Hm, I ordered my first Monster Hunter-game to play with GayGAF, turns out it's region locked
Meh
Also: yeah, unbanned!
I will never act stupid again and won't get banned. I hope![]()
The music really ruined it for me. But it was a nice video.
That would be hilarious, yet cute.Yeah I'd much prefer something like 'I now declare you bad boys for life' . . .
Yep. I was looking forward to playing with some Europeans
Why were you banned?
Uh oh, now I feel bad for asking! Well good luck with it anyways.![]()
Ugh... reading all these posts about open relationships and I can't even get one
Henchmen am sad now.
Hm, I ordered my first Monster Hunter-game to play with GayGAF, turns out it's region locked
Meh
Also: yeah, unbanned!
I will never act stupid again and won't get banned. I hope![]()
I'd be wary of a 'don't ask, don't tell' situation. I always tell my bf when stuff comes up.good points! i definitely appreciate it, as i've never been the open relationship type. i feel like i might as well try it out to see how it works htough.
the veto rule actually came up as i voiced my anxiety over him sleeping with someone repeatedly and having it end up like he has two boyfriends. he insists it won't happen and will be honest with me.
he also hasn't had someone sleep in his bed since 2005 (aside from me over the last 5 months), so i'm most definitely sure he won't be doing that.
edit: hmm... i'm starting to wonder if the don't ask don't tell rule is a good idea. i thought it would be good so i wouldn't have to think about what he's doing, but i fear my imagination will run wild if i don't know.
I'd be wary of a 'don't ask, don't tell' situation. I always tell my bf when stuff comes up.And yes hes seen video
Yeah, I think it's unnecessary - its one of those situations where once you haven't told him one time, it turns into a few and noone's keeping tabs on what the other is doing anymore. Depends how much you care about that stuff, I think. Our situation has kind of moved to one where it's ok to do that stuff more when one of us is away - we both travel a bit. I still always tell him.i do agree, the don't ask don't tell rule makes it look like you should hide something from your partner...
but the real question is what kind of video has he seen Ollie? =P
Btw, I saw you added me on WiiU, cool!![]()
I'd be wary of a 'don't ask, don't tell' situation. I always tell my bf when stuff comes up.And yes hes seen video
He looks so good here. That beard... that suit... I like everything.
No one likes honesty or criticism, even when they say they do. Lesson learned the hard way, lol.
Effectively no one. Rationally speaking if people didn't have egos we would all be thankful for criticism, even if put harshly, because it would give us a perspective into our flaws that we didn't have before. I'm sure there are people who see it that way, but neither one of us is very likely to meet such a person. Still, people with a talent for diplomacy can more often than not soothe egos at the same time that they say something that could be hurtful. It's worth considering that you may not have been as tactful as you thought.
I wouldn't entertain the thought of an open relationship.
Sagitario's nice sometimes . . .I immediately felt touched by that comment. I asked him why/how so. He said: "You are one of the nicest people I know. You are such a kind person to me and you just make me happy".
Sagitario's nice sometimes . . .
Sagitario's nice sometimes . . .
So I had a game night at my place tonight. Among the guests were the guy I'm secretly in love with, another guy I think is really hot and wouldn't mind have sex with, AND the guy who's into the guy I wouldn't mind have sex with. I create my own drama.
I tried to let my crush know he could stay here instead of going all the way back to Brooklyn, but, alas, to no avail.
Everyone left and I'm just here with my boner,
Something kind of... strange happened today.
I have had straight male friends telling me how much they care about our friendship, a couple of them saying "I love you", of course, all in a bonding non-gay way and because the place and situation led to it.
Well, today after work I gave a lift home to a [straight] friend, and just before we got to his house he said, out of nowhere (we were talking about work and people): "You make me so happy!"
I immediately felt touched by that comment. I asked him why/how so. He said: "You are one of the nicest people I know. You are such a kind person to me and you just make me happy".
That was probably the nicest thing someone has ever told me. I don't even remember exactly what I said after that (or how I reacted) because I was practically speechless and overwhelmed. This made my day.![]()
Have you ever had this kind of corny [but good] comments or situations with other male friends (straight or without absolutely any kind of romantic feelings involved)?
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In high school one of my good male friends used to say he wished he could find a girl like me. I wasn't technically gay then, so I wonder if he would have said that knowing I was gay.
But what you described is sort if the ideal I could expect from my straight male friends. That just feel comfortable around me to say something like that and not worry that I or anybody else would misinterpret what they are saying.
So are you gonna show us the video or not?
HHHHNNNNGGGGHGHH
He looks so good here. That beard... that suit... I like everything.
Has cloning technology been perfected yet?![]()
He said: "You are one of the nicest people I know. You are such a kind person to me and you just make me happy".
Fixed for old times' sake.Ed's nice sometimes . . .
He is probably the nicest gay gaffer.![]()
Hardly, but thanks! <3Well, he is right![]()
Oh, you! :bUntil you talk about the inevitable Tales of Vesperia for PS3 US announcement.
It definitely isn't a common thing here either, IMO.It's probably a cultural thing, but I'd be reading so much into both things... Those are not the kind of things we say to friends here... I'd be definitely be thinking that he's hitting on me
Is this his website? +10pts for being an artist.I love that you all quoted different pictures<3
But it was right how it was.Fixed for old times' sake.
His partner of 13 years, Rainer Andreesen:
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It definitely isn't a common thing here either, IMO.
On previous occasions, the situation and talk lent themselves to show or say those things.
This time, it was out of the blue and that's why it was strange to me. It definitely feels awesome knowing that you can have that effect on someone (though it's involuntary, honestly... I am the same way with most of my friends, I mean... I treat them equally, or at least I try).
Besides, someone hitting on me would be the last thing I would be thinking... it wouldn't even pass through my head (in Natetan's case, it does sound a little suspicious :b)
Fixed for old times' sake.
Hardly, but thanks! <3![]()
I really appreciate it
Oh, you! :b
It definitely isn't a common thing here either, IMO.
On previous occasions, the situation and talk lent themselves to show or say those things.
This time, it was out of the blue and that's why it was strange to me. It definitely feels awesome knowing that you can have that effect on someone (though it's involuntary, honestly... I am the same way with most of my friends, I mean... I treat them equally, or at least I try).
Besides, someone hitting on me would be the last thing I would be thinking... it wouldn't even pass through my head (in Natetan's case, it does sound a little suspicious :b)
Is this his website? +10pts for being an artist.
Love? Damn. Is he gay or bi?
He is probably the nicest gay gaffer.![]()
He's very much gay and one of my closest friends. I feel like we flirt a lot but sometimes I wonder if he takes it as a banter or just chooses to ignore it.
He gives the best hugs, ugh.
Next time he gives you a hug, shove your hand down his pants and see how he reacts.
It's probably a cultural thing, but I'd be reading so much into both things... Those are not the kind of things we say to friends here... I'd be definitely be thinking that he's hitting on me
As a minority group that regularly battles prejudice, violence, and ignorance from governments, hate groups, and the like, LGBTQ people know what its like to be discriminated against.
Thats why the gay community tends to pride itself on being anti-discriminatory and accepting of people from all walks of life.
Unfortunately, the gay community is not devoid of casual racism. Even though, in theory, people should know better, certain forms of racism in the LGBTQ community have become so normalized that they get brushed off as minor.
Before I go on, let me define the kind of racism Im talking about to avoid confusion. Racism, in an institutional sense, is race-based discrimination from a position of power or privilege.
This means that a gay person with white privilege can be racist toward gay people of color and people of color in general.
Im not talking about mustache twirling, KKK-grade, Hitler level racism thats so obvious anyone with any sense of human decency would banish it from their mind.
Im talking about the little things, like the fetishization of black men by gay white men, the stigmatization of Asian men by gay men of other races, mainstream LGBTQ campaigns with little racial awareness, and racial preferences that can be innocuous, but at times reflect an underlying prejudice.
As normalized as they are, they suck for LGBTQ people of color who are not well represented in either their own racial communities or the mainstream LGBTQ community.
The lack of acceptance from either group puts a strain on how safe LGBTQ people of color feel in a lot of the spaces they occupy.
So if youre a white and LGBTQ and you want to make sure that LGBTQ spaces are as safe and inclusive for everyone as possible, here are some steps you can take to support people of color and be more racially aware.
1. Be Aware of Intersectionality
Be aware that your experience of being LGBTQ and white is not representative of being lesbian and Asian or gay and latin@, or queer and black.
Awareness of intersectionality means recognizing that LGBTQ people of color can be discriminated against not as people of color or as LGBTQ people, but as both simultaneously.
For example, if youre a gay white woman and youre already aware of how your gender and sexuality intersect, remember that race is yet another intersection, and not a negligible one. In most cases race is highly visible, apparent from birth, and connected to cultural identity and family affiliation.
2. Dont Think That Being LGBTQ Lets You Off the Hook for Being Racist
Keeping intersectionality in mind, understand that just because youve faced discrimination doesnt mean you understand every form of discrimination or are immune from being discriminatory yourself.
We all have some form of privilege, and acknowledging your privilege when it comes to race means acknowledging the unconscious ways in which you can also be racist.
In the past, when I called out someone (who happened to be gay) for being racially oblivious, his response was that, as a gay person, he can understand what its like to be discriminated against for being black.
Heres why I disagree with a statement like that: if a person who has directly experienced racism is telling you that youre being racially oblivious and you dismiss everything they say because Ive been discriminated against too, youre devaluing the experiences of people of color just as much as the institutions that continue to exclude them.
When LGBTQ people of color call out other people in the community for being racist, they dont want you to tear your clothes apart and fall to your knees weeping with white guilt.
What they want you to do is check yourself, listen to what they have to say, and be more aware of experiences besides your own.
Seeing casual racism in the LGBTQ community isnt about demonizing white people or making people paranoid about causing offense.
Its about making sure were all self-aware enough to check our cultural blind spots and truly listen to and value other peoples experiences.
3. Know Casual Racism When You See It
What does casual racism look like in LGBTQ spaces? A lot like casual racism everywhere else.
Casual racism thinks mixed race people are exotic, penis size is determined by race according to some studies that probably dont exist, black women are aggressive, and just about every other common racial stereotype under the sun.
Really, stereotypes fuel casual racism in all its forms.
Casual racism also thinks that LGBTQ people have transcended all responsibility for dealing with racial issues.
For example, if youre a queer person of color who wants to vocalize a racial concern in a predominantly white queer space and casual racism rears its head, you could be accused of being divisive (extra irony points if you were pointing out divisiveness that actually exists).
Sometimes casual racism masquerades as inclusion or open mindedness. For example, there are some gay people who go out of their way to date someone of another race just to say theyve done it.
Such gays then receive the Congratulatory Cookie of Open Mindedness from people of color for letting us sleep with them.
But not really, because dating someone because of their race is as ridiculous as rejecting someone because of their race.
The same applies to predominately white gay groups that go out of their way to snag token people of color (oblivious to the fact that these spaces dont always feel inclusive to the people of color in question).
Tokenism may seem progressive on its surface, but its really just another form of othering.
So if you see casual racism, remember it. And talk about it.
Notice if youre ever guilty of it and, if you are, take responsibility for it.
I would say explain it to other white LGBTQ people, but its frustrating when it takes a white person saying the same thing people of color have been saying for ages to convince other white people to change their actions.
Instead, tell them to take the race related concerns of LGBTQ people of color seriously as in listen to us.
As LGBTQ people, we get silenced all the time, told were too sensitive, told not to flaunt our sexuality.
Sexual minorities of color can find themselves silenced further when their concerns about race are dismissed by the predominantly white, mainstream LGBTQ community. Lets keep working to change that.
So basically, Dead Man: "Don't play into the 'standard' racial stereotypes because nobody truly fits those!"
Gee, thanks, Dad! I didn't know that already!
EVERYONES A LITTLE BIT RACIST.
Anyway: This dude is pretty cute despite being a side-character/bit-part actor.