time. That's how life works, man. Those two aren't the only two in the world, and you don't have a Scarlet letter branded on your forehead or anything.
Edit: that said, you should probably choose to be single for a while in order to work your shit out so you aren't lugging baggage into the next relationship.
Edit: that said, you should probably choose to be single for a while in order to work your shit out so you aren't lugging baggage into the next relationship.
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