Is this in reference to women hitting their 'dirty thirties'?
It takes a very special kind of person. We are talking about that 1/1000000 kind of person. If you find that person, you got grab them hold them down and never let them go.
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How many sexual partners for girls is too many?
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Is this in reference to women hitting their 'dirty thirties'?
It takes a very special kind of person. We are talking about that 1/1000000 kind of person. If you find that person, you got grab them hold them down and never let them go.
blame space
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Your froze up? 34 things to say on approach!
1. Hey! Do these jeans make my dick look big?!
2. Hey, I'm really into blonde haired girls with black jackets. I'm Dave.
3. I saw you checking me out over there. I'm not a piece of meat you know.
4. Do you want to fight right now? Let's take this outside.
5. You look like you're into the Jimmy Neutron look (while sporting Jimmy Neutron look).
6. Thumb wrestle. GO!
7. I like your hair, it's almost as good as mine *strokes hair-flip back*.
8. Why are you so tall?!?
9. Don't say anything yet. Let me guess. Your name is Cindy, you're a 7th grade school teacher, you have this weird obsession with oranges, and you love tall, brown haired blue-eyed guys.
10. ...Jessica Alba?
11. Nice hat.
12. I love your face. (Not actually in love with her face)
13. (Obviously not matching) We're matching! This is awkward.
14. (To a bachelorette) You can't get married! I love you! I'm going to break up the wedding, movie style, sweep you off your feet, and then break your heart a week later. You in?
15. I'm going to kill myself if you don't talk to me!
16. You weren't even going to say Hi?
17. Are you REALLY drinking wine on a Saturday night out? You must be having guy problems. Give me a hug. 18. (Girl who looks like Miley Cyrus) Wow I can't believe I'm finally meeting you. I loved that "7 Things I Hate About You" song. Can you autograph my chest?
19. Je veux vous embrasser dans la bibliothèque pendant le matin. (I want to have sex with you in the library in the morning).
20. Let's get out of here.
21. Is that real leather? I love pilots. Is your plane nearby?
22. Stop trying to seduce me from across the room.
23. I think I love you!
24. Staring contest, NOW!
25. Which biker gang are you in?
26. My ass is better than yours.
27. Make me a bracelet!
28. Just so you know, I'm hitting on you. You're not married, are you?
29. So are you one of the country singers whose going up later? The curls kind of give it away.
30. I almost wore the same dress tonight. This would have been terribly awkward.
31. Do you like my blowup doll? (points at blowup doll)
32. You looked like such a bitch from over there. I had to come say hi.
33. (As a guy is buying her a drink) Did that guy really just buy you a drink? Come find me after you give him five pity minutes of your time.
34. (To a tall girl) Hey listen, I think you are absolutely gorgeous but I get kind of intimated around girls who are over a foot taller than me. We're going to have to work through this.
1. Hey! Do these jeans make my dick look big?!
2. Hey, I'm really into blonde haired girls with black jackets. I'm Dave.
3. I saw you checking me out over there. I'm not a piece of meat you know.
4. Do you want to fight right now? Let's take this outside.
5. You look like you're into the Jimmy Neutron look (while sporting Jimmy Neutron look).
6. Thumb wrestle. GO!
7. I like your hair, it's almost as good as mine *strokes hair-flip back*.
8. Why are you so tall?!?
9. Don't say anything yet. Let me guess. Your name is Cindy, you're a 7th grade school teacher, you have this weird obsession with oranges, and you love tall, brown haired blue-eyed guys.
10. ...Jessica Alba?
11. Nice hat.
12. I love your face. (Not actually in love with her face)
13. (Obviously not matching) We're matching! This is awkward.
14. (To a bachelorette) You can't get married! I love you! I'm going to break up the wedding, movie style, sweep you off your feet, and then break your heart a week later. You in?
15. I'm going to kill myself if you don't talk to me!
16. You weren't even going to say Hi?
17. Are you REALLY drinking wine on a Saturday night out? You must be having guy problems. Give me a hug. 18. (Girl who looks like Miley Cyrus) Wow I can't believe I'm finally meeting you. I loved that "7 Things I Hate About You" song. Can you autograph my chest?
19. Je veux vous embrasser dans la bibliothèque pendant le matin. (I want to have sex with you in the library in the morning).
20. Let's get out of here.
21. Is that real leather? I love pilots. Is your plane nearby?
22. Stop trying to seduce me from across the room.
23. I think I love you!
24. Staring contest, NOW!
25. Which biker gang are you in?
26. My ass is better than yours.
27. Make me a bracelet!
28. Just so you know, I'm hitting on you. You're not married, are you?
29. So are you one of the country singers whose going up later? The curls kind of give it away.
30. I almost wore the same dress tonight. This would have been terribly awkward.
31. Do you like my blowup doll? (points at blowup doll)
32. You looked like such a bitch from over there. I had to come say hi.
33. (As a guy is buying her a drink) Did that guy really just buy you a drink? Come find me after you give him five pity minutes of your time.
34. (To a tall girl) Hey listen, I think you are absolutely gorgeous but I get kind of intimated around girls who are over a foot taller than me. We're going to have to work through this.
Vermillion
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I mean, again, there's plenty of non-sexual eye contact. People who will just look at you and smile just because. I've done this before, some people smile back. But they still have places to be, as do I.
goldenpp72
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It's very similar to friendship really, some friends are people who earn that word because they manage to exist in your general surrounding, and others are possibly people you care about so much you might take a bullet for them. The different depths applied to how much we care about a person get stretched out more and more with the amount of people we know, you really can't find many people who have a 'deep' relationship with 100 people, even people who are family. People have their parents, best friends, maybe that cousin they love, but we can only spread our emotions out to so many people before other people get left on the wayside I'd say. With sex, someone who is trying to score a lot is not likely looking to make a deep bond with the person they are nailing, and if they are, i'd love to talk to them at depth just to try and understand how that's even possible.
Ken Masters
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True, you just have to be able to tell the difference, it's quite obvious once you experience it
NYC, Paris, Milan, Delhi... It's all the same, just slight intricate differences
CarpeDeezNutz
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Yeah you're right that's why I don't act on it as often.
CornBurrito
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Sorry I don't really believe you lived in those areas for a significant amount of time. And your personal experience is not credible evidence that ugly women, on average, have more sex than pretty women.
Dreamcrusher. Why do you have a Kirby avatar again? He's from Dreamland you know.
Vermillion
Banned
35. Line from a TV show. I used "he's not coming," lol. If they haven't seen it, you get to berate them for a bit about it, and that can lead into a conversation on its own. However, when I used this, I was trying to wingman for some friends, so after a little bit of conversation, I introduced them and faded out.
Yes, it is ridiculous, yes, I do know that I'm ridiculous. Thank you.
Lol, sorry! Also, Kirby is bestest <3
Ugh it's like watching a Ben Stiller movie.
Also Jessica Alba? Did you copy and paste that list from 2005?
blame space
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women are stupid and easily persuaded into having sex with me.
Vermillion
Banned
<3 It was just to get the conversation going so I could introduce some random girl to my friends. And one of them (the one who decided to talk) had something in common with her, so he was able to go off of that.
CarpeDeezNutz
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Or they dupe you into having sex with them.
Ken Masters
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Who said I lived there? It's called traveling
And all you will ever get is personal experience, no one has 100% facts on these things, believe wherever helps you sleep at night I suppose
blame space
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it's called WHAT?
Tornado Condor
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Maybe they are stealing his Ch'i?
http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=1006050921297
Blame Space you are being duped these broads are stealing your Ch'i.
That's the thing, not everyone is trying to score a lot, like they're tallying their numbers or something. Some are actually in search of quality company and they may encounter a lot before they decide to settle for just the one.
You don't have to have a bond with 100 different people but you can still develop a bond, albeit fragile, with a person whom you had a couple of days fling.
The quality of being discerning and picky lover is also there, you may be laying with a person precisely because of the quality of human being that person happens to be(could be shared interests, unique personalities, their status in the world...ect..).
Sure I'm probably romanticizing the whole affair but meaning and depth are not exclusive traits to people in committed, long term relationships. There could be a lot of depth in the moment and very little substance longterm(obviously not true for the majority but still)....
This isn't a black and white issue. :/
K
kittens
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How the hell is this even a question. Women can fuck or not fuck as many people as they want. Same for anyone of any other gender. It doesn't indicate anything about their personality, intelligence, self-esteem, etc. Jesus christ. Sex is fun, sex is good, people like sex. Stop shaming people for having sex.
And honestly this thread is inherently misogynistic and should have been locked from the start.
And honestly this thread is inherently misogynistic and should have been locked from the start.
CarpeDeezNutz
Member
So then in actuality we need to limit the amount of girls we have sex with and let them have sex with all the men, then once they reach 10,000 or so men we have sex with them and steal all the Ch'i, assuming its transferable. Now I see through OP's little scheme.
If I'm not mistaken women can only take Ch'i they can't give it out. Taoism is a pretty sexist religion.
ryutaro's mama
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Well, to be fair, anyone posting that gif probably has no idea what a real life vagina looks like.
MemoryHumanity
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I like you.
goldenpp72
Member
It's definitely not a black and white issue but, it's more about playing your odds. Ask yourself a simple question. If you are a person who desires a deep, long lasting relationship, do you feel you would statistically be better off hunting a person who tries to reserve their passions until they find someone they deem suitable to them, or a person who screws everyone that is willing?
For the latter, I seriously doubt most people who nail everything that has a pulse is really seeking a deep relationship, but they may end up finding a person they end up admiring assuming they get the time of day to even express that sentiment, and that's the problem. People lie, cheat, and fool others or even themselves to try and mold themselves as something they may respect but really aren't.
For me, I had a particular challenge because I wanted a girl who shared my refraining values and commitment ideals while also not being a bible thumping sheep that refrains out of fear of something living in the sky. We all have our personal challenges, but when it comes to love and relationships, you shouldn't cut off segments of people, but it's probably smarter to narrow your views or focus to people who are obviously like minded as well.
I like stability, a routine, and a little spice here and there to keep the tedium at bay, some don't, I'm not going to try and find a girl and try to convince her to do things my way, i'd rather her share the values and not have a past she regrets shutting down due to us not seeing eye to eye but maybe still wanting to try and make it work.
The Outsider
Member
Just chiming in with my thoughts.
I don't really have a problem with the number of guys that a girl has been with. Sexual experience shouldn't be frowned upon, and it's simply bound to happen, especially as you get up in age.
That said, I don't really enjoy the thought of someone I've been intimate with with any other guy. Not to the degree where I think it's an issue of jealousy or insecurity or anything, but it's still something I'd rather not concern myself with in the first place.
I don't really have a problem with the number of guys that a girl has been with. Sexual experience shouldn't be frowned upon, and it's simply bound to happen, especially as you get up in age.
That said, I don't really enjoy the thought of someone I've been intimate with with any other guy. Not to the degree where I think it's an issue of jealousy or insecurity or anything, but it's still something I'd rather not concern myself with in the first place.
They look like a Georgia O'keefe painting.
I am 30, had 3 sexual partners and know how many partners they had up to the point when we were in a relationship.
Why would it weird you out?
The limit for a man is somewhere around 3.5 billion excluding a bunch of the ug-os.
Devolution
Member
Sex is natural, sex is good. Not everybody does it but everybody should. Sex is natural, sex is fun. Sex is best when it's one on one.
It would give me the impression that she just wants a short relationship and not a serious one.
Again, you're going with the same rhetoric, "screw everyone that's willing", "nails everything that has a pulse".
Honestly, if you feel that anyone having sex outside of a relationship are just mindless sex machines that fuck anything that moves, I don't know what to say.
I already said I understand why people have certain preferences to people who've had a certain amount of sexual partners and there's no shame in that.
The reverse doesn't seem to be true though.
I have a job interview tomorrow, so I'm going to have to call it quits here. Good overall discussion though, see ya around.
Gender has nothing to do with it, but I'd say 30 is high.
If she started having sex at 16, then over 8 years that's an average of one partner every 14 weeks. That indicates either a lack of a lasting connection with her partners, or multiple concurrent partners. It's normal to be worried about both of those possibilities.
Another legitimate thing to be worried about. More partners means higher risk of STDs.
If she started having sex at 16, then over 8 years that's an average of one partner every 14 weeks. That indicates either a lack of a lasting connection with her partners, or multiple concurrent partners. It's normal to be worried about both of those possibilities.
Another legitimate thing to be worried about. More partners means higher risk of STDs.
Chuckie
Member
I actually read that in George Michaels voice.
God damn it, Devo! I am sick and tired of your prudish preconceptions about how sex should be conducted! I should be free to pursue my nightly Roman Orgies without you prejudging me!
curlyfriski
Banned
I don't judge people. If an individual has a large amount of partners there is a statistical chance for contracting an STD but at the same time it really isn't your business how many sexual partners a person has had. The important thing is for everyone to be honest. If you don't like how many sexual partners a woman has had so be it but I feel like that there are more important things to worry about if she doesn't have an STD you can contract.
ChainedMaster
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That's it? My gf has had more.
eBay Huckster
Member
But if you've been seeing some one long enough to feel comfortable to ask that question and they are comfortable enough to answer it don't you think they are going to bbe around for a bit?
And if she started having sex when she was 16 and now she's the age of 90 that means she's had a sexual partner every 2.5 years.
CarpeDeezNutz
Member
How many of ya'll have had sex since the beginning of this thread up until now?
Well the only time this has come up in my life is when I was on a third date (she asked me and then I asked back). There was some alcohol involved but still. So not long at all.
DoctorButt
Member
im not the person you quoted but i like you too
goldenpp72
Member
Obviously there are variables, as many people who only have sex within relationships can still end up having sex with 20 people. The point is, did the person WANT that relationship to be one that flourished and it failed, or did they just want a piece of ass? Holding out sex in order to force a persons hand to marriage and such is also foolish in my mind so, I have varying views on many sides of this topic.
The main point is trust though, if someone comes off as having conservative sexual values i'd consider them more likely to be stable relationship partners than someone who is very loose with their sex life, it may not actually work out that way, but that's why it's how I work my own odds, it's my risk to take. Stereotypes may not apply to everyone, but they usually have a basis, and if my interactions with other men are any indication, 80 percent of them love the thrill of discovering how many booty calls they can land and they'll say or do whatever it takes to boost that figure. Not everyone is the same, but both genders can be outright vile on either side of this discussion.
As long as a person is up front and honest, reasonable, logical, their sexual background likely won't be a problem, but a person who is loose can have 100 reasons for doing so, and very few of them are related to the mission to find 'the right one'. It's also obvious that all humans value things they do not get a lot or have to wait for more than a person who gets it all the time and doesn't have to wait. As children who play videogames, the idea of waiting for that special holiday to get that game you've been dying for would increase the memory and impact of the game 10 fold vs in adulthood where you can say, oh it's out, instantly buy it and play it at your convenience. Anticipation and restriction makes people excited, it's why most people love Christmas
If the girl i'm with now looked at sex with me the first time we did it as another notch on her belt i'd be a bit disappointed as it was pretty exciting to me, I felt I had to invest and gain trust in order to get that far, so while the sex has become more routine and less impactful for it, at least entering into the relationship was something unique and not just another person in a long line of partners.
Shit, I need to stop smiling at people I guess because this must mean I want to be approached. All those doors I have held open and all those smiles. Fuck, they all must think I am some sexual freak.
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