In a social setting with coworkers. Not in what amounts to more like a business dinner with management.Having a drink with colleagues is a pretty normal work function thing.
Why the fuck would you drink in a working environment, it seems your friend has to learn the lesson the hard way.
How are people ignoring this and giving advice? The guy has serious issues and more than likely will have another outburst like this in the future regardless of alcoholNot just one night
Rages at people having sex.
Screams down a female coworker
Fantasizes about getting revenge on women.
I don't think it's that big a deal. As long as he is able to own up, apologise and promise that it won't happen again, I can't see them firing an otherwise good employee over one drunken argument.
...a drunken argument with a superior(1) in front of others(2), where she told him to stop, but instead of doing so he doubled down(3) and insisted that if she didn't agree then to have him fired(4). Then he tried to stare her down(5).
1 + 2 + 3 + 4 + 5 = a pretty big deal
Additionally, he refuses to apologize. Among other things.
I still don't see any of that as a big deal. Maybe the UK is different but over here I'm pretty sure you can't get fired for having an argument with superiors outside of work, unless he was being offensive verbally attacking one (OP makes it sounds like a heated debate about work more than an actual 'FUCK YOU' kind of argument).
The only issue I see is him refusing to apologise.
He's a contractor = toast...
I still don't see any of that as a big deal. Maybe the UK is different but over here I'm pretty sure you can't get fired for having an argument with superiors outside of work, unless he was being offensive or verbally attacking someone (OP makes it sounds like a heated debate about work more than an actual 'FUCK YOU' kind of argument).
The only issue I see is him refusing to apologise.
Maybe he is, but I think that would be pretty shitty of them to just fire anyone who has a disagreement with them, regardless of how good they do their job. I think it's shitty that that's even legal.
You seem to be glossing over his general behavior and the getting in her face to stare her down bit. He was aggressive, unprofessional, and just demonstrated to the people that employ him (and other employees) that he has authority issues. The guy is also a contractor with no actual standing at the company. Even that aside, as a former manager, unless there were some other mitigating circumstances or an actual apology, I would not hesitate to let someone like him go.
Of course you can have a disagreement, but the way you handle that disagreement matters a lot.
This is a terrible way of handling a disagreement.
In a social setting with coworkers. Not in what amounts to more like a business dinner with management.
If he has done a good job up until this point (which it sounds like he has? I dunno) the firing him over this just seems unfair. I don't think having too much to drink one night and getting a bit lippy is enough to say he has authority issues. If he apologises and promises it'll never happen again, then I think that should be enough since no real damage was done. If he's refusing to apologise then that's something different, but still, I'm glad that's not how things work in the UK. As far as I know, that's not grounds to fire someone over here.
I agree completely, which is why I have an issue with him not apologising. Most people have been in a situation where they've had a bit too much to drink and either embarrassed themselves, got a bit confrontational or both. It's hardly the end of the world and doesn't affect his ability to do his job in anyway, at most it's a show of disrespect to his employer but apologising and owning up to it while sober would be a great show of respect to them.
If this was something he did regularly then I'd understand the 'he's toast' crowd, but if it's a one off then it should be easy to move past it if he bothered to apologise.
EDIT: I take it back. His boss is a woman and there's this:
This guy sounds toxic and dangerous as shit. Even if he apologizes I feel like he'll not mean it and just internalize and stew and blow up even worse later. :/
I am not talking about handling the aftermath, which would be an apology. You don't have a disagreement in that way, ever. No staring down, no telling that they should just fire you otherwise. Especially acknowledging the limits when someone says you should stop. Alcohol is not an excuse ever, either you stop drinking, or you make sure you behave yourself when drinking.
The only question lies in how fair it is to fire someone for a one-time incident. This is not just a possible firing because the person disagrees with them, but because of the way he disagreed with them.
I wouldn't want to be within a 100m radius of this guy.
I don't agree with what he did or the way he handled the disagreement, but I still don't see it as something to get fired over. I dunno, clearly I'm in the minority here but to me it seems odd that he'd even be allowed to be fired for that. It just seems so extreme to bypass all other forms of discipline and just go straight to getting rid of them.
Industrial.what is a human factors engineer
what is a human factors engineer
Sorry but he should be more concerned about his character than his job.So how bad of a situation is he in? How can he manage this. He's talking about how he's scared for his job and what not.
It's a sub branch of psychology that deals with human interaction with technology.
What if he was right?
What if he was right?
Doesn't matter. It's about knowing your place. At the very minimum he over stepped his bound IMHO.
The more i think about it, the less surprised this happened. All of my friends in general have this problem where they think their are smarter than they really are.
My best friend in particular problem with people questioning him, especially about his field.
Say we are discussing a news piece and we are of differing opinions. He'll try to brow beat you into submission citing all sorts of stuff. If you don't relent, hell start saying stuff like " I am backed up by facts and logic.". It's pretty annoying
Yes, actually. I was the only liberal arts major (Japanese)
I get it's a joke but my friends and I are all engineers and we are like non confrontational in the office unless it's necessary.Socially inept, incapable of admitting mistakes, obsessively claim they're right and you're wrong?
Are all of your friends engineers?
It was a rhetorical question, I already knew what the answer would be (50/50 joking). The other engineers is one of the main reasons I got out of engineering and into construction management.
Maybe you should pull your friend aside, tell him to grow the fuck up and learn how to hold his liquor especially at a business dinner
To his defense, I don't think he was trying. He doesn't drink very often. I have a feeling he was trying to keep up with the people he was with, and failed.Or if he can't hold his liquer, don't drink at work functions...
Seems a bad idea anyways to get drunk at a work function.
To his defense, I don't think he was trying. He doesn't drink very often. I have a feeling he was trying to keep up with the people he was with, and failed.
He's a dumb ass and obviously isn't mature enough for such a position (as it sounds like he will get himself fired).