Just had a first date - coffee. We had a good time, and I want to see if she wants to do something this weekend. It's only 8 pm here, and we saw each other about 45 minutes ago. Since tomorrow's already Friday, and it's not late at night, is it too soon to send a text saying that I had a good time, and am wondering if she wants to go out for dinner this weekend, or should I wait until tomorrow?
If you're feeling it, then do it. Don't apologize for what you're feeling. There's no reason to wait and also no reason
not to wait.
That said, trying to schedule something so soon would set off alarm bells in someone's mind unless it's pitched as the most benign thing ("Hey, I had a great time. I know it's super short notice, but want to grab some ice cream Sunday afternoon?").
Basically, communicate that you enjoyed yourself. Reach out to schedule something else. But don't crowd her schedule. There's something weird -- can't put my finger on it -- about trying to jump to a sit-down meal a day or two after you've met someone. Why not grab a drink instead?
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Anyway, on my end: workplace crush fizzled out, which isn't a bad thing. She was probably too young, and I think we'd both rather keep things strictly professional. Object lesson in realizing that one or two great conversations doesn't actually mean much.
As I type this, I'm texting my ex-wife encouragement in meeting her boyfriend's family for the first time. They've been together for two years now, I hope I get to meet him someday... although they're both weird hippie vegans. It's funny how life works out, you know?
I also spent a couple hours tonight texting the gorgeous Brazilian girl I'm seeing again on Saturday, and honestly, I'm glad I'm going into it without entanglements: I'm not interested in anyone else, nor am I talking to anyone else. Considering she gave me a free pass on not actually remembering her Mexico pictures
and there's a (very) slight language barrier that precludes a lot of humor... I like her, and I like how she enjoys talking.
Also, heydog.gif works universally. Still.