check yer PMs
why won't you share your lickaroo tips with the rest of us?
check yer PMs
why won't you share your lickaroo tips with the rest of us?
why won't you share your lickaroo tips with the rest of us?
and wait it shall
dudes need time to recharge.
I agree with you. But the article didn't cite the studies involved. I would assume they are described in his book.
Well, I second the notion behind the article. I'm a female and have far higher of a sex drive than most men I meet. Naturally, I can't speak for all women but I agree that it's a possibility. I hope it's at least more true than not. I feel most women are modest about sex unless behind closed doors. I am not suggestive but I am open to most questions. It's nothing to be ashamed about but women tend to hide their "lady-boners" for the purpose of modesty but frankly, I like sex just as much, if not more, than men.
My girlfriend wants to have sex ALL THE TIME. I just tell her "No".
Handled.
dudes need time to recharge.
If only society didn't think of sex as being dirty. More women would let it out.
I remember an OkCupid thing that showed women thought most men were ugly (the curve was heavily slanted towards the most attractive men) while men had a more balanced curve (more women were considered average, with few super hot/ugly ones).
It was pretty interesting.
Do you ever go out to parties/bars/etc looking to meet and sleep with a guy?
When you go out to social gatherings, and a decent-looking man approaches you, do you tend to shoot him down?
If you're on the dance floor, and a guy tries to initiate dancing with you, do you go for it, or do you circle up with your girlfriends and shut him out?
Maybe you're an exception, but my (and countless other men's) real world observations just don't fit with the results of this study.
Shhh, don't ruin my post.15 minutes. just break for coffee and cigarettes. read the liner notes. men are just convenient, ladies. entertainment systems, really.
sex is kind of dirty. think about it. sex unrelated to you is pretty undesirable. 2 people you don't find attractive, having sex on your desk, is kinda gross.
Well it's easy when there's an ocean between you and Dastardly.
I can absolutely believe that being in the role of the approached person makes you more choosy. If women were lining up, why wouldn't I pick the most attractive ones?
Innate differences are still very likely, due to how reproduction works (huge investment for female, tiny investment for male), and the roles during approach certainly won't account for all the differences.
e.g.: In a study where male researchers approached women and female researches approached men and asked them if they were DTF, men were still a lot more willing to fuck a total stranger than women. Can't remember the percentages but IIRC the difference was huge.
Might be social conditioning, might be innate, probably a mixture of both.
To say that women want sex and are afraid of being slut-shamed while men want sex but are afraid of being rejected falsely posits that these are equally consequential experiences. "Slut-shaming" serves as both a precursor and an excuse for sexual violence. "She was asking for it," the classic defense of the rapist, is based on the assumption that a woman who instigates a sexual encounter, "deserves" whatever ill treatment she gets. As real as men's anxiety about being "shot down" might be, it's hardly comparable to women's equally justifiable fear of rape. Margaret Atwood's famous remark that "men are afraid that women will laugh at them; women are afraid that men will kill them" clarifies that distinction nicely.
I was always taught that men want women for sex and women want men for love. The whole sugar and spice and everything nice thing.
Kelly, can you handle this?
Michelle, can you handle this?
Beyoncé, can you handle this?
I don't think they can handle this!
Do you ever go out to parties/bars/etc looking to meet and sleep with a guy?
When you go out to social gatherings, and a decent-looking man approaches you, do you tend to shoot him down?
If you're on the dance floor, and a guy tries to initiate dancing with you, do you go for it, or do you circle up with your girlfriends and shut him out?
Maybe you're an exception, but my (and countless other men's) real world observations just don't fit with the results of this study.
Edit: I see you actually addressed some of this in earlier posts.
Some perspective from the other side of that.
I just don't wanna know that much about you.
What do any of these have to do with having a higher sex drive? Does wanting more sex always = wanting a one night stand?
All of these examples are related to how often sexuality is displayed, not sex drive itself.
I'm sure there are a wealth of reasons why women are less reluctant to be sexual, and none of them are related to sex drive.
Yes. Men want sex so much that they actively seek it out with complete strangers. Women who do that regularly are in the minority.
Not all women get approached.Women don't seek that out as much not necessarily because they have a lower sex drive, but because they don't need to. They get approached often enough outside of places like that.
Women don't seek that out as much not necessarily because they have a lower sex drive, but because they don't need to. They get approached often enough outside of places like that.
If women's sex drive were actually comparable to men's, everybody would be pairing off all the time, and I mean all the damn time.
Yes. Men want sex so much that they actively seek it out with complete strangers. Women who do that regularly are in the minority.
And at the end of the night, most of them don't go home with a guy.
If women's sex drive were actually comparable to men's, everybody would be pairing off all the time, and I mean all the damn time.
I think their secret is that they are always horney. Notice how viral woman hang off of guys. They don't have to deal with boners.
And you don't think this has anything to do with slut-shaming, fear of pregnancy, rape and stds, or not needing to seek out complete strangers?
And you don't think this has anything to do with slut-shaming, fear of pregnancy, rape and stds, or not needing to seek out complete strangers?
You're assuming the incorrect position that men are at maximum sex drive by default, and it's the woman that isn't matching theirs.
Sure. All those factors come together to diminish a woman's applied sex drive.
All the theoretical sex drive in the world doesn't matter if you can't use it because of bottlenecks somewhere in the process.
Edit: look, argue against me all you want. It's nice to create models that you think explain how the world works. But if real world observations don't match what your model predicts, it isn't the real world that's in error.
That position isn't incorrect.
Edit: look, argue against me all you want. It's nice to create models that you think explain how the world works. But if real world observations don't match what your model predicts, it isn't the real world that's in error.
But how is any of that relevant if a woman is in a relationship, casually dating someone, or sleeping with a friend-with-benefits etc? Sure it may diminish a women's desire to sleep with strangers, but I don't think that translates to a lower sex drive.
Are these "real world observations" trying to pick up women at clubs, or sleeping with women?
This is what I've read before, and this is what I'm much more inclined to believe.Unfortunately, a broader range of studies (and ones not done by "Sexologists") pretty clearly show that this is not the case.
http://www.southalabama.edu/psychology/gordon/Baumeister(2000)SexualOrientation_Female.pdf
http://books.google.com/books?id=Jh...nepage&q=Sheila Murphy priests survey&f=false
From WebMD:
However, this can vary on a case by case basis. It is certainly possible for an individual woman to have a higher sex drive than an individual man, as sexual dimorphism in homio sapiens sapiens, unlike other subspecies of homo sapiens, is relatively muted.
This is the danger of looking at any individual study or article and coming to conclusions without looking at the larger body of evidence, which is fairly consistently contradictory to this claim.