I agree with the separate spaces in the house idea. No way I could do a 1 bedroom or studio my wife and kid without losing my sanity.
But having separate bedrooms? WTF? Nothing beats cuddling up with your significant other every night. Having separate rooms makes you roommates!
We cuddle every day alright. We just don't sleep together every day. Sometimes we do, but more often than not I'm staying 6-8 hours longer awake then her anyway. I often even wake her in the morning. There is nothing missing really. It's the best of both worlds.I would hesitate to call it 'ideal' in any way, shape or form, but if that's how your relationship works, it works.
I'd miss the intimacy too much, myself.
A couple of things off the top of my head:
1. She's really messy, like I thought I was the messy one, but living together has shed new light on just how messy someone can be
2. We have different interests and tastes. We can't watch tv or listen to music together, she hates seafood I love seafood. She's an evangelical Christian and I'm an atheist.
3. When we do have time to ourselves she always to stay at home and doesn't like when I drink at all anymore it seems
4. She's constantly on top of me even when the baby is sleep or our parent's house, and I haven't had time to write or read much at all, which was once a former passion.
5. She keeps bringing up marriage and general annoyance that I don't want to marry her. It started out as a joke, but now I see that she's completely serious. I'm just worried that we're not on the wavelength or place in the relationship anymore.
People have unplanned kids you guys know right?
People have unplanned kids you guys know right?
But I heard that most US gaffers use the perfectly fail-safe "pull out method".There are ways to safeguard yourself against those, you know that, right?
People have unplanned kids you guys know right?
People have unplanned kids you guys know right?
A couple of things off the top of my head:
1. She's really messy, like I thought I was the messy one, but living together has shed new light on just how messy someone can be
2. We have different interests and tastes. We can't watch tv or listen to music together, she hates seafood I love seafood. She's an evangelical Christian and I'm an atheist.
3. When we do have time to ourselves she always to stay at home and doesn't like when I drink at all anymore it seems
4. She's constantly on top of me even when the baby is sleep or our parent's house, and I haven't had time to write or read much at all, which was once a former passion.
5. She keeps bringing up marriage and general annoyance that I don't want to marry her. It started out as a joke, but now I see that she's completely serious. I'm just worried that we're not on the wavelength or place in the relationship anymore.
I see where you're coming from. If your sleep schedules are different, you can both sleep more peacefully in separate beds. I share a bed with my partner but he sometimes volunteers to sleep on the couch if one of us is ill, or if he comes home late from a night out, things like that. It's good to have the option!We cuddle every day alright. We just don't sleep together every day. Sometimes we do, but more often than not I'm staying 6-8 hours longer awake then her anyway. I often even wake her in the morning. There is nothing missing really. It's the best of both worlds.
Messiness is something she should work on. It's important that you share responsibility of looking after the house and the child. The place should ideally be tidier so as not to provide hazards for the child too.A couple of things off the top of my head:
1. She's really messy, like I thought I was the messy one, but living together has shed new light on just how messy someone can be
2. We have different interests and tastes. We can't watch tv or listen to music together, she hates seafood I love seafood. She's an evangelical Christian and I'm an atheist.
3. When we do have time to ourselves she always to stay at home and doesn't like when I drink at all anymore it seems
4. She's constantly on top of me even when the baby is sleep or our parent's house, and I haven't had time to write or read much at all, which was once a former passion.
5. She keeps bringing up marriage and general annoyance that I don't want to marry her. It started out as a joke, but now I see that she's completely serious. I'm just worried that we're not on the wavelength or place in the relationship anymore.
No no no. I just want to have a girlfriend, but live on my own. Watch the kid 3 or 4 days out of the week.
Not near Christmas, I don't care about the sex, we don't have it much anyway. I basically just want my own space. I'd watch the baby as much as her or more if possible.
My first marriage. We had been friends since after high school, though I was madly in love with my college girlfriend. I started dating my future wife about a year after my college sweetheart died. I almost forgot about her, I was so in love with my new girl, whom I ended up marrying - other than an unsuccessful pregnancy we were happy for fucking years.
I sometimes wonder if it was my memories of my first love that made me realize my marriage was starting to fizzle out, even though we were in love. I think from my perspective I was tired of all the attention she got from other guys and from her perspective, my volunteer work started to weigh on her. Either way, I didn't want a divorce, I just wanted to scale it back. I thought maybe we could open the relationship up to date other people.
Then my aunt got sick and I made a deal with the devil to annul my marriage and forget the memory of us ever being married. Now I'm single again and she's probably going to start fucking Tony Stark.
Now I'm single again and she's probably going to start fucking Tony Stark.
I'm currently in a rather mystifying situation where I've realized that I no longer want to live with my current girlfriend and would rather live on my own. I still have feelings for, sometimes I feel like I've over her, but I think I've finally come to terms that I do love her but I can't be around her on a daily basis. Our lease is up at the end of February, and I've told her I'm not renewing it, but she doesn't know I want to live on my own yet. Further complicating things is that that we have a child together and we've just learned that she probably has autism.
I've been wondering if anyone has managed to change their commitment in a relationship from being serious to casual. It seems like relationships are always supposed to be evolving further in terms of commitment and I'm trying to figure out the best way to put it to her without completely insulting her.
She's not really that great of roommate, but she's a good girlfriend if that makes sense.
No no no. I just want to have a girlfriend, but live on my own. Watch the kid 3 or 4 days out of the week.
A couple of things off the top of my head:
1. She's really messy, like I thought I was the messy one, but living together has shed new light on just how messy someone can be
2. We have different interests and tastes. We can't watch tv or listen to music together, she hates seafood I love seafood. She's an evangelical Christian and I'm an atheist.
3. When we do have time to ourselves she always to stay at home and doesn't like when I drink at all anymore it seems
4. She's constantly on top of me even when the baby is sleep or our parent's house, and I haven't had time to write or read much at all, which was once a former passion.
5. She keeps bringing up marriage and general annoyance that I don't want to marry her. It started out as a joke, but now I see that she's completely serious. I'm just worried that we're not on the wavelength or place in the relationship anymore.
Des wasn't with us shooting in the gym.HRD, hate it had to be him.
Its over man.
A couple of things off the top of my head:
1. She's really messy, like I thought I was the messy one, but living together has shed new light on just how messy someone can be
2. We have different interests and tastes. We can't watch tv or listen to music together, she hates seafood I love seafood. She's an evangelical Christian and I'm an atheist.
3. When we do have time to ourselves she always to stay at home and doesn't like when I drink at all anymore it seems
4. She's constantly on top of me even when the baby is sleep or our parent's house, and I haven't had time to write or read much at all, which was once a former passion.
5. She keeps bringing up marriage and general annoyance that I don't want to marry her. It started out as a joke, but now I see that she's completely serious. I'm just worried that we're not on the wavelength or place in the relationship anymore.
A couple of things off the top of my head:
1. She's really messy, like I thought I was the messy one, but living together has shed new light on just how messy someone can be
2. We have different interests and tastes. We can't watch tv or listen to music together, she hates seafood I love seafood. She's an evangelical Christian and I'm an atheist.
3. When we do have time to ourselves she always to stay at home and doesn't like when I drink at all anymore it seems
4. She's constantly on top of me even when the baby is sleep or our parent's house, and I haven't had time to write or read much at all, which was once a former passion.
5. She keeps bringing up marriage and general annoyance that I don't want to marry her. It started out as a joke, but now I see that she's completely serious. I'm just worried that we're not on the wavelength or place in the relationship anymore.
A couple of things off the top of my head:
1. She's really messy, like I thought I was the messy one, but living together has shed new light on just how messy someone can be
2. We have different interests and tastes. We can't watch tv or listen to music together, she hates seafood I love seafood. She's an evangelical Christian and I'm an atheist.
3. When we do have time to ourselves she always to stay at home and doesn't like when I drink at all anymore it seems
4. She's constantly on top of me even when the baby is sleep or our parent's house, and I haven't had time to write or read much at all, which was once a former passion.
5. She keeps bringing up marriage and general annoyance that I don't want to marry her. It started out as a joke, but now I see that she's completely serious. I'm just worried that we're not on the wavelength or place in the relationship anymore.
Eh, you best believe i'm creating a separate space in my home with a big desk, books and files where I can do work on my own if it's required. In fact me and my girlfriend are already joking about what kind of subtle nerdy shit she'll get for me to decorate it with.
The fact that you can't even comprehend the idea of a few weekly hours of separation is strange to me. Not everyone is wired in the same way. Some people need some alone time once in a while. It has absolutely zero bearing on the love they have for their partners or children.
I'd never sleep apart from her though. That's a line that's kind of crazy to me but to each their own.
A couple of things off the top of my head:
1. She's really messy, like I thought I was the messy one, but living together has shed new light on just how messy someone can be
2. We have different interests and tastes. We can't watch tv or listen to music together, she hates seafood I love seafood. She's an evangelical Christian and I'm an atheist.
3. When we do have time to ourselves she always to stay at home and doesn't like when I drink at all anymore it seems
4. She's constantly on top of me even when the baby is sleep or our parent's house, and I haven't had time to write or read much at all, which was once a former passion.
5. She keeps bringing up marriage and general annoyance that I don't want to marry her. It started out as a joke, but now I see that she's completely serious. I'm just worried that we're not on the wavelength or place in the relationship anymore.
I still have feelings for [her]...
I do love her but...
I feel like [I am] over her...
I can't be around her on a daily basis...
A couple of things off the top of my head:
1. She's really messy, like I thought I was the messy one, but living together has shed new light on just how messy someone can be
2. We have different interests and tastes. We can't watch tv or listen to music together, she hates seafood I love seafood. She's an evangelical Christian and I'm an atheist.
3. When we do have time to ourselves she always to stay at home and doesn't like when I drink at all anymore it seems
4. She's constantly on top of me even when the baby is sleep or our parent's house, and I haven't had time to write or read much at all, which was once a former passion.
5. She keeps bringing up marriage and general annoyance that I don't want to marry her. It started out as a joke, but now I see that she's completely serious. I'm just worried that we're not on the wavelength or place in the relationship anymore.
When you had a child with this woman you removed any possibility of "dialing back"
You don't get to be a dad, of a special needs child especially, and then "casually date" the mom.
You either break up, and pay child support the rest of your life.
Or stay together, try to make it work, and rediscover what you love about each other.
If you don't think there is a chance of option 2 working, you are forced into option 1
No no no. I just want to have a girlfriend, but live on my own. Watch the kid 3 or 4 days out of the week.
It's nice to want things.
No no no. I just want to have a girlfriend, but live on my own. Watch the kid 3 or 4 days out of the week.
You must understand how stupid this sounds, right?