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I'm faced with a difficult decision ahead, Internet or girlfriend
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Not a ridiculous question. That's like a girl wanting me to move to the countryside and not having easy access to city centre lifestyle I want. Or insisting we live somewhere with no garden or no bath or no space for a big tv.
Fuck that shit I live my life the way I want and I want luxuries and nice things.
Tell her to sell or rent her house out unless it's some amazing place.
Fuck that shit I live my life the way I want and I want luxuries and nice things.
Tell her to sell or rent her house out unless it's some amazing place.
My point was that there are a lot of factors that could be affecting the decision. Your comment was simplifying it to a matter of him just caring more about faster speeds.
As for living far out, have you seen Courage the Cowardly Dog?
True story
Really though it depends on what kind of person you are. If you are a more social person then I can see why the 20 minute drive could be a pain. This could be a major lifestyle change for him that she doesn't seem to be considering. We really need to know more about the situation.
veryslowhand
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love or a good download speed?
Are the 2 not one and the same?
Fudgepuppy
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It's a neccessity.
You'll start to resent her after a while.
You'll start to resent her after a while.
CaptainGyro
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no,it's not guaranteed where selling it would be a better financial decision than just keeping it, considering you know nothing of the house, her location , how much it would sell for etc. you don't know what you're talking about.
Gun Animal
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OP, what could you or anyone on this site have in common with someone who thinks the internet isn't a basic necessity? That sounds almost Amish to me. I can't even imagine.
Also, in general, ultimatums are usually a bad sign. Call her on it and refuse to move into the house in the middle of nowhere. Either she's reasonable or she isn't.
Also, in general, ultimatums are usually a bad sign. Call her on it and refuse to move into the house in the middle of nowhere. Either she's reasonable or she isn't.
Sounds like your job doesn't require good internet.
Oh man this made me chuckle.. only because my parents moved to a small town in Arkansas and can only get satellite internet. When I visit IT IS HORRIBLE... I can get my gaming systems to connect after say... 4 minutes or so. Once connected make sure you do not download ANYTHING until after 2-3 am depending on the company because at that point the data is free.
If I had updated my X1 or PS4 when I was there it would have eaten up most of their bandwidth for the month... thats ONE UPDATE.
So... if you are a typical Gaffer... meaning internet is kinda sorta important, DO NOT do it. Stand your ground and I do consider internet a basic need.
If I had updated my X1 or PS4 when I was there it would have eaten up most of their bandwidth for the month... thats ONE UPDATE.
So... if you are a typical Gaffer... meaning internet is kinda sorta important, DO NOT do it. Stand your ground and I do consider internet a basic need.
KnockOneOff
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Lol, yeah make it as a 20mb attachment
CaptainGyro
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she has internet, people.
The Elite
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You don't need a high speed connection for everything.
acheron_xl
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She has internet the way someone in a desert juicing a cactus has water.
A simulation of getting porn out there:
cartoon_soldier
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In my case I need proper internet connection for my work. So choice would be easy for me.
cr_blah_blah
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Relationships come and go but the internet? That's eternal.
double jump
you haven't lived until a random little kid ask you "how do you make love".
real talk even if you're jokingly asking this question it doesn't sound like you should move in with her.
I spend several months a year without an internet connection when I have to be in the field in various African countries for work. It can get boring because there often really isn't anything to do in the evenings, except when I get to spend a couple of nights in one of the bigger cities, but I'm usually swamped with work when I'm there. I usually buy a cheap guitar and practice my playing while I'm there, or I work on my writing. It's very nice actually. Gives you a lot of time to put your life in perspective. Having the world and the people slow down so much around you is one of my favorite things about working in Africa for longer periods of time. The much bigger downside is that the food can get really bad for weeks at a time. I start missing good, varied meals more than the internet or tv shows. In fact, whenever I return I always avoid playing games or surfing the internet like a maniac for a couple of weeks. Just feels wrong. Of course, after a couple of weeks I'm back to my old habits. I think I'll keep doing it for the next couple of years.
Of course, living with slower internet isn't the big problem here. You get used to it, and it might even be nice. The real question you have to face is if you're willing to change your lifestyle that much (because of the new location more than the internet speed) for this girl, and if you're ready to actually live in the same house as her every day of your life. None of the answers to that question make you a bad person, but it's really important to talk with her about her future plans before you move in with her. Does she plan to live there for the next year? The next five years? Forever? Would she be willing to move for her/your work?
Gaf can't answer any of those questions, only a couple of good conversations with your girlfriend (and maybe some IRL friends who know you really well) can help you find the answers.
Of course, living with slower internet isn't the big problem here. You get used to it, and it might even be nice. The real question you have to face is if you're willing to change your lifestyle that much (because of the new location more than the internet speed) for this girl, and if you're ready to actually live in the same house as her every day of your life. None of the answers to that question make you a bad person, but it's really important to talk with her about her future plans before you move in with her. Does she plan to live there for the next year? The next five years? Forever? Would she be willing to move for her/your work?
Gaf can't answer any of those questions, only a couple of good conversations with your girlfriend (and maybe some IRL friends who know you really well) can help you find the answers.
Kid Kamikaze10
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Yeah, even beyond the internet, I'm seeing some red flags. Like the immaturity quip.
Also, the fact that you're wondering this means that if you do move in, when those internet speeds start ticking you off, there is a go to target in the same household. If you are the vindictive type, do not do it.
Relationships are sometimes about the compromises with make for each other. However, there is a difference between compromises and wanting to change your lover. They won't change, they'll just repress it, with mixed results.
In other words, the problem may be bigger than just internet access.
Also, the fact that you're wondering this means that if you do move in, when those internet speeds start ticking you off, there is a go to target in the same household. If you are the vindictive type, do not do it.
Relationships are sometimes about the compromises with make for each other. However, there is a difference between compromises and wanting to change your lover. They won't change, they'll just repress it, with mixed results.
In other words, the problem may be bigger than just internet access.
Fuck that shit she lives her life the way she wants
Blargonaut
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This thread needs a poll.
*pat on back
Op, you know...internet is the world. How would you know how to get rid of a badger with no internet? Also no green waves, no behuhu the hive.
Keep calm
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internet
Calm Killer
In all media, only true fans who consume every book, film, game, or pog collection deserve to know what's going on.
If you get Satellite, say goodbye to Netflix and the like. They offer good speeds while you are under your cap. (10 gigs depending on your plan) Then the throttling hits.
I was in the exact opposite situation as you are. When my wife and I were looking for a house to purchase I required good internet. Our House was purchased based on internet access.
Ganzlinger
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She needs to be at last a 9/10 to compensate the lack of internet.
PhoenixDark
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Find someone else to move in with who has internet, male or female. It's 2015, head is head.
Mechanized
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Seems like an obvious dealbreaker, Internet is a necessity these days. Tell her to take her satellite and hit the bricks.
Rockandrollclown
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Also goodbye to any online gaming if that's what you are in to. Satellite has super high latency. Also its normally pretty expensive.
I'm at month three with no home internet access and it'll continue until my lazy service provider get off their ass and connect me up on June 16th. I only have access at work currently. Don't do it brother. Just don't.
EDIT: Just to add to the misery. I've had to deal with Halo MMC not being patched for the last three months, missed out on all the patch releases for Driveclub, bloodborne etc etc. I'll be missing out on Witcher 3 Day 0 patch. Can't update anything. Can't watch GOT or the end of Walking Dead/Arrow/anything I bloody well like, can't listen to music as I'm all digital now and the radio is a joke. Just don't do it.
EDIT: Just to add to the misery. I've had to deal with Halo MMC not being patched for the last three months, missed out on all the patch releases for Driveclub, bloodborne etc etc. I'll be missing out on Witcher 3 Day 0 patch. Can't update anything. Can't watch GOT or the end of Walking Dead/Arrow/anything I bloody well like, can't listen to music as I'm all digital now and the radio is a joke. Just don't do it.
The Albatross
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She's wrong. Say you need quality internet for your job.
ManUnkindH
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TheLostBigBoss
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rofl, wow I never thought someone would have to decide over a basic commodity like high speed internet and a girlfriend.
Honestly I couldn't live without decent internet these days, so I guess that would be that for me.
And the fact she won't think about moving out of the house to compromise is kinda not cool, why is this house so important? Is it impossible to sell because you have shit internet?
Thats that, time for a new GF
Honestly I couldn't live without decent internet these days, so I guess that would be that for me.
And the fact she won't think about moving out of the house to compromise is kinda not cool, why is this house so important? Is it impossible to sell because you have shit internet?
Thats that, time for a new GF
John Kowalski
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Let her go.
Spoony Bob
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Welcome to Arkansas, brother. Sorry to inflict our shitty internet on you.
Subpar Spatula
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I can be your girlfriend. :3
FunkyPajamas
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A subpar spatula? That's actually a step up for me. PM me if OP shoots you down.
Intheflorsh
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A TRUE Gaffer wouldn't even have to ask... I'm disappointed in you.
But she won't get that email for days.
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