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Haha she texted me today asking me out with a new date idea, so she gets a pass.I always find things like that to be a little suspect, but it's hard to question in. Just let her recover, if she needs to.
Haha she texted me today asking me out with a new date idea, so she gets a pass.I always find things like that to be a little suspect, but it's hard to question in. Just let her recover, if she needs to.
Sounds exciting.I just went on a date with a whale who only talked about her ex.
I just went on a date with a whale who only talked about her ex.
He's right. It doesn't sound like a man wrote that. You'll only regret it. If you truly have many new women in your life, act like it, imho. Your feelings are very understandable and quite natural of course, but they will rarely do you any good, as they mostly affect you negatively, right?Thanks for the insightful input -_-
How much time passed between you meeting the girl in person and you texting her?I'll talk to a girl in person, things go great, interest is expressed in seeing each other again, I'll get her number, begin texting her, and after about 1-6 texts she stops responding. I don't feel like I'm saying anything weird, off putting, or even out of the norm. I don't. fucking. get it.
I'll talk to a girl in person, things go great, interest is expressed in seeing each other again, I'll get her number, begin texting her, and after about 1-6 texts she stops responding. I don't feel like I'm saying anything weird, off putting, or even out of the norm. I don't. fucking. get it.
Last Friday I went on a date with a girl, seemed good. she acted like she had fun. following day lots of texting and things were going well. spoke on the phone a few days later and she kept hanging up? i rang back after the first time and she said it must have been signal or something. happened again and she didn't answer. I hasten to add she seemed 100% fine on the phone, laughing and joking. well, I've not heard from her, via text or phone for like a week.
Why the FUCK do I keep meeting these insane mentalists? Jesus, honestly I'm so tired of this... tired of putting in effort with lazy, self absorbed women who have been brought up to think its fine to act this way.
I mean should I have paid for everything on this date? is that where I screwed up?... but no surely not because then that would make me the 'nice guy'. should I have not bothered replying to her directly following the date, which obviously showed I was interested in meeting again? what a school boy error!
Of course, im sure this is simply a case of the ever predictable scenario of her finding someone 'better'. Great stuff.
21st century dating, what a wonderful experience! id rather bathe in goat shit instead of being continuously subjected to this bullshit. lol
He's right. It doesn't sound like a man wrote that. You'll only regret it. If you truly have many new women in your life, act like it, imho. Your feelings are very understandable and quite natural of course, but they will rarely do you any good, as they mostly affect you negatively, right?
I'm so sorry for not getting back to you sooner, just grandma is coming into town in couple days, so been hectic in the house. And I text you from an app so I haven't had time to check it. Sorry
Quick question.
This girl got in touch with my over POF about 3 weeks ago. We sent a few messages back and forth and then she sent me her number.
We were supposed to meet up but I had to make a trip back home and she had to make one to Vancouver, so we missed each other for about a week and a half. We kept in touch through text over our trips (she asked for pics of my trip and sent her own) and, when I came back, I asked her out for a meal. She didn't respond and I figured that she wasn't interested and moved on with other dates.
Now, a week later, I got this text:
She seemed really cool and interesting when we talked. Do I ask her again? How? Advice?
Sounds exciting.
Last Friday I went on a date with a girl, seemed good. she acted like she had fun. following day lots of texting and things were going well. spoke on the phone a few days later and she kept hanging up? i rang back after the first time and she said it must have been signal or something. happened again and she didn't answer. I hasten to add she seemed 100% fine on the phone, laughing and joking. well, I've not heard from her, via text or phone for like a week.
Why the FUCK do I keep meeting these insane mentalists? Jesus, honestly I'm so tired of this... tired of putting in effort with lazy, self absorbed women who have been brought up to think its fine to act this way.
I mean should I have paid for everything on this date? is that where I screwed up?... but no surely not because then that would make me the 'nice guy'. should I have not bothered replying to her directly following the date, which obviously showed I was interested in meeting again? what a school boy error!
Of course, im sure this is simply a case of the ever predictable scenario of her finding someone 'better'. Great stuff.
21st century dating, what a wonderful experience! id rather bathe in goat shit instead of being continuously subjected to this bullshit. lol
I'll talk to a girl in person, things go great, interest is expressed in seeing each other again, I'll get her number, begin texting her, and after about 1-6 texts she stops responding. I don't feel like I'm saying anything weird, off putting, or even out of the norm. I don't. fucking. get it.
I wouldn't play any games, really. Just send her a reply, say it's good hearing back from her and you're going out to dinner at X day, Y time, would she like to come.
Fuck me, I can talk to cute girls in pub/discos but converting that to scores its nearly impossible for me ( and I can't get drunk enough to ease the way, once I even drank half a whisky bottle and I still wasn't drunk) ... and after every time I go out I feel bad and eat at Burger King to feel better.
That where I am right now, half-drunk and feeling okish after eating a triple stacker... fuck me
Did this too once, except she had two subjects she talked about: her ex and her cats. After an hour i just walked away because fuck that shit. :lolI just went on a date with a whale who only talked about her ex.
My take:
1. Don't self medicate with food (unhealthy, unfulfilling)
2. Don't rely on alcohol to improve your 'game' (crutch, work on self-esteem)
3. Don't even think about 'converting to scores' (to girls that want to be 'scores' it's desperate and to girls that don't it's offputting)
thanks!
about Nº 2: how?
I've never drunk much at all myself. Self-confidence you build by improving yourself, work out, learn new things, get a new hobby, do something different. These things make you feel better about yourself and I think will make you more relaxed in general.
I used to think I was shit, and maybe in some ways I really was, but I've really improved myself a ton and now more people like me. It's a weird thing to say 'people weren't happy with who I was so I changed' but I like the new me better too. Just don't change in a way you don't want to. Don't even take my advice if you don't want to.
So it has been 2 months since I was dumped (relationship was ~8 months long) I've moved on and don't want her back. I have other girls in my life right now that I am working on but I still feel like I want to talk to her. I guess it is because of all the things I planned to say when I finally saw her in person I've bottled up. Not unhealthy things, some apologies and some insight I guess. I sent a message during our spring break when she was in town asking her if she wanted to take pictures with me but she didn't respond.
I want to send her this message on Facebook. Is it too needy sounding? Should I not even bother at all? I want to be friends with her and I know it is possible since she is friends with her other ex.
"Hey, I think it's been a good amount of time of no contact and was wondering if you wanted to catch up a little. To be honest, I kind of miss you. Not in a "I want to get back together" way or an "I'm so lonely and just want human contact" way but just an "I miss you" way.
It's fine if you don't want to just yet or even ever for some reason. I know it takes time and all. And don't ever feel too proud or scared to contact me. I will always be glad to see a "hello" from you.
thoughts?
Crap. Broke down and texted my ex-fiance after a week and 2 days. She seemed ok with me texting her and we talked about our week and work and stuff. Asked her if she wanted to play tennis sometime next week and she said "Yeah, I'll think about it, do I have your racket?" Hmm. Don't know how to take any of this. She seemed a bit distant but that would be normal.
The first time I had "sex" I fucked up pretty bad lol (no pun) so I know the very basics...after that I read some tips from here that made sense: http://collegeflirt.net/howtofuckagirl/
Maybe you could tell me if that's a good source? I think I'm pretty decent with foreplay stuff. I obviously wouldn't know for sure because I've never asked, but I feel pretty comfortable so that's a good sign
And thanks mcrae, I'll keep those tips in mind too
I had a one night stand with a girl; but something weird happened that got me wondering: we had sex, but she wouldn't let me see her boobs. I didn't really care since we did everything but, but it did get me wondering why? she was in a bra only. Isn't that strange? she had small natural perky breasts, I don't know why she would want to cover them (she went bra-less only if the lights were off, so I KNOW she didn't have any freakish boobs).
Any thoughts on the matter?
I had a one night stand with a girl; but something weird happened that got me wondering: we had sex, but she wouldn't let me see her boobs. I didn't really care since we did everything but, but it did get me wondering why? she was in a bra only. Isn't that strange? she had small natural perky breasts, I don't know why she would want to cover them (she went bra-less only if the lights were off, so I KNOW she didn't have any freakish boobs).
Any thoughts on the matter?
She's just uncomfortable in her own skin?
This, sounds like something I wrote a while ago lolSome good tips in that article.
It all depends on the situation. I've been with some girls who needed >30 minutes of foreplay to get ready, and others who, a minute into making out, would say "god, just fuck me already!" Most fell somewhere in between. Obviously a drunken party hookup will be different from a honeymoon in Bora Bora, so I think the important thing is being versatile and being able to tell what the girl wants without her directly telling you what to do. A HUGE part of this is paying attention to her breathing and the way she moves.
Good foreplay is an art. Being a good kisser is step one. After that it's knowing how and where to touch. There is a certain rhythm to most things we do, and if you pay attention, you generally know what to do. Try things out and see what she likes. The neck is a pretty good place to start. Some girls like a bit of soft biting, and others don't; when in doubt, try a soft nibble and see if she likes it. Obviously the nipples are good. You can circle them with your fingers and feel them get perky. Lick them a bit, and trace the areola with your finger. The ears are often quite popular, but some girls are too sensitive there. Anyway, the thing to remember with all of this is not to be clumsy and not to grope. Depending on the mood you can be delicate, or you can be forceful, but you should always be dexterous. You should learn to unclasp a bra with one hand while you're making out with a girl; it's a great way to show her that you're a dude with skills.
The inner thighs and ass are a good place to go once the foreplay is moving below the waist. You can run your hands along her inner thighs until you get right up to her crotch, but don't touch her there just yet. At the same time, you can keep returning to the nipples, neck, etc. See the thing about this is that you're awakening the entire body. You have two hands and a mouth, so you can be doing three things at once. Anything is possible.
At a certain point, you get to the crotch. If she's wearing jeans, you unbutton them (you should definitely learn how to do this deftly), and if she's wearing a dress or skirt, you reach the panties. Either way, you're going under those panties, although rubbing along the outside can be a very good thing to do. Once you're under the panties, hopefully at this point she's quite wet already. If not, it's your job to get her there. Sometimes she is already wet, but you won't feel it at first because the wetness hasn't reached her outer labia. In that case, you can get a finger inside and then use her own lubrication on the clitoris and labia. If she isn't wet enough for finger penetration, you can generally get her there by tracing your fingers around the outer lips while kissing her and doing whatever else with your other hand. As you work your way closer to the opening, you'll generally find that she's quite moist, and at that point you can rub the clitoris and finger her.
Some girls like it rough, but many don't. I think the way to go if you don't know how much pressure a girl likes is to start off a bit softer than you think she'll want and then dial it up from there according to her needs. You definitely don't want to be too rough with the clitoris, as you can cause her quite a bit of pain.
When it comes to actual sex, the big distinction to make is between girls who can orgasm from penetration alone and those who can't. If you're with the first type, and your, um, point allocation is pretty decent, then you're set as long as you don't bust too early. If you're with the second type, there are a few options. A lot of girls will rub themselves to climax while you're thrusting, but others are shy about that, so you'll have to do it yourself. I've found that tongue + two fingers is pretty popular. Pay attention to her breathing and vocal cues. A lot of the time you can rub her to orgasm with one hand while you're thrusting. The easiest position for this is when you're lying on your sides with you behind her, and you can usually do it from the doggie position pretty easily as well. It's a bit trickier in missionary since you are then left with only one hand to hold yourself up, but it can definitely be done.
Different girls like different positions. Some will tell you, while others will actually get into the position they want and wait for you to enter. Many will just default to missionary. It depends. If you're with a shy type, you may have to encourage her to try different positions. If you're hooking up with the same girl for awhile, you definitely want to branch out to keep things interesting.
I don't understand women! A friend of mine told me this in a conversation we were having
her: like so yeah we're compatible in whatever ways allows us to be so close as friends
her: and i find you objectively attractive in personality and looks
her: but i'm simply not attracted to you
her: i know that sounds weird but...it's fact
her: i dunno...do you know anyone that you find attractive in personality and looks but aren't actually interested in dating?
Seems like she was just trying to be nice about not having any interest in me beyond being friends, which I think I would have preferred to all that
Im really thinking of breaking up with my GF.
Its only been a few months but lately its allways me to has to call and txt never the other way around.
We havnt seen each other in 2 weeks and I call her before (4 days but yeah not like shes gonna call) and talk about random stuff then make plans for after work tomorrow to get dinner and when I bring up the topic of going back to her place after (no sex intended) shes all like "ohhh well we'll see. Got work in the morning" I mean wtf its not like im going to be leaving there at 11pm.
Just little things like this are annoying me in this new relationship.
Im really thinking of breaking up with my GF.
Its only been a few months but lately its allways me to has to call and txt never the other way around.
We havnt seen each other in 2 weeks and I call her before (4 days but yeah not like shes gonna call) and talk about random stuff then make plans for after work tomorrow to get dinner and when I bring up the topic of going back to her place after (no sex intended) shes all like "ohhh well we'll see. Got work in the morning" I mean wtf its not like im going to be leaving there at 11pm.
Just little things like this are annoying me in this new relationship.
Sorry to tell you dude, but thats not a relationship.Im really thinking of breaking up with my GF.
Its only been a few months but lately its allways me to has to call and txt never the other way around.
We havnt seen each other in 2 weeks and I call her before (4 days but yeah not like shes gonna call) and talk about random stuff then make plans for after work tomorrow to get dinner and when I bring up the topic of going back to her place after (no sex intended) shes all like "ohhh well we'll see. Got work in the morning" I mean wtf its not like im going to be leaving there at 11pm.
Just little things like this are annoying me in this new relationship.
Date tonight. Going to an intimate coffee place/hangout joint that has good live music. Any ideas on what to follow up with after coffee? It will be this evening, so what are good activities to do/places to go? Or should coffee just be enough?
Oh, did I ever mention how annoying it is when your friends get lucky as shit with girls and never have to do any of the shit you do?
Oh, did I ever mention how annoying it is when your friends get lucky as shit with girls and never have to do any of the shit you do?
Oh, did I ever mention how annoying it is when your friends get lucky as shit with girls and never have to do any of the shit you do?
I don't know what you're looking to get from this person, if you need companionship, find a new girl or talk to a friend.
To be honest today I am feeling WAY better than I used to... I am much skinnier, do exercises every day, have clear professional objectives and I am working on them.
Its just that I still don't have enough self-stem to get many "no"s and feel nothing. I feel like steaming shit every time I go out of a club after trying a lot and exiting empty handed. One day I might harden enough, but until them...
Oh, did I ever mention how annoying it is when your friends get lucky as shit with girls and never have to do any of the shit you do?
Why not try and take a closer look at what they're doing, saying, and look for cues like body language. Sometimes subtle stuff like having good posture and speaking slightly louder than anyone in a room can make you the most attractive dude in the lot.
You have these friends. Ask them for help.
The attitude you need to have isn't 'am I good enough for them', but 'are they good enough for me'.
I have a couple of friends like that. Love the hell out of them but I may as well be invisible whenever they're around. It's even more frustrating when these girls know the guys are seeing someone/in a relationship, but would still rather flirt with them all night than talk to any of the single guys. It's like finding a job I guess. Nobody wants to hire you if you're unemployed.
The trick is these guys are pretty as hell. I've watched them, they literally won't do anything. Just last night I had a party at my place and one of these guys joined us. A bunch of us were having a great time drinking and having lively conversations, but he was a DD and quietly sat in the corner watching TV. He must have been tired because he was even more quiet than usual. Didn't stop the girls from flocking over to him though.