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Transgaf: 'cause boys will be girls (and vice versa)
- Thread starter lexi
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Just an image I saw on facebook I thought might be useful to some:
Saw one that was just the gingerbread persona and write "ask me" xD
Also, on cool images
http://i.imgur.com/IrfS5.jpg
http://i.imgur.com/qCWBg.jpg
Sorry if they are ... well ... offtopic xD
SquiddyCracker
Banned
Just an image I saw on facebook I thought might be useful to some:
This makes me wonder if transgendered people have more "traditional", or more defined, views of what constitute a woman and a man.
I am completely out of depth here, but it seems to me that if one has been born in the wrong body, one might have want to more strongly express the gender one associate with.
I just want to act "naturally". Whether that's more masculine or feminine doesn't really concern me.
Totally chickening out on coming out :/
Have you considered writing a letter?
That's a good idea!
NewGamePlus
Member
Trans people, like any group of people, are incredibly diverse. Some have cringe-worthy conservative views of gender and others have dizzyingly complex views on the subject. Most of the places I roam around in tend toward the later, but as for some overarching trend, who could really say?
I think my grandmother helped soften the blow for my parents, but even then I was kind of expecting them to flip out, which they didn't. That said, their opinion on it was exactly what I expected it to be, heavy disapproval. I not sure how it's going to go from there really, I haven't really talked to them about it since.
Also should have specified, this happened about a month ago, and the day before my birthday too hahaha.
If you parents want to help, let then do it.
You will save money for other stuff like surgeries and clothes and they will feel like they are doing something for you, wich is good in most cases
So I take the coming was a success? If so then congrats. As for the money I agree with Platy in that you need all the help you can get. Even the first steps like hair removal can get pricey.
Earthstrike
Member
Whatever you do, do not use the ta-da method.
Well I wish you luck for whenever you decide to. Those 3 weeks sound like a good time to relax and be yourself.
That would be... interesting.
Can't relax and me myself when I spend 40 hours a week working :/
InfiniteNine
Rolling Girl
ta-da method?
Earthstrike
Member
Well, let's say you're whole family is home and you want to come out to them.
You put on your bright pink dress, high heels, wig, make-up, everything, and go downstairs.
TA-DA!
So. I've lost a decent amount of weight this year, which I discovered means I now fit in size 11 junior's jeans. (Down from 13 last year.) Which means, shopping time! Got a couple pairs, now I've worn skinny-ish girljeans to work three days without anyone noticing. And due to the fact that the pockets suck (and I've been wanting one anyway), I got myself a messenger bag to use like a purse.
I appear to be going female by way of hipster.
I appear to be going female by way of hipster.
Nice. I've been pushing myself hard to get rid of all the weight I can before I start HRT.
Princess Viola
Member
Hey, can I join in on this thread? I'm a pre-op male-to-female transgender not undergoing hormone therapy yet.
Princess Viola
Member
Yaaaaay
NewGamePlus
Member
Spiro is a potassium-sparing agent, meaning that it prevents potassium from leaving the body. If your potassium levels get too high it can be quite dangerous. So obviously as Honey, We Shrunk Ourselves taught us, you might want to cut back on the banana consumption while on spiro.
Princess Viola
Member
Guys, I wanna come out to my mom.
I already came out to her once, but it seems that since it was just a "Hey mom, here's some stuff you didn't know about me." message on Facebook, she seems to have forgotten.
Any ideas how to approach her with this?
I already came out to her once, but it seems that since it was just a "Hey mom, here's some stuff you didn't know about me." message on Facebook, she seems to have forgotten.
Any ideas how to approach her with this?
Princess Viola
Member
Oh damn.
Princess Viola
Member
Heh, I don't think I have the courage to either...
Princess Viola
Member
Sorry for the double post, but I think I'm gonna wait and see if I can move in with my mom before I come out to her.
Jamie xxoo
Member
You just come out and say it. "Hey mum, remember I told you my brain works like a girl's even though my body is male? I've decided to start changing my body so I can live as a girl and stop feeling so trapped trying to live up to being a man, when I'm not one. Here's what I'm planning to do..."
There's no easy way out and no way to fudge the conversation so you don't have to say anything difficult. Just rip it off like a bandage.
Edit: Well, that's MY style... I guess I'm more straightforward than most people.
Princess Viola
Member
That's the problem, the first time I told her, I just told her to look at my Facebook gender, (at first she thought I was saying I was gay), so I never said my brain works like a girl's, I just told her I wanted to be a girl.
Jamie xxoo
Member
Sounds like it's time for some plain talk?
Princess Viola
Member
Yeah, but like I said, I'd rather wait and see if I can move in with her. (She said I'm always welcome here, but I'd need to get my school records from Florida and get the court transfer custody of me from my grandparents to my mom and stepdad).
In the meanwhile, I'm comforting myself by wearing bras and panties whenever I can.
In the meanwhile, I'm comforting myself by wearing bras and panties whenever I can.
alysonwheel
Member
Maybe have a book ready that explains it all so you can leave it with her after you tell her? If she's got questions it's probably better for her to have a source of answers that you know isn't horrible rather than leaving her with just google.
I threw True Selves at my mum when I came out, so she wouldn't look for answers at church, but that was twelve years ago now so maybe someone can recommend something less out of date?
I threw True Selves at my mum when I came out, so she wouldn't look for answers at church, but that was twelve years ago now so maybe someone can recommend something less out of date?
BocoDragon
or, How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Realize This Assgrab is Delicious
Best of luck to you Aiko, on behalf of non-trans GAF. I'm rooting for you.
Whenever I see something like this I always make a note: if my children are like this, I'm gonna super-accept them....
Whenever I see something like this I always make a note: if my children are like this, I'm gonna super-accept them....
Jamie xxoo
Member
Isn't it more a case of, you want to see if she'll accept you BEFORE you move in with her?
I gave my parents the book "True Selves" as well. Sometimes when I am having a hard time accepting myself mum comes out with something the book said.
I went through the book before I gave it to them though and highlighted the sections that applied to me personally and noted the sections that had nothing to do with me, as there is some stuff in that book I would categorically not want them to think I felt.
I gave my parents the book "True Selves" as well. Sometimes when I am having a hard time accepting myself mum comes out with something the book said.
I went through the book before I gave it to them though and highlighted the sections that applied to me personally and noted the sections that had nothing to do with me, as there is some stuff in that book I would categorically not want them to think I felt.
Princess Viola
Member
Thanks.
Not really, no. I want to move in with her for reasons other than being transgender.
Well, being transgender is a part, due to almost being murdered because of it once.
Princess Viola
Member
Once again, apologies for the double post, but I get the feeling that my mom already knows about this...
alysonwheel
Member
Now that I think about it, it was True Selves that was the final kick for me to get on HRT in the first place. I'd been miserable for ages, and knew -- or was pretty sure -- I was transsexual, but was still finding ways to talk myself out of it. Then I read True Selves in the library, cover to cover, and called Russell Reid for an appointment as soon as I left.
Ha. Haven't thought about that in ages. I liked RR, the first time I saw him (about a month later) he gave me a prescription inside ten minutes and didn't want to know my life story like the NHS always did; perhaps the only doctor I ever saw about trans stuff who actually trusted me to know my own mind.
Princess Viola
Member
I just realized that a little bit ago I missed the PERFECT opportunity to come out to my mother.
Last week, it was really, really hot and I got dehydrated and passed out and went into convulsions, so I had to go to the hospital. I was only there until about 9:00 pm though. And my mom drove me home and we stopped at McDonald's for some ice cream.
The perfect opportunity! The two of us alone! Nobody else to bother me or make me nervous.
And I missed it.
Last week, it was really, really hot and I got dehydrated and passed out and went into convulsions, so I had to go to the hospital. I was only there until about 9:00 pm though. And my mom drove me home and we stopped at McDonald's for some ice cream.
The perfect opportunity! The two of us alone! Nobody else to bother me or make me nervous.
And I missed it.
Congrats and totally jealous O:
InfiniteNine
Rolling Girl
Congrats!
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That's so exciting!
Very happy for you.Saw a bunch of my family at a gathering that I had not seen in a couple years prior to transition. Just came out to them a few months ago, but I've been fulltime for a year and on HRT for a year and a half. When I saw them, I'm not sure if its because they didn't recognise me, but it felt like they were avoiding looking me in the eye. I was the first thing people saw when entering the building..
Later on most of them warmed up to me. Actually some of them wanted a lot of pictures with me! I'm so grateful for everyone around me being so accepting, even if its in the most subtle ways. Before, I was so fearful of getting the worst reactions from people, being yelled at, discarded etc. 2 years ago I could have never imagined I'd be where I am today, and it feels amazing.
So that's it. I'm out to pretty much everyone now. Except for my dad's side of the family, but I haven't heard from any of them since my dad passed 5 years ago. So whatever, they clearly don't care to be a part of my life either way.