I feel like everyone is doing their best to try and make it seem like the burden is always on the mom, but to be honest with you I take care of child more than she does. I'm there a bit more in terms of the time we take care of her, and I'm there financially more as well. Elyse still loves her mom more than me, but it terms of the guardianship I think even Kelly would admit that she's more dependent on me. With that being, if we do split I'm not leaving my fucking kid. Get the fuck out with that bullshit. Every fucking topic has the go the way of being some sort of misogynist witch hunt, without a fucking clue or banking on the worst suppositions. It's quite annoying.
The reason people think this about your thread is because you haven't really expressed much reason to think otherwise.
You mentioned the child as almost an afterthought to wanting to leave your girlfriend. When the kid is probably the number one thing you should be concerned about. The superficial and petty shit you don't like about your girlfriend comes way the fuck after your kid, man. And it is superficial and petty - and most of it could easily be attributed to becoming a parent. You complain about her being messy -
because she has a kid. You complain about her not wanting to go out -
because she has a kid. You complain about her not liking when you drink -
because you have a fucking kid. You don't have time for yourself -
because you have a fucking kid. Almost every one of your complaints is actually about becoming a parent. And the fact that you don't realize it, and don't seem to be able to communicate that to your partner, makes you come off as a bad parent.
Plus, you went ahead and didn't renew the lease without even talking to her about it or planning what the hell you are going to do about your child. You don't have a plan for custody or finances yet you've already taken the first step to leaving.
Everything you've said has painted you as immature and selfish. You don't want to live with the mother of your child, but you still want to fuck her. Really, man?
Really?
People are going to assume the worst because when someone makes an advice-asking thread for a serious life-altering situation like this they always,
always, paint themselves in the best possible light. You can't help it. It's human nature to do so. And even in the best possible light, you
still come off as a selfish piece of shit. Given that, why would anyone assume you're some secret super-dad on the sly?