I've been debating whether to post about this because I think I already know what I have to do, but writing it out helps.
So let me describe a situation that has happened a couple times. I ask her out to something, she says something like "Yes, that sounds cool, I would like to do that!". Then she has to check her schedule, and I know that it is legit that her work schedule is fucked up with weird hours and she also lives an hour away from me. At this point, either I never heard of it again, or she got back to me with days that don't work because of the hours and such but no suggestion of something like "but X day should work out fine".
After this happened twice I just chalked it up to her not actually being interested any more but being unable to say so for some reason and stopped bothering to contact her. Then on wednesday she contacted me about how we hadn't talked often, or seen each other in a while. We actually did end up seeing each other on the Saturday because it had been planned a while ago to see a movie with a bunch of other friends.
Now wtf is that all about. Agrees to do things, but then never gets them to actually happen. All signs point to her not being interested, but then when I do see her she wants to be close and hold hands and all that.
I feel like this is just a pain in my ass at this point, but I'm trying to avoid completely burning bridges as we were quite close friends before this. I'm guessing all this nonsense is because she's more interested in another guy and is keeping me around as some sort of backup, which is obviously something I'm not much interested in. I can say, if that is the case, I don't think she's doing it maliciously. But a couple bad breakups have apparently made her emotionally delicate and unable to commit.
I wish I could just cut it off super easy, but I've already had to end several friendships in the last several months for other reasons, and it's going to be so painful if that happens again.