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Turns Out Women Have Really, Really Strong Sex Drives: Can Men Handle It?
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why won't you share your lickaroo tips with the rest of us?
Opus Angelorum
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As a species, I'd say we're handling things generally well as there are round about 7 billion of us just kinda hanging out on the planet, with more on the way, typically.
But yes, everyone is different. Some women have crazy drives. Some men have crazy drives. Some people don't have any, and a whole lot of everyone else is sprinkled in between.
But yes, everyone is different. Some women have crazy drives. Some men have crazy drives. Some people don't have any, and a whole lot of everyone else is sprinkled in between.
This, this I like.
ComputerMKII
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What also rubs me the wrong way is the very marked gender studies-like terminology and some stupid off-topic remarks (e.g. on pay equality).
Jack Remington
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Do you ever go out to parties/bars/etc looking to meet and sleep with a guy?
When you go out to social gatherings, and a decent-looking man approaches you, do you tend to shoot him down?
If you're on the dance floor, and a guy tries to initiate dancing with you, do you go for it, or do you circle up with your girlfriends and shut him out?
Maybe you're an exception, but my (and countless other men's) real world observations just don't fit with the results of this study.
Edit: I see you actually addressed some of this in earlier posts.
Well it's easy when there's an ocean between you and Dastardly.
Jack Remington
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15 minutes. just break for coffee and cigarettes. read the liner notes. men are just convenient, ladies. entertainment systems, really.
sex is kind of dirty. think about it. sex unrelated to you is pretty undesirable. 2 people you don't find attractive, having sex on your desk, is kinda gross.
ElectricBlue187
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It was the other way around. The most attractive women recieved by far the most messages with a strong correlation between attractiveness and messages. For men it was mostly even except for the least attractive men who recieved pretty much nothing.
InfiniteBento
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-No. I don't go looking. I'm there to chill, I'm not out on the prowl for D.
-It's depending on how he approaches me. Generally, I'd like to give the guy a chance and see what comes out of his mouth first.
-I don't have "girlfriends". It's really lame to go out and just be surrounded by ladies whom spend their time complaining about boys and are looking for boys to complain about. Even so, (if by some chance) I'm out dancing and a guy tries to initiate dancing with me, it's depending on how he dances. If you immediately try to grab my lumps and starting rubbing dick all over me, I'm not into it. Fondling my lumps isn't dancing.
(Also if the first sentence out of your mouth has some kind of pet name "baby, dollface, babe, honey, whateverthefuck" it is most certainly not happening.)
I also just don't go out to clubs. I'm down to hang out at bars but clubs are really not my kinda scene. I'm not into the whole sweaty pit of grinding on each other to terrible music thing.
Shhh, don't ruin my post.
Vermillion
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College study, was it not? And I'd guess both as well.
spandexmonkey
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Kind of related:
What being editor-in-chief of PlayGirl taught me about female desire
My wife linked me this article since we've been talking a lot lately about the need to see more sexualized men (less Kratos more Dante kind of thing).
Something we've been noticing is that as women are able to provide for themselves they no longer have to choose men based on their ability as bread winner. Women could start demanding men meet their vision of beauty.
What being editor-in-chief of PlayGirl taught me about female desire
My wife linked me this article since we've been talking a lot lately about the need to see more sexualized men (less Kratos more Dante kind of thing).
Something we've been noticing is that as women are able to provide for themselves they no longer have to choose men based on their ability as bread winner. Women could start demanding men meet their vision of beauty.
The whole article seems questionable with its conclusions, but especially this bit. If this is influencing women's behaviors so much, wouldn't the best solution be for the woman to approach more men as to establish themselves the aggressor. Isn't a man who is the agressor and one to approach more likely a threat? I don't know, this whole article's weird. I think "people are people"" is a lot more dependable a theory.
Sniper McBlaze
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I gotta agree with that article. Women are fucking animals. In a good way, admins. Don't ban me!
edit: When I say animals I mean that they just can't get enough. The women who've said that they love me can go on for hours and then wait like an hour and then want to go at it again. I need my Dota breaks!
edit: When I say animals I mean that they just can't get enough. The women who've said that they love me can go on for hours and then wait like an hour and then want to go at it again. I need my Dota breaks!
The timeframe in which you were taught things like that definitely falls under "recently." Look up hysteria, which was an actual diagnosis and a very common cultural belief, to get an idea of what Tech was talking about.
I NEED SCISSORS
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Welp, I guess i'm fucked.
Incitemaybe
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Ah, I laughed heartily!
Interesting article, there are so many assumptions we make about our "true natures" out there.
freenudemacusers
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hah, actually a couple weeks ago my wife said she thought she had a higher sex drive than me.
don't worry guiz i took care of it.
don't worry guiz i took care of it.
shanshan310
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What do any of these have to do with having a higher sex drive? Does wanting more sex always = wanting a one night stand?
haha, fair enough. I'd never bring it up out of context, so it's even more awkward for me when someone else says something but when I open my mouth suddenly it's gross.
ThisWreckage
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Who cares? Because of things like labeling women as "whores", religion, and playing mind games with a partner it's not like that drive is going to manifest itself with any bit of consistency whatsoever.
Jack Remington
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Yes. Men want sex so much that they actively seek it out with complete strangers. Women who do that regularly are in the minority.
Eh, if they have as large a sex drive as men, but are less reluctant to be sexual the end result is kind of the same.
Sub_Level
wants to fuck an Asian grill.
Women don't seek that out as much not necessarily because they have a lower sex drive, but because they don't need to. They get approached often enough outside of places like that.
Not all women get approached.
EDIT: Actually I can't think of a single category where a women would get approached less than a man would. So nevermind.
Jack Remington
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And at the end of the night, most of them don't go home with a guy.
If women's sex drive were actually comparable to men's, everybody would be pairing off all the time, and I mean all the damn time.
SolidusDave
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Women have a high sex drive in a relationship? Sure (I wonder if that's even connected to hormones pushing them to increase the chances of getting pregnant as soon as they feel they secured a good partner )
So this doesn't mean anything, as
1) women don't act on it otherwise
2) the ones who do can basically fuck anyone they want, so that gives me a lot of competition
)So this doesn't mean anything, as
1) women don't act on it otherwise
2) the ones who do can basically fuck anyone they want, so that gives me a lot of competition
That's ignoring other factors, like women being afraid of being date raped.
shanshan310
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And you don't think this has anything to do with slut-shaming, fear of pregnancy, rape and stds, or not needing to seek out complete strangers?
You're assuming the incorrect position that men are at maximum sex drive by default, and it's the woman that isn't matching theirs.
Masterphoenix
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As with pretty much every thread about gender differences (or lack thereof), people continue to do an amazing job of conflating cultural attitudes with COLD HARD BIOLOGICAL TRUFAX, usually on the basis of anecdotes. It'd be funny if it wasn't so sad and infuriating.
Jack Remington
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Sure. All those factors come together to diminish a woman's applied sex drive.
All the theoretical sex drive in the world doesn't matter if you can't use it because of bottlenecks somewhere in the process.
That position isn't incorrect.
Edit: look, argue against me all you want. It's nice to create models that you think explain how the world works. But if real world observations don't match what your model predicts, it isn't the real world that's in error.
shanshan310
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But how is any of that relevant if a woman is in a relationship, casually dating someone, or sleeping with a friend-with-benefits etc? Sure it may diminish a women's desire to sleep with strangers, but I don't think that translates to a lower sex drive.
Are these "real world observations" trying to pick up women at clubs, or sleeping with women?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_Crimes_of_Kabul
Also, your observations are based off a society that doesn't have parity for obtaining sex in the first place, regardless of the actual sex drive.
Jack Remington
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Because if something is only true in certain situations, that's a lot different from something being true all the time.
Edit: WTF does anything from Afghanistan have to do with this discussion?
Jack Remington
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I'm not even sure why you're pursuing this argument. But if you must, then here. Real world observation: in a college bar filled with mostly decent to good looking people, a substantial majority of girls and a substantial majority of guys will go home alone or with friends every night. It's not the same people in the bar every night, but the outcome is the same.
If, in this alcohol-fueled, dance music-blasting smorgasbord of good-looking people, the average woman wanted sex as much as the average man, then considerably fewer of those people would be going home alone.
I don't see how this is even arguable. I'm 99% sure there have been comedy videos on youtube exploring the idea of some hypothetical world where guys' and girls' sex desire was reversed.
TUROK
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This is what I've read before, and this is what I'm much more inclined to believe.
Of course, like you say, it varies between individuals. Anecdotally, I'd consider myself to have a very high sex drive, but the idea of having multiple partners does not appeal to me in the least. I would assume that there is a biological component to the difference in sex drive between men and women, but there's more to it than just biology. It's merely one of many factors that comprises what makes us us, and what makes us horny.
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